symplyrachel:



Tankio
As a lady, u get more hate and blames from ur fellow lady...

Women compete with themselves a lot ..
That's why we wear expensive wigs and clothes..... Competition.
What's a guy's business with your wig? What do they even know about it ?

Exactly ma'am, I don't know why it's like that..the earlier people live life to their own fullness the better..u hardly see a guy wanna compete with his fellow dude or anything, he will rather be more interested in hustling for himself..let's stop all this blame games which isn't obtainable now

You are depressed biko.

Who did??

@op. Your post is based on some cultural stereotypes. It doesn't apply to the world in general.

symplyrachel:



Tankio
As a lady, u get more hate and blames from ur fellow lady...

Women compete with themselves a lot ..
That's why we wear expensive wigs and clothes..... Competition.
What's a guy's business with your wig? What do they even know about it ?

thanks, I just wish the op understand it better

Oluromantic:

In addition most of those that uphold all these beliefs against women are fellow women themselves especially the illiterate ones in the village. If women(the affected ones cus not all women are saints as you make it seem) are to be liberated from this culture, what you need do is campaign for education. 65% of Nigerians are illiterates and its these illiterates that are upholding these archaic cultures.

Truth! It's usually women that victimize other women, because of illiteracy, complexes or prejudices!

Stop listening to those people. Nigerians cannot stop from running their stupid mouths, you must learn to ignore 90% what they say if you want any peace.

@Udopee

Sis, that's the society we live in. Soon another adage will pop up "Women are the root of all evil".
It doesn't bother me anymore, I live for myself. This NL sef you go learn. The way Nlers rubbish women calling them all sorts of names gets to me initially but I have learned to ignore them. Men shaming their country women that are no different to their own mothers and sisters.
One even said more than 98% of Nigerian women are gold diggers and sluts. I know his mom and female relatives are not exempted.
Men are simply what they are; HYPOCRITES

ModelX:

Dude.
If you don't understand the concept of plurals, then get tha fvck!
Talmbout "how many of them have you met, or do you know personally..."
Weak ass argument.

Weak??! Not at all...

You are the one lacking understanding on the proper way to use words... What you put up there points at generalization, especially in the glaring absence of specific qualifiers like 'some', 'few', or 'many'!!!

See ehn, it's too early in the day to trade insults... If you can't clearly see my point of view, no problem!!! Leave am like that!!! Thank you.

The blaming of women is strongly ingrained in religious doctrines from the Bible to the Qoran. These doctrines make women second fiddle, takes their voice, makes them responsible for male promiscuity and irresponsibility and then blame them for doing what males do.


This is exactly why you can't demand equality or equity as a woman and be a Christian or a Muslim. They are two parallel lines, they don't meet... It's like forcing a square peg in a round hole... They don't fit.

It's sadden sis. I feel for women esp Nigeria women.

graciousolo:
The blaming of women is strongly ingrained in religious doctrines from the Bible to the Qoran. These doctrines make women second fiddle, takes their voice, makes them responsible for male promiscuity and irresponsibility and then blame them for doing what males do.


This is exactly why you can't demand equality or equity as a woman and be a Christian or a Muslim. They are two parallel lines, they don't meet... It's like forcing a square peg in a round hole... They don't fit.

I swear the men that invented both these Religions were losers who put everything in their own favor.

TOPCRUISE:
Maybe because she was the first to eat the apple in the beginning

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Forget that bullshit bruh, Eve never ate any apple, think about it, the Bible was created to support only one group, it was meant to put women under and make them feel inferior. It called black people cursed, slaves, called homo sexuals evil, it made everyone look bad except for a particular group of men.. Think about it, the Bible only favours white males, every good person in it including Jesus was white, even the only great civilization Africa had (Egypt) was tagged as evil people who suffered god’s people. All these just to make things in their favour. The truth is White Men created Christianity to put everyone else under except themselves. Reason why most white supremacists are Christians, like Donald Trump for example.

HITsquad:
Women are more dangerous than men in every aspect... Especially when she has more power and money at her disposal. Even Ancient civilizations knew this... Reason they have always kept women few steps behind.

80% of women lose their minds when they over grow their man... But men? It doesn't matter how big a man gets and how small his woman is? Things will always be stable.

this is just a natural and psychological fact, it's everywhere, Give your last born the authority over his/her older siblings and he will definitely abuse that power. It's just how it is...

The lowest level of intelligence is assumption and that's what you have all over your post.

Will your post stand after factual scrutiny?

Klass99:
This blame game started in the garden of Eden na! when the earth was less complicated and populated.

I don't see how that's going to change now, that the earth is more populated and complicated.

