MhisTahrah:
You'll be shocked that you'll pay that amount many times over in child support. Your innocent children deserve a functional family not baby mama/daddy drama.

Under which law? Can you quote any source please?

jamesharryson:

Three hundred thousand?⁷
My own in laws took 956k and are still saying that that I am stingy. it is well

i hate it when inlaws charge you as if they are selling their daughter away. Greed in all realm of life.

NOwazobia:
i hate it when inlaws charge you as if they are selling their daughter away. Greed in all realm of life.

Especially ladies with countless body counts

fatymore:
I am talking about the planning part. Your wife would support you now

With the mentality that most Nigerian girls have, finding a girl that will support one when it comes to the wedding finance is very hard

2dice01:
Just dont try most ladies

You dont do white wedding
No marriage bruh

i won't be marrying frivolity. I can't do white and black together when both are meant to achieve same contract. It's wastage.

Huston be careful I just came back from work yesterday only to realize my neighbor's wife gave birth by herself inside there house by herself. Men marriage is not child's play gain oo money they yab ppl

This world no just balance.
Women will be looking for whom to marry.
Men will be looking for money to marry. Reason why some men they like give girl bele to reduce her bride price.

Bride Prices this days are not helping matters...some men never carry eye see 1million before (Even the girl wey them wan marry) but bride price and related expenses are totally up to 3million. Women will be blaming men...men will be blaming money.

Me i cannot COME and GO and kill myself. I go gegely cut my coat according to my size.

Cheatnotagain:
* The marriage journey is a walk of faith...
From what you’ve said I think you are okay to start the process, your write up was focused on the financial part of the marriage, you’ve not even mentioned the choice of who you will marry which I think is the most important...
* Always focus on the marriage and not the wedding as the latter is just an event of a day or two while the former is for life...
* The steady income part is very important also...
* You also need to know that when you get it right (which I know God will help you to), marriage is a synergy (1 + 1 = 10) where you join efforts with your wife and get tremendous results, so stop seeing everything from your own side of the divide...

Oh wow. So 1 + 1 is no longer 11?

Motivational speakers will not kill somebody.

Marrying in Nigeria now is difficult let alone an Igbo girl. My elder brother will be tying the nuts in January and I can tell you it's only God that has been helping him. The drinks our potential in-laws listed amounted to over 300k!! I wonder why most parents see their daughters marriage as a means to amass possessions.

Pofgrace:
who is this motivational speaker now?
You're disturbing our peace oh

even robert kisoyaki filled bankruptcy

Yamiriflathead:


Under which law? Can you quote any source please?

You will pay child support to your baby mama, it's inevitable. Except you intend to be a useless babydaddy.

NOwazobia:
i won't be marrying frivolity. I can't do white and black together when both are meant to achieve same contract. It's wastage.

To find your wife to be no be beans

bros, you can always improve your financial worth though after settling down, here is one of the ways to go about it

setobaba:

Especially ladies with countless body counts

that one looks as if you are buying a secondhand car for the price of a brand new.
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Marriage is meant to acquaint both families (the man and the lady) and to consent to the relationship, which the first introduction rites already took care of. Marriage rites should end at the introduction level, but no, the lady's family always want to build mansion and buy cars out of it as if it's a trade. So much greed in this small world even as far to the thing of love. Spits.

mastermaestro:


See how stupid you sound? This is the reason why society is getting more dysfunctional. Idiots like you would rather have children whichever way it pleases you because you do not know the value of family and marriage. Just look at the way you despise the motherly role in raising sound children.

Baby mama? You are disgusting. Change your orientation first because no matter how much you have you do not qualify to have a wife, nor do you meet the standard societal requirements to father a child.
Cursed generation!

God bless you. The moderator gave him the forum to display his stupidity.

setobaba:
Hello Nairalanders,

I’m 30yrs of age, and I never for once consider getting married, I lost interest totally, but this should incase i decide to tie the nut, how much should I have in my bank account to be on safer side before dragging myself into a life time contract with someone else daughter??

