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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Unnerve: 4:20pm On Jul 15, 2020
LordKO:


Boys and small-minded men chase women; men/aristocratic men command women's attention and followership, not as subordinates though, and choose among them.
This is deep, enough said.

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by gnykelly(m): 4:20pm On Jul 15, 2020
at different stages (as regards variables such as wealth and age) determines who the PRIZE a mere visit at djcuppy's Twitter page suffice even if she way older.
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 5:20pm On Jul 15, 2020
Looks, youth and finances is not all there is to dating. Anyway. Romangalactic, I am waiting for your wedding pictures to the most beautiful girl in Nigeria. grin

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 5:21pm On Jul 15, 2020
LordKO:


Boys and small-minded men chase women; men/aristocratic men command women's attention and followership, not as subordinates though, and choose among them.

Everyone is an alpha hero on NL. cheesy

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by LordKO(m): 5:29pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:


Everyone is an alpha hero on NL. cheesy

Come on! Direct your mention to small-minded people like you. The fact that the internet is a leveller doesn't automatically mean that some of you should be abusing it.

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 5:34pm On Jul 15, 2020
LordKO:


Come on! Direct your mention to small-minded people like you. The fact that the internet is a lever doesn't automatically mean that some of you should be abusing it.

Ok Mr Aristocratic Man. grin

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 5:45pm On Jul 15, 2020
Tripitaka:


Somehow, I could sense a thinly veiled misogynistic tone; misogyny in the context of contempt and not necessarily hatred. His text painted women as being in a state of helplessness and inherently lacking the gift of choice.

If you knew Romangalactic on this platform, you wouldn't be surprised.
It's his forté.

Hi Roman kiss

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 5:56pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:
Looks, youth and finances is not all there is to dating. Anyway. Romangalactic, I am waiting for your wedding pictures to the most beautiful girl in Nigeria. grin


Dear black man is allowed to dream, please don't wake him up. cool

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 6:03pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:


Dear black man is allowed to dream, please don't wake him up. cool

grin

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 6:10pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:
Looks, youth and finances is not all there is to dating. Anyway. Romangalactic, I am waiting for your wedding pictures to the most beautiful girl in Nigeria. grin

I never said those are all there is to dating, I said that if it is what a man values, then he should by all means go for it and settle for no one less.

If he values looks, she doesn't have to be the most beautiful girl. She only has to be really beautiful
If he values youthfulness, she doesn't have to be the most youthful girl. She only has to be very youthful
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 6:13pm On Jul 15, 2020
Tripitaka:


Somehow, I could sense a thinly veiled misogynistic tone; misogyny in the context of contempt and not necessarily hatred. His text painted women as being in a state of helplessness and inherently lacking the gift of choice.
mariahAngel:


If you knew Romangalactic on this platform, you wouldn't be surprised.
It's his forté.

Hi Roman kiss

Is my opening post misogynistic because it is not true or because I said it without apology?

Mariangeles is that you? grin
How are you baby kiss
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 6:16pm On Jul 15, 2020
Tripitaka:


This is quite an interesting POV; one that is prevalently relatable (even though there's a whiff of misogyny). In romantic relationships, men are mostly characterised as dominant while women are deferential, cases of dominering women and subservient men is hardly the norm but an exception - an exception to the rule. The power in the choice of a partner or spouse lies mostly with the man and as is always said "it is the man who chooses a spouse, the woman only has right of refusal".

I agree that men should not be intimidated into settling for less, but no one should be intimidated into settling for less anyway. If you want a voluptuous woman, then go for it; you want a housewife, go for it; you want a wealthy man, go for it; you desire a six-packed man, go for it.

Only problem is that women have the little issue of biology to contend with while making these choices as they may not have the luxury of time - one that a man has in abundance.
If you know this in your last paragraph, why then did you sense misogyny in my post? cheesy

Na the same thing we talk like this na
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 6:20pm On Jul 15, 2020
Romangalactic:



Is my opening post misogynistic because it is not true or because I said it without apology?

Mariangeles is that you? grin
How are you baby kiss

The one, the only. grin
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 6:24pm On Jul 15, 2020
Vyolet:
I thought the woman should be a prize for a man, I mean three different men can ask a woman's hand in marriage with three of them competing with every resource, money, looks, prospects, family background and many others. The woman is the one to choose so how is the man suddenly a PRIZE?
The woman is not choosing from a pool of men she wants, she's choosing from men who made themselves available to her and none of these men hardly qualify most of the time otherwise most women will already be married by the time they are 27.

