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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by hashtagged(m): 8:28am On Jan 20, 2021

Godada:

Have you had a chat about this with her?

Take her on a shopping spree and get her stuffs to spice up her looks.

Enroll her in a gym and exercise with her make we nor hear say gym instructor dey exercise her kitty for you

Instead of wasting money and time he should just take a young side chick that way he won't have to worry about her.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by fijinjesu92792: 8:29am On Jan 20, 2021

Did she become too churchy and 'spirikoko'.?This can be a factor too

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Karlifate: 8:54am On Jan 20, 2021

hashtagged:

Instead of wasting money and time he should just take a young side chick that way he won't have to worry about her.

And he won't expend "money" & "time" on the side chick?

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by hashtagged(m): 9:01am On Jan 20, 2021

Karlifate:

And he won't expend "money" & "time" on the side chick?

It's same it's better to spend on a new product than to waste money trying to revive an expired good

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Misterone: 9:02am On Jan 20, 2021

setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.

A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

mr OP, your wife does not have any issues. you are the one with issues. you have started the game of comparison. you are now comparing your wife with some slay Queen in your minds eye. you don dey look one girl yansh and booby take am dey compare your wife own. at the end of the day, she is who she is. enjoy her for who she is not what you want her to be.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by jumper524(m): 9:05am On Jan 20, 2021

setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.

A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

I know you love your wife hence the complain..
stop giving her attention, her head suppose reset on in own..

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by jumper524(m): 9:06am On Jan 20, 2021

Misterone:
mr OP, your wife does not have any issues. you are the one with issues. you have started the game of comparison. you are now comparing your wife with some slay Queen in your minds eye. you don dey look one girl yansh and booby take am dey compare your wife own. at the end of the day, she is who she is. enjoy her for who she is not what you want her to be.

he didn't marry her that way. he married her for who she was which includes always in line with the latest fashion trend.
if she's changing them she's the problem and not him..

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by ikennamadu1(m): 9:36am On Jan 20, 2021

Womanizer:

You fúcked the woman for 11 years and still expect her to look the same?

If you drive a car for 11 years will it still be the same as the day you bought it?

oga you they yarn dust.... have you not seen women married for 15 years looking like 25 years old.. after you go say you be womanizer

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Winneygirl(f): 9:40am On Jan 20, 2021

Do you take her on dates?
After 2 kids, If you guys don't do any adventurous things, she will only get clothes that are comfortable for staying home.
Set up a routine where you guys go out. Ask her to list different restaurants she will like to visit, or places you guys could go.
It doesn't have to be expensive. Just mildly fancy.
Tell her you want to make it a date. You both dress up. Look and smell good. No kids.
You can do it twice monthly, or once a month. Depends on what you guys want.
It's a gradual process, but you both can work together to bring back the spark.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Nobody: 9:54am On Jan 20, 2021

this ur reasoning will run her into the hand of another man or let me say u are gradually finding a fuckmate for ur wife,when u encourage her to dress like those slut,

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Misterone: 12:17pm On Jan 20, 2021

jumper524:
he didn't marry her that way. he married her for who she was which includes always in line with the latest fashion trend.
if she's changing them she's the problem and not him..

from the OP mouth, he said his wife is getting old. na who no go old? ok! so you want his wife to compete with these small small girl on bum shorts and spaghetti tops! ah! haba! make una fear God. ah! a 35year old married mother to dress skimpishly. na wa o

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Nobody: 12:21pm On Jan 20, 2021

setobaba:
I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, ...

This is the problem. Stop comparing her to others.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by frozen70(f): 12:55pm On Jan 20, 2021

setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.

A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

11 yrs in a life of a woman with child bearing is enough to change her personal look if only she is subjected to all kind of home front wahala

If you think you guys are OK, then you get it wrong check out the following questions

Do you have children that makes noise and makes her scream over them

Does she works, as in does she gets up as early as a banker, prepare the children for school and then prepare their meal and prepare herself for work

Does she goes to market after work or weekends, then come back and goes to kitchen to prepare meals and at night you still make advances at her and she still gives in to your requests and still wakes up the next day to repeat the same cycle

Does she contribute financially to the home affairs and other areas

After reading the above questions, if she does all this that's exactly what is weighing her and making her look older than her age

The above duties can be shared let her just be doing the bed stuff while you do the rest, you will also looks exhausted and stressed

Seat her down let her share the house chores and let's see if things will change for her to appear good looking

Lastly, every month take her for shopping at leat three outfits a month including night wears let's see if she will not look hot since you like them looking hot

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by AuroraB(f): 2:57pm On Jan 20, 2021

Are you supposed to notice that if you were in love with her undecided

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Nobody: 3:45pm On Jan 20, 2021

setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.