I currently own a car, and managing a salon plus other bussiness thag comes once a while, I’m working towards having a building of my own before getting married, but you see the country is so messed up right now that building a three bed room apartment for yourself is so difficult.
Families and friends are dragging me to get married without considering my financial status, they all felt I have what it takes to get myself a wife......lol tho I’m not moved or shake by their claims but I really need to know this.

Can one settle down with an available balance of a million naira and feel safe?

If you recently get married here, can you pls do a cost implication of the said wedding and cost of running your marriage since inception??
Many guys are scared, I swear

I just got married last weekend.
At a point I just decided to stop keeping track of the expenses especially when cost of feeding increased due to the increase in price of foodstuff.

But eitherway...I have done it because I want to and I am happy I took the step.

You could say I'm still excited cos its still fresh...lol...IS IT YOUR EXCITEMENT

FYI...I married a beautiful and amazing Igbo lady

I believe you can do all with 1m brother and still have a few change to kickstart.
You just have to agree with your woman on what is necessary and what is not.

2dice01:
@ Bolded
Pride Price and Wedding Ceremony have swallowed the 1milli

I have a friend in your kinda situation
He is also a nairalander
He has postpone his wedding simply because his in-law are demanding above 300k for Traditional wedding
Now guess how much he will spend on the White Wedding

If only our Parent can cut their greed of milking their Potential son in-law
Also the wives should cut their coat accordingly

So who told you that another reasonable well to do man won't cover up friend. Hustle and stop blaming our parents for nothing. I will not marry a man who can't boost of at least two million naira

Yamiriflathead:


Will you shut your mouth with your useless preaching... Keep your useless advise to yourself. How are you better than those having baby mamas
Marriage is an overrated piece of shit and anyone who prioritises peace of mind won't ever attempt such.
Was a marriage ceremony celebrated for Adam and Eve?
It was not the original plan of God for marriage ceremonies to be celebrated between two adults who chose to be together.
We are simply returning back to God's original plan.
Bleep your traditions and the European cultures you're attributing to christianity.

I won't waste my precious wisdom on a pea brain. You can continue to toe the path of idiocy and senselessness, good for you.

times has changed. before they use to say dt if u born and train ur children early they will grow quick and take care of u the parents.but nowadays wit d high unemployment rate and bad economy u will see many parents keep taking care of their kids till they die.even d kids wont have resources to take care of their parents. some children even got married and their bills are stil been paid by their parents.
iw ill advise anyone to be financially stable before thinking of marriage. that woman telling u that love is d only thing that matters will be the one dt will abuse and compare u with ur neighbour dt bought car for her wife. with the current inflation in nigeria many parents are finding it difficult to even feed their kids. this has given rise to so many social vices. alot of girls has turned into prostitutes in orfer to make ends meet. some girls who do salesgirl work for people re paid 15k a month. if u add d cost of transport to work on daily basis dt amount dn finish. so many of them resort to sleep wit men on a fee or even for food. some dont even have where to work .they wake up dress up and look for men to sleep with them for money. alot of men dt use to do well have gone back to ground zero.some re owing their suppliers in the market. and their shops have closed.. so @op. plan well and dt allow urself to be entrapped in a life of perpetual poverty.

2dice01:
To find your wife to be no be beans

it only tell negatively of the types of ladies we have presently. Copy and paste ladies who love following trend at the expense of their life and serenity. When my time comes, i will be doing only one though or she foot the bill of the wedding if she so wanted it.

Cheatnotagain:
* The marriage journey is a walk of faith...
From what you’ve said I think you are okay to start the process, your write up was focused on the financial part of the marriage, you’ve not even mentioned the choice of who you will marry which I think is the most important...
* Always focus on the marriage and not the wedding as the latter is just an event of a day or two while the former is for life...
* The steady income part is very important also...
* You also need to know that when you get it right (which I know God will help you to), marriage is a synergy (1 + 1 = 10) where you join efforts with your wife and get tremendous results, so stop seeing everything from your own side of the divide...

