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WILLuKPquiet:
You don't need to give your brother a faddin before he respects you. He is only being stupid.
That is the effect of following bad gangs. They loose their senses when they join bad gangs. Thinking they are enjoying and living life.

Many of these stupid guys are plenty here taking glory in doing evil.

Tell your parents or your guidians. They will talk to him. Tell them you won't mind beating the daylight out of him. If they talk to him and he refuses to listen, then disown the bastard and move on with life. Don't joke with him, talk to him or relate with him as a brother again until the devil that entered into his skull through Yahoo Yahoo leaves.

Don't mind the kids.
Don't warn them. If you do the humiliation continues.

Lastly don't try to beat your brother if you know he is heftier or stronger than you. If you try to beat him and he ends up beating you. The humiliation will be worse.

Talk to your parents

You perfectly understand what I'm going through. Thanks for the advice.

The last time I told my guardian regarding my brother's behavior, she treated the issue with kids glove and the boy kept on his disrespectfulness.

Yes he is taller than me that's why I do not want further embarrassment by engaging in a fight.

Stefenijoan002:
Don't beat him give him long space .don't interfere in any of his Biz ,do like you dont even know if he exist in that house n watch how he'll fall back to come n apologize.you know the little change he's seeing has corrupt him.also I believe you people spoilt him when he was little making him disrespect people older than him without not correcting him.

He was raised by my aunty who has never disciplined him in any way. I'll give him a long space as you've said.

Thanks for your advice.

Regex:
I have been in your shoes. My younger brother was a pain in the ass right from childhood. I am a very hot tempered guy. Each time I want to react, mama would step in either physically or emotionally. Well this year I put an end to such rubbish to the point our last born is seriously scared of me. He did not believe I could do it.


What did I do? I stopped talking to him to desist from angering me, I stopped the warning... And allowed him to get me to my limits. What I did to him after that is one memory he will take to the grave.

This is what you should.
Stop telling him to desist from insulting you. Allow him make you angry enough and then descend on him (note my junior brother was way bigger than me, like twice my size, but I beat the hell out of him like he was kid (he's a kid)). As for the neighbourhood kids saying derogatory things about you, ignore them. By the time you beat your brother up, they'd stay put.

Also take it into account that your brother might be in cult or involve cultist into the show, once they come, tell them this is family issue and hence they should mind their business. Call the police on all of them (army is better) including your brother.

Ps: don't tell them you'd call the police on them. (wrong move).

Thanks I'm grateful for this piece of advice.

Yeah I think he has joined some cult group.

harmony75:
just be calm he will be disgraced but you will still not like it because you love him he's your blood..internet fraudster can't have joy because at anytime he's in soup.. keep correcting him when you can, he will still regret what he's doing Naw ti you his senior brother. sometimes the things our parents says in presence of the younger ones makes them to disrespect the senior so I blame your parents but just believe you will laugh last ���

You're totally right most things my guardians say makes him feel he can behave any how around me without been questioned.

Dameland:
This is not a good advice. A brother who can gather others to mock you will not hesitate to stab you during a fight. Your mum will end up loosing a son or two if you engage in violence. Just ignore him

This has been the reason why I held myself back despite the anger within.

Nah see finish nah.
I no understand all dus small small boiz3this days. Bcuz dem Don dey smoke, drink and got into one confra level so dem believe say dem fit rude to people anyhow.
You sef need to be wise. It's clearly you no too tap as per street wise hence the way he's reacting to you....


Firstly prepare for a real fight. Just trap him by asking him to do something for you and of course he would decline and give ham real strong face and beat the hell out of him, like beat him like baby. But you have to apply wisdom to this step oo .. Make sure nah you and him dey house that time and no other person cuz him sef go want prove himself too if him clique dey around and he might eventually wound you so you better guide well .... And after that, start keeping strong face and give him meters away where ever you are.. Don't buy him ANYTHING or else he ask politely... No dey shine teeth with ham and whenever his werey friends dey around just bounce out and no relate with any of them. Keep tight face around them... This trick would work or else he's into cultist.. Do no use this method if you noticed he's into cultist.


