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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by victorjoe(m): 7:09pm On May 31, 2020
Squillaci:

No matter what, he doesn't owe his brother anything.

Yes he does! He was lucky to be born in the US. The least he can do is to help his brother to grow to a level where he can be said to be comfortable.

It's all about mindset and what family means to you. If you are the only wealthy person in your family, and you cannot help someone else to grow then you are poor. Mind you this guy earns very well!

Few years ago in lag. I met a guy that was struggling to survive with his siblings. Their parents had died earlier on. The house was theirs. This guy did "g" (if u know what I mean). When the guy "collected", the only thing he used the money for was to relocate to the US. He was lucky it worked out for him.

Now this is the part I want you to get, in 2 years of being in the US the guy moved all his siblings out of naija and even friends. Not all went to US, but just travel out first.

I mean, so many people benefitted from that one movement and it a good thing.

So don't be stingy. Help people.

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by primeson1(m): 7:09pm On May 31, 2020
wickyyolo:


People won’t tell you everything.

If somebody have never been to Lagos island he will think everywhere is heaven. Whereas any small rain it’s always flooded with water. Same estates don’t have gutters and their homes are flooded . I usually see Lagos Island except Lekki Phase 1 as Kubwa in Abuja.

The point I’m driving at is that earned income is like 50% income. You end up having only 50 percent for yourself at the end of the year. Nobody will tell u this until u experience it yourself.

Another one....there is no where earned income will be 50%.....please get it right
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by rontolo(m): 7:09pm On May 31, 2020
Millenniumlady:
My moniker ain't the issues because they love strong women who will take down police if they eventually come for them.....Please let them know that i can speak very well i can cook and i can open legs .biko help don't allow all these home base naija guys with corona to get hold of me embarassed
I’ve concluded you funny cheesy grin
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:10pm On May 31, 2020
sunboy:


What are you talking about? You’re talking in the nonsense cheesy cheesy cheesy there’s no where you get taxed 60%

And what has bank statement got to do with taxes ? Smh

You probably not paying for mortgage, student loans etc.

And you don’t know your financial bank statement.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:10pm On May 31, 2020
Why do most nigerians or africans believes/thinks that migrating abroad is for financial reasons? it might be the case for some people but not for all, Anyway, i wouldn't know, i was born in east london.

Most of my previous neighbours are Nigerians, from the way i saw how they live they are not struggling atall. they own the property they live in, they drive brand new top of the range cars. they may have bought the cars on HP but what da heck! they are living good lives. i don't know about them sending money home but they tell me it's not about money it is about peace of mind, working system and believe me, nigerians knows how to take advantage of the system.

I visit my parents in nigeria since they relocated regularly and the things i saw in nigeria was baffling. bribery, extortion, lawlessness, intimidation, kidnapping, armed robbery, i mean how can a lorry fail break? and kill so many people, only in nigeria i heard lorries fail breaks, motorists driving the wrong way opposite cheesy no one is held responsible, no investigations, no arrests, no nothing. i am not saying accidents do not happen over here but when it does someone must pay!

for people who believes migrating abroad is a bad idea, well... as i ve said, i wouldn't know.

not every migrant is doing well but most are doing well... as i ve said again it might not be a financial issue for some.

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 7:11pm On May 31, 2020
victorjoe:


Yes he does! He was lucky to be born in the US. The least he can do is to help his brother to grow to a level where he can be said to be comfortable.

It's all about mindset and what family means to you. If you are the only wealthy person in your family, and you cannot help someone else to grow then you are poor. Mind you this guy earns very well!

Few years ago in lag. I met a guy that was struggling to survive with his siblings. Their parents had died earlier on. The house was theirs. This guy did "g" (if u know what I mean). When the guy "collected", the only thing he used the money for was to relocate to the US. He was lucky it worked out for him.

Now this is the part I want you to get, in 2 years of being in the US the guy moved all his siblings out of naija and even friends. Not all went to US, but just travel out first.

I mean, so many people benefitted from that one movement and it a good thing.

So don't be stingy. Help people.


another TOUCHING story
Yinmu
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:13pm On May 31, 2020
primeson1:


Another one....there is no where earned income will be 50%.....please get it right

Then u don’t understand the whole point he is making.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 7:13pm On May 31, 2020
wickyyolo:


You probably not paying for mortgage, student loans etc.

And you don’t know your financial bank statement.
what has any of this got to do with tax?

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by salford1: 7:14pm On May 31, 2020
pocohantas:


LAPTOP? You told them you work in hp abi Del?
cheesy cheesy

Infact. I used a laptop for 10 years and had to wait for boxing day sales before I eventually got another one, but folks back home won't understand.

