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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by icebird25(m): 2:37pm On Dec 06, 2020
EgunMogaji2:


With all the data on the ground I can’t understand why anyone will get married anymore.

Guys should just face their studies, careers and money.

Get a baby mama, raise your kids.

No need to get married again.



God will bless you my brother

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Oluwaseun2020(m): 2:37pm On Dec 06, 2020
humilitypays:
as a guy. The only thing you will be feeling is; once you get married, you will start seeing prettier, hotter, classier ladies everywhere you go, making you feel like you acted too fast.


You will even feel like having more ladies because you will be finding it difficult to believe you have been tied to one lady for life no matter how she changes physically and start to look unattractive and all that.


That's why you must cool down and marry a virtuous lady with good character who also helps you grow financially, materially and spiritually so that when the time comes and she starts changing physically and stop looking hot like the single ladies you will be seeing everyday, you will have something to hold on to and find solace in that.

I like your assessment but you didn't lay a foundation for you analysis. .
if an unvirtous guy marry a virtuous girl..it wont work...he will still go to club and fing pretty laddies. and drink alcohol and come home under influence and beat her..or he could even have a child outside due to infidelity. ..or even beat her when drunk...
Both must know jesus..and make God the focus of the marriage. ..
the bible support that if one is not a believer the other is free to leave before he or she killed the opposite. .

1 Corinthians 7:15
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.”
King James Version (KJV

So i Learn alot from this book... by faith oyedepo. .making your marriage work.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by letitrainnow(m): 2:37pm On Dec 06, 2020
Marriage is sweet

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by SenorFax(m): 2:38pm On Dec 06, 2020
Yamiriflathead:

Marriage is an overrated piece of shit guy... Avoid it like plague for your own good
Baba use God swear say you no go marry for this life


And leave story
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Alexaonfleek: 2:38pm On Dec 06, 2020
FuckThaMod:
[s][/s]Na this kain topic dey sweet ladies,
Always fantasizing about anything marriage.

Mtcheww[s][/s]
Who created the topic again?
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by icebird25(m): 2:38pm On Dec 06, 2020
MrNipplesLover:


the universe shall bless you abundantly....



stay blessed, bro.



Amen boss...

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by humilitypays(m): 2:39pm On Dec 06, 2020
banio:
Every car is exotic and desirable. But after owing it. The car becomes a burden. A newer car would be desired.

That's the nature of marriage, most couples wish for new partners, new adventures etc.



Life is complex
especially men.



Ladies are only trying to be sexually adventurous to tame men and as a payback not that its in their true nature.



The desire to taste new lady is the major challenge married men encounter, which leads to cheating, not that they hate their main partner most times
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by omotola90(m): 2:40pm On Dec 06, 2020
dederocs:

true talk, women will fall when they see what they like, might be money, power, fame, swag etc...
one thing must attract someone now wink
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by bcomputer101: 2:41pm On Dec 06, 2020
icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days, than being married. and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option. if she sees that man, that's her everyday crush ..she wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own
I know some people won't like this.. the truth is always bitter though ..




Your brain is doing overheating
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by onlinestaff2020: 2:41pm On Dec 06, 2020
Hello Nairalanders,

This post is actually coming at the right time. Marriage has really been a pain in the ass for me.

My madam has been giving me headache for more than 13 years and even up till now.

Can you believe that because of my work and cost of transport which I spend close to N1500, I have decided to stay at my working place for sometime and go back home during the weekends.

Last week when I was around, my wife has been brooding and she told me nothing is the matter with her after I tried to prompt her.

Fast forward to today, after some days, she called me and started calling me names that I have not changed that I have a wife and daughter outside. This is totally unfounded.

Me that have not slept and have been sleeping in the ICT room on bare floor, just because of transport matter, is being accused wrongly.

I felt seriously bad.

Marriage is indeed a scam.

It's better to remain single, have a child/children from a baby mamma and move on freely without a baggage called a wife.

A woman is a man's worst nightmare.

They can kill joy.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by UniqRight: 2:44pm On Dec 06, 2020
Hmmmmm
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by ibechris(m): 2:44pm On Dec 06, 2020
Those saying that marriage is a scam are not in any way helping to solve ur puzzle.

These guys know nothing about marriage,many of them are from tattered homes,hence their reason but they can never say this openly and confidently.

I was in this same level of thoughts with u some years back,but I can say here categorically,that marriage is fulfilling and worth the stress. Do not allow some guys who have not gone that way to come here and be shouting up and down that marriage is a scam,when many of them can not date one woman and be responsible at the same time.

My advice:
Marry ur friend, and ensure u need to know everything about the lady before u consummate the marriage.

Lay out ur goals with the lady and know if both of u are on this same page.

Marry a lady that is working or has handi-work.

Get to know her well and her family,it will do u alot of good while being married to her.

