bukatyne:
Good post.

It is now left for the choice to place a premium on herself and determine you are worthy of her.

bukatyne:
Good post.

It is now left for the choice to place a premium on herself and determine you are worthy of her.

chivera018:
First time I would agree with you . Well said.

Acidosis:


That shows that something is seriously wrong with your mentality and existence.


Good post OP.

Romangalactic:

Very true. She simply has to choose who is worthy of her under limited time, and should not settle too.

Acidosis:


That shows that something is seriously wrong with your mentality and existence.


Good post OP.

chivera018:
Something is seriously wrong with you. I don't have to agree with everything Buka or anyone says.
Bringing my existence here, aren't you stupid ?
So I was created to agree with whatever Buka says?

chivera018:
First time I would agree with you. Well said.

Ariza:
I agree with you but I have a problem with this PRIZE nonsense I keep reading everywhere. Why would anyone feel like a PRIZE? What makes you the PRIZE? Who made you PRICE. If a Man is the Prize shouldn't he be fought for, chased, proposed to etc. What good effect does being a PRICE have in Marriage? Is it right to have such ridiculous mentality in Marriage?

I don't have problem with people's choices or standards, I don't have problem with your thread op. But I believe it is unhealthy to have that PRICE mindset in a union because it only a matter of time before any partner who feels like the price start acting as one.

LordKO:


Prize isn't price, before you continue your. . . . Relax first and make effort to know the context prize is used.

Ariza:
That was a typo. I know what context it's used... And I repeat nobody is a PRIZE or should feel like one in a Healthy relationship.
The moment you start feeling like a PRIZE please stay single!


BTW, since you believe Men are the Prize, mind sharing what makes them the prize? Infact please explain it to me... Maybe I can see from another perspective. Simple English will be appreciated..

LordKO:


LOL, trouble maker! Honour of choosing makes a man the prize, not because he's superior to the woman, and it ends after acceptance or declination from the woman. Any definition other than this or something similar from a man that leans towards superiority is embedded chauvinism.

Ariza:
Well, I'm not a trouble maker and I do not intend to be one. If your perspective of PRIZE is about choosing and it's ends after acceptance or declination lol well it's not harmful to any form of relation. However to play the devil's advocate Men get to choose who to marry, women get to choose who to date (foundation of intending marriage) and whose biological gene/traits survive till the next generation(human continuity) Oya nah who's the prize now?

Now that's Me being a trouble maker

Romangalactic:

Every women wants a wealthy man for a husband, but wealthy men are simply not plenty so they always settle for less. Every man on the other hand wants a beautiful woman with attractive body, and these are very plenty. YOUR CHOICE.
Women don't mind how many sex partners a man has had, they will still marry you even when they know it's better to marry a virgin man but these virgin men are not plenty so they always settle for less. Men on the other hand prefer to marry virgin women and guess what, they are still many despite what you may think, just be on the lookout. YOUR CHOICE

LordKO:


No vex, I didn't call you "trouble maker" literally.

Tripitaka:


This is quite an interesting POV; one that is prevalently relatable (even though there's a whiff of misogyny).

Tripitaka:


This is quite an interesting POV; one that is prevalently relatable (even though there's a whiff of misogyny). In romantic relationships, men are mostly characterised as dominant while women are deferential, cases of dominering women and subservient men is hardly the norm but an exception - an exception to the rule. The power in the choice of a partner or spouse lies mostly with the man and as is always said "it is the man who chooses a spouse, the woman only has right of refusal".

I agree that men should not be intimidated into settling for less, but no one should be intimidated into settling for less anyway. If you want a voluptuous woman, then go for it; you want a housewife, go for it; you want a wealthy man, go for it; you desire a six-packed man, go for it.

Only problem is that women have the little issue of biology to contend with while making these choices as they may not have the luxury of time - one that a man has in abundance.

Vyolet:
I thought the woman should be a prize for a man, I mean three different men can ask a woman's hand in marriage with three of them competing with every resource, money, looks, prospects, family background and many others. The woman is the one to choose so how is the man suddenly a PRIZE?

LordKO:


LOL, trouble maker! Honour of choosing makes a man the prize, not because he's superior to the woman, and it ends after acceptance or declination from the woman. Any definition other than this or something similar from a man that leans towards superiority is embedded chauvinism.

bukatyne:


That's why women need to know their leverage and play their game well.

If they do, no limits.

And where is the misogyny?

0Brien:


They actually chose you by approaching you. You only have the choice to accept or refuse their proposal.

You also have the option to choose too and let the man accept or refuse. Have you seen the way girls chase after wealthy men and pray he picks them as a partner or wife.

The point is that men have more options in choice of a partner than women. Whatever the case, I don't believe in the prize mentality.

Liposure:
if men are the prize like you said. Then we won't bother chasing women. Even bride price won't be paid

LordKO:


Boys and small-minded men chase women; men/aristocratic men command women's attention and followership, not as subordinates though, and choose among them.

bukatyne:


Oshe!

It is more of stage thing:

A 23yr old guy would chase a lady (mode would now depend on his class):

A 30 year old guy put together would have women eating from his palms.

Ditto women, just flip the age.

LordKO:


Mama de mama! No vex, I've never chased a woman all my life and I've never known what is heartbreak, even as old man wey I be now.

I've always walked the walk without being hurt and without being the direct reason someone would feel hurt.