CalliDora1:
Yes it's partly the reason why most ladies are not married. Speaking from personal experience.

My parents (especially my father) were overprotective and it was due to the fact that we were all girls and the environment in which we grew up didn't help as it was very secluded area (Ikoyi) where it's just you and your family. Those days, we were sorrounded by the whites where everyone mind their biz and my dad was cool with it as it helped curb unnecessary movements and mingling with people. He took us to the beach and fun parks by himself. So no room for hanging out on our own and making friends. He was so overprotective to the point that we were not allowed to go spend holidays with our distant relatives.

Fast forward to when we became youth. we had gotten used to staying indoors. No partying out ( who born you?) No boyfriends, no social life. Only read books, go for fellowship, come back home and hang out with ourselves and back home. It continued until we realized things have gotten out of hand.

As I speak to you, ive been living on my own for the past twelve 12 years and still afraid to invite or entertain male visitors in my house. Or even hang out like I see my mates do. Thats a result of the overprotective parenting style used on us and is still affecting me till today. Reason I easily give up on relationships because I've been trained and made to get used to keeping to myself.


So, in conclusion, it does affect.

dangotesmummy:
Hmnn

I agree with the poster above

The parents meant well but didn't know when to stop.thats where Naija parents get it wrong

Some will still be caging 35 year old woman and be restricting her movements

Rapsodee:
Wow...I must first commend you for sharing your experience. I am aware of that too...it's really irritating to see some parents still over protecting matured ladies that ought to be taking decisions on their own. No problem with protecting them as girls but freedom should be given to them when they are matured.

Rapsodee:
It's bad... As if she will stay in their house forever, at times I feel some parents will rather keep their daughters at home than give her out for marriage because they are always kept indoor even though ripe for marriage, when they suppose to be using style to push them out.

dangotesmummy:
funny thing is that they'll be pressurizing them to marry yet they'll be restricting their movement like person when thief

Rapsodee:
They always expect guys to just show up at their house door straight up for marriage without really building any real connection with their daughter first.

So archaic.

IamD18:
Parents are not the reason why ladies are unmarried and frustrated.

Unmarried ladies are the reason they are not married. They are responsible for their unmarried state.

From forming a gang on social media known as feminist to attack and blame men for their unmarried and frustrated state, they now want to blame their parents.

Tomorrow, they'll blame their brothers for not connecting them to their friends.

When will these people ever admit the fact that they are responsible for their marital status?

thejourney200:
There are many ways to meet a man in my opinion. School/work place, religious gathering, the few times spent in public places etc. If we think being protected makes one an introvert, that is possible but shouldn't stop one from making friends.

Rapsodee:
They always expect guys to just show up at their house door straight up for marriage without really building any real connection with their daughter first.

So archaic.

Rapsodee:
Like we know that Nigerian parents limit their children's movement most especially the female child. Giving them the opportunity to only mingle with others only if they gain admission into school, which will leave the parents with no choice than to release them or if they go for NYSC...

After these two, a large number of them return to their parents and wait for a man somewhere to propose marriage to them.

Outside school and NYSC, some females have no freedom any more, although some still go out from their parents house in search of a better life (partner included) but that's if their parents are easy enough to free them in the first place.

Could this be a reason for many unmarried ladies?

crackhaus:

It's not a reason AT ALL.

No matter how restrictive parents have been with their female children, I doubt there's any mature girl who will claim she has no male friends/acquaintances who are interested in her.

The real problem is either the men she knows are not proposing marriage to her (meaning she should have herself checked) OR the men proposing marriage to her are not the ones she would love to marry (meaning she should still have herself checked).

Munzy14:

Nollywood style, the guys will be acompanied by his kinsmen to come and pluck a ripe fruit..

Those scene can be so archaic...time flies...things av changed,.now a guy will meet, become friends and date a lady, propose, then they return home to seek parents consent.

The one fact I know is, a lady must make herself approachable...Whether caged by parents or not, a lady that really knows what she wants, will surely get it.

I av a family friend very religious, but when their daughter marriage set, guess who she married, one of the notorious guys in my area in the early 90s, though from a wealthy home.

E shock everybody, because this girl was raised with tight caging..So how come she connected with the guy...now the live in US its been years happily living.

