We're all familiar with the Prince Harry and Meghan Markle drama. A lot of people are divided on whose side to be if there's a crisis between lover and family.

But is it really right to choose your lover over family??

Here is a small attempt to decipher which potential side is safer for an individual (male or female) in this kind of thing.


LOVER :

1. In most cases came into your life when family just concluded massively supporting and establishing you on a career and behavioral path.

2. In most cases didn't play any part in your growth and upbringing. Neither financially or mortally.

3. Your not bound or connected by blood and thus the relationship can end suddenly like it never happened.

4. Comes with the purpose of supporting you but also benefiting from you and vice versa. If no reasonable benefits is being received, will likely abandon you.

5. Ready to abandon and divorce you if he/she is not happy with you or finds a better lover or you suffer a major or irredeemable loss.

6. You are just relying on a single individual that can fail at any given time or even die from illness or other causes.



FAMILY:

1. Where there for you since birth, growth and through struggles of life. Providing, protecting, financing, teaching, healing, nurturing, entertaining etc.

2. Played very deep valuable and sacrificial part in your growth and upbringing

3. You're connected to them by blood all through life and relationship remains all through life.

4. They support you massively and also hope to benefit from you at some point. If they don't benefit from you they still remain in your life.

5. Will very hardly and rarely abandon you. Even drug addicts and thieves have a family that still love and support them despite knowing their short comings.

6. You're relying on father, mother, brothers, sisters, cousins, Uncles, aunties, grandpa, grandma etc. If one fails the other will support you.


Based on these two comparisons I leave you to choose. Both have their parts to play in the life of an individual. The both roles should not be downplayed. But in the midst of a crisis, please seek a peaceful resolution rather than choosing to abandon your birth family.

Who cares, all of them will pack their things or I go leave the marriage for them.

Righteousness2:
They are both Family!
My wife is my Family
My Parents and Siblings are my Family

As long as my wife is my wife indeed and has done no evil, I will stand with her.

Isn't that a little bit risky. Wives leave husbands for flimsy excuses these days and vice versa.

Someone online even predicted that Meghan Markle will leave Prince Harry in about 5 years after using him to accomplish her intentions. Unlikely but possible.

In the Nigerian context.. No Nigerian girl will marry a prince out of love.. in a nutshell I can't loose everything for a Nigerian gold digger

Righteousness2:

So many Today do not understand the Institutor nor institution of Marriage. Thats why we have all the nonsense we have today in Homes.

"And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh"

The Moment a man or lady Marries your Spouse should be your Primary Concern. This is the Standard of GOD ALMIGHTY!

Having Said that, your Family is your Family. You Have to carry everyone along but your wife is your Number one.

What is Most Important is to stand on what is Right! If your wife has done wrong, you Repreve her.
If your Family does behaves bad, you Repreve them.

Wrong interpretation. That scripture you quoted did not expressly imply your wife is number one. You made that conclusion yourself

As a real niggar, family comes first before any other things or woman, who leaves royalty and affluence just because of a woman, how will I tell my kids that their inheritance and royal title "prince and princess" were all lost because of my stupidity to man up, what about their right to contest for the throne, my children will now be living and associate with commoners, while their cousin have all the royalty, affluence and contest for the throne. Your kids will swear for you making such dumb decision. This is the reason I don't support inter tribal marriage, Marry from your clan or tribe and give birth to pure breed and watch how your clan and tribe will grow.
As a real niggar, I am going to leave as one and die as one.

Righteousness2:

Okay!
Do as you will!
When you meet GOD , You tell Him that!

Oga, you aren't God either so allow him to decide.

I personally agree that the wife is number one but my point is that the scripture you quoted doesn't expressly say that.

Also I believe that the wife is number one is not at the total exclusion of the man's family that raised him as many men mistake it to be these days.

There are also scriptures like honour your father and mother that your days may be long.

IT SHOULD BE BALANCED BUT IN THIS CASE I DID CHOSE FAMILY. PRINCE HARRY IS THE LORD OF SIMPS. NA WHEN MEGHAN DIVORCE HIS EYE GO CLEAR

Who cares, all of them will pack their things or I go leave the marriage for them.

My husband is also my family. but if any messes up I'll sanction right away but i can never disgrace my family in public just like sissy Harry did! I don't take sides cuz if a quarrel rises up then both parties are to be blamed.

You can get another wife, another children but cannot get another mother or maybe father.

In this case all Harry has for happiness and consolation are his children and wife. His mother died the same way his wife was treated and his father snubbed him. The same father that got in love with a married woman at the objection of his mother, father and his people.

If Meghan Markle messes up, his closest blood are his children.

Look. For those condemning Harry/Peter for standing by their women, y'all need to go back to school. Any man who is not ready to stand and defend his woman is not ready for a relationship. Same goes for the women. Leaving the royal house/psquare (whether because of Meghan/Lola or not) is a very wise thing to do. He only wants to be his own man without the shadow of royalty/Okoyes on his head. Let him make his own mistakes and learn from them. Besides, EVERY MAN NEEDS A FEMALE THAT'S WORTH FIGHTING FOR LIKE THAT.