MzMercie:
Get to know her first, don't base your judgement on the advantages or disadvantages of marrying her. Her personality matters most, same has your personality.

Sincerely, you somehow sound like an opportunist, you will want to marry her because of the advantages her American citizenship will get you, not because you love her or have any value to offer her.

See this one ooo. Didn’t you see where he said they just started chatting and that she is cool; dude sounds like he is already falling for her...hence he asked for advice before going any further.

If he was solely interested in passport and citizenship...I don’t think he would be here asking for advice; would have jumped at the opportunity immediately.

Try and use your brain; don’t rush into conclusion.

Yankee101:


Your starting salary in Nogeria will be 2.7m naira

Write and pass USMLE and get a US hospital placement and your starting salary is more than 20m naira

She gets her medical doctor, ypu get her papers. Isn't that why your cousin is doing the hook up?

Uncle...medical doctors don't earn 20m monthly over here, highest ones(surgeons, cardio) are paid about 16 million naira monthly before taxes, after taxes they make less than 11 million.

Since u are in your final year in Nigeria medical school, remove your mind from marrying abroad babe. You agreed when u were linked up wt her because u want to come over or spend ur life in USA. As a medical doctor, marry your girl friend who have suffered or manage wt u these days! you guys should build future together. if u later the yanki babe, get ready to face agreeing to all her decision, she would make all almost 90 percent of all the decision. she would approve when to travel lik vising Naija or .... She is doing her masters does not mean she is earning a good living in USA unless she is in medical field. Is she RN? many if she do not study a lucrative course here in USA, after her masters, she would still search for a job, unless she is willing to teach which does not pay good. once u move in, u would bear the whole bills including morgage which she would inherit if u guys divorce. if u are that kind of person who love bragging or love respect just hang up with her because u won't get respect or what u want her in the USA. just go for naija babe and enjoy the rest of your life. u would soon make it so take it easy as not to hurt urself. for more personal advice pls write to us on spencermasanja at gmail com

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

Trumptweet:

Lol, possibly.

So humble yourself and marry

2 options (if Trump removes the NIV ban or Biden wins)

1. Finace Visa (you go to the US and marry within 90 days)
This is the fastest way to relocate. Get engaged in Nigeria (don't marry or do traditional wedding, only engagement!) and you apply for a finance visa


2. Spouse Green card application (you marry in nigeria and she files for you to come join her)

This takes up to 2 years or more to relocate


If you need more advice let me know

gaius01:


Sir with all due respect, marrying such lady is not a problem if only She can come to Nigeria to marry and stay, but you going up there that implies you will be short to some right as a man. This lady is OK financial and educationally and marrying her you can't control anything about her. Beside she woñt have the moral an average Nigeria girls .

I agree. Op try to discuss staying in Nigeria together with her.

You can start your relationship or marriage in Nigeria, then go together to the States afterward. Nonetheless, don't marry her because of green pasture only. You might regret that later if her character and demeanors are nothing to write home about...

OP just marry her express fast fast oo before she change her mind and go for another guy in Nigeria. After marriage port abroad sharp sharp and start enjoying the good life. If she should turn out to be a character you don't like, just do as how other Nigerians do. Start preparing her meals, coke them up and send her straight to grave. Inherit her wealth and happily have your kids alone to yourself.

OP, don't listen to these guys. They want you to remain in Nigeria so that you will struggle like them, whereas you have the opportunity to build on your future with the right woman and earn $100K annually which is over 40m.

oluwaahmed:


OP no listen to this guy, na local champion.

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Why the insult, everybody is bringing an opinion?

First you are in the medical field,

Pif you are intelligent then u continue your medical schooling in the US. [/qoute]

Here is a probability, you ain't sure.
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It is strenuous but with the motivation coming from your wife you should finish and start earning at least $100k p.a.
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Did you read anything like motivation coming from her. how do you vet she will facilitate that?
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Whether you marry her in naija or Yankee, it changes nothing as she's an American citizen and will always be protected by their laws.

I disagree Sir, which protected by the law? For your information woman and men law are not equal there most especially when she has a baby.
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Most nigerian women are worse than nigerian-americans. Most naija wives now will play feminist for you even while you anchor the bills, nothing to gain from them. There's nothing more dangerous than marrying a Nigerian woman who has never travelled abroad but with abroad mentality.

It's better than staying in prison, atleast

Cause I can't stay in prison because of a girl,

Beside it's only a simps that will go through the above you mention, how can a girl eat you and you ain't smart ?

Bro reason it !!

OBku4:

I agree with d other points but the bolded.

For me, US citizenship is equal to mordern day slavery.
where u work and the taxman takes up to half your wages for the rest of your working life (no matter where you reside in the world)

remember d adage, "suffering n smiling" ...here I one depiction

How is US citizenship slavery when it gives you freedom to do whatever you want with it. Who says you can't get different forms of grants, tax breaks, or even international jobs with your blue passport. The opportunities are endless.