Avoid fashion crazy ladies else u will live to finance frivolities and u may end up regretting.

Finally,u owe her that vow u made to God and everything shall move as planned.

Do not be afraid,this is my five years in marriage and I have not regretted one day about my wife and neither has she.

Marriage is far better than that nonsense thing they termed as baby mama,take it or leave it.






S

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by omotola90(m): 2:45pm On Dec 06, 2020
Bosdem:
Wish I never married, the joy I get comes from my kids, marriage ma scam, after 11 years found out my husband has a 17 years old child, and that's the least of the matter, marriage can be liken to a gift, its full of surprises, some are great, some are bad news.
it's well...
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by lekki1444: 2:46pm On Dec 06, 2020
EgunMogaji2:


Why do you want to get married in this day and age?
maybe the booty is shaped like a basketball and he wants it all to himself. the nigga dont like to share
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Nobody: 2:46pm On Dec 06, 2020
Marriage is scary, I won't lie.

The thought of having one person around you is tiring.

But from what I understand, marriage should be two imperfect people coming under God to create a perfect union

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by boyjo: 2:46pm On Dec 06, 2020
Kuns84:


I keep seeing childish kids like you making comments about 'alpha' males.

This is popular shaming tactic used to quench the effects of the redpill philosophy is spreading like wildfire... cheesy

Comments like yours makes it obvious that women are starting to panic #justsaying
Preetti is actually right.
I noticed that too on NL.

When it comes to women, these boys suddenly put on their alpha-ego to talk down and disrespect ALL women.

But mention "Providing" "Protecting" "Professing", you go find this alpha-ego tire, you no go see!

Does alphamaleism mean to disrespect women? I don talk say I go ask the President of the Alpha Male Association of Nairaland but I never get chance.

See alpha male association members all over Nairaland looking for Sugar Mummy upandan.

Make una give una life to CHRIST JESUS, na the only thing wey go fit give una meaning for life.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Nobody: 2:47pm On Dec 06, 2020
icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days, than being married. and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option. if she sees that man, that's her everyday crush ..she wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own
I know some people won't like this.. the truth is always bitter though ..


If you are married and regret being married for all the reasons you have stated above, at least be sincere enough to let the Op know...marriage is a scam to scammers . If you want to have a good marriage it starts by being a good partner, goodness doesnt fly in the air. Pls dont go about generalizing your marital problems as you are misleading people

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by solonubinho(m): 2:47pm On Dec 06, 2020
Uyi168:
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Don't let the news of what u read up online deter u.
Real marriages take place in the home and not all these nonsense being paraded online...

Yet over 50% of marriages end up in divorce. Over 90% of which are initiated by women.

Or how about we talk about the rate of paternity fraud. Yeah, you heard right. Vagina people will keep quiet because it's their speciality.

Generally, it's not a wise investment. However, that does not take away the fact that there are actually women who are blessings in disguise. You get married to them, your life will be sweeter. In those cases, the investment t is worth it.

Oh and finally, never marry hungry or unambiguous girls. Never say you want to train one girl with the hopes of marrying her. Try to marry in your social class or above you.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by jaxxy(m): 2:47pm On Dec 06, 2020
bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

A good gf makes a good wife, a bad or difficult one makes a bad wife and by extension marriage. The key is by being real with urself and ur partner and address all issues during ur dating period. Anything important thing u let slide will come back like a bad rash on ur bum. Deal with them/address them head on to a good degree if not completely resolving them.

Have common mindset on life, goals and even on agreeing to disagree amicably. Set the right guiding principles for ur relationship and marriage. Address anything ure not comfortable with in a civil manner don’t assume.

Compromise should be on both sides not one side alone.

Search her fone and vice versa b4 getting hitched and married if u want lasting peace not temporary peace. This is mandatory. Some
People keep ridiculous skeletons. Lol

Finally know what u want!!!!!!! if it’s not what u want Or within reasonable degree of what u want discard it.

Love doesn’t mean stupidity.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Elxandre(m): 2:48pm On Dec 06, 2020
Jodha:
Just marry the right woman...and yhull be happy for the rest of yhur life.... although life is not a bed of roses...but yhull scale through...

But if yhu marry the wrong woman....yhull be miserable...
What is yhu?
Grow up.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Judybash93(m): 2:50pm On Dec 06, 2020
blinking001:
Most married men feel deep regrets after getting married. It's an Esoteric truth actually. Most women are full of shit.

Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Nobody: 2:51pm On Dec 06, 2020
icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days, than being married. and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option. if she sees that man, that's her everyday crush ..she wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own
I know some people won't like this.. the truth is always bitter though ..

It's not the truth. That's the only issue with all I've that you've written.
YOUR OPINION should not be confused with the truth
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Roycemadeit(m): 2:51pm On Dec 06, 2020
I have thought about this subject, marriage, a lot, and I must say I do not understand why we marry. Of course, our society expects us to be getting married around a certain age, but, for many reasons, I don't suppose it is wise that we created this institution.

