etrange:
The kind of questions I see onhere these days simply shows that real human relationships have long been discarded. So instead of the OP to interact with the so called abroad based wife to see if her personality matches what he wants in a woman, he came on Nairaland to ask strangers the advantages/disadvantages of marrying her? And now people who might have never left their home states are telling him tales of how he will be emasculated. Lmao.

Buhahahahahahahahahaha

Cmanforall:

First things first.

Are you in any relationship in Nigeria?

Do you want to move to the US?

If you answer all that...
And your desire is to move to the States, note that as a medical doctor, you don't need a woman-link to take you there. You can migrate by yourself.

If you are in a relationship with a lady in Nigeria and both of you are in love, plan with her and you can move out of the country after your graduation.

yes, it's easier for people in SCience & MAths field to integrate

cococandy:
Please tell us how to interpret control

I stopped reading the thread when I saw this comment.
I quoted him first but didn't want his way of thinking to interfere with the sunny weather.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh


First, how old are you ?
You are still in Medical school?
If you are too wife her, wife her in Nigeria not abroad cause. If not any small chaos Na police, you are vulnerable bro and you know she's OK, in the sense she's well to do so marrying her is not like a favour just that she need children and companion. Also know female are favour in court case outside.

I will advise you'd wife her here in Nigeria since she's a Nigerian.

Whether they wed in Nigeria or the US ,it is the same thing.The woman has more power in the US but he shouldn't enter into the relationship/ future marriage with a biased mindset.If he likes the babe ,he should just follow his heart & be optimistic that the marriage will work out.

abbey621:


LMAO....na you be the agency, pauper wey dey call himself king

Ok rich man

You're the easiest to audit

Find ....and your details and we can start

It's a good opportunity
But op think am well
He get why

Yankee101:


I'm an ombudsman
Na me be d agency
All these jati jati naija georgia boys, home of 419
Multiple businesses, same employees

If it's sure for you expose your private details, name and address let me also expose mine and we'll audit one another......Finding photos from social media and thinking that proves you can audit is an insult to my profession. Apart from breaking privacy rules, you clearly lack common sense, you sir are a disgrace to your profession which aims to be an advocate for consumer rights.....SHAME ON YOU!

abbey621:



If it's sure for you expose your private details, name and address let me also expose mine and we'll audit one another......Finding photos from social media and thinking that proves you can audit is an insult to my profession. Apart from breaking privacy rules, you clearly lack common sense, you sir are a disgrace to your profession which aims to be an advocate for consumer rights.....SHAME ON YOU!

Just to let you know you can't hide. And I didn't use social media. Secretary of State, Georgia.

pansophist:
1. Make sure she chooses you. Arranged marriage works well when the lady in particular finds the man attractive and naturally wants to be with him. Men generally can be with a woman that they do not love, especially if she is a good person, I can not say the same for women. So I repeat, make sure that she chooses you and truly want to be with you. By choosing you, I do not necessarily mean meeting you herself and not through arrangement (that is just a vehicle to meet each other), but that she finds you attractive, adorable, and respectable.

2. Do not go have a relationship with her because of the prospect of green card. You NEED to find her as a good partner genuinely. and the prospect of living in the US will just be an addition, to make your marital life prosperous.

3. Be conscious of the power dynamic in your relationship. Traditionally, it is the woman that integrates into the lifestyle of a man, not otherwise. She is the one adopting your surname, moving to you, being impregnated by you, and submitting (not to be understood as tyranny/subordination) to you. Make sure you have something going for yourself, and green-card is not something that will be that attractive, or at least have self-respect to not make it influence such a lifelong decision. Moving to live with her in the US, getting your papers through her, being economically handicapped while she simultaneously assume the role of the torch bearer is not a recipe for a good start. Only truly good women will take that role and not look down on you. You know her better, so don't take this as an express advice.

4. Most importantly, make sure she is not settling for, but chooses you out of all her options. A question I would ask myself would be why she can not find a man in the US, a country with a population of about x2 of Nigeria. Why go through the stress of long distance relationship with you and considering marriage when she haven't even met you? It is important you know that in every deregulated relationship (meaning a lady freely making romantic decisions without social/cultural pressure), it is the woman that chooses the man, not otherwise. You may argue that you asked her out firstly, but her acceptance is mere confirmation of having choosing you out of all her suitors. Your words/toasting skills didn't do the job, but the kind of man you have made yourself to be.

