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Please dont let his actions affect you emotionally, he doesnt respect you because he has started keeping friends of your age whom he relate with concerning the Internet fraud stop cautioning him and let him make mistakes he will later run to u. U can also make ur self less available in the house that is some of the things weh dey cause see finish and insults.

First, give him space. Na see finish dey bring disrespect come. Second, double your hustle. If you no get, then find one. It will definitely help with the first. Third, are you a nigerian at all? Small boy talk give you and e dey pain you. How can you live in this country and not have bad mouth? Make yourself unpredictable, distancing yourself and ignoring him will help with this, he thrives on the attention you give him from his verbal barbs, denying him such attention will throw his juvenile brain in for a loop. Fourth, use subtle warnings/threats. Shey he's into yahoo? You already have an edge here, a subtle reminder that the nigerian police is always willing to table the matter of his likes. Of course you could use a different threat if you want. Fifth, whenever confrontation is inevitable see to it that you DO NOT raise your voice at him, you will do nothing more than instigate him to aggravate you more. Lastly, don't hesitate to use the power of the slap to correct his brain if he crosses the line. Ciao

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

you need to build yourself up in leadership.... Your younger bro will respect you easily.....

Op...I think you should start ghosting him. Start ignoring him and whatever he does, pretend as if he doesn't exist. Talk to him only when it's absolutely necessary, otherwise anytime you're alone with him in the house, carry novel and be reading. If he says something, expecting you to respond...ignore him. Start giving one word answers to his questions & comments, like yes, no, I don't know, Ok, fine.
Also if you used to beg him to help you do chores or borrow stuff from him. STOP!
When he realizes that you hardly talk to him & he trying to gist with you, and engage you has become an uphill task. His brain will reset and the insults and mockery will stop.

he sounds like a bully. show him you're tough yourself.

The disrespect occurs because your parents/guardians did not set the necessary boundary and you might have traded your elder status for cheap things. Does your brother know your dirty secrets? Have you sold your integrity in his presence? 9 years is a lot of distance, not even a drug addict would ignore such distance in age except you've given the impression that both of you are age mates.

You are 26, stop looking for respect and start earning it, avoid the mofo! Spend as little time at home as possible, keep busy, use this time to learn a trade or improve your skill set. YOU DO NOT WANT THAT MOFO TO MAKE MONEY BEFORE YOU, it will get very dangerous for you especially if your parents are the type to only recognize stomach infrastructure

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

plan a fake EFCC arrest for him

kenwills:
He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

You don't need to give your brother a faddin before he respects you. He is only being stupid.
That is the effect of following bad gangs. They loose their senses when they join bad gangs. Thinking they are enjoying and living life.

Many of these stupid guys are plenty here taking glory in doing evil.

Tell your parents or your guidians. They will talk to him. Tell them you won't mind beating the daylight out of him. If they talk to him and he refuses to listen, then disown the bastard and move on with life. Don't joke with him, talk to him or relate with him as a brother again until the devil that entered into his skull through Yahoo Yahoo leaves.

Don't mind the kids.
Don't warn them. If you do the humiliation continues.

Lastly don't try to beat your brother if you know he is heftier or stronger than you. If you try to beat him and he ends up beating you. The humiliation will be worse.

Talk to your parents

stacyadams:
Lock d house one day put key inside ur pocket,,no weapons,,,beat am up for 2hours non stop,him brain go reset...


No let am win u oo

Which Kain advice be dis

Etinosa123456:
Which Kain advice be dis

If him junior brother win ,na double foock up..God sef no go forgive am

Don't beat him give him long space .don't interfere in any of his Biz ,do like you dont even know if he exist in that house n watch how he'll fall back to come n apologize.you know the little change he's seeing has corrupt him.also I believe you people spoilt him when he was little making him disrespect people older than him without not correcting him.

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

I have been in your shoes. My younger brother was a pain in the ass right from childhood. I am a very hot tempered guy. Each time I want to react, mama would step in either physically or emotionally. Well this year I put an end to such rubbish to the point our last born is seriously scared of me. He did not believe I could do it.


What did I do? I stopped talking to him to desist from angering me, I stopped the warning... And allowed him to get me to my limits. What I did to him after that is one memory he will take to the grave.

This is what you should.
Stop telling him to desist from insulting you. Allow him make you angry enough and then descend on him (note my junior brother was way bigger than me, like twice my size, but I beat the hell out of him like he was kid (he's a kid)). As for the neighbourhood kids saying derogatory things about you, ignore them. By the time you beat your brother up, they'd stay put.

Also take it into account that your brother might be in cult or involve cultist into the show, once they come, tell them this is family issue and hence they should mind their business. Call the police on all of them (army is better) including your brother.

Ps: don't tell them you'd call the police on them. (wrong move).

just be calm he will be disgraced but you will still not like it because you love him he's your blood..internet fraudster can't have joy because at anytime he's in soup.. keep correcting him when you can, he will still regret what he's doing Naw ti you his senior brother. sometimes the things our parents says in presence of the younger ones makes them to disrespect the senior so I blame your parents but just believe you will laugh last ���

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

Why not IGNORE him completely?

xProfx:
Pay less attention to him... The worst thing you can do is trying to force someone to respect you. I have realised age is a fake instrument that only worked in the past so don't let your age difference make you think he will respect you so much.

