logiktech:
Foolish human being. Wonder how your daughter will feel later realizing you jailed her mom. You arrested her then bail her later!! Very foolish and waste of time and money. Ode

I pray it happens to you so that you also feels what the op is feeling

mens83:
If your story is true, on what ground do you want to divorce her?
What evil did she do that is unforgivable according to you?
Yes she might not have told you but that does not mean she is bad wife. The trauma and shock is enough to emotionally damage her. She may have wanted to deal with it as family matter.
Now you know apply wisdom not locking her up and seeking divorce.
Mind you any woman you marry will never cherish and protect that your daughter if not worsen her case.
You said she lost weight. Now read in between lines and see that the rape issue was the reason. Don't add more fuel to the fire.
You can deal with the boy but be careful and mindful of more emotional trauma upon your wife.
That heart though and forge ahead with life.

By not informing him and to make the matter worse, the op got to know about the ordeal from someone not related to the family. The wife ought to have informed the pastor to help discuss this issue in due course.

oteneaaron:
So according to this Visa, BAT was born 1952.

I thought the DOB he submitted to INEC was 1954?

Isn't that illegal?

Which one should we follow?

1952 or 1954?

He was born in 1952 and he never submitted 1954 to the INEC

You can confirm this on INEC website
https://inecnigeria.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Final-List-of-Candidates-for-National-Elections-1.pdf

alizma:

Your approach is good but you can't take him directly to South Africa, you need passport for him. But you can arrange the movement with someone in passport official in Ghana or Benin republic, hang around till the boy is sent on an errand, pick him straight to the nearest airport, then to Lagos, from their, enter Benin or Ghana by road. From their you can arrange your movement to South Africa, eliminate anything, such as processing passport for him that will delay the movement in Nigeria. So you need to move out of Nigeria within the first two days you have physical contact with the boy.

Don't follow this advice. All else you will end up jeopardizing d good chance of getting d kid legally. Kidnapping is a serious crime

Her type is the one that spend half of her day on social media and watching African magic. They contribute nothing to the development of the family and have this entitlement mentality. Very soon she will start taking correction as disrespect. Don't be surprised she may be having extra marital affair. For more than one year now I have been chatting up with my fiancée anonymously with a fake name. I can confirm to you that most of the ladies see marriage as escape route to poverty.

BATified2023:
Situation like this is very daisy because she might have seen some signs in u when u are comfortable

She might have noticed the way u act or treat her when u were a bit comfortable n think u will treat her bad when u finally hit d bag

Or probably out of annoyance u might have said some words that hurt her badly n she’s still holding on to it to punish u

This is the solution

It’s crystal clear there is a spiritual undertone to your predicament n the 2 people can’t b wrong to demand for your wife,the thing is irrespective of what u are going through try to b nice to her always

Try to always make her happy then once she sees u as a conquered man,in d middle of d night someday just have an heart to heart discussion with her n beg her deeply

Try to apologize for all the things that have gone wrong n things she can’t even say then tell her to pray for u

Do this n I tell u things will change

Just see her as your cross

Women are manipulative. Begging her for the success of the family will not be a lasting solution. I would have suggest they both part ways but since they have kid together, it will be very difficult.

How old are you ma?

dominique:
How he got to the pool is what people are curious about. Why are the police not saying anything about surveillance footage of the house? Does it mean that Davido did not have functioning CCTV cameras in his house and he left his son alone with strangers? That's carelessness of the highest degree.

I know what all of you want to see is the CCTV. You are addicted to watching African magic. Let d police do their job and stop beating round the bush. Such footage are not supposed to be reveal in public. Already they told you two people are still in detention.

Who is Godmother?.

You will not understand this until you travel outside the country. The west has painted and tarnished the Nigerian image. Sometimes you don't even get the chance to express yourself before being condemned as a foreigner. The worst part is that Nigerians don't stand for themselves in a foreign country. The only time you get to see Nigerians being closed is when they need help. When foreigners ask me about rampant crime in Nigeria, I always tell them crime is a global thing. It now depends on how you choose to see it.

Stargangz:
Don Jazzy is a total failure, so her mama no live to see her kids? Anyway, R.I.P Mama Ajereh.

