JoshVI:
no you shouldn’t support her bitter words please. She could have made her point without terming my relationship DEMONIC. Calling me and my lady USELESS. She sounds frustrated, bitter and seems like a lady approaching 50 without a man in her life.

That lady told u the truth...She sounded harsh because that was the way to get the message into ur head. I hate it when people see the writing on wall but still go into marriage because of emotion.
Fear of living without her is making u to make the wrong decision.
Grow some ballz & walk out of that relationship abeg....

this people giving fresh advice una no see say matter don strip? who ask you

yettymuse:
this people giving fresh advice una no see say matter don strip? who ask you

Leave beauty bro, don't be with a lady that will bring the beast in you as someone pointed out. If it happens you will be the villain. Don't know why most men are so hooked to physical appearance.

JoshVI:
[s]Dr Gilbert, I have all evidence of your lustful chat with my woman, if you dare me or provoke me, I’ll send them to your wife and kids. Just dare me and see! What an ingrate, after all I did for you? You came to London because of me, you had no where to stay and I housed you and fed you for years. I paid the first rent for the house you and your family are living currently, remember? You went to Nigeria and started saying all sorts of evils and trash against me. I know what your problem is, jealousy, you can never get my woman and can never dine with me. If not for your beautiful kids, I would have gotten your wife fired and sent packing to Nigeria. Ingrate[/s]!

Meaning there are some truth in what he said??
The lady in question is your wife? See how u are already going mad because of her & u came here to open a thread whether to continue with her?

U are a failed case & a pathetic weak man!
I already spotted u are a weakling from your first post. Only a weak would condone those attitude from a woman & still come online to seek advise?? Weak things everywhere....

OmoAlata1:
I fear London men. I don’t know why women deal with them.

Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

Rubbiish:

Meaning there are some truth in what he said??
The lady in question is your wife? See how u are already going mad because of her & u came here to open a thread whether to continue with her?

U are a failed case & a pathetic weak man!
I already spotted u are a weakling from your first post. Only a weak would condone those attitude from a woman & still come online to seek advise?? Weak things everywhere....

Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

yettymuse:
this people giving fresh advice una no see say matter don strip? who ask you

Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

JoshVI:
Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

Are you sure you are not the one operating both monikers?

You are very sensible...

NuttygalB:


Are you sure you are not the one operating both monikers?

NuttygalB:


Are you sure you are not the one operating both monikers?

seriously I’m not. I was surprised on the guys claim. From the write ups you’ll see he’s much more educated than I am. I have no idea who he is. But I’m still surprised if he did it intentionally or if he’s been real. If he is, I pity the persons information he’s gonna leak out on here if he wants to go nasty like he said. It’s none of my business.

JoshVI:
Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

See how pathetic you are?

The first time you hit your wife was just a few months into your marriage and you guys ended up having a full blow out which family members had to resolve.

Her yoruba father left her calabar mother and no, they were not a happy family as you claim. Need I say more?

Hahahahahah... Warris happening here

genq:



See how pathetic you are?

The first time you hit your wife was just a few months into your marriage and you guys ended up having a full blow out which family members had to resolve.

Her yoruba father left her calabar mother and no, they were not a happy family as you claim. Need I say more?

bros leave me na. I don’t know you. I’m edo and my lady is ibo. Free me abeg. I believe you are just trolling me.

I created this thread seeking for genuine advice concerning my relationship. I have no idea who genq is. Pardon his post please. He trolled and I trolled him too. I’m no Dr oooo!!! Jesus. Some people are crazy. Na me even craze pass wey reply you sef

Nigerians are crazy. See drama

JoshVI:
I created this thread seeking for genuine advice concerning my relationship. I have no idea who genq is. Pardon his post please. He trolled and I trolled him too. I’m no Dr oooo!!! Jesus. Some people are crazy. Na me even craze pass wey reply you sef

