Pls I want to know the price of Lexus RX300 '03 and RX330. And also the modalities of payment. Thanks.

Fhemmmy:


Do you like Toyota Highlander, Lexus RX300 (2002/3) model, Toyota 4runner, Honda Pilot?

Thanks for responding to me. I like Lexus RX300 '03. Can I have the landing price plus clearing, equally give me the price for RX330.
Thanks for your time.

Fhemmmy:


I am based in Canada and USA but have partner in Nigeria, will be helpful if you tell us what you want or your budget. Thanks for your time on our thread, you are appreciated!

What I want? An SUV suitably for a family of five. My budget? Not more than N2m. Hope this helps

How much? Email me @ alexnj50@gmail.com

Good day. Pls wia is ur location? Can u giv me options of nice and affordable family SUVs with prices. Plus pics if possible. Kindly send 2 my mail alexnj50@gmail.com. Thanks.

Godmystrength:
Please what are you thinking?

Hmm...what am I thinking?
Why would he be the one to get a replacement if at all you need one. After falling your hands, he wants to bring in someone else. Who is she to him? What's the relationship? Does it mean that the lady is on stand-by, waiting to move in. Abeg ooo. We see these things everyday in our home videos.
Don't ever succumb to his tactics oo.

Godmystrength:
Yesterday night, he told me that the lady said she will like to go to her village during the festive period to spend time with her people and that he doesn't want her to come back and he already has someone that he wants to replace her with....(infact, he is already thinking of how to send her away by this month end) I told him to just leave me alone and not rush me into his plans..... What is he even up to? Only God knows jare

Infact, the whole thing tire me......

Hmmmmm... Who is he planning to bring in Let it not be what am thinking. You need to watch it, seriously.

@Godmystrength, its really sad dis is happening to u, but thank God your hubby is a good man, and the maid too, good. But then don't take in all the goodness and overlook the obvious warning signs. True its not your fault, just like hubby said, probably he doesn't want to hurt you further by adding 'insalt' to the already hurting injury.

First and foremost, after speaking with the lady, work towards letting her go. Yes oo, let her go, allowing her stay is like keeping fish and rat in the same room and believing that nothing will happen. Dem fit do the do tomorrow, and this time nobody will inform or confess to you cos they've already put you in a comfy situation where you'll have no reason to suspect anything.
Get another nanny if possible a much older and preferably ugly and old school type, but neat.
Pay more attention to hubby, call him often (though I understand the nature of your job as per calls) start using the loo frequently
to allow you time to call/sms him. (Not that it will stop him from cheating if he wants to) but at least heaven will bear you witness that you were alwaysz there for him, plus he'll have no excuse to justify his actions.
You've always been supportive, do not relent, if you can, help him achieve his heart desires, show more interest and commitment in his quest for business, even if you don't have the financial muscle yet, encourage him and make him understand and believe you are ready to stand by him.
Does he have any skill(s)? If yes, is it something that he can start doing to fetch him some change or at least keep him busy. If no, will he be willing to learn one, that way at least, he can get his mind of petty tinz.
Finally, don't be too hard on urself /hubby, sh1t happens everyday, and dats why we are here to clean them up.
I hope my little advice helps :'
Sooorrrry swts

Kunbee:



People like her get married, change and fall in love, most of the time. Only if she has a heart of stone

Very true.

hoynlorlar: @op,u ar doing a great job here.I read frm page1-5 buh I nid to write moi story too.Am frm a nuclear family and d only girl.I got married just last year december.lemme cut the long story short.my inlaws ar great..dey ar gud to do call.Even my mil is d best 4 now cos changes is d most constant tin in life.
My husband on d oda side is moi problem...wen we were dating,he was d best buh just four month after our marriage he started dis temper tin which I dont undastd...any small tin he flares up..to the point dt he beat me up just four month afta d wedding(I was 7 month pregnant wen I married)I called his mother n my mother and told dem abt wat appened..dey adviced us and talk to him..I hate wat he dd to me buh I ddnt av choice dan to forgive(marriage is far diff frm relationshp).To wat happened.
Just last week,he was off duty...in d nite i cooked beans..d beans was done buh I wanted it to b more thick buh he insisted dt I serve him like dt...so I dd n took d food to him witout putting tray so immediately I saw dt nepa av brought lite plus d beans is still on fire and I av to off d gen too.i was stretching d food to him(d dish was hot too..it was burning moi hand)he ddnt collect it said I shud put tray..i was so pissed so I shouted take den put it on d floor..immediately(moi cousin which is wit us just for visiting o) she ran to take d tray n I went to switch off d gen n change to nepa..afta all dis moi wahala he ddnt eat d food dt nite o..i was so embarrased in frnt of moi cousin.Days afta,it was in d evening,i sent moi cousin to buy tinx 4 me..I was asking im abt our money allowance n he flared up..i flared up too den he said I shud shut up n nt talk..den I talked..he just came near me n started hitting me.i now said I wee call his mother n report him.immediately he collected moi BlackBerry forcefully n said he wee smash it on d floor..i begged n den he took my small nokia and smashed it on d floor..immediately I arranged d scattered fone n on it but d fone ddnt on..den I kept quiet.The next day,i gave im d fone to repair..he was still moody,he ddnt collect it n ddnt repair...to cut moi long story short..i cooked dt same day he ddnt eat.
I know dt all dis is nt normal...wat do u tink I shud do?wu do u tink I shud report to?am so tired of everytin amd I dnt want dis to continue.Candid advice frm nt only married buh matured pple pls.