Tell her to consider the prospect of visiting you in Nigeria, and explore the possibility of living in Nigeria and lead your family life there, then in the nearest future, you may both move abroad when you are convinced about the kind of woman she is. Don't just uproot your life and move to her to the US, leaving you vulnerable and dependent on her, in a feminized society. personally I would never do that. After all, Nigeria is her country as well. I am advising you as someone that lives abroad, and have seen how lots of relationship crashed because of not having proper planning and jumping to marry anyone because of the chance to move abroad.

Be honest with yourself. If you want to marry her genuinely, pay attention to the above advice. But if you want to marry her to move abroad, I can guarantee you that she probably will be that smart to see your intention and rain hell on you, and it would be better you just remain in Nigeria and live your life peacefully, than be at the mercy of an estranged wife in a foreign, feminized society. Good luck.

Accurate ✔✔

abbey621:


Assuming you know the right agencies to contact and the right forms to file as a whistleblower

Relax

I won't have you audited

But don't push your luck next time because you don't know who is online. Stay safe out there

Hathor5:


I stopped reading the thread when I saw this comment.
I quoted him first but didn't want his way of thinking to interfere with the sunny weather.

Some comments tend to dim the sunlight. You’re absolutely right

Yankee101:


A graduate from medical school is a doctor. Not all even go to residency. Some go straight to other non clinical jobs. He told you he's still in medical school and about to graduate, who will pay him 120k?

Google medical residents salaries. The average is 60k plus. Lower scale is 50k plus. After 3 to 5 years of training b4 they can smell 120k

Brotherly, just take your time and know her first.

gaius01:


Sir with all due respect, marrying such lady is not a problem if only She can come to Nigeria to marry and stay, but you going up there that implies you will be short to some right as a man. This lady is OK financial and educationally and marrying her you can't control anything about her. Beside she woñt have the moral an average Nigeria girls .

Modify

Feminist will misinterpret the word "Control" just see.

Na tv wey u wan control, u and this ur local mentality eh. nawa 4 u o

Yankee101:


Relax

I won't have you audited

But don't push your luck next time because you don't know who is online. Stay safe out there

Your importance has been greatly exaggerated. Only those with things to hide would and should be afraid of being audited. I have audited small and large companies, government agencies, I've even audited auditors. If you're confident in yourself, let's exchange personal details and see who is good at this auditing of a thing

Like I said, you made this personal by associating my wife with your shallow mentality and in my book that's unforgivable, fight me I don't really cafe but don't you dare mention my family, I WILL END YOU!

abbey621:


Your importance has been greatly exaggerated. Only those with things to hide would and should be afraid of being audited. I have audited small and large companies, government agencies, I've even audited auditors. If you're confident in yourself, let's exchange personal details and see who is good at this auditing of a thing

Like I said, you made this personal by associating my wife with your shallow mentality and in my book that's unforgivable, fight me I don't really cafe but don't you dare mention my family, I WILL END YOU!

I have ALL your details

Yankee101:


I have ALL your details

You sure you wouldn't like an address, DOB or SSN? Ignoramus

abbey621:


You sure you wouldn't like an address, DOB or SSN? Ignoramus

Well, gimme permission to put them here online, indemnify from all legal ramifications of posting your personal details


Go ahead make my day, I have time this afternoon

Yankee101:


Well, gimme permission to put them here online, indemnify from all legal ramifications of posting your personal details


Go ahead make my day, I have time this afternoon

You don't need my permission, exposing personal information either through explicit or implicit permission to the public will land you in jail sooner or later....As an Ombudsman I'm surprised you don't know this, perhaps you believe because you're not using your real name on Nairaland you can't be tracked down?
Why are you so interested in putting information on a public forum? I thought you wanted to get me in legal trouble by auditing me, what's the point of putting it here? Just goes to show my assumptions about you were correct, a pauper pretending to be king

I have one question for you

Have you tried as in made any attempt to get to know this person before bringing this matter for people to deliberate on?

if you haven't, SMH for you.

abbey621:


