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Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by jesmond3945: 10:04am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions
this is the reason why if you step your feet in europe and you see nigerians run without looking back.
Politics / Youth Corp Members, A Ready Army That Can Lead Advocacy Against Drug Abuse - You by MANofMEN(m): 10:03am
*Youth Corp Members, A Ready Army That Can Lead Advocacy Against Drug Abuse - Youth Minister*


The Minister of Youth and Sports Development, Sunday Dare has advocated the drafting of members of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) into the fight against drug abuse in the country.

Speaking Monday evening at the launch of the National Drugs Control Master Plan (NDCMP), 2021- 2025 by the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA), the Minister stated that the 320,000 strong Corp members that serve the nation annually are a ready army that can be deployed in the fight against drug abuse, charging the NDLEA and the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime (UNODC) to look in that direction.

"One of the greatest problems we have seen in the Ministry of Youth and Sports Development is the menace of drug abuse amongst our Youth. In different urban centres from Lagos to Port-Harcourt to Kano, you just need to visit a few of the hidden rehab centres. You'll see young men between the ages of 18 and 34, who otherwise should be at the cutting edge of technology, providing solutions to our problems, developing apps for this country, completely almost running berserk", the Minister lamented.

"Like several other countries, Nigeria's future is imperiled unless it does something to halt the use of illicit drugs and its devastating effect on our younger population. Now, that is why the launch of this Masterplan today, and the work done by various development partners is of major significance for us here as a country, and also for me, as Minister of Youth and Sports Development".

"The issues are diverse, we talk about use of illicit drugs, we talk about sub-standard drugs but our utmost concern is how we can take our Youth out of this hole, they've found themselves. We need an army that will create awareness about the dangers, that will create education about alternatives, I look up here and I see the NYSC members. That is the single largest concentration of Youth in our country. Year in, Year out, 320,000 of them serve our country. It is pertinent to fashion out a template that would right from the first day they get into camp, and throughout their service year turn them into foot-soldiers, an army that will carry the message against illicit drugs use out there", Dare emphasised.

On the predilection of some Youth to illicit drug use, the Minister affirmed the need to interrogate reasons for the vice, listing factors such as low self-esteem, peer pressure, frustration, depression, unemployment and disappointment as causative agents. He added that with high number of jobless youth coupled with crippling poverty, slide to drugs use might be a way of seeking temporary reprieve.

"Because Government is mindful of these factors, that is why it is providing opportunities for Youth to thrive, that is why a slew of youth focused programmes have been put in place and will be upscaled to make sure that we accelerate the number of Youth that we can place on the path of entrepreneurship, that we can support their education, that we can give the relevant digital skills training that they need to compete in a 21st century World, Dare added.

The Minister expressed the commitment of the Ministry of Youth and Sports Development to explore areas of partnership with the NDLEA to ensure the Masterplan has a far-reaching impact on reducing the menace of drug abuse amongst Youth across the country.

Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by Afriqan: 10:02am
Smoothbabykong:
Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions

The bolded is the most important thing bro. You have paid back most of the money and you have corrected any negative impression she might have had of you, don't blame yourself anymore.

Just let her know she will get the remaining soon and don't bother expecting a response from her. Naturally, seeing that you have paid 70% would make her know you've done the right thing, she will come around herself, don't bother chasing her much, paying back is the most important thing...

Next time, just try to be more open and honest about things cos of trust. But don't bother about it much, nobody is perfect and she would be wrong to keep holding on to the past despite ur efforts. All the best bro! cool
Religion / Re: Chris Oyakhilome Celebrates His 58th Birthday Today by streetsoldier1(m): 10:01am
Smoketight:
This fraud wey dey talk trash,
This guy said 5G was what again?
That the government knows something about COVID19 and it's a conspiracy theory,
And he said some rubbish that has ETC

is it not getting obvious tgat govt knows about the covid. i'm not in support of their conspiracy ooo, but think deep, why force vaccine on people for a disease worse than maleria
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by backbencher: 10:01am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions

1.I am going to be very honest with you

2.You messed up. You should not have used her money to settle your problems. At the very least, you should have informed her and asked her permission, and if she said no, she says no. Yes, good.

3.I don't like the sense of entitlement in your last paragraph...just because she did bad things to me and I forgave her, therefore she must forgive me for this one. That's not how forgiveness works. You don't forgive so that someone would forgive you later on. That's self centered, and very selfish.