Again, as a lady anywhere u are, someone is watching, either for himself, his bro or other recommendation...what matters is being yourself and being of good character.

My relative that hardly comes out, rarely seen in public, but a very calm cordinated lady, when marriage reach na two.men drag her, a medical doctor based in US And and engineer based in canada...Both came on recommmendation..And today she is happily married to the medical doctor..and both living in the states...with their baby boy...

Life is all about undestanding, no rush...

CalliDora1:
Yes it's partly the reason why most ladies are not married. Speaking from personal experience.

My parents (especially my father) were overprotective and it was due to the fact that we were all girls and the environment in which we grew up didn't help as it was very secluded area (Ikoyi) where it's just you and your family. Those days, we were sorrounded by the whites where everyone mind their biz and my dad was cool with it as it helped curb unnecessary movements and mingling with people. He took us to the beach and fun parks by himself. So no room for hanging out on our own and making friends. He was so overprotective to the point that we were not allowed to go spend holidays with our distant relatives.

Fast forward to when we became youth. we had gotten used to staying indoors. No partying out ( who born you?) No boyfriends, no social life. Only read books, go for fellowship, come back home and hang out with ourselves and back home. It continued until we realized things have gotten out of hand.

As I speak to you, ive been living on my own for the past twelve 12 years and still afraid to invite or entertain male visitors in my house. Or even hang out like I see my mates do. Thats a result of the overprotective parenting style used on us and is still affecting me till today. Reason I easily give up on relationships because I've been trained and made to get used to keeping to myself.


So, in conclusion, it does affect.

IamD18:
Parents are not the reason why ladies are unmarried and frustrated.

Unmarried ladies are the reason they are not married. They are responsible for their unmarried state.

From forming a gang on social media known as feminist to attack and blame men for their unmarried and frustrated state, they now want to blame their parents.

Tomorrow, they'll blame their brothers for not connecting them to their friends.

When will these people ever admit the fact that they are responsible for their marital status?

crackhaus:

It's not a reason AT ALL.

No matter how restrictive parents have been with their female children, I doubt there's any mature girl who will claim she has no male friends/acquaintances who are interested in her.

The real problem is either the men she knows are not proposing marriage to her (meaning she should have herself checked) OR the men proposing marriage to her are not the ones she would love to marry (meaning she should still have herself checked).

NoToPile:
No.

Besides peeps get married every Saturday , there are many single as well as many married ladies.

pozehnani:



These two people you used as case study are just the lucky few who narrowly escaped the effect of overprotectiveness. Majority out there are still bearing the brunt of this style of upbringing.

PuZZyNegro:
The truth is, this life is not balanced.

You advise ladies to marry on time when men are very much interested in them and the outcome is a marriage where the woman does not have an input because she cannot foot her bills. You know that money acts as a form of control.

When you advise that they should finish school, get a job and be successful in their careers before getting married to avoid being played by the husband, the outcome is a woman in her late 20s that the only thing that matters to her is to get married. Desperation sets in.

So, there's no one best way to doing these things.


In a different view, I noticed that men before now travel to the village to get a wife. Lately, no one wants to stay in the village. Once a girl finishes her secondary school or university, the next thing is to look for a relative that lives in the city to hang with.


This has increased the rate of single ladies that are not getting married.

Most eligible men for marriage are those guys that left school to go hustle for business. They are not in the university. They don't have time to approach you in the church.

They are most likely to look out for wives in the village during festive periods.

So, if you are a single lady ready for marriage and you are reading this, please, travel to your village and spend some time there.

Some men find it difficult looking for wives in the city due to obvious reasons. Either the beautiful girl is not from the state they can marry, or have a different religion, etc.

Someone may want to argue that village girls open eyes more than the city girls, but sincerely, most men especially the business guys till today still believe that marrying a woman from the village provides better marriage than a girl you met in the city.

Zzor:
somehow,it really affected me, I still don't know how to be friends with the males except online,though I don't think it should hinder any lady from being unmarried

tobechi74:
Things are hard economy is tough. This is the reason

Zzor:
somehow,it really affected me, I still don't know how to be friends with the males except online,though I don't think it should hinder any lady from being unmarried