God bless you sir...
You just opened the young bros eyes to seeing beyond the frivolities

btw me gaan never marry and I ain't ready to do any large shii... we would have many things to celebrate later in life so kini big deal

mechanics:
It depends from the area you want to marry from, but on the average, you should have up to ₦1,500,000.

Where is that?

Goalnaldo:
Marrying in Nigeria now is difficult let alone an Igbo girl. My elder brother will be tying the nuts in January and I can tell you it's only God that has been helping him. The drinks our potential in-laws listed amounted to over 300k!! I wonder why most parents see their daughters marriage as a means to amass possessions.

Sometimes its not about "a means to amass possessions". They just want a sound sent-fort for their daughters..something that will shake the community and will not make people to laugh at them. Imagine the whole community gathered at your weeding with nothing to eat...that is how most of them think.
The whites don't take this things serious as we Africans do..most of their weeding featured very few people except when the person want something big but in Nigeria, whether you like it or not its going to be big as long as na church weeding.

This one na jamb question oh! It's not about money, do you have a good paying job that will be sufficient for you, partner and potential children, do you have a roof over your head?

These are more important than the wedding itself imo

JOACHINpedro:
Propose to person wey get sense.
Do a lowkey wedding
Manage una assets
No born pikins wey you no fit Carter for.
Work smart, live good and retire better.



It has never been easy for anyone

Correct�

dljbd1:


I just got married last weekend.
At a point I just decided to stop keeping track of the expenses especially when cost of feeding increased due to the increase in price of foodstuff.

But eitherway...I have done it because I want to and I am happy I took the step.

You could say I'm still excited cos its still fresh...lol...IS IT YOUR EXCITEMENT

FYI...I married a beautiful and amazing Igbo lady

I believe you can do all with 1m brother and still have a few change to kickstart.
You just have to agree with your woman on what is necessary and what is not.

Which part of the country are you from, and you said you married an igbo lady? Are you saying you did all this with less than a million base on the part you married from

[quote author=MhisTahrah post=96389274] You will pay child support to your baby mama, it's inevitable. Except you intend to be

MhisTahrah:
You will pay child support to your baby mama, it's inevitable. Except you intend to be a useless babydaddy.

Alright then, be my baby mama here in Nigeria and drag me to court and let's see how it pawns out...
There are no such stringent extant child support laws in Nigeria like we have in europe and the rest. Infact most cases are only judged based on precedence and ofcourse the discretion of the judge and are open to negotiations
You can receive as low as 5k a month as child support in case you don't know because it's very open to negotiation.. and Nobody goes to jail for defaulting

With regard to where you suggested that baby daddys who do not accept to be milked by their spouses are useless, you just exposed how y'all see any relationship with the opposite sex as an employment of some sort..
Trying to shame or manipulate me into seeing reasons with you won't work here.
I'll try my best as a baby Daddy for my kid, if it's not good enough my baby mama should augment the rest.
Period

Gabbriell:


Sometimes its not about "a means to amass possessions". They just want a sound sent-fort for their daughters..something that will shake the community and will not make people to laugh at them. Imagine the whole community gathered at your weeding with nothing to eat...that is how most of them think.
The whites don't take this things serious as we Africans do..most of their weeding featured very few people except when the person want something big but in Nigeria, whether you like it or not its going to be big as long as na church weeding.

True sha

womenareapes:
simple!

concentrate on yourself!

just put women at the back of your mind (note: black women).

we have been saying this time without number!
they have no value!

the women you see walking the streets are all piece of trash! or repentant bokoharam looking for who to give them amnesty in the hands of marriage

from a person whose sisters and mother are all white. It's really great seeing a white man on nairaland.