As a married man, I can see why Adam

blamed wife because the process that led to Adam falling is still alive today.
Abraham also did same and I'll say it here.
Every man is wired to, desires, is expected and want to make his wife happy by providing for her and protecting her.
But once a wife or girlfriend in a man's wants or desires something to be done for her and she has requested it from her man. Until the man does her request his life is going to be miserable because, she nag him, torment him till life becomes unbearable for him.
At the end of the day he can only have peace when he does his wife's bidding but there's a negative consequence for doing it he takes the blame because wifes don't take responsibility or blame for anything that goes wrong from their behind the scenes persuasions and promptings.
Adam was nagged to the point of obeying his wife's request that he eventually disobeyed God.
Abraham was nagged by Sarah to take her maid to have children for her stead as the cultural belief accepted it but in wading the constant nagging he doubted God's promise to have a child by an old Sarah...
John the Baptist was beheaded by king Herod to please his stepdaughter by the manipulation of his wife because she was tired John the Baptist preaching against her being snatched from her poor husband by the king...
If woman never mean you for anything, your life is peace but once one woman, be it wife or girlfriend enter you if you no gree am wetin she want, bro, you're in soup....
Only married men can testify...

Check it very well, women are more responsible for meting these blames you mentioned here.
There's this unexplainable natural bitterness in them against their fellow women for no just cause.

Women just like to complain.......
Like men too, don't have things they are blamed for......

All this talk is just an act of manipulation......abeg guys just softly waka pass

Is it nairalanders you are telling this one. You should have gone to a sensible forum or better still discussed it with a friend. Most people you see here are dead brain zombies.

SmartPolician:


Everyone should take these words down

A guy goes to work every day with the mindset that when he eventually makes it big that he will make his woman the happiest female on planet Earth

On the other hand, when a woman starts making kobo, she will begin feeling like she doesn't need a man anymore. You will hear terms like Boss lady, core feminist, etc.

Forget it, those people can never think like us

Never!

Gbam..............

graciousolo:


The lowest level of intelligence is assumption and that's what you have all over your post.

Will your post stand after factual scrutiny?

Abi o.

I couldn't care less, there are more pressing issues going on in the country and world right now

udopee:
It's very unfortunate nowadays how our ungrateful society has given women negative tags which are unbefitting.
If you are Unmarried: She is irresponsible, not resourcesful and worthless.

Single and successful: She is chasing away all potential suitors..or must being ‘funded’ unholy, not wife-material⁣ (just wondering how many yards of materials will do for her to qualify)

Married: She is her husband’s property and should no longer have anything that vaguely resembles ‘fun’, baby making factory, she shouldn’t be wearing cloths she used to wear when single.⁣ ⁣

Divorced: She can’t keep a man, she is not submissive, the man could no longer endure her⁣. ⁣

Separated: She is out of control. No sane man fit in for her or can tolerate her excesses. ⁣

Widowed: She must have killed her husband….. to take over his assets and properties. ⁣

Tries to get on with life after widowhood: She didn’t mourn her late hubby for long enough. How suspicious? How inappropriate? How unacceptable! ⁣ ⁣

Childless Marriage: She is barren; she must have destroyed her womb through abortions. ⁣ ⁣

Rich and independent: She is a prostitute, she flirts around for money.

Child misbehaves: It is all the mother’s fault because she spoilt him/her, she doesn't know how to train children,

Plays sports: She shouldn’t; she’s a girl. ⁣

Speaks her mind: She is bossy; not a good trait for a woman, she doesn't have proper home training.

Spouse cheats: It’s her fault. She caused him to it, she pushed him to the wall.

Victim of rape: What time was it? Where was she? What was she wearing?. ⁣

"WHY ARE WOMEN BLAMED FOR EVERY WRONG THING AND HARDLY APPRECIATED FOR THE RIGHT ONES? ⁣

Real women that understand what it means to be a woman should own their sense of personal value. Don't let people in the world convince you that the role of a woman is a powerless and useless thing.

Decide to be a complete woman in love with her life and her God. As you become complete in God's Love, you will find yourself more satisfied than you have ever been. You are not relying on anyone for validation or your happiness.

"AFTER ALL, YOU HAVE GOT PRINCIPLES"

#FRESH_DEW
#HEAVENS_DEW

Funny thing is............most of what you wrote, is usually heard from the mouths of other Women.....

Last, last na una dey do una self

This is just too funny. Women are the cause of their problems jor. Guys are generally just real niggas. That's why we hail our ourselves when we succeed in smashing as many hoes as possible. But you see women..... if you make mistake tell your girls say you succeed in opening for as many johns as possible, check wetin dem go call you.

Fountainofyouth:



True!!!

what is true in what u quoted?

who gave man d forbidden fruit?

d woman used her persuasive tongue to feed Adam n till date dey still use dat power even in a more daring form Dan before to get whatever dey want.

women are d cause of their problem

have u ever seen a music video were men are half naked or entirely naked?

have u seen product advert with naked males?

but for every product dey want to advertise dey muse use naked women cos it's d only language men understand n if u ladies want respect den advocate dat u are not to used as object for silly advert.

go to offices me dress fully n if a man wears shorts to work he risks sack but u ladies can wear anything n no one will raise an eyebrow.

ur problem is never guys but how u defend ur worth over time, Women were given more power Dan d man.

a man is confused if left with d kids but women will handle d kids inaddition to whatever task dey have.

there is nothing like a virtuous man in d Bible but there is a virtuous woman, go read proverbs n see what d woman is supposed to be n not a slay queen dat feeds of men or see men as poverty eradication workshop

All i could see is one frustrated feminist.

