For individuals with poor comprehension...

There are many reasons why a woman may be apathetic towards sex as listed above.

Instead of sometimes owning up to it, they tend to promise a sexual utopia inside the confines of a marriage.

That is a lie.

Even women who love sex tend to slow down in a marriage with the kids and stress that comes with co-managing a home while working.

If these ones can slow down, then what will happen to the one that did not even like sex to begin with?

It's practical common sense.

IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND SOMETHING SO BASIC, NO COME POST ABOUT HOW YOUR WIFE DEY DO YOU SHEGE in a few years time.

Marriage doesn't change anything abi it gives more leverage for misbehavior.

Onyenna:
Well said.....

I’ve had my own fair share of experience.... I’m glad it’s all over now......

I have a friend who fell into that trap...... Gf told him she only wants sex after marriage.... It was always a big struggle to touch her....... After marriage, it dawned on him that the wife just doesn’t like sex..... Even after marriage, it took some months for him to successfully sleep with his wife...... This is a true life story.... No jokes.....

you don't know the truth about what happened

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baralatie:
find it very funny that some monikers on nairaland think that all female gender should give out sex before they get married.
people are different.some girls will never give you sex unless marriage and they work towards such a goal.this does not mean that the are virgins or that they don't like sex.it is just that they have made a choice of what they want.(respect it)

And at the same time there are other girls who do not care about it.they want the sex now now wether marriage or no marriage.the issues that have arisen is that the same men who have slept with numerous girls without marriage go about shaming the same girls that they are olosho, prostitute and unwholesome. in addition to leaving them penniless,single mothers and been messed up.

so in summary you have a set of male monikers whose end game is to steal and destroy women and it is left for the woman to determine wether to live a fruitful life in peace and abundance or open her legs and whatever happens happens

Right on point! How many men after promising love and getting sex make any future commitment? Instead they're the first to bash women with body count especially single moms.
How many men in Nigeria can comfortably settle down with a single Mom? You see them on NL bashing non virgins swearing only to marry virgins. Who will marry the ones they have disvirgined/impregnated /abandoned with a child (ren).
Op, make no mistake, women are getting smarter. If you like promise heaven and earth, no ring, no sex from me. Periodt.

Chii59:

Were you forced to give material things at gun point? If you say you were deceived, it simply means that you aren't as smart as you thought you were.

I know u will always support things like this

Pierocash:
My ex baby mama is frigid, she doesn't feel anything even when in action with her.

My current woman is the worst ,she will initiate it,but the moment you respond ,it becomes a journey of frustration. She can't even stand one round of sex,to penetrate her is always struggle after that you can't even have a successful one round, she start pushing you,shouting and complaining of being tired. It is very frustrating

. You weren't the rightful owner of the punaa...

RenaissanceGuy:
There's nothing to read slowly there. You're indirectly trying to tell unmarried ladies to engage in sexual relationships as much as they like, and trash whatever societal or moral values that want to hold them back.

...and the funniest part is that this op will be the same person to condemn any woman that is sleeping around.

It will never change
Women naturally have lower libido than men, they don't have as much testosterone as men so lower sex drive, they give birth and breastfeeding further lowers their already lower sex drives,
Breadwinning and housework stresses them and lowers their sex drives, their two minutes unsatisfactory orgasm-less sex with their husbands causes resentment and lowers sex drive, realizing how unfair marriage can be to women with them carrying majority of house labour and hustling just like husband and then harbouring more resentment.


It's just a part of life that will never change in africa.
It's different in western countries with more liberal views and fairness and non judgemental attitude to sex.

Pierocash:
My ex baby mama is frigid, she doesn't feel anything even when in action with her.

My current woman is the worst ,she will initiate it,but the moment you respond ,it becomes a journey of frustration. She can't even stand one round of sex,to penetrate her is always struggle after that you can't even have a successful one round, she start pushing you,shouting and complaining of being tired. It is very frustrating

Where do u meet those kinda girls. Man, i wouldnt deal.

even as i never push 4 sex. I'd just let us be in d mood so it's going to be mutual.