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by sunboy(m): 7:14pm On May 31, 2020
wickyyolo:


You probably not paying for mortgage, student loans etc.

And you don’t know your financial bank statement.

How is mortgage and student loan a tax

Bro you have no idea about this topic so there’s no point contributing abeg

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by primeson1(m): 7:14pm On May 31, 2020
wickyyolo:


The higher you earn the more you’re taxed. Check your bank statement after the end of the year you will realize that 45 percent of income went to tax

Why are you lying with confidence na....45 kor 85 ni

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by sunboy(m): 7:15pm On May 31, 2020
omonnakoda:
what has any of this got to do with tax?

He think say na beer parlor talk grin

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:16pm On May 31, 2020
I quite enjoyed reading your comment. I want to use the experience I had while living abroad to answer your questions (highlighted below).
1) I had many friends while in Nigeria before relocating to the UK. After I relocated ALL of my so-called friends stopped communicating with me except when they needed some favour (mostly money) from me. I didn't realize it in time, not until one day I took an appraisal of our communications and I discovered it was I who initiated the contact every single time. None of them called or even flashed me just to find out how I was doing. So I stopped contacting all of them. So to answer your first question, I think most Nigerians in diaspora share my experience in that it's only Nigerians who need assistance from them who manage to keep in touch. This is probably why many shun their Nigerian connections because those abroad are only as useful to those in Nigeria as the money they send. It hurts to feel used.

2) Some Nigerians have this mentality that you can't make it until you relocate abroad. This is a big lie. The best place to make it financially is in Nigeria. Nigeria is one of the few countries I know that you can put N100,000 into your business on January 1 and by December 31st you have between N500,000 and N1,000,000 depending. I literally had to turn job offers abroad down to return to Nigeria. Foreign investors see this potentials in the Nigerian market but unfortunately many Nigerians don't. Many who leave Nigeria for greener pastures end up becoming me modern day slaves in those countries. Most of us forget that not many countries have pastures as 'green' as Nigeria. A population of over 200 million people is an asset that Nigerians haven't learned to exploit. The reason is because many parents raised their children with the idea of 'go to school, study hard, and get a good job'. This might have worked for most of our parents...heck yes, my Dad bought a brand new car during NYSC at the time. But that was a time when people like Chief Awolowo would literally go from village to village to compel people to go to school. Our population and economic dynamics have changed, unfortunately most people in my generation still believe in that dangerous advice of read-your-books-get-a-job-and-settle. The Nigerian system is perfect, but not for jobs. For business. I am yet to see a serious and successful Nigerian business man who is willing to relocate abroad. So you see my brother, we can't all listen to those who relocate abroad in search of better 'jobs', many of them only think in terms of jobs, while the wealth from Nigeria is mostly from investment and businesses.


smeag0l:
The complaint on nigerians here feeling that you must send money to them doesnt only apply to nigerians in diaspora. It also applies to nigerians that they feel are doing well here. I'm also posting to fault some of the things I've seen here. First, there's no where in the world where you pay 60% of your pay as tax. The highest I've seen is between 48-52% in some places in Europe and it applies to some levels of income. They run a progressive tax system in most European countries. Secondly, one can send money to someone abroad from Nigeria and ive done it a few times. Not everyone abroad have things going rosy for them.
Then, i want to ask nigerians in diaspora two questions. First, why do most nigerians that have been abroad for a while think everyone else living here in nigeria are never-do-wells and most of them tend to shun their nigerian friends? Secondly, what should be one's net income in nigeria for that person to abandon the idea of travelling abroad? I asked this last question because some of the friends I had while in the university and that are in the US now are asking me why I'm not making any efforts to come over and i usually tell them I'm wondering why I have to.

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:16pm On May 31, 2020
sunboy:


How is mortgage and student loan a tax

Bro you have no idea about this topic so there’s no point typing whatever abeg

Stay with your knowledge since you know it all. One day when you begin to earn more you will understand.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:16pm On May 31, 2020
Millenniumlady:
My moniker ain't the issues because they love strong women who will take down police if they eventually come for them.....Please let them know that i can speak very well i can cook and i can open legs .biko help don't allow all these home base naija guys with corona to get hold of me embarassed
see you! so you are still here chasing after men? grin
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:18pm On May 31, 2020
grin grin grin
Unfortunately my voice is terrible.
But then I believe some people have adequately responded to him.

Houseofglam7:


He won't understand.
Anyone willing to put it in a song? cheesy
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Mcslize: 7:18pm On May 31, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Please introduce me to him is he married ? If yes does he have a side chick ? I think I can fit into one of those position .