Hmmmmmm

SegFault:
Is it nairalanders you are telling this one. You should have gone to a sensible forum or better still discussed it with a friend. Most people you see here are dead brain zombies.

Cos na una lure men into palapala acts & sins

udopee:
It's very unfortunate nowadays how our ungrateful society has given women negative tags which are unbefitting.
If you are Unmarried: She is irresponsible, not resourcesful and worthless.

Single and successful: She is chasing away all potential suitors..or must being ‘funded’ unholy, not wife-material⁣ (just wondering how many yards of materials will do for her to qualify)

Married: She is her husband’s property and should no longer have anything that vaguely resembles ‘fun’, baby making factory, she shouldn’t be wearing cloths she used to wear when single.⁣ ⁣

Divorced: She can’t keep a man, she is not submissive, the man could no longer endure her⁣. ⁣

Separated: She is out of control. No sane man fit in for her or can tolerate her excesses. ⁣

Widowed: She must have killed her husband….. to take over his assets and properties. ⁣

Tries to get on with life after widowhood: She didn’t mourn her late hubby for long enough. How suspicious? How inappropriate? How unacceptable! ⁣ ⁣

Childless Marriage: She is barren; she must have destroyed her womb through abortions. ⁣ ⁣

Rich and independent: She is a prostitute, she flirts around for money.

Child misbehaves: It is all the mother’s fault because she spoilt him/her, she doesn't know how to train children,

Plays sports: She shouldn’t; she’s a girl. ⁣

Speaks her mind: She is bossy; not a good trait for a woman, she doesn't have proper home training.

Spouse cheats: It’s her fault. She caused him to it, she pushed him to the wall.

Victim of rape: What time was it? Where was she? What was she wearing?. ⁣

"WHY ARE WOMEN BLAMED FOR EVERY WRONG THING AND HARDLY APPRECIATED FOR THE RIGHT ONES? ⁣

Real women that understand what it means to be a woman should own their sense of personal value. Don't let people in the world convince you that the role of a woman is a powerless and useless thing.

Decide to be a complete woman in love with her life and her God. As you become complete in God's Love, you will find yourself more satisfied than you have ever been. You are not relying on anyone for validation or your happiness.

"AFTER ALL, YOU HAVE GOT PRINCIPLES"

#FRESH_DEW
#HEAVENS_DEW

Blame our culture and tradition for all these. Men made the rules to favour them and suppress women. Unfortunately even in this modern time, men don't want to yield, they still hold tenaciously to the culture and traditions of yore years. Until women rise up it will remain same but when they try to, who among the men will support them, none because they feel it is a man's world. Anyway sha the orientation will soon change for better.

Na me write this sef?

Angelfrost:


Weak??! Not at all...

You are the one lacking understanding on the proper way to use words... What you put up there points at generalization, especially in the glaring absence of specific qualifiers like 'some', 'few', or 'many'!!!

See ehn, it's too early in the day to trade insults... If you can't clearly see my point of view, no problem!!! Leave am like that!!! Thank you.

All I see is that you are poorly educated.
FYI, in the event that an overwhelming majority possess a quality, the plural is assumed.
E.g. Lions are tan. Correct? Yes indeed. But wait, there are albino lions. So, ALL lions are not tan. Now, saying 'some lions are tan' only shows that you are foolish.
Free english lesson for you and the other still foolish people in 2020.

Most women wey dey financially independent and doing well dey buga o...nor go there o....dem nor get self control....the one wey wicked... wicked die.
History know why e be like that say woman place na....after man.

The problem we have in this world today is tendency to generalise issues. The more one generalise, the more one sees his/her foolishness. So op is indirectly saying that I will always blame my mum or sisters whenever they have issues with their man irrespective of the case. Someone said all Nigerian ladies are harlot and then why I tried to analyze it to him including his mother and sisters, he got provoked. "All Muslims are this" and yet you have a very good Muslim of yours and you are probably his/her fan and so on and so forth. Until you realise that there are the good, the bad and the ugly in every tribe, religion, gender, race, etc, you will continue to wallow in foolishness each time you generalise

HITsquad:
Women are more dangerous than men in every aspect... Especially when she has more power and money at her disposal. Even Ancient civilizations knew this... Reason they have always kept women few steps behind.

80% of women lose their minds when they over grow their man... But men? It doesn't matter how big a man gets and how small his woman is? Things will always be stable.

this is just a natural and psychological fact, it's everywhere, Give your last born the authority over his/her older siblings and he will definitely abuse that power. It's just how it is...

And may your daughters be treated the exact way you just narrated this piece of trash. U men better get use to the fact that women are no longer like your mothers and grandmothers. They will no longer bend to your nonsense and succumb to your stupidity becos of marriage

FunFact:

I swear the men that invented both these Religions were losers who put everything in their own favor.

There were no women in attendance bro.