CHoccolaTE:
It will never change
Women naturally have lower libido than men, they don't have as much testosterone as men so lower sex drive, they give birth and breastfeeding further lowers their already lower sex drives,
Breadwinning and housework stresses them and lowers their sex drives, their two minutes unsatisfactory orgasm-less sex with their husbands causes resentment and lowers sex drive, realizing how unfair marriage can be to women with them carrying majority of house labour and hustling just like husband and then harbouring more resentment.


It's just a part of life that will never change in africa.
It's different in western countries with more liberal views and fairness and non judgemental attitude to sex.

You are right though, but many of the issue men have with women is that
1. Don't promise sex after marriage to a guy you are dating at d same time having regular sex with another guy, that's deceit.
2. If you don't like sex let the guy know before marriage, so that he can decide if you can match his sex drive. If you fail to do this after marriage things will only get worse for both of you.
3. If you are a lesbian and don't enjoy sex with a male don't deceive the man, be straight forward and tell him.
4. If your partner is not giving you good sex, don't pretend!! Open up to him. Don't be forming fake orgasms and be deceiving yourself, it will only end in tears.
Having said these, sex is not a bad thing, it depends on how you see it. But remember if you want to commit yourself to anybody maybe by reason of marriage, make sure you both are sexually compactible, don't let any pastor deceive you sex is important for couples, without that even fasting and prayers cannot help the marriage. Don't let spirituality take a ur senses.

Onyenna:
Well said.....

I’ve had my own fair share of experience.... I’m glad it’s all over now......

I have a friend who fell into that trap...... Gf told him she only wants sex after marriage.... It was always a big struggle to touch her....... After marriage, it dawned on him that the wife just doesn’t like sex..... Even after marriage, it took some months for him to successfully sleep with his wife...... This is a true life story.... No jokes.....

Could be a psychological issue or it has something to do with hw she was circumsised.

Sex is for a man and woman who are legally married.I have great respect for any body who is practicing sexual abstinence before marriage and for the people who stay faithful to their spouse in marriage.Most men have their minds in the gutter and they think it's their duty to chase down anything wearing a skirt.Thank God there're still girls who won't spread their legs for men to whom they're not married. I pray and hope that there will be more people saying no to premarital sex. Cursed be anybody who promotes sexual immorality in our society.Cursed be anybody who makes a movie,composes a song,writes an article in which premarital sex is seen as a normal thing.
"Marriage is honourable in all the bed undefiled.Adulterers and whoremongers God will judge"

No seexx before marriage.... ✔️

No money before marriage... ✔️

Case dismiss

me I just don't like sex...
no reasons Before or after marriage,I won't still like sex

Lightangel65:
It was nice for God to make women with lesser libido, like just imagine women were as loose as men, that would have been a real problem

Your mouth

RenaissanceGuy:
There's nothing to read slowly there. You're indirectly trying to tell unmarried ladies to engage in sexual relationships as much as they like, and trash whatever societal or moral values that want to hold them back.

.

Pierocash:
My ex baby mama is frigid, she doesn't feel anything even when in action with her.

My current woman is the worst ,she will initiate it,but the moment you respond ,it becomes a journey of frustration. She can't even stand one round of sex,to penetrate her is always struggle after that you can't even have a successful one round, she start pushing you,shouting and complaining of being tired. It is very frustrating

hehehe thought I was the only one....i always wonder if the problem was from me or somethig...3 minutes into it she is already tired...it's frustrating you know, because if you never cum you never do anything

CHoccolaTE:
It will never change
Women naturally have lower libido than men, they don't have as much testosterone as men so lower sex drive, they give birth and breastfeeding further lowers their already lower sex drives,
Breadwinning and housework stresses them and lowers their sex drives, their two minutes unsatisfactory orgasm-less sex with their husbands causes resentment and lowers sex drive, realizing how unfair marriage can be to women with them carrying majority of house labour and hustling just like husband and then harbouring more resentment.