Trumptweet:

Thank you. I appreciate really.

Please be careful, she won't submit to you, if submission means nothing to you and if separation is an option for you, you can go and marry her. As a medical doctor, there is 85% chances that you will not be unemployed so don't marry her just for good living. Someone you only chat with, you only know just 25/30% about the person and it's not enough, thank you.

omoharry:
whats is the difference of marrying her here in Nigeria ? As long as they both live abroad, the same laws will apply if there is a court case between them .

Court case where?
Naija or outside cause if its naija it's still the same the women always win even outside country bro

abbey621:


Uncle...medical doctors don't earn 20m monthly over here, highest ones(surgeons, cardio) are paid about 16 million naira monthly before taxes, after taxes they make less than 11 million.

That's per annum chairman.
Which entry level doc earns 2.7m in nigeria?

Convert the 20m to dollars that's around 50k$ per annum for a resident (foreign doctors in residency tend to earn less and are accepted in rural postings)

They're the best, better than Nigerian girls in Nigeria

The fact that she wants a man from Nigeria says a lot.

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

First, God is the only one that can pick the right person to marry. If I were you I would focus more on asking God for direction; he knows today and tomorrow.

Second, The difference between marrying a Nigerian born in America and a Nigerian born in Nigeria isn’t much. It all depends on the background of each individual, state of mind and family values.

Third, for me personally, I despise Naija drama or shenanigans of any kind, I will do anything in this world to avoid them. Even though, the drama doesn’t completely disappear, but at least marrying a Nigerian American reduces it by 50%. For this reason, I will pick a Nigerian American any time any day...The advantages are simply way too much, but again God is always in control...he knows better.

Finally, I will advise you to go for it. You are not obligated to marry anyone, just give it a try...test drive and you may just end up loving it.

But you must be open minded...American girls love attention, they are very open to learn new things or new ways and much more independent. You will be treated like a king as long as you adore her like a queen.
They completely understand what L O V E stands for; they are very loyal, loving and less materialistic like the ones over here in Lagos..

Age 29 is a perfect age... JUST DO IT!

Sterope:
Lmao. Clown!

Why the insult, it's an opinion bring yours to the table let's see

What are your motives? Do you really love the girl and want a future with her or are you just looking for whatever is favorable towards you? This matters alot because nobody here can truly tell yo uwhat will happen in the future but there are some things you must enlighten yourself on and these includes:

1: Long distance relationship is bull.....You need to spend time with this girl physically before you truly know what you feel.

2: Whether American born or Nigeria raised, what matters is the type of family she has and whether or not she still believes in certain principles like the role of a wife, the cooking, clean home etc. Trust me, this is the biggest issue with those raised over here, na to dey eat out almost every 2 days.

3.Make sure if and when you decide to relocate that you know how the education system works over here, you have all your certificates/degrees evaluated, put yourself in the best possible position to succeed.

4. Finally ensure you get your papers as quickly as possible, if you want to marry her, do so and put in your papers immediately, trust me this can be the difference between heaven and hell. Don't even make the mistake of having kids or enjoying a prolonged honeymoon, na the paper be the koko, it will ensure you and her are equals in every way that matters.

Nigsrdumb:
They're the best, better than Nigerian girls in Nigeria

The fact that she wants a man from Nigeria says a lot.

Most of them want a nigerian man

lxvi8xii:




Which one is morals Nigeria girls have? Morals abi pretense. You know that generally we are a very pretentious people that carry religion on our heads but threat our fellow human being badly.

Lol

But don't generalize it there are good ones with decorum

The advantage is that they do not reason like Nigerian girls.

They do not wait for a man to initiate everything like relationship etc.

They know what they want in life.

They are not like Nigerian girls who behave badly and when you complain they will remind you that they are females so they must act anyhow.

Nigerian women will say "dont behave as a woman",because according to them,they must behave stupidly since they are women.

I believe American born nigerian women are not like Nigerian women who cannot do anything but are always waiting for men to do all things for them.

I believe American girls are not so filled with pride like Nigerian girls who even if they want something,they will still want you to persuade them to receive what they are earnestly looking for.

A Nigerian girl will be looking for money or she wants a man to suck her cunt but she still want the man to persuade her to receive the money or to persuade her to suck her vagina even though it is she who will enjoy it.

Imagine such nonsense pride.

I believe American girls are not like them.

I believe American ladies are not like Nigerian women who believe that men were created to love and cherish them but they do not believe that they must love and cherish men as well.

I believe that American girls can also ask a man out,initiate a relationship and make a man feel loved and cherished unlike Nigerian girls who believe that when once they open their legs for a man,they have given the man all things.

I believe that American girls are not so much preoccupied with themselves,unlike Nigerian girls who are so filled with pride to the extent that when a Nigerian female is walking on the road,what she sees is only herself but every other person that passes is nothing.

I believe that an American born Nigerian girl would be able to know that just as she wants all males to notice her,all males also want to be noticed by women,unlike Nigerian girls whose so called 'woman pride' has blinded their sense of reasoning to the extent that she cannot see anything beyond her little self.