You don't need my permission, exposing personal information either through explicit or implicit permission to the public will land you in jail sooner or later....As an Ombudsman I'm surprised you don't know this, perhaps you believe because you're not using your real name on Nairaland you can't be tracked down?
Why are you so interested in putting information on a public forum? I thought you wanted to get me in legal trouble by auditing me, what's the point of putting it here? Just goes to show my assumptions about you were correct, a pauper pretending to be king

1.Show me evidence of your personal details online
2. You don dey humble yourself small small. I thought you'll give permission for your date of birth, address etc
3. You have cross employees as multiple counting in your SBA application. That's an audit case

Advantages - you can marry anyone where you were born and raised. Not minding that "going home to marry bs"

Disadvantage - non

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

Yankee101:


1.Show me evidence of your personal details online
2. You don dey humble yourself small small. I thought you'll give permission for your date of birth, address etc

Ode....Who does that? I'm not even worried about you because you're a nobody, I'm worried about my information getting into the hands of those with bigger motives. The internet never forgets and number one rule of I.T security is that privacy is the default setting. Once again, I'm shocked that you would even suggest this, are you sure you're an Ombudsman? I seriously doubt it!

abbey621:


Ode....Who does that? I'm not even worried about you because you're a nobody, I'm worried about my information getting into the hands of those with bigger motives. The internet never forgets and number one rule of I.T security is that privacy is the default setting. Once again, I'm shocked that you would even suggest this, are you sure you're an Ombudsman? I seriously doubt it!

You missed #3

3. You have cross employees as multiple counting in your SBA application. That's an audit case

So you know I have no bigger motives of doing you harm abi

Trumptweet:
He married his own wife there.

and if they're doing well,then is okay...

Yankee101:


You missed #3

3. You have cross employees as multiple counting in your SBA application. That's an audit case

You see why I said you're an ignoramus, why would I need an SBA loan when business is booming for ecommerce company like my own? Again you're a pauper trying to behave like a king, you make assumptions and those assumptions have not only ridiculed you as a professional but as a human being, your words are now worthless.

OGA AUDIT O, IF YOU NO AUDIT MAY THUNDER FIRE YOUR LEFT BALL

abbey621:


You see why I said you're an ignoramus, why would I need an SBA loan when business is booming for ecommerce company like my own? Again you're a pauper trying to behave like a king, you make assumptions and those assumptions have not only ridiculed you as a professional but as a human being, your words are now worthless.

OGA AUDIT O, IF YOU NO AUDIT MAY THUNDER FIRE YOUR LEFT BALL

The more you insult me personally the more you put yourself in trouble

Yankee101:


The more you insult me personally the more you put yourself in trouble

Make I insult you well well then, so make the trouble plenty ODE, bloody pauper!

gaius01:


Sir with all due respect, marrying such lady is not a problem if only She can come to Nigeria to marry and stay, but you going up there that implies you will be short to some right as a man. This lady is OK financial and educationally and marrying her you can't control anything about her. Beside she woñt have the moral an average Nigeria girls .

Modify

Feminist will misinterpret the word "Control" just see.

I never thought I would see the day that Nigerian girls will given credit on Nairaland.

Crownstar01:
There are excellent American girls with proper upbringing. My friend married a damsel who graduated from MIT and both are doing pretty well.

Life doesn't stop in Nigeria. You've got to move.

I know what I want in life because I am an educated person. Girls(not all) in Nigeria are also morally bankrupt.

You know what you want in life because you are an educated person, by wishing to marry an American citizen to travel abroad


It means you don't believe in yourself and your education and talent to survive without using an American citizen woman to cross over to US.


I am probably more educated than you might be but I tell you, believe in yourself, yes things might be hard for you in Nigeria now, don't give up okay.

Millions of Nigerians are still making it big in Nigeria and going on vacation to their dream cities from Nigeria.

You can still end up in America on your own without having to force yourself to marry an American based girl as an edge.


Believe in yourself, I have seen people who thought they could not make it in Nigeria end up more successful than those that traveled or relocated to US or Europe or Canada, I am also a living witness to such. You too can be like that.

Marrying an American based girl should be for attraction and likness not cos of visa or green card okay

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

the disgusting comments I see here wanna make me puke,guys are always threatened and dey feel insecure by a woman's success...we won't put ourselves in your position.......what do guys(you) really what in a woman,if women are too successful,goal oriented,smart,outspoken you feel insecure