Pay her back her money. If she doesn't forgive you, and you are still thinking along the lines of 'she must forgive me because i forgave her'...get an elder to mediate in this matter. If it does not work, maybe you should call off the relationship...because both of you ain't willing to compromise, and to be humble enough to forgive without expecting something in return.
Politics / Re: So People That Believe A Man Turned Children To Yam, Will Choose Your Leaders? by Ovamboland(m): 10:01am
hupernikao:



Bro, like I said your issue is not bible understanding. Your issue is reading well, reading what is written. You don't have a good understanding of literature and history. It's obvious in all your write up there.

We will only be arguing of I start to explain the scriptures to you since you can't even get how books are to be read well. So let's start with that first. I am sure all your questions will be answered before we finish the class in literacy explanation.

Keep dribbling, reading books is now a soccer game.

Did snake talk to Eve or not? Should we take it as a work of fiction like George Orwell's animal form or real events that took place on this earth?
All your gymnastics betray underlying dishonesty.
Romance / Re: Nairalanders Who Wake Up By 4 A.M. by jericco1(m): 9:57am
meobizy:
Why not become completely productive by cutting off sleep as a whole? Na that one sure pass. Oyibo wey give that six hour rule don adjust am to eight based on the many car accidents from people sleeping behind wheel. Na mostly poor man dey talk say sleep bad. Bi/Millionaires dey sleep their complete eight hours, poor man wey dey claim sleep no good dey die steady of poor health on top.


You're still a kid, no one said sleep is bad or anything. Is not everyone that has the luxury of sleeping 8 hours. Maybe when you start working for your own money you'd understand better.

Sleep has nothing to do with been poor or rich. Grow up lad
Romance / Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by KiNg0G: 9:56am
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
A similar thing once happened to my elder bro friend...Na once the guy arrange some of him fellow close nigha men to track her reach her mama house......The luck wey the guy get na be say he dey keep all the tellerd wey he dey use send her money all those while for school......Na once she knee down and begin shed tears,dey beg...But the guy no gree forgive her..

Wetin pain the guy na be say she even send the guy invitation via WhatsApp......Las las,her mum gats raise money to settle the guy...

If I dey kind to you,no think say I be fool....just that,I dey naturally nice..

No body be mugu undecided

you must get one story to talk, we hate you and your fake stories.

passed!!
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by tunize(m): 9:56am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions
Good you apologized is normal to be angry she go forgive you but go and sin no more. Next time no matter how critical the situation is always tell the truth goes a long way in softening things no matter what.
Politics / Youth Corp Members, A Ready Army That Can Lead Advocacy Against Drug Abuse - You by Mickiebrownkie: 9:55am
*Youth Corp Members, A Ready Army That Can Lead Advocacy Against Drug Abuse - Youth Minister*


The Minister of Youth and Sports Development, Sunday Dare has advocated the drafting of members of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) into the fight against drug abuse in the country.

Speaking Monday evening at the launch of the National Drugs Control Master Plan (NDCMP), 2021- 2025 by the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA), the Minister stated that the 320,000 strong Corp members that serve the nation annually are a ready army that can be deployed in the fight against drug abuse, charging the NDLEA and the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime (UNODC) to look in that direction.

"One of the greatest problems we have seen in the Ministry of Youth and Sports Development is the menace of drug abuse amongst our Youth. In different urban centres from Lagos to Port-Harcourt to Kano, you just need to visit a few of the hidden rehab centres. You'll see young men between the ages of 18 and 34, who otherwise should be at the cutting edge of technology, providing solutions to our problems, developing apps for this country, completely almost running berserk", the Minister lamented.

"Like several other countries, Nigeria's future is imperiled unless it does something to halt the use of illicit drugs and its devastating effect on our younger population. Now, that is why the launch of this Masterplan today, and the work done by various development partners is of major significance for us here as a country, and also for me, as Minister of Youth and Sports Development".

"The issues are diverse, we talk about use of illicit drugs, we talk about sub-standard drugs but our utmost concern is how we can take our Youth out of this hole, they've found themselves. We need an army that will create awareness about the dangers, that will create education about alternatives, I look up here and I see the NYSC members. That is the single largest concentration of Youth in our country. Year in, Year out, 320,000 of them serve our country. It is pertinent to fashion out a template that would right from the first day they get into camp, and throughout their service year turn them into foot-soldiers, an army that will carry the message against illicit drugs use out there", Dare emphasised.