Secondly, you should start keep distance with him henceforth.. No beating, no all those unnecessary cappins. in fact you need to start drawing lines and as bro.. Dey command ham straight up and don't talk more than once... You been dey jonz with him making him see you as an idiot. So you need to stand up and stop fooling yourself around him..

I once had a friend junior ones trying to use me catch cruise when they started smoking and drinking thinking I be their mate.. I clear them one ofter other and I start playing their silly games with them.. They stop disrespecting me to my face at least they aren't doing it to my face anymore. They fit dey yarn anyhow when I no dey around but them dey comport when I dey around. . The thing about all these small boiz is they will start talking rudely to your face with their clique if you don't shot them down asap.. Go for the big fish among them and the others will sit tight.

Lastly, try and make money or just stop staying indoor all the time.. Let your face scares small for area and when you show no ddey give them face at all. .. I dey vex as I dey type sef smh

kenwills:
Thanks I'm grateful for this piece of advice.

Yeah I think he has joined some cult group.

Well, then before you act, make sure you have the number of police on speed dial, because you will be needing it.

kenwills:
You perfectly understand what I'm going through. Thanks for the advice.

The last time I told my guardian regarding my brother's behavior, she treated the issue with kids glove and the boy kept on his disrespectfulness.

Yes he is taller than me that's why I do not want further embarrassment by engaging in a fight.

Endure all the nonsense till schools resume. At least you will be free from him for a while.

kenwills:
He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

The Gap is wide now.... O wrong now... Do you guys live alone?

Samzzy94:
Hmmmm....I had this same issue years back and I know that feeling. The thing is that you shouldn't expect him to respect you because you are just his elder brother, like you said, he is into internet fraud and he must have lost every sense of morals. For now that you are still at home, just try to avoid getting into a physical fight with him cos trust me, you might not like the outcome. And don't do that mistake of buying him things now that you guys are not in good terms, it will give him the impression that you are scared of him and want to bribe him with your gifts. Just try to maintain yourself in that house no matter the insults and disrespect till you go back to school....Start planning to live on your own after school and don't ever think of going back to the house to live there.... That is the only way you can get a little bit of your self respect back....Cos with the level he has gotten to ehn... confrontation would not get you anywhere

Thank you so much I appreciate.

Nyanabo:
Check the past you would see where you got it all wrong with him, I dare say you gave him too much room while growing up.

Like you I have a 17yr old brother he just finished waec while I am 22yr old and a graduate. I never gave my siblings room to insult me. when the play was getting too much I cut it short, and when it comes to serious matters I treat it as such.

Right now what you should do is pay less attention to him, leave the house frequently just keep yourself busy but never engage him in a fight as you would loose your self respect.. and try to forgive him not for his sake but for your peace of mind.

And concerning the group of children he gathers to insult you he doesn't know he is also making a a way for them to insult him one day just report them to their parents.

When he was much younger, whenever I disciplined or correct him for his wrongs, my aunty usually takes sides with him and picks up a quarrel with me.

I'll do as you've rightly said. Thanks for your advice.

themanderon:
You cannot deal with a boy you are 9yrs older than? Lock him in and whoop his butt. What rubbish. I never disrespected my elder brothers so why would my younger one disrespect me? No teenager can disrespect me and go scot free. Where are your parents in all of these? Are they aware their kid is now into the business of robbing people? That boy is a ticking time bomb. A Yahoo boy with no respect is a recipe for disaster.

My guardians have always been in support of him.

When I told him to stop doing Yahoo else I'll cease his phone my aunty retorted that it doesn't concern me that I should leave him. I had to walk away in anger.

kenwills:
When he was much younger, whenever I disciplined or correct him for his wrongs, my aunty usually takes sides with him and picks up a quarrel with me.

I'll do as you've rightly said. Thanks for your advice.

May God strengthen you. but you paying less attention to him doesn't mean you should ignore him totally correct him when he is wrong but lovingly, teach him what he doesn't know advice him regularly even though he doesn't listen at least you conscience would be cleared you did your part.

Above all take him out once in a while for a bro-bro hangout you don't need to heaven on earth but the alone time with you is what he might need to build a relationship with you.

I believe this would help change his persepective towards you.

