What happens when you meet someone better than the 2nd guy, are you gonna leave him again? See in this life there is always someone better than the next person, real love is choosing to stay with someone no matter who you come across. That's called commitment and something you must learn if you want to have a happy marriage. The decision is yours.
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
You don't like your bf... You like the new guy. What is the dicey situation again? Move ahead, free the bf and live with the consequences, good or bad.
Unfortunately most Nigerian girls are senseless! Date a guy for 6 months, 3 of those six months you started building an emotional connection with another guy, is this not madness?
Any guy that comes after you while you have a boyfriend AND YOU ACCEPT will surely never trust you completely. There will always be that voice in the back of his head shouting, HOEEEEEEEE!
kolade560: After leaving ur bf, u will meet another man tomorrow and he will be better Dan him and it will tro u into ludo situation. listen woman, as far as u still live on earth u must see better cute guys Dan ur present boyfriend, that's how it goes and u will keep jumping from pillar to post. settle down with ur bf and decide before u will be used and dumped
His current boyfriend must have come in contact with better girls too!!
This one is just trying to be smart... She will learn the hard way tho!!
It is obvious that his current boyfriend didn't allow her to take responsibilities!! If she had invested well in the relationship, she won't be acting like an unstable teenager!!
linked: Don't be a door without a lock. It is clear that you are not committed to your present relationship. Now that's a big problem. It speaks more to your character than anything else. The problem is not whether you like the new guy more than your guy, but that you don't understand that commitment is essential in a healthy relationship.
Maybe you are not matured enough to know that in life you will always meet someone more interesting, more handsome, more wealthy, more nice than whoever you chose to date or marry. Las las I suspect you will end up a wretch if you do not discipline yourself with self control.
You should date or marry a person not because you have not found someone better than them. Rather it should be because you CHOSE to be with them. Even when you find someone better (which will definitely happen), it wouldn't matter to you.
Clap for yourself After you will leave him for a higher quality boy. Qualitarian! I pity u. Better stay focus. Demon wey u know better pass ......... Eh en
Meanwhile recharge and get paid is the only legit online business that never fails. If I lie ask banks or better borrow their humility and join us. VTU is the new oil well. To start, u need your android phone n as lil as 5k.
The new guy just dey play with your emotions.. E dey blackmail you because he know exactly how to get the kpekus.. Just go and get dumped after being bleeped
It's ladies like you that will cheat in marriages. You see where the issue of hypergamy in women is coming from?
Do you know you are already cheating? If you can leave your boyfriend for one random play boy that appeared from no where and start falling for him, what makes you think you won't leave that same new guy for another when you see another person you think is better than the new guy?
You are simply a hoe nothing else. You are typically unstable. A girl like you is to be used and dump cuz you are one of those damaged goods that are being spoken about by redpillers.
Let's take an instance. If perhaps your boyfriend had paid your bride price and you meet this new guy, will you say you want to leave your boyfriend for a random guy you just felt a mere attraction for? What makes you think this new guy won't use and dump you? When that happens, you will now crawl back to your ex boyfriend you are already cheating on and start begging him to take you back right?
You are simply a hoe. Ladies like you are not always stable. They jump from one guy to another. If people in serious relationships or marriage commit the evil you are about to commit now, will you see them getting married or staying long in their marriages? Or do you think ladies that decided to remain faithful and stable in their relationships are not coming across other men whom they feel attraction for on daily basis?
You lack self control. That's all I can say. And a lady that lack self control is nothing but a hoe who can't just remain put with one guy in a relationship and stay faithful. Any guy who marry a girl like you is doomed for a divorce in the future cuz you will definitely cheat.
Watch the 18 minutes video below and see why I said you are not fit for a serious relationship or marriage. You are a time bomb ready to explode.
Bet me, that new guy will use and dump you. You don't deserve your boyfriend because he is a nice guy.
Honestly, you have said nothing but the truth and that video nailed it. Because, I have passed through that same situation with a girl I have spent over 2 years with (with wedding already being planned). But the only thing that God assisted me with is that immediately she started her stupid behavior I am lucky to pull myself out.
The same way you 'loved' your current 'unattractive' boyfriend, is the same way you will end up 'loving' the next, and next guy with better qualities than the current one...
You think one guy or lady has it all??! Nah... Any one that makes such a claim either has very low standards, or just enjoys self deceit!!!
There's a reason marriage is largely termed 'settling down'!!! Keyword being 'Settle'!!! The person is not the best or finest, but you sometimes make a decision to basically stop wandering or searching for that unattainable star!
Bottom line... Aunty Op, you are not yet ready to settle down. So, feel free to dump the current for the futuristic, pending when the next better prospect comes along... And, make no mistakes, there will be endless better prospects, till you finally gain the maturity to settle down!!!