On the predilection of some Youth to illicit drug use, the Minister affirmed the need to interrogate reasons for the vice, listing factors such as low self-esteem, peer pressure, frustration, depression, unemployment and disappointment as causative agents. He added that with high number of jobless youth coupled with crippling poverty, slide to drugs use might be a way of seeking temporary reprieve.

"Because Government is mindful of these factors, that is why it is providing opportunities for Youth to thrive, that is why a slew of youth focused programmes have been put in place and will be upscaled to make sure that we accelerate the number of Youth that we can place on the path of entrepreneurship, that we can support their education, that we can give the relevant digital skills training that they need to compete in a 21st century World, Dare added.

The Minister expressed the commitment of the Ministry of Youth and Sports Development to explore areas of partnership with the NDLEA to ensure the Masterplan has a far-reaching impact on reducing the menace of drug abuse amongst Youth across the country.

Politics / Re: I Have Not Eaten Anything Since Sunday - Nnamdi Kanu Says As DSS Refuses To Give by Gbagura: 9:53am
cc Seun this moniker, Emergingnation and esnbrutality are the same. Ensure all of them are banned and every other ipob touts on this forum. Remember you stated it yourself that nairaland abhors secessionists. Thanks
conductor20000:
See how unity begging terrorists who bandits and Fulani criminals have taken over their homeland will come and massage their scrotum on this thread now.

For this people, Boko Haram can wipe away every living thing in their village yet they will not comment or talk. They're waiting for Igbo or Nnamdi Kanu thread to write garbage on.

Unity begging is truly a disease.
Romance / Re: Nairalanders Who Wake Up By 4 A.M. by meobizy(f): 9:53am
jericco1:
E be like you still dey your papa house, you never begin hustle, why will a sane person sleep till 5:30 am?

Even the president of US sleeps average of 4 hours per day
Why not become completely productive by cutting off sleep as a whole? Na that one sure pass. Oyibo wey give that six hour rule don adjust am to eight based on the many car accidents from people sleeping behind wheel. Na mostly poor man dey talk say sleep bad. Bi/Millionaires dey sleep their complete eight hours, poor man wey dey claim sleep no good dey die steady of poor health on top.
Politics / Re: Nnamdi Kanu Starving In DSS Facility – Younger Brother Raises Alarm by conductor20000: 9:53am
See how unity begging terrorists who bandits and Fulani criminals have taken over their homeland will come and massage their scrotum on this thread now.

For this people, Boko Haram can wipe away every living thing in their village yet they will not comment or talk. They're waiting for Igbo or Nnamdi Kanu thread to write garbage on.

Unity begging is truly a disease.
Health / Re: My HIV Story - A Journey Of A Million Miles by Megabig: 9:50am
Continuing here