The best way you can get him to respect you is to stop trying, just be a more simple person and treat him like an adult, like your mate. Learn to forgive him in advance cos he will still offend you and you will still offend him...

Just be nice to him for no reason than the blood you share... Buy him little things like drinks and snacks when you go to the supermarket and just give him without asking. Advise him less, let him realize his own mistakes...

May ur days be long on earth.

Nazgul:
Beat hell out of him. How can your younger brother openly disrespect you? As long as you keep quiet he'll continue to deal with him by teaching him a lesson he'll never forget in his life.

Evil counsel

Starboytwo:
He is 17(Big boy)

He is into G( hotel life, drinks, drugs, clique already)

He dosent respect you( honestly I don't know how that happens How will your 17 year old bro not respect you) don't you guys play football together, Pes, Fifa, chill ? You suppose to be his role model man?

conclusion beating him is a waste of time and a wrong move. My young bro sometimes do wahrah, some times I change it for them, and whenever we play Pes, I beat him silly, like 5-1 6-0 7-1, once I did him 11-2, he wan cry...

If we play football, I mark him out, dribble him, beat his every move I know for sure I'm his role model when it comes to football so i know his game.and that's when he gets mad most, i can anticipate all his move I most definitely always win his set.

But we cool, we vibe, we work together, I give them OT, update etc...

Just chill with your bro, and don't look age at all, you won't believe "updates these boys got"... Chill with your bro manh...

Of all the comments I love this. The only thing is not all siblings are nice to each other no matter how hard one may try.

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

A junior should never disrespect his senior. A senior need to stamp his authority and teach a disrespectful junior a seriously lesson on why not to mess around with you his senior brother.

Give your junior brother a serious beating in front of those children. It will send a serious message to those children on why you shouldn't be messed with.

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

your parents can do the right thing, you are not your brother parent so stop acting like you are more than a big bros to him, he will naturally respect you if your parent talk some sense to him but you need to calm down as well....let him do anything he want do,infact he fit bath soap join

BROTHER RESPECT HIM AND HE WILL RESPECT YOU BACK
ANOTHER THING IS HE HAS MONEY THAN YOU

adedoyinbenson:
May ur days be long on earth.

Amin!

Youths exuberances. He thinks rubbing shoulders with you makes him an adult. Slap the misconceptions out of him.

xProfx:
Just be nice to him for no reason than the blood you share... Buy him little things like drinks and snacks when you go to the supermarket and just give him without asking. Advise him less, let him realize his own mistakes...

this was exactly the same thing a close friend did to me in the past when I was hot headed and the life of the party gang. FWD and I hated him for it but he sat me down later on and told me that's the only way he could correct me because back then when he spoken wisdom to me..it sounded like razz talk. lolzzz

Respect is reciprocal is what I can tell you @OP

As for your younger bro...caution him to refrain from demeaning you in front of outsiders. That's the worst thing to do...spilling family matters to outsiders. It's a No No. cheers! ;-)

Have you tried talking to him? If yes and futile, please put him in him place, ignore his existence, ghost him and watch your back, from what I can deduce here, he's capable of harming you.

May I ask what tribe you are from

[quote author=OgbanjeProphet post=96853686]Op, na you dey do yourself.
Nigerians don't respect AGE any more, they respect your monetary achievements.

Go and make some money, and your younger ones will respect you.

I was once in your shoes, but today, all my younger ones that used to disrespect me in the past worship me like an idol.

The only solution to your present predicament is to go out and make wealth LEGALLY.

In the words of my girlfriend;
"NA WHO EDUCATION HELP?".

I JUST DEY USE EYE SCAN F0R BETTER ADVICE. BRO YOU SAID IT ALL
EVEN PARENT GO VALUE DEM PASS AM. MONEY IS THE WAY OOO.
SCHOOL IS JUST NECESSARY JST NOT CERTAIN FOR ONES SUCCESS,
HOWFR YOU GET ANY SIDE HUSTLE WAY YOU FIT PUT ME THROUGH?

kenwills:
He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

Lemme tell u one truth u don't know. This is Africa and your bro being 17 is way too small to insult u. U may tolerate his own insults, but do u know what it means telling little kids in the neighborhood to insult u?? They'll never stop insulting u and the trend will continue even till u leave that vicinity. Even your respect is on the low as it is inside and outside the house.

Pick out one day and beat sense into that brother of yours to show him he's still a kid. And afterwards bring him close and show him love. Also to the little kids in the neighborhood, get them candies and biscuits from time to time. That's the only remedy. It worked for me when I was about your age and my siblings still respect me till today in my late 30s.

Nazgul:
Beat hell out of him. How can your younger brother openly disrespect you? As long as you keep quiet he'll continue deal with him by teaching him a lesson he'll never forget in his life.

Do not come between the nazgul and his prey...



Your moniker reminds me of one of the best movies ever.

Just 15 minutes. I will teach him the lesson of his life. Royal rumble. Everyday royal rumble. Until his brain reset.

Be careful not to take disregard as disrespect. Respect is earned and not taken. Respect your self.


-Lloyd

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

kill him

Nazgul:
Beat hell out of him. How can your younger brother openly disrespect you? As long as you keep quiet he'll continue deal with him by teaching him a lesson he'll never forget in his life.

This is not a good advice. A brother who can gather others to mock you will not hesitate to stab you during a fight. Your mum will end up loosing a son or two if you engage in violence. Just ignore him