It's just a part of life that will never change in africa.
It's different in western countries with more liberal views and fairness and non judgemental attitude to sex.

All these teens and youths with raving hormones who are not yet married and know nothing about marriage will soon attack you.

Funny how people who know nothing about marriage suddenly know that marriage favors women more. Many of them don't understand what their mothers have gone through, yet they come here to spew trash all because some red pill told them that once they have money, they have everything and they are the prize.

In today's world, most women work, and some women even earn more than the man without bragging up and down, so one wonders where many of them find the jobless ladies they claim to sponsor and foot their bills.

Pierocash:
My ex baby mama is frigid, she doesn't feel anything even when in action with her.

My current woman is the worst ,she will initiate it,but the moment you respond ,it becomes a journey of frustration. She can't even stand one round of sex,to penetrate her is always struggle after that you can't even have a successful one round, she start pushing you,shouting and complaining of being tired. It is very frustrating

I'm battling with one now.... she's always scared of sex... even to finish one round Hmmm na God .....i thought I was d only one facing same.... I even opened a thread for it on Nairaland.... very funny girls

CHoccolaTE:
It will never change
Women naturally have lower libido than men, they don't have as much testosterone as men so lower sex drive, they give birth and breastfeeding further lowers their already lower sex drives,
Breadwinning and housework stresses them and lowers their sex drives, their two minutes unsatisfactory orgasm-less sex with their husbands causes resentment and lowers sex drive, realizing how unfair marriage can be to women with them carrying majority of house labour and hustling just like husband and then harbouring more resentment.


It's just a part of life that will never change in africa.
It's different in western countries with more liberal views and fairness and non judgemental attitude to sex.

Thank you.

Kyngfarabale1:

I'm battling with one now.... she's always scared of sex... even to finish one round Hmmm na God .....i thought I was d only one facing same.... I even opened a thread for it on Nairaland.... very funny girls

If you marry her, you have just entered the journey to frustration.

Unless you are willing to adjust.

afilex:
. You weren't the rightful owner of the punaa...

u know nothing..... some girls are like dat No reason am... dey dislike sex

apatheticme:


In today's world, most women work, and some women even earn more than the man without bragging up and down, so one wonders where many of them find the jobless ladies they claim to sponsor and foot their bills.

That is what even annoys me the most. In many homes in Nigeria husbands are very jobless or cannot adequately provide, their wives are passing through all sorts of stress to support but women still receive unfair insults in spite of the stress they pass through.

Nigerian men being egotistical prideful creatures hardly acknowledge their wives, they still want submission and obedience and subservience from the same women hustling day and night to balance housework and breadwinning.

Then their stupid selves start wondering why the same women don't want to have sex ten times a week.

CHoccolaTE:


That is what even annoys me the most. In many homes in Nigeria husbands are very jobless or cannot adequately provide, their wives are passing through all sorts of stress to support but women still receive unfair insults in spite of the stress they pass through.

Nigerian men being egotistical prideful creatures hardly acknowledge their wives, they still want submission and obedience and subservience from the same women hustling day and night to balance housework and breadwinning.

Then their stupid selves start wondering why the same women don't want to have sex ten times a week.

.

apatheticme:


Well I don't blame them anyways, I blame the girls/ladies/women who allow themselves to be taken for a ride!

Lol, some women actually enjoy being dominated and bullied by men.

Them full everywhere sef

atheistandproud:

If you marry her, you have just entered the journey to frustration.
Unless you are willing to adjust.

I'm planning to marry her maybe soon but am still scared of the low libido

Kyngfarabale1:

I'm planning to marry her maybe soon but am still scared of the low libido

Learn to adjust from now sha.