Anyways I went back to absu and that’s where the real wahala started,at night I don’t sleep,I don’t focus on class,I was thinking,thinking and thinking.What can I do?I’ll have to return for another test in 3 weeks and that will be done somewhere in Owerri. I didn’t know what to do,I just go to class for going sake.At that time,I was searching about HIV and AIDS on the internet too but nothing online could convince me that I’ll live my life just like any other person.I continued to think until I went to do the confirmatory test and it was positive again,that’s where they asked for my full name and every other detail. They gave me a care center to go to in Enugu which is my state,lol I no wan go there(their papa),make person wey I sabi see me. I returned back to school,at this point I was thinking,cried some nights,I had a babe at this time too,it was back to back with her with condoms ohhhh,once she’s around I’ll pretend,after she leaves,I’ll go into thinking and all.Again how do I convince her to go for a test too,I know I’ve been using condoms and when I don’t,I don’t ejaculate in her(I no want pregnancy oh),how will I tell her to do a test without revealing my own test.I finally concluded that until I access care,I should be able to do that so I’ll know how to guide her too.I needed to tell someone I’m positive at least to be heard or maybe consoled or something,I just want someone to hear this burden.Well I approached this lady that goes to this Catholic Church,asked her when their next “confession” is and she told me.I decided to attend,that fateful day I went early and stood in line and when it was my turn,it was my first time too,a priest will be on the other side while you will be on the opposite side,he will ask questions from a hold/net and you will answer then you can’t start confessing your sins(Wahala Dey oh).I sat there and he then said something in Catholic,I think I’m suppose to respond in a certain way but I don’t know what to say(I’m not Catholic),he then paused and said something else,I just respond “Om sorry Father,I’m not Catholic,I’m here to confess some things”. He said ok, please go on “NwaChukwu”(Child of God). me NwaChukwu?Uncle e don spoil,lol… I started, Father I just realized I’m HIV positive,It’s so heavy in my heart and I needed someone to speak to,I don’t want to die,I’d rather die also than tell my parents and my siblings,my sister will kill me,my elder bros nko?I kept talking and talking and he was just listening.When I was done,he kinda hissed(Ah ah,am I a joke to this one,Oga I just told you something and you de hiss behind the booth,this one need make i nod am oh?),I sha kept my cool, the first thing he said was “aren’t you lucky you found out early(Ah ah),he then goes,HIV does not kill as it use to because there is care everywhere,it only kills people who do don’t recognize early or didn’t take their health seriously after they’ve recognized that(what in the world is this dude saying?),I have read that online already,I don’t need someone telling me same thing,I’ve seen pictures of people online dying too and I’m not far off from their weight because I’m a skinny child too.This man continued oh, he then said to me, if you will wait after confession,I’ll see you personally and refer you to somewhere for care,I told him I already have been referred to somewhere and he then said,if you were convinced about the place,you would have gone without coming here first,so wait my child,we will talk. I left the booth and sat waiting,one “lay reader” came and told me to follow him,took me to a part of the church and the gave me jollof rice and malt(the coldest drink I’ve taken in my life).I was there until I slept off on their desk,around 7pm,Father was done, he couldn’t see me and asked them to tell me to return the next day or I can sleep in their seminarian quarters and he will see me the next morning after mass,I agreed to stay(shey this man never tell people say I be hiv positive),anyways the seminarians didn’t treat me in any kinda way,one came and was asking me when “Fathers elder brother will return from Germany and some personal questions”, that’s when I knew Father probably told them I’m his cousin or something(liarrrrrrrr!!!!!), I sha told them I don’t know(can they just let me be,nosey aproko seeking youngins,make them better avoid me because if I scream,everyone don de infected”kidding”).
I’m the morning,Father referred me to a place in Umuahia,called someone in front of me and told her I’ll be coming a certain day,he told me to go directly to the lady and she will take it from there(why is Father now nice to me, I’m not Catholic, never met him or their church members before),also I told him I’ll love to keep our conversation confidential because I can commit suicide if anyone else knows about this,this man told me,he is more confidential than I am and in fact, when I’m done from FMC visit,I should return to him and tell him my story.

FMC UMUAHIA ViSIT

That faithful day,I was there so early as instructed so I went directly to the nurse,In a normal hospital setting,you see a mix of people who came for one thing or the other,I walked majestically into the hall with a lot of people because I felt they all came for different Rhonda but I was wrong,when I was speaking with the nurse after my arrival,she told me if I was not scared to walk into the hall and I’m like why?she said everyone there came to take drugs and I may see someone I know and that confirms I’m positive(jezzzzzzzz,I started sweating(glad she told me but which kind nurse Eliza be this,isn’t there a way to pass the message across?).Anyways I stayed there that day until it’s time to see a doctor,when I met him,he told me my CD4 count is above 500, they only give drugs to people who have 300 and below,the higher the CD4 count,the better,any CD4 count below 300 is gradually moving into AIDS,the best I can do is to keep my CD4 count higher than 500,I should eat fruits,exercise,think less,bla bla bla(e plenty).He gave me septrin,said it will prevent cough because that is the only thing that quickly attacks people with hiv,i don’t have cough but I have to be taking septrin everyday(see me see wahala). After seeing him, I went back to nurse “Eliza” and she came again with her 1916 advice, she goes “don’t think about it at all, it fine but people die when then are not serious”, haunty parrot why tell me not to think and still say people will die.Lekwam lekwa problem(see me see wahala).


