charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

slimjohn2k5:
No one is thinking of the other guy that lost his job.
After losing your job, your wife tells you that probably your only child is not yours, that will be a terrible one ohhhh.
I don't have advice for this but consider the guy that lost his job, also both of u cannot hide it for too long. Uhh

baralatie:

em!
bros how do you explain to a man
a: he lost his job
b:his wife now is planning divorce because of no money

for the past 5 years his only child of the marriage is not his it belongs to his wife's ex and they have been in contact

samx4real:




Forget that boy, he is not your child.

Fear women, they only want what favours them. Am telling you this... If you where not doing well, this your ex will never remember you or come back to u.

Don't pity her or whatsoever, cut her off your life like she did when she left you for her husband.

Forget everything about her and child.
Move on with your wife and your 3 children.
And pls always treat your wife and your children right.

God bless you.

SweetCunt97:
It's obvious d lady lied and rushed to marry a simp that first proposed to her. She's a very stupid being but the kid shouldn't suffer.

Klass99:


I was about to ask what you've decided to do before I saw this. Let us reason this matter together;

1. Ex wants to divorce hubby and you want to take the child. Either of these two things absolves her of any responsibility, she won't be taking responsibility for her marriage or child - why should she have such a free pass in life?

2. Kindly think of your wife for more than a few minutes, will you take this from her? Do unto others what you want done to you is still a very great principle to live by. Pls don't bring that child into your home while his mother is still alive.

3. You want to saddle your mum or sister with another woman's responsibility, when that woman is not sick or dead, there's nothing wrong with her and nothing stopping her from working to provide for her child.

4. Your mother is too old to be cleaning up other people's mess, please leave her out of it and let her rest in her old age.

5. Your sister has a life of her own to build and live as well, please do not impose on her such a huge task.

6. Let the woman who gave birth to this child take care of him. She is not an invalid.

7. Why on earth do you even want to get involved after such deceit? Are your 3 kids with wifey not enough for you?

8. If this was a female child will you be vibrating about taking the child the way you are doing now?

WoundedLamb:


Yeah... so who's child is it? Aren't we encouraging men to do DNA tests on their kids to make sure they aren't taking care of another man's children? So if you also ask the biological father to forget his kid, then what becomes the fate of the child and the mother? Isn't it sad that we encourage men who have children with other women asides their wives to just forget the kid and then we turn around to shame the women for not opening up to their husband about the child? This our desire to free men of any blame in paternity issues shouldn't also make us encourage them to be heartless. Law or no law, only a wicked man would watch his child suffer.

DukeNija:


The child is not his son. He is a sperm donor! The boy has a father who raised him. You people should think like civilized human beings. Let him focus on his family and not destroy the life of an innocent man.

Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

woleabayo:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU

Oyiboman69:
willingly you mean?...how most you reason is beyond my imagination. I you were to be a King in a town and this same issue is brought to your attention with everyone waiting for your final judgement....be honest with yourself,how are you going to decide it?

DukeNija:


You can’t just come and take a mans son away because you slept with his wife before they were married. Fatherhood is beyond sperm and egg.
Who will compensate the man for the years he raised that boy? So because he lost his job he shouldn’t have a son? Mr Nairaland is not the father of the boy, he’s only the biological father.
According to the law, a man assumes fatherhood of a child born outside wedlock if married to the mother.

grandstar:


Easier said than done. It also isn't noble and right before the Creator to whom every family owes its name. . (Read 1 Timothy 5:

What you said is what many have have done but the neglected child suffers greatly.

The Davinone family in Delta has the most chartered accountants in the world-all 5 kids chartered accountants. Fantastic laurel!

It does have a dark secret. The father of the family had a first child with a white woman which he completely neglected. She grew up in poverty in England. Till now, the lady being over 50 now, is only grudgingly accepted.

Most importantly, once the child's needs are well taken care of by the adoptive parent, the biological father can step back. The interest of the child is the key here. Anyway, paternity fraud complicates the whole thing.

Nothing like paternity fruad, a lawyer have come on air to explain that paternity fruad does not exist in any law. Learn to do your research. Nigerian like copy and pest.
There is a sperm bank for those who want to donate their sperm..... ...

grandstar:


Easier said than done. It also isn't noble and right before the Creator to whom every family owes its name. . (Read 1 Timothy 5:

What you said is what many have have done but the neglected child suffers greatly.

The Davinone family in Delta has the most chartered accountants in the world-all 5 kids chartered accountants. Fantastic laurel!

It does have a dark secret. The father of the family had a first child with a white woman which he completely neglected. She grew up in poverty in England. Till now, the lady being over 50 now, is only grudgingly accepted.

Most importantly, once the child's needs are well taken care of by the adoptive parent, the biological father can step back. The interest of the child is the key here. Anyway, paternity fraud complicates the whole thing.

HRprof:


Nothing like paternity fraud, a lawyer have come on air to explain that paternity fraud does not exist in any law. Learn to do your research, Nigerian like copy and pest.

Anyway there is a sperm bank for those who want to donate their sperm......

HRprof:


Nothing like paternity fraud, a lawyer have come on air to explain that paternity fraud does not exist in any law. Learn to do your research, Nigerian like copy and pest.

Anyway there is a sperm bank for those who want to donate their sperm......

grandstar:


Paternity fraud is where you have been deceived to accepting a child that isn't yours.

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Nato008:
everyday we think we heard it all...boom the throw another one on us, this is really sensitive...first I would advise u confirm beyond doubt the child is urs...then have a heart to heart talk with ur wife..u can't turn ur back on ur blood..that is an emotional trauma u don't want to experience trust me..since ur wife is expecting I would say u thread with caution..damn may God not allow this kind of entanglement befall us..

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

charles009:
Thanks folks, I discussed with her about the paternity test.
She agreed. Will be checking up a few hospitals in Lagos and pricing too.

Will tell wify much later. This has a potential of wrecking my home. I hope it doesn't.

Can I custody the child and atleast my wife wouldn't know, maybe give him to my mum or sister?

Mrlouis:
AVOID PREMARITAL SEX AT ALL COSTS. NO GAINS WHATSOEVER. NONE!!!

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

charles009:


Thank u

Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

slimjohn2k5:
No one is thinking of the other guy that lost his job.
After losing your job, your wife tells you that probably your only child is not yours, that will be a terrible one ohhhh.
I don't have advice for this but consider the guy that lost his job, also both of u cannot hide it for too long. Uhh