Your marriage is still very young to be experiencing such situation, but then again, crises in marriage can start as early as on the wedding night.

First, don't go reporting to anyone again, he may not like it. Thank God you dated him and he was not like this, so definately something snapped in him. The reality of being married and now a father (sure your baby has arrived) may have jolted him into a sad reality. Its not everyone (men especially) that reacts positively to such things immediately, to some it takes a long time to really sink down, that yes am now married and a father, to others they welcome it with a lot of love for the baby and the mother
Sadly it seems ur hussy fall into the first category.
What do you do?
Please take it easy on him, show him a lot of love and respect, don't snap back when he snaps or is acting up. His friends may have told him that marriage is a prison and women nags the life out of the man, those things will kip replaying in his subconscious mind, and it will make him to keep looking out for where you talk back at him or challenge him (intentionally or unintentionally). You need to start massaging his ego.

For the beating, I don't subscribe to abuse (physical or verba). They say real men don't beat women. No matter how much you push him he was suppose to apply restraint. But where he has failed to do so, u need to change your strategy. I'll tell you a story that my momma told me about a woman whose husband always beat.

A particular woman went to seek help from a native doctor to make the husband desist from beating her all the time. After listening to her story, the native doctor gave her a concoction in a bottle and told her that anytime the man starts acting up, she should put the concoction in her mouth and should not swallow or spit it out until the man is calm. He told her to try it for one week and see if the man will beat her. After one week she went back to the native doctor very happy and told the man that the 'juju' is wonderful, that the husband never touched her again, infact he was surprised at her change of attitude. She demanded one gallon of the 'juju' from the native doctor to continue using on the husband. The native doctor told her there was nothing like 'juju' in the bottle, that it was ordinary water he gave to her, he told her to go back home and learn how to keep quiet when the hubby starts acting up.

In essence, from your post its obvious you talk back to him and probably challenge him when he's talking, about the beans issue, if you had politely told him to please hold the food while you get the tray, or apologise and go put the food in the tray am not sure he wolud have abandoned the food. Plus the fact that your cousin was there, he'll feel that you are disrespecting him in the presence of your cousin. Learn to be more matured and diplomatic in handling issues with him, and pls stop telling him you'll report him to anybody, cos you are actually making him feel like a boy that cannot handle his affairs.

If you've done everything internally and its not working, then you'll need to involve a third party but for now, work on yourself and your relationship with him. So that whatever negative opinion he has formed about marriage generally and you in particular will gradually fade away.

I wish you the best in your marriage.

@Godmystrength. Happy anniv. May you continue to experience peace, love, unity and understanding in your marriage. Wishing you many happy and fruitful anniv in yrs to come.
Cheers!

Abeg PM my own cake and ice cream oo

boynoel:

Her comment was one that "threw a great jab at me while I was down". I wouldn't want to state it as thinking about it though now that she has explained herself doesn't affect me that much anymore however, I just least expected her to say such.

OP, the truth is that you are not ready (yet) to forgive your girl, people have given you wonderful and awesome advice here, but the bulk of the work lies with you.

The folks that made this adagge "a problem shared is a problem (half) solved, were very wise.

Your unwillingness to say what she did or say to you will continue to make you harbour great resentment in your mind against her, and the inability to genuinely forgive.

Am sure that besides the two of you, no other person knows whatever it was she said to you, you carry the burden in your heart all alone yet you are looking for solution.

God knows we are all sinners, it will be very easy for Him to forgive us all, yet HE said, if we confess our sins, He is willing to forgive and heal our land. What am I saying? If you actually want a solution, spill out out whatever she said to you either to a counsellor or anyother nuetral person, this will unburden your heart and make you feel very light and disposed to forgiveness. To forget is more difficult, but time (and love) heals all wound.

I'll equally advice you to loosen up a bit, you may feel that your parents contributed to your over-sensitivity and uptightness, but that's your personality. You'll have to learn to let go of issues easily. Life is too short for enjoyment, don't add resentment to it.