Yankee101:


That's per annum chairman.
Which entry level doc earns 2.7m in nigeria?

Convert the 20m to dollars that's around 50k$ per annum for a resident (foreign doctors in residency tend to earn less and are accepted in rural postings)

That's way too cheap then per annum. Entry level Medical doctors here in the USA are earning about $120k per annum which is about 50 million naira. I see you're talking about residency, we don't call those doctors, they are not fully certified yet

Advantage: Green Card and citizenship.

Disadvantage: She will take half of everything you own when she divorces you...and if she divorces you before your green card, back to square one.

Medunah:

So if it is your sister, you will advice her to leave US to come stay in Nigeria permanently cos of marriage??

Black men will forever deny it that they don't feel threatened by a successful woman but just look at the comments here

Yes on one condition, which is, if you know you will respect him it's OK to Wed there and stay

The problem is where his right can't be altered. In Nigeria we have respect unlike the others where respect is seen as a threat to human rights

Beautyaddy:


What fake moral does an average Nigerian girl raised in Nigeria have

To be a slave to a man and his family

Oh here we go, that's not what am sayin

abbey621:


That's way too cheap then per annum. Entry level Medical doctors here in the USA are earning about $120k per annum which is about 50 million naira. I see you're talking about residency, we don't call those doctors, they are not fully certified yet

A graduate from medical school is a doctor. Not all even go to residency. Some go straight to other non clinical jobs. He told you he's still in medical school and about to graduate, who will pay him 120k?

Google medical residents salaries. The average is 60k plus. Lower scale is 50k plus. After 3 to 5 years of training b4 they can smell 120k

flyingpig:
See citizenship waiting for you and you're trying to throw it away. Just know you must be cooking, hardly will a girl in USA let you make her the chef in a family house. That's the major one.

Crispels

Lol bro.

Hello @Trumptweet, I'm a Nigerian in the US and I created this thread some months ago about this topic. You may find it helpful.

https://www.nairaland.com/5953751/dating-nigerian-american-girls-united-states


In all, it depends on the personality of the girl you are talking to but over 90% of Nigerian-American girls are independent-minded. Just go through the thread.


Cc Trumptweet

madridsta007:


Never you marry her without knowing her character. Without a dating/ relationship period.
If she is too good to be true, then she is actually too good to be true.
There are many Uncles, Aunties, Pastors, Relatives, who have some daughter somewhere that they will prefer to get married to a Nigerian-trained man. Which is fine.
The problem is that these girls, liberal and Westernised, operate from a mindset that you will struggle to understand unless you’ve lived in the same environment like her. Sadly her cheerleaders will hide these things from you; when you marry the lady, you will be told to, “manage, this is what marriage is.”

Crispels:



Lol bro.

Hello @Trumptweet, I'm a Nigerian in the US and I created this thread some months ago about this topic. You may find it helpful.

https://www.nairaland.com/5953751/dating-nigerian-american-girls-united-states


In all, it depends on the personality of the girl you are talking to but over 90% of Nigerian-American girls are independent-minded. Just go through the thread.


Cc Trumptweet

Thanks, will do just that.

madjune:
A Nigerian girl born in US ma akata.

She may hold that pass for you to achieve more etc but your values may not be the same.
Akata values are different from ours.

As you're saving to build a house, she's thinking of spending that money on holiday trips.

Check yourself.

Nigerian girls in the US are culturally different from Akata. Their worldviews and upbringing are different as well.

https://www.nairaland.com/5953751/dating-nigerian-american-girls-united-states

degelinglacis:

Must you control people? Why would you want to control a fellow human like you?
The way you reason shows you would want your wife to be beneath you. God forbid she becomes more successful than you are, you'll make her life a living hell.

At Op, you should be concerned about if you guys are compatible or not. You can decide not to do NYSC and start your life over there.
Just be honest with the lady, let her know the reality and I am sure would be honest with you as well.

Control in the sense you can't questions her wrongs. Reason because anything police, you raise ya voice deprivation of her human right, soon courts as the story goes.. If my wife is Richer than me I won't marry her we can't have two rich people in one house, the head should be in better position not a woman


Most women who have enough money never seconds to thier hubby reason because I don't need ya money, I gave you children let me face my career and forget home

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh


First, how old are you ?
You are still in Medical school?
If you are too wife her, wife her in Nigeria not abroad cause. If not any small chaos Na police, you are vulnerable bro and you know she's OK, in the sense she's well to do so marrying her is not like a favour just that she need children and companion. Also know female are favour in court case outside.

I will advise you'd wife her here in Nigeria since she's a Nigerian.

Enemy of progress.

This girl no get younger sisters or friends....walai me i am a good guy from a good home ooooh

nexta007:
Study all her Facebook posts if possible to find clues about her personality, beliefs, goals and all...

He shud definitely follow her on Twitter

Na dere all those crase girls dey show their true colors