The hustle is real.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:21pm On May 31, 2020
primeson1:


Why are you lying with confidence na....45 kor 85 ni

Mr know it all. Your opinion is very true. There are no taxes in Norway, Finland or USA. They are all tax free countries.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by 4gunners(m): 7:21pm On May 31, 2020
I'm caught up in that point 5. I rather give than spend in myself.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by xcabczyxabczzzz: 7:22pm On May 31, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Which day you travel abroad undecided if kindred it's true abeg come back home and marry me take me with you so that i go dey born pikin and dey watch bollywood movies biko
Lol, na person marry am comut.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by salford1: 7:22pm On May 31, 2020
redsun:
That number five point seems to get every right-thinking African abroad. You have enough to live lavishly but most times secondary responsibilities tend to take priority over treating oneself to luxury.

Yup. That number 5 is very true. We often wait for sales to buy some stuffs. Abroad makes people financially prudent. But when it comes to giving, you don't have the luxury of choosing a specific time to send money or items to Nigeria.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by primeson1(m): 7:23pm On May 31, 2020
wickyyolo:


Mr know it all. Your opinion is very true. There are no taxes in Norway, Finland or USA. They are all tax free countries.

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Mcslize: 7:23pm On May 31, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Are you married ? I want abroad husband you guys should help me out biko embarassed

But this your abroad based hustle is not for love o or am I getting something wrong here. Hope it's for the paper so that when you get there you will unleash the beast in you as our ladies usually do once a guy take them abroad.

Hope I am on point on this.

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by soleexx(m): 7:24pm On May 31, 2020
You not there by luck
Its God's favour
If I don't assist my family or friends so why I con get money
I will give and give as long as I remain on this planet...
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Babaalajo(m): 7:25pm On May 31, 2020
But once you are broke and you don't have enough for yourself talkless of giving out, you won't see them calling for help or asking for anything... I don't know who always told them that money no dey again.. But from day1 I prefer giving than receiving

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by victorjoe(m): 7:25pm On May 31, 2020
omonnakoda:


another TOUCHING story
Yinmu

It is what it is.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 7:25pm On May 31, 2020
Nigerians can be funny even those that have money.

Someone lives in Nigeria and probably has more money than his friend or brother living in the US,
He brings his family to "visit" every summer for 1 month eating your food and using you as taxi driver. When coming they won't bring ordinary Egusi. Never phones until it is one month to their annual pilgrimage which is spent shopping as if the world is going to end. Wont even phone to say thank you. All in the name of friend or family

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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 7:25pm On May 31, 2020
Squillaci:

No matter what, he doesn't owe his brother anything.
Don't be a self centered stingy man. Can't u imagine? Sibling you grew up with?
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 7:27pm On May 31, 2020
omonnakoda:
Nigerians can be funny even those that have money.

Someone lives in Nigeria and probably has more money than his friend or brother living in the US,
He brings his family to "visit" every summer for 1 month eating your food and using you as taxi driver. When coming they won't bring ordinary Egusi. Never phones until it is one month to their annual pilgrimage which is spent shopping as if the world is going to end. Wont even phone to say thank you. All in the name of friend or family
Yea people need to stop that. And the person over there should also ask. Say una dey abroad no mean say una no fit ask for what you need from us back home.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by ODJ123(m): 7:27pm On May 31, 2020
xrayj:
Where do u get all those old pics from? Those days when life was easy smiley
from FB
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 7:28pm On May 31, 2020
Babaalajo:
But once you are broke and you don't have enough for yourself talkless of giving out, you won't see them calling for help or asking for anything... I don't know who always told them that money no dey again.. But from day1 I prefer giving than receiving
When money ko dey, na so so story. So they take a hint and bolt.
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by easyflex: 7:29pm On May 31, 2020
SweetCunt97:
He's an extravagant fellow biko. Patapata 500 dollars will go for monthly bills, 300 to send down to peeps here... Unless he has an ongoing project o.

You don't really understand how bills rack up in the U.S.

This is a peak into what a monthly expenses in a middle class home with 2 kids may look like.

Mortgage = $2100
Cable = $120
WiFi = $70
Phone bill = $80
Water/ sewage = $88
Electricity = $115
Gas(cooking ) = $28

Home insurance= $120
Healthcare insurance = $260
Car Insurance(2 cars) = $145
Home owners Association Dues = $85
Student Loans = $700

Feeding, Groceries, Gas (Petrol), Tolls and Miscellaneous = $400

Total = $4,300

That is approximately $52k yearly, without including taxes.

It may be lower or even higher depending on income, neighborhood, state or lifestyle.

I hope this helps you understand better.

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