This is basically the world of most guys!!!... Speaking of which, the guy you are falling over now, is also likely to shift focus to a better chick later.... And, the cycle of emotional games continues.
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
You need happiness. Pls go for happiness oo.
Wait oo... have you pray concerning two of them? If no, then you have to talk to God about it.
There were some foreigners who came across a village of black men. The wanted to trade but had no idea what to exchange for but they had gold and lots of it. So they took their gold to the black man and at the end of the day, they traded nothing. Because the black man had no value for gold, so the next day they took some fruits, mirrors, iron rods, toys and all and this time they were able to trade. For the black man, those toys were worth more the value of Gold to them.
The fact is you have no more value for what you have or have lost value for it hence your need for something else. Am afraid you are not in love my dear.
Love is so many things but nothing of what you feel right now.
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
This is deep... First and foremost - You stated your current boyfriend does not just want to have sex with you he truly loves for real and like you said you love him too... Relationships is not about love alone or feelings , there is something they call commitment and self discipline. You will always meet someone better than your boyfriend, more handsome, more richer and so on... Even if you are married you will always meet someone better than your husband. But commitment and self discipline will keep you in it.
First question I want to ask you do you know what you want in man ? Do you ? If you know, then that's good. So who got more points ? Your boyfriend or the new guy ? That is a question for you to answer personally.
Second question - Do you know the intention of this new guy ? Like you said your boyfriend is not really about having sex with you, he truly loves you. Intention is key in anything we do... so many wolves in sheep clothing.
Lastly. As a guy , I cant date a girl who told me she has a girlfriend but later told me she has dumped her boyfriend for me.... That's is a Red Flag to me and I wont trust her because she can do that to me too....and I will see her as a loose girl.
Side note - Leaving your boyfriend for a guy who knows you have a boyfriend which you left for him is TOO DESPERATE..... that's another red flag.
dukeprince50: dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months till u turn 35, dicey dice u there, Rubbish
Its been a while a comment from nairaland made me laugh this hard
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right p to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Hey watch out, the new guy is pulling a sharp string on you.
Don't leave a branch for a leaf.
This is why double dating helps. I just can't trust the new guy.
You are in an infatuated state and can't think logically. I assure you that anything you decide now, you will regret.
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
He stopped calling after u told him u have a boyfriend?
Let me tell u the truth, that's a trick to get u. I do same too, when I try to get close to a lady especially the one I just want to bleep with and she tells me she has a boyfriend. I will relax like I am no longer interested but the fact is, it's just a game.
I do mine because I fear karma I don't bleep people's girl as long she tells me she has her boyfriend.
I know u have made up ur mind to follow the new guy but I can assure you that it will end in premium tears, mark today's date.
You don't like your bf... You like the new guy. What is the dicey situation again? Move ahead, free the bf and live with the consequences, good or bad.
What consequences??! Are they bethroted or married?!... Even engagements not working out can and should be broken, how much more a relationship.
Imagine if all our parents got divorced one year into their marriage since its just a divorce, will u be alive
I wonder y u can just have a normal male friendship
Dating, sex, money, joblessness, and being a Nigerian
Well if u not planning on getting married with any of them its ur choice... Its just a relationship what's d worst that can happen ehn
A relationship is meant to b where two ppl work to trust each other no matter what happens... D guy did d right thing by not talking to you anymore.. Imagine marrying a married woman
Well all this is rubbish we all gonna die anyways...
Kylekent59: The Op doesn't know what she want. I believe the next guy that would toast you would be better than this current on... It continues like this till you contract disease. Stick to one person and change him to whoever you want him to be to you.
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
He stopped calling after u told him u have a boyfriend?
Let me tell u the truth, that's a trick to get u. I do same too, when I try to get close to a lady especially the one I just want to bleep with and she tells me she has a boyfriend, I will relax like I am no longer interested but the fact is, it's just a game, a bait to gain empathy, like you are feeling now. That's the aim and intention
I know u have made up ur mind to follow the new guy but I can assure you that it will end in premium tears, mark today's date.
donstan18: If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.
You see this?
You see this?
And this?
And this too....
You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.
The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!
donstan18: If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.
You see this?
You see this?
And this?
And this too....
You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.
The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!
Please leave your current boyfriend before you break his heart, and he comes to mistrust women. Cheers. And don't look back O. As you leave, leave with your chest. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Young lady no partner is ever enough if you leave space for new people to walk in. That's why once you are committed to someone, immediately you tell musa to shut the gate or better still sack the mudafucka. Because if you leave your gate open? You'll definitely will be meeting more suitable and suitable people better than your partner.
Tbh with you, you're a flirt who's not yet done with the street. So I'll advise go back to street okay.