I wish you the best.

The truth is that you ca never pls everybody no matter how hard you try. Just imagine the following:
1) You try to communucate with hussy (whether in a soft, romantic or harsh tone) they call it nagging so long as you are pointing out that issue they don't want to hear.

2) You try to keep quiet, mind your business and take things the way they are, they say you are dangerous and unpredictable.

3) You try to be familiar and nice around friends and relatives, they say you too do, busy body, always pretending to be nice.

4) You try to be straight and stop the overfamiliarity stuffs, they tag you a snob and too full of him/herself.

5) You decide to just be yourself, there's always something wrong with being yourself, if you are blunt and principled about things, then automatically you are arrogant, if you agree to every terms and conditions then you are mr/mrs follow follow, you don't have a mind of your own.

The bottom line is do what is pleasing in the eyes of God first, cos I beleve that if one pleases God, it is expected that by virtue of that you have equally pleased men, but most times the reverse is the case, cos men have higher expectation of theier fellow men than God has for us all. If God should start paying everybody back according to their iniquities, no man (including me) will stand.

Be just, be kind. Live one day at a time. Challenges will always come, but Gods grace will be most sufficient for us to overcome challenges. Where you need to speak out, do so in love, tempers may rise, you may be misunderstood, yes, but at least you were able to make the other person understand your grievances, at the end, you'll both understand each other better. The ones you cannot speak out for the fear of being labelled a bad man/woman, take it to God in prayers, I believe one day everything will come out in the open and you'll be justified as long as you are on the side of truth, equity and justice.

Good morning all. And may we have a beautiful day and a peaceful week.

Gracias!

U need to see where me and hussy dey do the farting tin you go bow
But why shdnt I fart in his presence

Its so much fun for us oo. Infact if he annoys me I threaten him with fart
Na him go dey beg.

Pls if you can't fart in his/her presence then you guyz have not gotten there yet.

Hmmm... How do I tolerate a cheating and uncaring husband? How do I live/survive in a loveless marriage? I don't wanna imagine that cos I know I won't wait for NL advice before bailing myself out, I will so run away from that man that he'll never set his eyez on me again or his kids. That's how vindictive I can be. Gawd! I hate cheating!!!
@diegs, pls save yourself a lot of troubles and heartache and leave that man, maybe temporarily, go back to ur father as a prodigal daughter just like hispinkolo suggested, am certain that no matter how angry he is/was with you, he can't wish you away just like that, you will be safer with your people than with your hubby, cos he is obviously neck-deep into adultery and he doesn't give a hoot about how you feel. DEPRESSION KILLS FASTER THAN AIDS. Am sure you don't wanna die, at least not yet. So do urself some good and tow the right lane. As for your hubby, pray that he doesn't get too late for him to retrace his steps, but if it does, let him carry his cross alone. For the ex you have no business whatsoever with her. Shebi she go marry one day. Karma for her, datz all.
Work on getting your sanity and self esteem back, when you know and appreciate your self worth, you'll understand that your happiness and existence does not need to depend on anybody not even your husband.
*Above all, pray, pray and pray until the heavens open up and spits fire on your behalf*

I wish you the best.

@nwababy I'll only pray for you, that any Goliath standing in the way of your happiness (in MFM voice) fall and die IJN.
Please tell your friend to shine her eyez well well before saying 'I DO'. Marriage no be manage oo. Its better to delay and make a wise and good choice than to rush and regret later, except she wants to jump in and jumpp out at d same time.

Am already done with child bearing and am grateful for what God blessed me with. 2boys and a girl.

Godmystrength: hello house. you all have a wonderful weekend. it's my birthday today

Happy(belated) bday dear. More of Gods grace nd blessings to u. Hope u had fun

May I never have any reason to cheat on my hussy or even consider the OPs suggestion IJN, Amen. *runs out of thread*

Yeah I think its normal for people(especially the older generation) and some of the younger generation to ask that question. I used to think that way too, that was years back. Reason is that these people believe that a married woman should:

1) Have Fat arms (you know the type they call 'christian mother')

2) Have Flabby protruded tommy . A mark to inform other women (and men) that you have dozen(s) of kids at home

3) Have big rounded bottom (not the sexy type oo). The ones that have seen better dayz that even without movement they are dancing skelewu on their own

4) Have bosoms that are always head down in worship to the gods

5) Have the xtra body weight to show that hubby is really taking good care of her. (One of the ways to know a good and caring husband those days)

6) To crown it all should always be on two wrappers and blouse, iro and buba, veils etc. Even when they want to wear casuals it must be a maxi gown, maxi skirt and loose top, thread hair, didi , jerry curl or perming .

