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Three women and two men explain their reasons for infidelity.

Cheating has been condemned and spoken against over and over again, yet it firmly remains a reality.

5 people who have treaded this path reveal their reasons for doing so:

1. I got fed up

“I fell out of love but was too scared to tell him and too embarrassed to admit to myself that the relationship was done.

I needed a way to end it by making him end it for me. It was cowardly, I know." — Oge, 23

2. Misinformation

"I felt all men cheated and so I should just strike first. That was a huge mistake.” — Gift, 31

3. Different sexual needs

"He was steadily becoming more religious, and what we wanted out of our sex life was very different. The decision to embrace his brand of religion only worsened the case.

“I ended up shagging a guy from work” – Natasha, 27

4. Long distance

“My babe was posted to Kaduna for NYSC and I was in Lagos. It was difficult to hold in the need for sex and I caved after four months.”

“I’m not proud of my actions though, and till today, she still does not know about it.” – Bamidele, 28

5. Women were hitting on me

"I cheated on my girlfriend because I could. This was about 5 years ago when I went for three weeks orientation camp in Ondo state.

"About 4 girls in my platoon were coming on to me pretty strongly. I slept with two of them after camp but more painfully, I felt no remorse doing it.

"I had to break up with my girlfriend for some other silly reason because I felt she deserve someone better than I was at the time" – Ikenna, 26.

Do you think their reason is enough to cheat on someone they claimed to love? Check next post

What are your plans for NYSC? Aside from working at your PPA (place of primary assignment). What else do you have in store for yourself? I mean, 1 year is a really long time to be bored senseless.

Anyway, I'm sure we've asked ourselves this question at some point in our lives, so what was the answer? I know that travelling and having fun was definitely part of your answer. Am I right? Maybe yes. Most of us have already planned our entire service year while the rest of us just want to go with the flow. The reality of the situation is things don't always go as planned, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't plan. I'm just saying even as you plan, keep an open mind.

Aside from your PPA, below are three things you can after your during youth Service Year:

Skill Acquisition and Entrepreneurship Development: It is popularly known among corpers as SAED. This is a program designed by the NYSC to help the youth develop their skills in different areas of life.

Building startups: Owning a business is very good during NYSC because the allowance you receive from the Federal Government may not be able sustain you. It doesn't have to be a big business. it could be something small like a bread and egg (meshai) stand, popcorn stand or even fries stand. if you're a dress, shoe, bag or accessory designer you could start in the comfort your room and let it grow.

Participating in Professional Courses

I hope this post gave you a little insight on your service year. If you have any questions, write them in the comment box and I will reply you shortly. Have a blissful NYSC experience.

Nigerian music superstar, Ayodeji Ibrahim Balogun, professionally known as Wizkid has confirmed that he will be featuring Naira Marley, Ayra Starr, and a few others on his ‘More Love Less Ego’ album.

The super mega star and Grammy winner made this announcement on his Instagram story on Wednesday.

The singer had previously announced the title of his fifth studio album, ‘More Love Less Ego,’ which will be released on August 5, 2022.

Naira Marley, TY DOlla $ign, BNXN fka Buju, Flame, and Skepta, according to the singer, collaborated with him on songs on the album.

Although he did not confirm whether these are the only featured artists on the album.

Wisdom!

ProphetofOdin:
When a man doesn't want sex it does not always mean he is cheating, I have seen a lot of women make this rash conclusions-which are completely wrong. A man refusing sex could be psychological and emotional too. The question should be what has been their marriage history and the role the wife has played in all of this? How has he been doing in his career, work or business and how is the wife trying to support him?
Trust me "most men" don't think of sex when they are feeling inadequate.

I tire o

oz4real83:
na wa oo, una comments sometimes dey fear person for nairaland oo. Make una still dey pity people na

I thought we’d turned the corner after a series of blazing rows. But it’s been more than a month …

I have been married to my husband for nearly four years. He is 34 and I am 33, with no children. We have had problems with our sex life in the past, as I’ve wanted it more than my husband. We have had blazing rows about this and though I felt we had turned a corner recently it’s now been more than a month since we were intimate. I am tired of the effect this has on my self-confidence. He regularly stays up late and I often go to bed on my own as he loses track of time. I am becoming despondent in our marriage overall, especially with the duties I used to take pride in. He makes a lot of effort to keep up with his hobbies and friends, so I feel as though our sex life isn’t important enough to him. I don’t want sex to be a chore but unless I said something he would never raise the subject. What do I do?

States that were yet to pass the Child Rights Act should urgently do so in order to reduce the chances of child abuse in the country, Head of School, Softnet Technology Academy, Bulus Martin Luther, has said.