I sha left that day, I felt better because there is no how all those people in that hall are all positive,smiling and loud,some parents with husband and kids(maybe parents to child infection),some old people with the people who accompanied them either chatting with them or frowning(maybe they don’t have it and they felt like they are on top of the world).I saw people who already have aids too,they are there for drugs as well and came with someone,so it’s a mixture of things very convincing and then the worst scenario as well.see me who is positive,I saw them and was “spitting” while leaving(mumu me),I get am,I’m only few. CD4 count more else I’ll be that way,I’m still feeling like Anthony Joshua.
Oh I talk too much,let’s continue…while leaving there as well,nurse Eliza gave me a bag to give to the priest, I shock it while on my way and realized it was drugs,Out of curiosity,I opened it on my way home. It was 18 different bottles, e shock me. What is this man going to do with 18 antiretroviral drugs? Anyways I took it to him and we spoke for some minutes,he realized I was not scared anymore, what changed? Is just what I witnessed with my eyes,the people I saw here had to convince me(no shaking). But how do I keep my CD4 count higher than 500 so I won’t be on drugs? Watermelon is not cheap and apple is not too.which kind sickness wan de chop big man fruit? Make I kuku go find place for my village wey them go bury me sha because I no get shi shi,shey I go thief am ni?….Meanwhile nurse Eliza told me not to worry much about any fruit,that if I can just stop thinking,my CD4 count will just be moving up(which kind nurse be this one abeg,shey she well ni?). Anyways I return to school, limited my travel back to PH and watermelon at least once in 3 days,anywhere I see apple like this my body de shake(it’s just expensive jare). I was due for the hospital visit in 3 months, before I have to go for my appointment,I’ll need to go to place and do a CD4 count test and then bring the result to the doctor,when I went for the test, guess what? My CD4 went from 542 to 409(kilo de? After all my watermelon and apple,e no work ohhhh,I go die ohhhh).I saw the doctor with the result and it was same gist”keep your CD4 count high and you won’t take drugs,eat fruits and vegetables and think less”.I went back again,continued with watermelon and others and after another 3 months,it went from 409 to 556(Wowwwwwww,e work, but what did I do this time? I think I started thinking less and focused more in school and was just grabbing any fruit I saw). To make sure my babe did a test,I accused my babe of giving me infection(God forgive NwaChukwu), I told her if we have to continue, she must do a test,she cried and cried(She did not know my motive,aunty go do STI test let me know if you gave me infection because my penis have been scratching me).She one day after a week came to my house,dropped the test and left,sent me a message never to contact her again,chai I’ve lost my babe,she then at the back of the paper wrote that I should probably tell her who I’ve been cheating with, if I need to have a conversation.I love her sha,I just wanted her to do the test and at the same time,I’ll maintain keep my secret,but I was soooo happy again knowing she is negative,it was a huge relieve.
Fast forward again,it was time for my CD4 count and guess what,just in 3 months,my count went to 321 or so.it was sad and the doctor said he have to place me on drugs because it dropped drastically. Honestly I don’t know what happened, infact I thought less of it,I was just stressed alot because it was exam period and I was reading overnight and barely sleep.
I started the daily pill just like others, it was initially one in the morning and one at night. This is clearly the most difficult time for me,remember the only people that knew I was positive was,nurse Eliza, the old priest,the doctor(datzzz all), the people that I’ve seen in the hall when visiting for any appointment don’t know me and I don’t recognize them the next time because there are others too,so our appointments won’t fall on same day.so it’s a mixture of different people every other appointment,sometimes I’ll sit and someone will come close and try talk to me(Ah ah,Abeg shift,can’t you see I don’t want to talk,keep your discussion to yourself,I’m suppose to cover my face in shame when arriving here,biko adjust…lol I don’t say that though,but my countenance will tell you that I just don’t want to talk please, but they always won’t get that so I’ll be on my “Sony Ericsson” phone while the person blabs).
My tori don de end, let me gist you the most difficult things that happened to me…Guess what it is, keeping this a secret and hiding my drugs,I wish I had one person who can at least understand me,people are really very lucky because they do have people they can confide in,can share such with and are sure those people will totally accept them. I may have all that but trusting them all is a huge problem,so I can’t abeg. My mum is a teacher,a very strict one at that,my dad is not a pastor but the man can pray,my elder brothers are what I call lions,those ones can shout,my younger brother have no business knowing,even if he does,I got land am slap of e wan open mouth talk nonsense,I have one sister,she’s married and she is very uptight,jezzz.An on my daughter raised by a teacher and a close to Pastor Dad,she go craze if I tell her,one of my brothers seem close to me though,but he is too loyal to my dad,he will surely tell my dad if I let him know,my dad obviously will tell my mum, if that gets to her, my name na sorry. Infact I’m not use to telling my parents things when I was little,they tried as much to groom us well but I believe it was too strict(they suffered but then,raising a child should involved making sure they are close and can tell you anything,that way you can protect them,We ought to all learn that,my parents are too huge on values and being nice,but their approach to raising me somehow was too much abeg,I can’t even tell my dad I have a girlfriend even when I was 20, oh yes!!!!!it’s that bad,but abeg make we continue). So where did I not hide my drugs? I hid in the ceiling at home, I opened the containers, stuffed them with cotton wool to make sure they don’t jiggle before hiding them,I opened the back of our big tv and hid there,the best place for me was the upholstery in the sitting room, turned it over, opened a place,stuffers them in and then closed it. But always I’ll have a bottle to keep somewhere else which I will continuously take, so a bottle goes to school with me and I return to visit them and then take another bottle(Oshey oh, playing smart on antiretroviral,the stress thinking what if someone sees it,am I prepared to reveal to people?).