So my dear count yourself lucky to be asked that question. So many ladies will do anything to get such question from people.
If people start to refer to you as madam even without seeing the ring, know its time to hit the gym and change your wardrobe.

Keep fit and keep looking chicky. It pays

Godmystrength:
@snazzylove
i have completed my story for now o. It is somewhere up in the thread

Ok I get d gist. What does the guy want sef? For you 2 leave your hubby and then he leaves his wife, then be joined together in ...matrimony? (Fill d blank space for me abeg) I can't stop laffing.

I can't believe this is happening. Fight? On our safe and comfort zone? Pls pls pls, this is not welcomed at all.
Meanwhile where is pickabeau1(abi how dem dey spell dat ur monicker, no vex abeg) pls make sure you dish out the appropriate sanction to those derailing the thread.

But seriously! Ladies we shouldn't fight ourselves here, let's try as much as we can to respect each others opinion. @aisha2 and fynbabe, you two should be friends you know . So pls let's bury the axe and move on.

@godmystrenght come and finish the tory abeg.

@everyone, one love!

Godmystrength: I don't have time for in-laws palava so i have learnt to mind my own business. if i feel offended/hurt by any of my in-laws,i just let my hubby know and i end it there. I won't even refer to it a second time and i care less if he takes action or not. My telling him is just that i don't want to die in silence and also let him know in advance of why i might not be able to go out of my way for someone/somebody.

If you hurt /offend me and i know that my speaking out will cause more harm than good, i keep my mouth shut and be more careful around you.....

You are right. Whatever I need to voice out I tell my hussy, he knows which to confront the person about and which not to. Somtimes I stop him from confronting anyone especially if its the one that will bring long talks and calling for meetings, moreso if he did not winess d said episode.
My silence is doing me more good than harm. At least none of them will accuse me of talking to them anyhow or disrespecting them.

Gaggi: There are people like that. They please everyone except their own. Little or nothing u can do. It's their nature.

True.

@aisha2, just like hispinkolo and mamateniola1 have rightly said, some battles are better won with silence. Not everyone appreciates confrontation(coming to tell them how they hurt u blah, blah, blah) immediately you do that, its like rupturing a full blown baloon and nothing you say or do again can ever set things right or the way they used to be. (Especially with our dear in-laws). I have been there and back, the ideal thing is, study the people you are dealing with and know how best to relate with them. If silence will do the magic for you, then get a big mouth zip and padlock and zip up, however if its talking that will do it good and fine. Whatever works for you .

Godmystrength:

That is why i try as much as possible not to put my partner in a situation where he will be tested....

Exactly. You cannot beat a child and ask him/her not to cry.

egopersonified: To each his own.
End of discussion.
Thread closed.

Seconded

Godmystrength: snazzybabe cool down jere

Na opinion we dey share oo. No hard feelings .
How u dey? And family?

Babymama1:

With this mindset,you will leave as a corpse if you married an abusive man

Please no woman should think of doing the above

...And read my post again, I said if am very certain my hussy is not the abusive type.

I can't remember asking or telling anywoman to do whatever I wish to do.
And am still entitled to my opinion and how I choose to handle my marriage.

bafm: Evening evrybody,pls a̶̲̥̅♏ confuse n ℓ̊ dnt knw who τ̅☺ talk τ̅☺,my mum which was my only friend died dis year soº°˚˚°ºooº°˚˚°ºo a̶̲̥̅♏ all alone,pls ℓ̊ need ÿu̶̲̥̅̊я̩̥̊ advice on something,early today ℓ̊ receive a strange sms dt my hubby is cheating on м̣̣̥̇̊ƺ ,whn ℓ̊ saw d txt my hrt fell inside my tommy,ℓ̊ was sweating seriously cos dis is d first tym ℓ̊'ll be seeing such sms n d lady mentioned his name,ℓ̊ left d church,went straight τ̅☺ d house n showed him d sms. He said,it a lie dt he's nt cheating on м̣̣̥̇̊ƺ..pls my mind isn't settled at all..ℓ̊ dnt knw wat τ̅☺ do..

Sorry about your late mum.

About ur hubby, were you expecting him to accept that he's cheating on you even if he is?
Mistake no 1.
Next time don't be quick to confront him on such things, if he is actually cheating on you, he'll be more careful and discreet about it now.
If I were you, I won't sweep the txt msg under the carpet, time to investigate and snoop (secretly). I hate cheating, seriously.

@carefreewannabe, read my post again. No, alcohol is not an excuse.
@kreamidiva, am talking about a husband here not some boyfriend or fiance. And NO again, I will not walk out on my hussy cos he hit me once. If you go thru my post again, I s said if am sure my hussy is not d abusive type. For instance if in a 7yrs old marriage hussy just hit you once, so instead of finding out what led to that you pack your bags and go? No, I will not do that.