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abuuzy:


Haven't got a response from you yet.my username is yomi sanusi black and white profile picture

He is a scammer. Be careful of him.
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 11:29am On Jan 10, 2020
Thanks for the practical illustration used. It made a lot of sense and I can relate.
emmayoc:
My brother, what u need first is to accept Jesus as your Lord and savior. He will deliver you from the power of sin. You can never win the battle all by your struggle. Now listen, I am talking from the point of experience cos I have been in this position. Your heart is like a hard drive and u have stored in it sexual imaginations, pictures etc. The only way u can clean a hard drive is by formatting and installing new information. Now when u genuinely give your life to Christ, the Holy Spirit will do the formatting for you. Your own work will now be stuffing your mind with the word of God. This will be a deliberate action and a decision u have to make up ur mind to take. As u study continually, God's word will be purifying u and clear ur mind of old stuff. Note that it may not happen at once, along the line u may still fall into sin but the word of God in u will make u feel more remorse than u used to which will begin to make u hate the act. John 17;17 says; Sanctify them by your truth, Your word is truth. Now u see, it is only the word of God that can bring sanctification and purity in the life of a man. It is not by ur self effort. Prayer will also help you to be spiritually conscious of ur new position in Christ but it is only the word of God that can get ur heart cleaned from the old stuff. I will remember u in Prayers by God's grace. Regards

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 9:32am On Jan 10, 2020
Thank you.
whirlwind7:


Hehehehehe.

Negative energy? Me?
Says someone who put his dick in check for nearly a year, yet feels he's addicted to sex grin grin
Your problem isn't addiction; you're delusional.

If you think my comment will help build your resolve to be a better person, then I'm glad it helped.
As for sympathizing on your imaginary addiction, no dice from me.
In my late teens and early twenties, there are days I had sex twice daily. Nowadays, I can do thrice a week....and it has in no way interfered with my physical, emotional or spiritual wellbeing.

Perhaps you evolved from a lineage of low libidinous hombres, and having sex once in a month is considered an addiction among you grin
Which could be the reason you went 10 months without, and still believe yourself addicted to sex.

Take a back seat, man!

Let me add this: You don't fight such "addiction" by deciding to be celibate. Not saying you have an addiction, but for the purpose of this baseless thread, let's agree that you're an addict (at least that concession would make you happy grin)

An addict, apart from going for counseling, is not expected to become celibate. It is not like a substance addiction which is destructive. Sex is beneficial and even healthful for matured folks.
A sex addict is still expected to have a measured, planned sex life. Practicing abstinence isn't the logical route to counter it. No sire.

Anyhow, its good to fuel your imagination. A sex addict is what you are aspiring to become in 2020 grin grin grin
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 7:16am On Jan 10, 2020
I am going to allow your negative energy to fuel my resolve to become a better person. It is easier to judge people in a faceless forum like this because you don't have an idea what they are going through.
I am seeking for help but that doesn't mean i will swallow every suggestion hook line and sinker. At the end, I will be alright.
whirlwind7:


I want to sit with you and buy you your favorite drink.
Did you see how the attention seeker replied almost everyone who commented on the first page, but carefully avoided your input? grin
Guy's an asswipe looking for attention. Someone who went celibate for 10 months still thinks he's a sex addict grin grin grin
Oloshi ọmọ.
I can't be celibate for a month, yet I don't consider myself as too sexually active, much less an addict.
Leave the yeye pikin to keep moping.

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 12:21am On Jan 10, 2020
Not even to an enemy.
Enemyofpeace:
What's wrong in being addicted to sex? Abeg give me the addiction if you don't want again
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 12:17am On Jan 10, 2020
I will appreciate your opinion.
I am not happy with what I am doing to my self and others. I honestly want to be a changed man. I have goals and plans for the future.[quote author=Kay25 post=85657463][/quote]
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 12:14am On Jan 10, 2020
Thanks.
I sent you a mail.
sheunex:
Hello bro, I respect the fact you understand your battles and ready to fight head on. As a christian and psychologist, you can reach me via this email :oluwaseunoluwafemi23@gmail.com, let's discuss and find a long lasting exit for this.
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 12:12am On Jan 10, 2020
Sad consequences. I look forward to conquering this habit.
Brightgem:
Think all the consequences of sexual laxity. Some are not even physical. I used to think that was crap, but you don't keep joining body with just anybody, na so some kain evil spirit or evil destiny go begin follow you.

Also imagine one of your kids having a behavior like this and how you'll feel knowing this, cuz they might start at such a young age. So get rid of the spirit that's making you tempted.

Now more seriously. Even when on a diet, you derail sometimes, get back up, don't follow trails that lead you to what you don't want.

What you feed your mind is very important. Not sure I'm saying anything that hasn't been said. Good enough that you identified you have a problem
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 12:09am On Jan 10, 2020
Thanks
abdullkabar:

@Op, since you weren't born with this addiction, definetly you can overcome it.
One thing I know about addiction is you can't easily overcome it if the triggers to it are very much still available.
Maybe its due to your hangout spots, kind off friends you keep, your residence or anything.
Know the triggers, then you know more on how to tackle it, and also, addictions are not that easy to loose. Give it time
Days of relapse are part of the healing(just quickly call yourself to caution and know what triggered your relapse)





Easier said than done

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 12:03am On Jan 10, 2020
Not as you think.
I obtained my university degree at 26 and as a virgin
AngelicBeing:
Foundational problems sad
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 11:59pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thank you.
Riscawendy:
I think you need to ask yourself some questions.
To every effect there must be a cause.
What are the things that leads you to this addiction.
If is pornography stop watching it.
If is loneliness, you have a girl friend call, chat or stay with her when you're feeling lonely.
If is the books you read stop reading them.
If is the friends you keep dissociate yourself from them.
I hope this will help.
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 11:57pm On Jan 09, 2020
Of what benefit will i derive from framing up this.
I am at lowest point of my moral life. I just don't want to get comfortable doing what is bad. I don't want to suppress my conscience.
emkz:
This story, without variations, was posted on Nairaland some years back. I am surprised it is surfacing again.