Anyways, at the start of the first few months of taking the pill, I realized I was dizzy sometimes and I swear sometimes at night,I told the doctor and he changed the drugs to another type,he said the one I had was not compatible with my system(weyrey give me pill to live,I no come here come hear story,I no carry purposely carry am to enjoy antiretroviral,just give me please). But those doctors are so nice, the nicest people I’ve ever met,they have no issues with you until you miss an appointment,they will just be rude,I know and it’s fine because that will keep us all on our toes, I missed once and the treatment they gave me wasn’t nice,infact I apologized the next visit. They do this because if they are nice, we will all miss it next time and before you know it,people will be unserious(I have seen people die as a result of not taking their drugs or skipping it for months and weeks and then returning to take it again,it’s dangerous don’t do it).
Anyways,I’ve been undetectable since 2009, that means I’m not infectious,it’s not magic, it’s just being on my pill,since then also, I’ve been taking my pill daily, I’ve missed couple of times though but trust me,I get so sad if I do,I once was driving from PH to Lagos, I was at Ore(Edo State) when I remembered I left my pills,I turned back to PH just for that and continued my journey the next day,oh yes, that’s how serious I am with my pill even though my journey to Lag was just for a week,but I can’t stay without it for a whole week.I just don’t want that.
I left Nigeria early 2017 and continued from here,I’ve not been ill,I’ve been so good, the couple of people I met at the clinic are all healthy(the ones I shared contacts with and added on Facebook), they are all married and have kids too, but most of them revealed their status to their families,till date I have not.Not a single one of them is currently dead after 13 years, they are all older though, the close ones I still chat with once in Sheila are either 3 to 5 years age difference but all older than I am,I was just 16 when I knew my status and I just turned 30 last three months. The good thing I loved about abroad is that my pills get delivered to me in my mailbox,everything is totally confidential unlike when I have to go pick my pill in Umuahia and seeing a lot of people in same room and the way the nurses calls the register when it’s time to see the doctor(“Jake Okereke!!!!!,go and stay on the other side so you can see the doctor,where is that man? I thought I saw him sitting there? Where did he go,someone check if he is on the corridor”, now everyone knows Jake Okereke). Because we are all there for same thing,there should be a level or maturity at least.
Is it when you also miss your appointment? Wow(Oga please your card is here, we have to attend to people who are serious first,next time you won’t miss your appointment, next!!!!!!!!!!, everyone will start looking at you like missing appointment is like a death sentence).
Anyways one other problem I think I have right now whether abroad or in Naija is courting, oh yea, relationship no de hungry me again because I’m addicted to not telling anyone,I just have sex and that’s it, I can’t maintain a relationship because I’m used to seeing it as a waste of time since I know it will not lead to marriage as I’m not going to tell you I’m positive, because if I do, I don’t know how you will feel and that’s one person outside my space knowing I’m not positive,I don’t just want that. There are organisations too that can assist with linking people who are positive but I don’t want that as well. There are so many people who are also open about their status and are married to negative people too, I mean it’s abroad and people don’t die of hiv here, they never do so people are more learned than back home which is where I want to get married(I no want Oyibo but them love my game die).So it’s a huge disadvantage to me because I’m caged with the secret, I envy people who are open about it and have support all over but I just can’t and it’s sad. Probably will but not yet, but how, I just don’t know. My health is no longer a problem because I’ll live till the day God calls but certainly not because of HIV, never!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes I sit and count my blessings, what if there is no antiretroviral drug? What if I was born those days when those are bro available,what about the people you ensure these drugs are free like those non-governmental organisations,billionaires and others too. The governments also that ensure people get care, I mean they can always mind their business.
Oh I’m so lucky, I really am…whenever I’m in the midst of people discussing hiv, i just listen and analyze, I don’t even talk or argue at all because I’m a witness in their midst and I know everything going on but I’ll let them talk. But one thing I’ve also noticed, people have started accepting people living with HIV and AIDS, most people who have degenerated to aids still use antiretroviral and bounce back to their normal lives, but I think the disadvantage at that time is that everyone knows and have to avoid you,it takes more power to rise above it because you will surely think, you go think ohhhhhhhh. But if they have people around them that says it’s alright and haven’t been ravaged by so many infection, they will just take their pills and that’s it.
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by Johel(m): 9:50am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions


Abeg gimme your gf let me manage her well since you've failed her.
Politics / Re: I Have Not Eaten Anything Since Sunday - Nnamdi Kanu Says As DSS Refuses To Give by DubaiLandLord1: 9:49am
Person wey talk say e go cut GMB head grin

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Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by ogawisdom(m): 9:48am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions


Ur tenure has ended
Move on if she is no longer interested
Politics / Re: I Have Not Eaten Anything Since Sunday - Nnamdi Kanu Says As DSS Refuses To Give by conductor20000: 9:48am
See how unity begging terrorists who bandits and Fulani criminals have taken over their homeland will come and massage their scrotum on this thread now.

For this people, Boko Haram can wipe away every living thing in their village yet they will not comment or talk. They're waiting for Igbo or Nnamdi Kanu thread to write garbage on.

Unity begging is truly a disease.
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by heniford2: 9:46am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions
first avoid that guy or person you called your friend his not ur friend if he can sell u out like this he may do more, two u bleeped up you should have told her what happened so she can start making up backup plans she go vex but she no go kill you na vex oh, 3. next time always plan ahead if she loves you she go come back don't call her again or explain and you should have not sold your car in the first place and deposit money in his brother just be urself if she comes back fine if she no come back move on we have more single ladies ready to accept you. undecided
Politics / Re: Lagos Ranked The Second Least Livable City. by 1544f: 9:45am
alanto:

Faceless forum sha. Let me tell you the way you comment here shows something the Yoruba regards alainiran. Eni abire doesn’t talk or comment the way you do.
Career / Re: The Nairalife Of A Student Doubling As A Software Engineer by ospreywin(m): 9:45am
Lalami3232:
Software development na blood money oooo. I paid 300K to learn just Java at NIIT back then. I would advise youths to go into it because it's the only job you can start up without need a capital. It's the only good job you can get in 9ja without needing a BSC. Though I've left Java sha, but the experience I got from Java gave me advantage to learn JavaScript (React and Node), Python (Django) etc.
Instead of you to go do ashawo or yahoo, go learn programming and thank me later. If you no fit get access to materials, I go help to give you some. It's my little way of taking menance from the street grin

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin eeh, I go ******"
How can I reach you?
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by NoFucksToGive: 9:44am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions


Seun stop allowing idiots post on your forum.
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by juniorstar(m): 9:44am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions
Listen and listen Good bros...if you still like your gal do the following
1) explain things to her well
2) tell her it wont repeat itself
3)call her or text her but call first
4 if she ignores you leave it there you have done your part. Let her think about it if she can still forgive you but dont pressurize her too much let her make up her mind if she is still interested but during this phase LOCK UP I REPEAT LOCK UP and as for your friend keep him at arms length thats why i dont keep friends only partners legally spelt out..him fit dey eye your gal like dat..na oppurtunity for am to STAB you in the bag. As for me its would have been better a friend were never born than dem trying such with me.
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by kponkedenge(m): 9:43am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions

Just admit you use her money to play betting and it didn't work.... you have to cut down on your gambling habit bro.

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Sports / Re: Ballon D’or: Be Sincere To Yourself, Not Empty Words – Lewandowski Slams Messi by duptie(m): 9:42am
sotall:
undecided

It would have been better for Lewandowski not to talk about any unfairness regarding this Balondior.


When people speak for you, that is the time to keep quiet.

He is obviously pained he didn't win it.

This is an award that is given based on voting.

Why attack the winner?

