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Bury his ass and the wedding ring with it. I'll be glad to be rid of the cheating fool and in the eyes of God and the la, I'm free og him.

It does sound like a Nollywood production I have seen before though,

Sho!!! O ga o!

Spader, no, London. But next party, if you're in town, you're invited.

For most people in that industry, it is just a job, they don't take it personally. Yes, there have been cases of people meeting on set and hitting it off, but won't these people have hit it off regardless of where they met?

Babanla nonsense. I challenge you to come to any part thrown by myself or my friends. Finger-lickin' good food every time!!

I think people are assuming he guy did nothing wrong.  In my case, we stopped fighting when he began to understand me and in return I began to understand him. This our naija culture of 'the woman must take anything' is absolute pants! ALL marriages go through problems, arguments come when people refuse to see their part in it. Chikena!

Sounds like he does not listen to her. He should try addressing her concerns.

Do YOU cheat CrudeOil?

There are some therapists out there that can help you in this situation.

Let me take a wild stab in the dark here, is it that there is just sex and no lovemaking/pre-intimacy? Girl, there are ways to make the dude please you and not just himself. Men, being of fragile egos are not best pleased when we women are direct with such issues, so why not 'show' him what you like and where you want to be touched? The next time he gets 'in the mood' you can say something like:

"Honey, I'm feeling a bit tired right now, but if you massage my shoulder to help me wind down and relax I can attend to you later." I can bet money the man will do anything to relax you. Just make sure that you deliver on the promise, he will hold you to that.

If you are shy, just put his hand where turns you on and say something like, "That feels soooo good" and trust me, the man will do it. You are husband and wife, you have nothing to hide from each other.

Good luck.

I can't judge you, but what I will say is:

Why did you cheat in the first place? You need to address this issue as soon as possible. This is a HUGE DEAL.

The best you can do is confess to him, tell him you regret your action and how sorry you are for what you have done. You just have to leave it to him to decide where to go, but you might want to re-iterate that it was not your intention to hurt him and you don't plan on doing this again (please DO NOT).

Good luck, I hope you can find a way to work through this. If not, LEARN form this mistake.

Men!!!!

There are no rights or wrong Fhemmy, just two people who need to learn how to work with each other. We do it with our friends, family and at work, why not with our spouses?

It happened to me, we worked it out, now we're happy, only because we leant HOW to work it out. Otherwise, quit and then what do you do if the same situation arises again? Maybe there is something about YOU that needs to change?

He'll grow out of it.

Well, you can quit, but you will keep quitting because at the smallest sign of a problem, you will leg it. This is not a problem they can't solve,other people have, so why can't they? I would rather be married than be moving fromm man to man, competing with much younger girls and playing petty games.

All I'm saying is ALL marriages have similar problems, those that claim to be happy have experienced this at some point or the other.What they have learnt is how to deal with each other and stop being selfish, learning to Give rather than expecting to RECEIVE all the time. You only put into it what you get it. anyone who tells you this isn't the cas is LYING.

Well done!!

Oghenebiko!

Wait for the right person.

Let me take a wild guess, is she form a rich family with very critical parents? Bear in mind that this background forms part of her personality. That may be where the talks about establishing businesses and spending money comes from. They must have set unreasonably high standards for themselves in that family. It will take TIME for her to come round to your way of thinking.

YOU also have work to do in prayer. Buy the power of a praying husband.

Buy the book the 5 love languages from Amazon or wherever you can get it. It will help you understand your spouse better.

Secondly, you may have to be the bigger person and show her as much love in return as you would like to receive. Love is GIVE AND TAKE.

Thirdly, do you love this woman? Do you want the marriage to work? I've got news for you ALL marriages go through this stage. There is NO SUCH THING as 'a woman who won't give me headache' we ALL do at some point.

Have a heart-to-heart talk with her and ask her what you have done that is so upsetting. There is more to it than meets the eye.

You will need MEGA prayer, patience and maturity.

I am qualified to give this advice becuase the first 10 years of my marriage were like this and these are the steps that helped us.

Married 15 years this year, I won't be with any other person despite it all.

IT IS WELL.

I'm assuming you REALLY love your spouse and don't want to do anything to hurt them. Will you realistically see a person THAT attractive every day? I don't think so.

No you won't kill the person because this is an occasional happening.

No itnis not. Why should her parents be neglected because she is married?

Help them through UPCINN, www.upcinn.com.

Why did I marry my then unemployed husband and stay with him for 15 years while he got a job and eventually rose in the ranks in his company? When you men learn to treat each woman as an individual you will have better experiences with women. Chickena!

The best advice my mum gave me is this:
You married someone that was 70, 80 or 90% perfect., The 30,20 and 10% are their faults. Don't turn the 20,30 or 10 into 70,80 and 90. You are not perfect yourself.

lol @ ayobase

I know that a mother who really loves her child will not spoil his home.

Yes it is, why?

Yes and I don't plan to interfere in my son's marriage and make a young lady that is so keen to please me unhappy. I have an education and have made my retirement plans. My son's wife comes first. If my husband dies, he can help out, but not at the expense of his family. I don't want any yeye insult form any young girl.

Your mother has a husband and her own. You have a wife and your home. Your mother coming first is disobeying God's law because you are not married to her, that is her husband's job. You are not her husband.

Do you object to new people participating in forums? Did the poster complain about my post?