A woman's choice is limited to men who first show interest for marriage in her, nothing more.

The man she really desires in soul, body & spirit, is the prize and this is what every man should strive to become, a man desired by women he has chosen.

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 6:28pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:


The one, the only. grin
Who imprison you and why? cheesy
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 6:32pm On Jul 15, 2020
Romangalactic:

I never said those are all there is to dating, I said that if it is what a man values, then he should by all means go for it and settle for no one less.

If he values looks, she doesn't have to be the most beautiful girl. She only has to be really beautiful
If he values youthfulness, she doesn't have to be the most youthful girl. She only has to be very youthful

Interesting how of all the qualities that a man may desire in a woman you have picked those. Nothing new. cheesy
You did not only aim to encourage men to believe that they can have what they want, you also could not resist your urge to limit women. I hope it made you feel better though. kiss

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 6:48pm On Jul 15, 2020
Romangalactic:

Who imprison you and why? cheesy

It's quite a long story I wouldn't want to get into...

Are we back to creating shady threads again? cheesy

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 8:10pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:


Interesting how of all the qualities that a man may desire in a woman you have picked those. Nothing new. cheesy
You did not only aim to encourage men to believe that they can have what they want, you also could not resist your urge to limit women. I hope it made you feel better though. kiss
Na wa, limit women how

Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 8:15pm On Jul 15, 2020
Romangalactic:

Na wa, limit women how

Forget it. Just enjoy your unlimited possibilities in the dating arena. cheesy
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 8:17pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:


It's quite a long story I wouldn't want to get into...

Are we back to creating shady threads again? cheesy

grin

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 8:54pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:


grin



Hello Miss Laughsalot cheesy

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 9:05pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:


It's quite a long story I wouldn't want to get into...

Are we back to creating shady threads again? cheesy
Lol. Someone cannor create thread in peace again. Oya you can create the female version of this thread for Queens.

This one is for Kings grin

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 9:05pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:


Hello Miss Laughsalot cheesy

I like this name. cheesy
Hello our Angel! kiss kiss kiss smiley

It's easy to catch fun on threads like this. grin

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 9:14pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:


I like this name. cheesy
Hello our Angel! kiss kiss kiss smiley

It's easy to catch fun on threads like this. grin




Thank you dear. kiss
I couldn't bear anything totally different, so I had to come up with something similar... smiley
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 9:15pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:

Thank you dear. kiss
I couldn't bear anything totally different, so I had to come up with something similar... smiley

Welcome back darling. I am proud of you even when you end up in prison. grin

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 9:17pm On Jul 15, 2020
Romangalactic:

Lol. Someone cannor create thread in peace again. Oya you can create the female version of this thread for Queens.

This one is for Kings grin

Ahn ahn cheesy

Don't you think this account is still too fresh to stir up arguments? I swear, I can't deal...oh my nerves grin
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 9:19pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:


Welcome back darling. I am proud of you even when you end up in prison. grin

I did the crime, I'll do the time. grin

I can't have it any other way... cool

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Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 9:23pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:


Ahn ahn cheesy

Don't you think this account is still too fresh to stir up arguments? I swear, I can't deal...oh my nerves grin
It's not to stir up argument, it's to lift Queens up so that ladies like Hathor5 can be happy she also has choices and unlimited possibilities cheesy Unlimited time too
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Romangalactic(m): 9:24pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:


Welcome back darling. I am proud of you even when you end up in prison. grin

Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 9:26pm On Jul 15, 2020
mariahAngel:


I did the crime, I'll do the time. grin

I can't have it any other way... cool

Next time you decide to be naughty holler at me. I want to see it. cheesy
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by Hathor5(f): 9:28pm On Jul 15, 2020
Romangalactic:

It's not to stir up argument, it's to lift Queens up so ladies like Hathor5 can be happy she also has choices and unlimited possibilities cheesy Unlimited time too

I do. I am not so sure about you though. grin
Re: Dear Black Man, It's Okay To Want The Best For Yourself. by mariahAngel(f): 9:32pm On Jul 15, 2020
Hathor5:


Next time you decide to be naughty holler at me. I want to see it. cheesy

I tried to be nice, I swear...but some naughty guys on the food thread kept on poking the Do-not-touch button grin
I had to put them in the electric chair grin grin grin
After the first shock, they ran to call the mods

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