He also called on the government to improve teachers’ welfare and review the existing curriculum for schools in the country to produce employable graduates.

Luther made the appeal during a cultural day activity organised by the school in commemoration of International Children’s Day.

The educationist said the domestication of the CRA would increase child protection and ensure Nigeria is not ranked low on the protection of children on the global stage- Friday Olokor

ruthfully, it’s just as “normal” to not want sex every minute of every day as it is to desire it constantly. While hormonal fluctuations, the aging process, and the quality of one’s partnered sex life are often to blame, there are plenty of other, less documented reasons that can cause a downfall in you or a partner’s arousal.

It’s easy to push blame on a partner or yourself, or start digging up relational problems when there’s a rejection to initiating sex. Oftentimes, though, the reasons are more simple and much less serious than you think.

Before you blow up an honest, gentle rejection into an argument, consider these 5 totally normal, not-at-all-unusual reasons that you or your partner aren’t in the mood at the moment.

REASON #1: YOU’VE JUST EATEN A BIG MEAL

Honestly, who ever decided that eating just prior to an evening specifically planned for sex was a good idea?

Going out for dinner is still one of the most popular ways to prep yourself for romance and flirtation, whether you’re married or on a first date. When you think about it, however, eating a hearty restaurant meal doesn’t exactly make for comfortable, pleasurable sex.

REASON #2: YOU’VE JUST EXPERIENCED STRESS, TRAUMA OR ANXIETY

The questions we've *all* been asking...


But, what actually causes period pains and their BFF, the dreaded period poo? Although the answer to those questions is pretty scientific, one TikTok doctor has broken down the science to give us all a much easier to understand explanation.

Speaking to his 4.6 million followers, Dr Karan Raj points out that it's all to do with our hormones (surprise, surprise). "During menstruation, chemicals called prostaglandins are released, which stimulate the womb to contract and shed its inner lining," Dr Raj reveals. "Prostaglandins are also responsible for triggering contractions during labour."

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The risk of getting caught was the biggest turn on

From a quickie in the kitchen at my parents’ house to mutual masturbation in the car in the dead of night, underlying all my favourite sexual encounters with my boyfriend is the thrill that someone might walk in and see us having sex...

While I come from a tiny family, Adam* has dozens of family members, most of whom I hadn’t met by the time we travelled across the country for one of his cousin’s weddings a year into our relationship.

I'd spent the day getting drunk to feel less anxious about making conversation with strangers, so when we returned to our accommodation – a shared Airbnb with his mum, dad and siblings – sex was the last thing on my mind. We found ourselves resigned to a camp bed in the sitting room, with his brother and dad sleeping just metres away on the sofas. So when we stumbled to bed drunk – just about pulling on some sensible pyjamas – I wasn’t expecting a sexual encounter of any sort...

Until he gently started pulling me towards him. On the springy mattress, he somehow managed to guide my body into his, slotting us together like spoons. And he got going immediately.

The pre-intimacy went on for what seemed like hours (it always feels riskily long when people are there). He rubbed my clit and fingered me from behind while the others softly slept a few feet away. He silently pressed his erection against my back, slowly running his hands over my body, leaving goosebumps behind wherever he had touched. I turned over to face him, but he pulled away when I tried to kiss him, raising one finger to his lips to remind me to keep quiet while using his other hand to lightly caress my inner thigh – a move he knows I can’t resist.

I was already so wet that he slipped into me with ease. He started with slow, soft strokes, as if he wanted me to feel every single second of him entering me, before thrusting with increasing urgency in response to me digging my nails into his back. I struggled to stay silent, it felt like we were both challenging each other to make the other moan, while also desperately trying to stop the covers from rustling. We couldn’t make a sound but God, I wanted to scream.

A sigh from the other side of the room stopped us in our tracks while we tried to work out if we’d been rumbled, but then a slight snore confirmed we hadn’t. I started riding him, guiding his hands over my breasts and relishing the raw, hungry look in his eyes. He quickly flipped me round and we started to Bleep from behind, moving slower and more deliberately than before. His passionate kisses on my neck while holding me in place by my hair made my body throb with desire, and I started pushing back against him, encouraging him to go deeper.

For more than an hour we stopped and started, trying to conceal our giggles as we froze whenever his dad or brother stirred. Neither of us orgasmed in the end, but the unpredictable thrill of knowing that our squeaky camp bed could have woken his family at any time gave us both a buzz that felt every bit as good as a climax.

The next day, we drove home and immediately had the wildest and loudest sex we’ve ever had. I climaxed as I thought about how hot the night before had been.

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