In all honesty, I would say marriage is a social construction created to govern each other's behavior, a contract that guarantees that the feelings you have for each other will never be shared with another. Come to think of it, how do you expect a human, who by nature an embodiment of freedom, to simply sail his life by the dictates of vows. I think the invention of vows highlights the lie in marriage, for if I don't guarantee that what we share now would always be before you, others, and God, it would be, at some point, become something different.

Man's desire is unlimited, for a human is an embodiment of love, this is the true nature of man, and love is unlimited. He may make a vow but it would do nothing to change him except if chooses to enjoy this form of love with you alone. Now, you could decide to choose to express your desires with your partner alone, but would they? Can you live with no expectation on your partner's part?

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by humilitypays(m): 2:51pm On Dec 06, 2020
Oluwaseun2020:


I like your assessment but you didn't lay a foundation for you analysis. .
if an unvirtous guy marry a virtuous girl..it wont work...he will still go to club and fing pretty laddies. and drink alcohol and come home under influence and beat her..or he could even have a child outside due to infidelity. ..or even beat her when drunk...
Both must know jesus..and make God the focus of the marriage. ..
the bible support that if one is not a believer the other is free to leave before he or she killed the opposite. .

1 Corinthians 7:15
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.”
King James Version (KJV

So i Learn alot from this book... by faith oyedepo. .making your marriage work.
a man don't need to be born again to behave well.



For instance, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't club cos the music will give me headache cos I grew up a nerd. All my friends, some super rich already at young age don't drink, some drink socially, most if not all don't club, but if its to womanize, they do with confirm chicks though lol..


And we are all sinners not born again Christians.


My father don't drink, don't smoke, don't womanize, treated my mother like a queen while growing up and still treat her like one even now they are old and living alone...but my dad is not a born again Christian, he is just a moralist, my mother is the born again, she doesn't play with Godly things and uprightness.


I have one of my friends who happens to be the only bad friend I have who drinks wild, smokes, did drugs back in school days, but today is happily married to more than a virtuous lady for 6 years now. He is rich, handsome and now a wonderful man. But his wife made him the rich guy he is today, yes I can say that. But still the lady is so down to earth and we his friends dare not see him maltreat that wonderful lady he married, he cant even try it anyway.


Women hold the key to a great marriage. Women make the marriage. Marrying a virtuous lady who makes great impact in the life of the man is key to a successful marriage.


What ladies should look after when picking a partner is to look for a kind hearted man, a man that have conscience and empathy..even if he is an armed robber, the lady is in better hands.


So a man doesn't need to be a born again to be a wonderful husband

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Samzzy94(m): 2:51pm On Dec 06, 2020
hashtagged:


And yours too

Definitely not mine, cos I didn't confirm such....

But you, you confirmed that yours are all bitches and whores. I feel so sorry for you, cos you grew up surrounded with whores and bitches as sisters and mother.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by GeneralPula: 2:52pm On Dec 06, 2020
You see for this generation so, marriage nah scam..
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by shadeyinka(m): 2:52pm On Dec 06, 2020
bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

1. If you are the wrong partner then your marriage is in trouble
2. If you choose a wrong mate, then your marriage will certainly be in trouble
3. If your foundation and philosophy is wrong before marriage, your marriage will be in trouble

Get these three above right at all cost

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Nobody: 2:53pm On Dec 06, 2020
onlinestaff2020:
Hello Nairalanders,

This post is actually coming at the right time. Marriage has really been a pain in the ass for me.

My madam has been giving me headache for more than 13 years and even up till now.

Can you believe that because of my work and cost of transport which I spend close to N1500, I have decided to stay at my working place for sometime and go back home during the weekends.

Last week when I was around, my wife has been brooding and she told me nothing is the matter with her after I tried to prompt her.

Fast forward to today, after some days, she called me and started calling me names that I have not changed that I have a wife and daughter outside. This is totally unfounded.

Me that have not slept and have been sleeping in the ICT room on bare floor, just because of transport matter, is being accused wrongly.

I felt seriously bad.

Marriage is indeed a scam.

It's better to remain single, have a child/children from a baby mamma and move on freely without a baggage called a wife.

A woman is a man's worst nightmare.

They can kill joy.

Permit me to say you are your own worst nightmare, did you sit her down and communicate that you would be away from home or you just took the decision as a man??

If the tables were turned and it was your wife out there , what would your reaction be?

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by FuckThaMod: 2:54pm On Dec 06, 2020
Alexaonfleek:

Who created the topic again?
And this one just proved my point.. Just take a look at them gloating all over the topic.
The day i see a single lady against marriage i go buy cow for everyone in my street.
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Ibrahim3307(m): 2:55pm On Dec 06, 2020
emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?
this reminds me of the movie "why did I get married"

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