If you are truly suffering from sexual addiction, I pray for your healing. If you are not but decided to recycle an old story to convince yourself that you are intelligent, well, words and wishes are powerful and I can only plead with you not to curse yourself.

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 11:53pm On Jan 09, 2020
Do we have such here in Nigeria?
AwkaetitiBabe:
I think you need therapy. Go for AA meetings. Sex addiction is simply like alcohol addiction.

Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 11:52pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks for the assurances and practical suggestions. I will try my best to apply them.
OkCornel:
@roadtorecovery, don’t be downtrodden.

Look at the bigger picture, you’ll realise the improvements you’ve made, and the relapse is only a blot on a blank page

And as for addiction, you can’t conquer it if you focus on it. Channel your focus to something else. I’m sure you’ve got talents or a worthy cause you’re passionate about to help improve the lives of those around you.


Channel your focus and energy into such. That way, your addiction dies a gradual death and is replaced by something better and productive.


In summary, the replace bad habits with good ones.

You’ve done well to be celibate for 10 months, and I’m sure you’ll do better going forward.

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 11:49pm On Jan 09, 2020
I hope to achieve what you have done.
Congratulations.
wiseone28:
And 14 Feb will take me 5years without entering the hole grin
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 10:45pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks everyone so far for the practical suggestions given so far.

I needed it so much to motivate myself and I am so grateful I got enough dose of it.

I wont be able to respond to all of you amazing comments and few funny ones.

I will give it my best shot and with God and sincere efforts and commitment, I am confident I will get back up.

I will take time to re-read every bit of comments and see how best I can apply them.

May be I was fighting it on my way and alone. This time, I will let God take the lead and just submit to his leading.

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 10:39pm On Jan 09, 2020
You made valid points
Damony:
I was once in your shoes. But Christ saved me when I surrendered to him, and started praying for hours.

OP that thing called prayer is very powerful. It destroys lust; and eliminate bad habit
You can't be very active praying and studying the word, and still be under the control of lust Sir

Infact, from my personal experience, I overcame 11yrs of addiction to pornography and masturbation within a week; because Christ crucified my flesh through continuous prayer- Praying when there's a desire to pray, and praying when there's no desire to pray

But in your own case Sir, It might cost you your relationship with your GIRLFRIEND. You can't be planning on overcoming lust but still have a Lady whose unclothedness you see anyday and anytime or whose presence trigger lust.

It might not work for you; because, you're simply trying to avoid a bitter poison while going for a sweet poison; whereas poison is poison, whether served cold, hot, sweet or bitter!


So OP Sir, marry her or stop the relationship totally

But before marrying her ( if that is your choice), I will advise, you avoid her and be healed by God first through a covenanted relationship with God; if not, you would cheat on her when married to her. This is so because, Marriage does not and can not guarantee faithfulness. It is self discipline and strong will that enable that through deeper relationship with God


Hence, go to God for healing through a committed relationship rooted in ceaseless prayer and word-study; then marry your Lady afterwards


You would be glad you follow my advice
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 10:16pm On Jan 09, 2020
Time and focus
Stillwater10:
How has it ruined your life in particular? Does the lifestyle take all your money, time or focus?
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 10:07pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks.
I will read it
leonard002:
I recommend you meet a counselor. I also recommend you get involved with so many activities that you have no time. Get soo busy.

I will recommend a book for you. 'How to stop worrying and start living' by Dale Carnegie.

Not a book on sex addiction but will help you immensely
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 6:45pm On Jan 09, 2020
Blunt of you .

But there is no need beating a man on the ground. What I desperately need is help. Even porn stars are not the most happiest people.
tydi:


You could also try out porn as a career.. You never Could know what is left for you on the other side. grin

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 6:11pm On Jan 09, 2020
I have tried many times but failed.
I know a lot of things I can do. But I am still open to learning. May be to ensure that I don't relapse again.
justnock:
OP chill. I have had my fair share of addictions in life. You sound like someone that already know what to do. There is nothing anyone else is going to say here that will impart your life if you ain't willing to change or act. It is a mental thing. Deal with it yourself.

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 6:06pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks
I will
Dididrumz:


Then I suggest you spend more time with her. Don't fight it, be free minded but know what you want.

But try to talk more with her when she's around.
Since you've already opened up to her about your urges, then I think spending more time with her would help you more than you think.
Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:59pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks. Is a goal. Just that i want to be sure that i have conquered this habit. It can wreck marriage if left unconquered.
tydi:
Hurry marry your damsel and have it to your satisfaction..
Na you go still come here say you no do again say na celibate you wan dey.

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:56pm On Jan 09, 2020
If you have ever dealt with an addiction, you won't say this. No reasonable person will want to seek an attention with a demeaning life style like this.

I just want to get as much help as possible and find a way to get my thoughts in black and white. May be get enough motivation to pull myself out of my deplorable situation. Please don't judge .
justnock:
You sound like a person that need attention and not help. It is obvious you already know what to do.

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Romance / Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:39pm On Jan 09, 2020
I am very serious with her and she is very open and ready to help. I just want to do the right thing before this ruins me permanently.
Dididrumz:
If you're really serious with your said Lady, I think she has a lot to do to help you out.

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Romance / My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:29pm On Jan 09, 2020
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

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