He is just in a wrong crowd. and if this youthful exuberance isn't dealt with it might destroy him.

frozen70:
Where are your parents in this picture

How old is your junior brother that you can't beat that nonsense out of his life

Until the whole street starts laughing at you before you will take action

Anyway report him to your parents, let's start with that

I reported him to my guardian but she never took any action to caution him.

kenwills:
I reported him to my guardian but she never took any action to caution him.

Then it's time you best the hell out of his naughty head

talktrue1234:
Welcome to manhood bro, what you are going through is what many people experience in the hands of women, yes including their mothers. The sad reality is your mom is an accomplice in all that is happening, but you shouldn't take it to heart or use that to react with her, or dislike, she is your mother no matter what.

Their eyes go soon clear, just make sure you work hard, never, never be lazy, don't hate them, give them time and space if you can, but don't change towards them, your brother is immature, their are things he can't deal with at his age, women too love money too much and their heart is always at whoever can satisfy that love for money.

Also if you have a girlfriend or fiancée, don't tell her what is happening in your house, it will end in more problems for you if you do.

There is a possibility you have even being spending from what your brother makes from fraud, especially if you have being collecting allowance from your mom, you can trace many of the money to your brother, don't be sad when you realize this bro.

Those are things that makes African men grow up, trust me if you work hard and maybe give them space if possible, all what you are experiencing is just a stage in your life.

Your brother will learn with time, just know that he is being foolish and he is letting his teenage hormone control him, when he finally calm down, and learn his mistakes be very ready to forgive him and laugh it off, that will also help him to forgive himself.

But bro most importantly find something doing, something that will benefit you when you graduate, don't finish school and go back home waiting for your mom to give you food and shelter freely.

If you are a Christian try to pray and read the bible it will give you the hope you need during this period. Work hard smartly too bro and don't join your brother in fraud, good luck

Thanks for your time. I'm blessed by your words.

RSVP:
Nah see finish nah.
I no understand all dus small small boiz3this days. Bcuz dem Don dey smoke, drink and got into one confra level so dem believe say dem fit rude to people anyhow.
You sef need to be wise. It's clearly you no too tap as per street wise hence the way he's reacting to you....


Firstly prepare for a real fight. Just trap him by asking him to do something for you and of course he would decline and give ham real strong face and beat the hell out of him, like beat him like baby. But you have to apply wisdom to this step oo .. Make sure nah you and him dey house that time and no other person cuz him sef go want prove himself too if him clique dey around and he might eventually wound you so you better guide well .... And after that, start keeping strong face and give him meters away where ever you are.. Don't buy him ANYTHING or else he ask politely... No dey shine teeth with ham and whenever his werey friends dey around just bounce out and no relate with any of them. Keep tight face around them... This trick would work or else he's into cultist.. Do no use this method if you noticed he's into cultist.


Secondly, you should start keep distance with him henceforth.. No beating, no all those unnecessary cappins. in fact you need to start drawing lines and as bro.. Dey command ham straight up and don't talk more than once... You been dey jonz with him making him see you as an idiot. So you need to stand up and stop fooling yourself around him..

I once had a friend junior ones trying to use me catch cruise when they started smoking and drinking thinking I be their mate.. I clear them one ofter other and I start playing their silly games with them.. They stop disrespecting me to my face at least they aren't doing it to my face anymore. They fit dey yarn anyhow when I no dey around but them dey comport when I dey around. . The thing about all these small boiz is they will start talking rudely to your face with their clique if you don't shot them down asap.. Go for the big fish among them and the others will sit tight.

Lastly, try and make money or just stop staying indoor all the time.. Let your face scares small for area and when you show no ddey give them face at all. .. I dey vex as I dey type sef smh

Thanks bro me self dey vex ever since cos I have never been treated like this by strangers but a boy I carried on my hands when he was born, and watched him grow feels he is now strong and muscular enough to challenge me.

The last time I warned him he told me to my face that he is not afraid of me.

Lamanii22:
The Gap is wide now.... O wrong now... Do you guys live alone?

We live with a guardian.

kenwills:
My guardians have always been in support of him.

When I told him to stop doing Yahoo else I'll cease his phone my aunty retorted that it doesn't concern me that I should leave him. I had to walk away in anger.

They are creating a monster that may consume them all. The quest for material things and the dire economic situation in the country has made the moral compass of many to drop. You have done your part, live your life and leave them to the consequences of their actions.