Why not attack the voters?


keep your mouth sht.
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by femi4: 9:40am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions
You are the cause of her pain, you also want to dictate how she should react and how long it should be. You're just unreliable and irresponsible. Trust is key in any form of relationship

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Politics / Re: Presidency: Shettima Tells Ezeife It’s Too Late To Kneel And Beg by rickyrex(m): 9:38am
Lol after handling power for so many years... What has been their end result in the north.... Almagiri, beggers, bandit, herdsmen.... Is Igbo as a whole not faring better than the north withy been the president of this country. Imagine nonsense talk about begging and you are feeling like if they leave Nigeria for you alone, you fit manage am.
Romance / Re: Should I Move On? by gidado14(m): 9:34am
Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions
wait for her turn

Politics / Re: Presidency: Shettima Tells Ezeife It’s Too Late To Kneel And Beg by Godispeace: 9:34am
igbo girls and weed smoking olosho for lagos na 5 & 6 so u no surprise with that ur weed talk
KILLTHECOWS:
South east must produce the president come 2023 whether they like it or north...
This shitima is a compound fool....
Business / Re: If You Are Uber Partner In Lagos, Please Share Your Experience Here by Johnnybegood12: 9:28am
My first encounter with local government touts

So yesterday, I got a request on 1.9 surge at ago-palace road to trolley supermarket yaba.
On getting to trolley supermarket, rider asked if I will be willing to take her to leisure mall Surulere.
Me as a sure guy, I followed pear1910 advice and asked her to update the trip instead of ending and requesting again (based on 1.9).
She didn't spend up to 4mins in trolley supermarket so we continued the journey, on our way I made an emergency diversion due to heavy traffic, that's how this guy's stopped me and deceived me into following them to their office that they just want to check if they have warned me on that route before, that I will be freed if my plate number does not show in their office.
That's how we drove there ooo, I entered local government Naso dem lock gate, before I could park and get down, those mudafuckers don write receipt 20k say make I go pay for upstairs, Naso I take a deep breath sighs!.
Rider then asked me to end trip, Naso I end trip money Na ₦9,500

To cut the long story sha, rider is a very nice person she wanted to negotiate they price and pay, so I asked her to back off that I have a card to play.
Then I called my guy around that somolu area
Me: hello guy u dey Lagos?
My guy: Johnny bravo! yes, wetin xup?
Me: you dey around Ur area (somolu)
My guy: no, I no dey. But wetin xup?

Me: them arrest my car for somolu oh
My guy: who? (With para)
Me: local government touts
My guy: wetin you do?
Me: I no do anything oh, dem deceive me reach here come say make I pay 20k.
My guy: for this somolu Johnny bravo no worry u no go pay shi Shi.
Me: (in my mind Thank God ooo)
My guy: u don follow dem talk about money?
Me: no ooo Na dem just write 20k ticket
My guy: ok no negotiate anything ooo I go send person come der now now.
10mins later the person arrived and I noticed those touts just dey carry hand up say tuale baba tuale baba, I just remain calm hoping say Na my saviour be dis. Next thing, he called my number, I met him and explained to him he said no case he just told them am his brother, naso them leave me free of charge oo with no vex ontop.
The guy escort me commot for somolu Naso I give am 3k for transport oh.

Carried rider to leisure mall free of charge cos she's a nice person. Getting to leisure mall rider shock me oh, rider transferred my ₦9,500 complete, still reimburse me 3k cash wey I give that guy.
Na so I drive go yakoyo go swallow pounded yam. grin grin

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Sports / Re: Orji Kalu Gives ₦1 Million To Enyimba Players After Winning Match by omonla10(m): 9:25am
1800 dollars( that's like 50 dollars each for players and coaching crew) sad

Me sef, wey no get shishi, I can dash 1m talk less of this billionaire
Sports / Re: Ballon D’or: Be Sincere To Yourself, Not Empty Words – Lewandowski Slams Messi by GENES11S: 9:22am
jojo1415:
The balloon d'or is no longer interesting again....I swear,what did Messi play or win if not for just coper America.lewandoski was the highest goal scorer and won champions league.....White men and ojoro sha!! cry

Champions league for where? Chelsea won the champions league for 2021.

Argentina won the Copa America 2021.

Messi won the 2021 Ballon d'Or

There is no problem being anti-messi, but when u talk @least be puntual with facts.

Lewandoski achievement was for 2020. Forget the title of the thread:
Messi urged the organizers of the Ballon d'Or to give the 2020 edition to lewandoski. So Lewan is saying hopefully what the great player (messi) has said would not be empty world. This mean he expects the organizers to do exactly what Messi surgested.

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