See how you exposed yourself? In your so called 'trolling' you couldn't think of any other country to refer to other than 'London' which so happens to be where the family member your wife offended lives.
This said family member actually paid your rent during the first year of your marriage since you spent all your money on buying a car and doing your wedding (and this is why you unconsciously mentioned rent in your troll comment)
Clearly, your very rude wife didn't know he paid for the roof over your heads and thats why she had the guts to insult him. And you sat there as a vegetable because of what she's feeding your from between her legs.

genq:


See how you exposed yourself? In your so called 'trolling' you couldn't think of any other country to refer to other than 'London' which so happens to be where the family member your wife offended lives.
This said family member actually paid your rent during the first year of your marriage since you spent all your money on buying a car and doing your wedding (and this is why you unconsciously mentioned rent in your troll comment)
Clearly, your very rude wife didn't know he paid for the roof over your heads and thats why she had the guts to insult him. And you sat there as a vegetable because of what she's feeding your from between her legs.

this guy is a clown! I have never seen this kind of trolling before. I just hope you are not being real.

JoshVI:
Good morning everyone, kinda long writings but please ensure to read and understand.

Been dating this beautiful stubborn lady for close to four years now. Sure there’s up and downs in the relationship but we always find our way around it.

The issue is, she’s unapologetic, she hardly gets remorseful. She hardly say “I’m sorry”. When things go wrong from her end, even when she’s at fault she always has a way to twist it and make it seem I’m the one at fault. Most times she knows she’s at fault but she’ll ridicule me and make it seem as if I’m saying trash. She sees nothing wrong in most of her wrong acts, I’m always the one at fault.

Immediately I’m at fault, I hardly wait three seconds to apologize. I do it immediately and let peace rein.

When we have issues, let’s say we gone into little or even a very heated argument, it doesn’t stop me from caring, or checking on her, after quarrels, few hours later I pick up my phone, call her or visit her and talk as if nothing happened before, but she can keep malice on this same issue for close to 3 to 4 days. Giving me cold answers whenever we talking during those period. Until I playfully tease her, maybe a hot romance or sex, will calm her down and brighten her up. At times I deliberately give her the space to get over it on her own.

But when there’s no issues between us, it seems as if we are in heaven on earth. Too much sweetness! Despite all these we don’t threaten breakup. The love we have for each other goes deep by the day.

But the issue here is I’m very HOT TEMPERED! On few occasions I end up beating her!! Other times slap her. But she doesn’t just sit or stand for me to slap her, she do retaliate.

I fear if we end up together and she continues being stubborn!! I’m really trying hard to always calm myself down when pushed to the limit. I’m the most caring and sweetest guy ever when it comes to handling my woman, (she praises me with this, so are other ladies I was involved with) even my close pals sometimes tells me they want to become a girl so they can date me and enjoy the treats I give my woman!

And again the only issue is when the fuse in my head burns, I just can’t take it. Not as if I do get my woman angry, I don’t even dare it, but when she’s the one at fault and she doesn’t see this and still claim rights over me, this is what burns my fuse. I just can’t control it, to make it worse, she’ll say words that will hurt me and make me seem less a man! At times she say she’s right because she’s a lady. Or when she’s wrong, she’ll carefully wait for me to say something bad to her and then turn the table around. I WAS AT FAULT.


I need help, I really love this girl and want a life time with her, several times I promised never to lay my hands on her, I end up doing it again. Because of this I’m scared of getting married, to her especially!


The physical abuse with my woman started at the very year we started dating. And it didn’t happen on every argument we had, it happened maybe once or twice in a year, it just happens when I can’t take it from her, I respect my woman a lot, and I also demand respect from her, I carefully pick things I say just not to annoy her.

In all this, we are still good, she just can’t get enough of me, she always want to be around me and if she could wrap herself around me and hung there while I’m going about my daily activities, she’ll.

I’m planning on settling down with her soon, VERY SOON, but how can I solve this? I seem not to be able to help myself, there are few times I expected her to say she can’t marry an abusive husband and bow out. Instead she keep asking me to reassure her I’ll marry her.

we aren’t living together yet, when we get married and live together, I fear for us. I need help.