A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

She's just like that.

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by englois: 8:18pm On Jan 20, 2021

The OP is funny sha! Though I'm not excusing your wife but can you describe yourself too?
Note: No offense intended

(1) Are you bald or not? You no say some baldness eh! Make I no talk my mind. We have front baldness, middle baldness, center-parting baldness, etc

(2). Do you have Potbelly or not? What's the size? 3-months pregnancy, 6-months or just a little.

Hope it's not pot calling the kettle black sha.

We women tend to lose some confidence in our body after childbirth. Is it the slightly saggy breast, belly fat, etc. I have a friend that after giving birth, her shoe size changed to bigger.
First thing to combat this is to communicate.
The first thing you'll do is to appreciate her very well. Thank her for birthing your kids, for taking care of your kids, the home and your humble sef. Thank her very well. She may even become emotional when you thank her from your heart.
Then, gently proceed by asking her that "Does she like herself the way she is presently or lemme rephrase "If you are to change anything about yourself, what will it be?
Don't be surprised when she opens up to you that she want to do this or that. You can then take it up from there. Maybe help her with gym registration, taking her on a date etc.

But OP, just thinking aloud. Hope you've not body shamed her before. That thing does a lot of damage on a woman's self esteem and makes it difficult to change.

Just my view though.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by GeneralPula: 10:09pm On Jan 20, 2021

People self. Nothing wey dem no fit ask..

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Akpuobi1: 10:11pm On Jan 20, 2021

I feel normal

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by TrueChristians: 10:12pm On Jan 20, 2021

God is still saying something in your life and never give up check my signature God bless you

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Nobody: 10:14pm On Jan 20, 2021

Lol..

You didn't really state in what ways shes looking old.

Is it the weight, facially or how she dresses? Anyways, which ever it is, just learn to accept her that way knowing it's not her fault but nature and all she has had to go through in your house through child bearing and taking up responsibilities for 11yrs. Also stop looking at other women because thats the major cause of comparison here and it's not fair on her. For all you know, you too may not be looking as good and attractive as when you just met but she has never complained. Has she?

Be contented with what you have.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Neddstark: 10:15pm On Jan 20, 2021

Ask Peter Psquare. Guy is still handsome and 40 years old while his wife is menopausal.

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Oluwaleinad14(m): 10:15pm On Jan 20, 2021

How else will I feel than looking out for a young and active lady outside

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by iamJ(m): 10:15pm On Jan 20, 2021

You never start, her mates dey single

U still get 50 years to go

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by TheRedpillguy: 10:17pm On Jan 20, 2021

Find a younger Woman. Take Feminists advice. She is not yours and she can decide to do whatever she likes. I say why not. Do the same.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Steve28: 10:17pm On Jan 20, 2021

Kindly spend your money on her and she will always look the sweet sixteen you are looking for rather than coming on social media to display your stinginess towards her.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by valentineuwakwe(m): 10:18pm On Jan 20, 2021

Nothing much, I will even LOVE her the more....have not heard about the wine adage; The older the wine, the better the taste!

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Gabbriell: 10:19pm On Jan 20, 2021

Ogbeni appreciate your wife the way she has become.
If you don't want her to gain weight don't impregnate her. The more kids she bears for you the more her damsel shape get distorted. Everything fades...just be happy with what both of you have accomplished.

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Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by bukatyne(f): 10:20pm On Jan 20, 2021

TheRedpillguy:
Find a younger Woman. Take Feminists advice. She is not yours and she can decide to do whatever she likes. I say why not. Do the same.

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by cococandy(f): 10:20pm On Jan 20, 2021

But how do you know she’s not going through any stress?

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Splitmind: 10:21pm On Jan 20, 2021

This my friends is what we call "the wall". Unfortunately aside from drastic life changes you'll just have deal with it.

Re: How Do You Feel When Your Wife Suddenly Starts Looking Older Than You? by Nobody: 10:21pm On Jan 20, 2021

ThundrCork:
She's too comfortable. Marry a second wife, when the second begins to get too comfortable, follow it with a third wife.

You only live once.

Sense is what you lack

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