But u beat her? Never ever touch a woman no matter how she goads u to do so.
D problem is once u start, it may be hard to stop.
U can try reverse psychology like someone suggested.
But my two cents is that the fault is in ur end.
U guys are Nigerians and it naija the norm is for the males to be dominant which by the way I think it's BS but that is the norm.
So next time she pulls shit, u sit on her head till she apologizes. If she doesn't no peace. U stand Ur ground and keep standing Ur ground till she is used to it. U don't need to touch her. Once she gets used to it she will apologize without Ur even asking for it.
Pls note, this may also back fired cos some ladies once they feel u live on her apology they may become adamant not to or just do it to get u off their back knowing full well they don't mean it. U have to be wise about it

JoshVI:
lol, bro you need to see us when these arguements aren’t happening. We become the best couple every other couple desires to be. At times I feel maybe it’s because I can’t control my hot temper, while in reality she’s the one turning me into something else. I’m not justifying my reasons for hitting, I always feel bad afterwards. I want to stop it, but if she can change too.

And what if she doesn't change? I keep trumpeting it that love is blind but na inside marriage eye dey clear. Do you think it is love alone that sustains a marriage? A woman who is manipulative, heady and stubborn will not change in marriage, eapecially as she don sew you finish. What happens the day you strike her and do REAL damage? You wee just kee someone's pikin.

You see, your own dey your body. You're hitting a woman and blaming it on anger. You need to work on yourself because you and your woman have major character flaws.

Be that as it may, what you can't change and tolerate in a relationship, don't expect it to be different in marriage. Marriage is not a joke neither is it for kids

Just passing

yettymuse:
this people giving fresh advice una no see say matter don strip? who ask you

Stainlessq:
The next time u quarrel, give her space. Don't talk to her for sometime, don't apologise, don't beg, don't even visit, then watch her reaction. if she is still the same , then u can't solve it. she thinks you can't do without her but she can do without you. Don't be surprise, she is in love with another guy whom she kneels to beg at the slightest provocation. that girl do not truly love you coz if she does she will do anything to make you happy including
apologising for her mistakes. Either u run or u marry her and watch your life force cut into two. that bad habit will equally get to the kids.

Best advice ever. I think I like you already with this comment

OmoAlata1:
Both of you are very useless people. I pity the innocent children that you two will bring into this toxic environment. You will end up raising boys that when they become men, they’ll think it is ok to beat women and you will raise girls that when they too become women, they’ll think it is ok for a man to turn them into his punching bag bc it is love.

You both have serious ego problems. I am taking you as the type of man who likes his ego to be stroked all the time so you can feel like a man and when she doesn’t, you will beat it into her. She also seems like the type of women that like to be beaten bc it means love and good sex.

For the sake of the innocent children that you two are planning to selfishly bring into your toxic relationship , do those innocent kids a favor and part ways. You are not compatible at all on any level. But if you both insist you must continue on with your demonic toxic relationship, please please please, do not bring innocent children into it, just so they can suffer and have a misconstrue mind of what relationship is. We are tired of self parents breeding abusive men and low self esteem women that think abuse is ok.

I am not surprised at your comment, your moniker says a lot about your person

Funny how some of us judge people that are in need of our advice. If u can't help them get better with your words, don't compound their problems.

Bros, me would say, if u guys can talk to yourselves, agree together and stop pre marital sex, pray about the whole situation and seek godly counsel, your situation could be turned around and you guys would end up being one of the best parents in Nigeria. It's not over for u. Picking up another lady might just be u wasting your time the more. It is well.

crunchyg:

I am not surprised at your comment, your moniker says a lot about your person

I am not surprised you find my comment upsetting. Go hire a psychiatrist to help you with your anger and low self esteem issue.

OmoAlata1:


I am not surprised you find my comment upsetting. Go hire a psychiatrist to help you with your anger and low self esteem issue.

U don sell your pepper finish?

pyyxxaro:
Am just here to read comments, because my own won turn me to water yam oh

Me too

Zukkies:

Me too

explain o... Make I learn