Better than a living failure like you.

I'm actually your class mate. Same school, same faculty but different department (Chemical Engineering). I wish you all the best

Okealaaye:


Funke is NOT an idiot and the governorship candidate too doesn't appear like an idiot! Funke is a Lawyer if you don't know. It is wrong to call someone who's generally believed to be LEARNED an idiot. If the politicians had given thought to the recruitment process, Funke and Jandor would have been considered a bam. It is only a sound mind that could have created the Jennifer Television persona! It thus appears that someone else is the Idiot here. I'm not a politician though. May God punish ALL of them.

A lawyer that cannot defend her marriage. Saraki too is medical doctor. Do you think he still remember how to use even a stethoscope

Pentecostal and their delusional believe

This is part of the reason most foreign countries don't think something positive when their citizens meet a Nigerian. Imagine a deputy senate president involve in such crime

A whole deputy senate president of a country

LienwaltAbel:
US that it's citizens are complaining about from now till tomorrow. The same US that is riddled with homelessness, gun violence and all sorts of rubbish. If you wan Japa better go to Finland or the Netherlands.

Finland that shares border with Russia

SonofLothbrok:


We have been hearing this your gospel for years.

A wise man once said. "When enough people make false promises, words stop meaning anything. Then there are no more answers - only better and better lies."

You are a shallow thinker. People like you will keep on complain until you enter your grave. You want better life but you keep on complaining without taking any step

Ready100:


he actually left to fight

Was he a soldier in Nigeria military before he left because I am not sure a civilian will take arm and want to go and fight in an another country

melonsgroup:
And another nairalander follows

Congratulations sir. I recently met you at the Nigeria embassy in Vienna

olola4:
I have been banned more than 10 times on WhatsApp, in fact, there was a time last month that I was banned almost 5 times within the space of two days and I was still able to get my account back.

Immediately they ban my account I know what to do and sometimes within 30min, my account is unbanned and we move.

Maybe you are being reported by people. Probably you are one of those guy sending messages about fake offers to random people

Kellzzyy:
Whatever you do, don't submit to blackmail.
I'd advice you to call her bluff and be prepared to withstand whatever storm that comes.

One thing is certain, if you are clever, smart and intelligent, you'd get through it.
Don't ever act with emotions. Make sure all your actions, including your chats with her, are calculated and intentional. With that, you'll easily change the narrative.

Sorry this happened to you bro. Learn and don't fall for such next time.
Most Nigerian women are useless.

It is very likely that she will request money and threaten to expose him. This is very common nowadays and that is the reason why a man should have self-control

mainkendo:
This same stuff happened to me. When you see such things unfolding next time . Just walk her out. And next time she chats you up, be blunt with words and do not sugar coat words

Both of them know initially what they want to do. It is just that the lady wants to outsmart him. She baited him and he fell for it. Somebody told you he is bored and wants to talk, but next thing, you have already arranged to come and visit him. That did not end up there, they both started illicit and profane gestures.

ignis:
Oga, you sounded like an unapologetic rapist in your post.

Rape involve any form of forceful penetration, if you like use finger or cassava.
You don't know that stripping and fingering a girl without her consent is rape?

Secondly because a lady comes to your house and sits on your lap does not mean she wants sex.

Learn how to control your John Thomas.

It is like craze dey worry you. Didn't you read the part when the lady was seducing him?

I do not know while people are always eager to turn narrative to suit their interests. Even though I am not in support of sacking these guys but what they have done is totally wrong. When they take up the job they have a job agreement and other documents that specifically states all their roles and responsibilities. Is entertaining guests by dancing part of their duty?. If they want to add that to their roles, did they inform their employees? It is just like a bank teller that wants to authorise a transaction that supposes to be done by the manager. If a thief run to the chicken republic and steal customers' phones, I know you people will be condemning Chicken republic for employing dancers as security men. Anger and frustration are really turning people's mind around.

DelCrux:
Hi, guys new to the forum..
Currently processing admission to Vsb in Czechia, please I need clarification please don't mind how silly it may sound.
1.can I travel with my family once given admission to study Civil engineering

2. The school fee is 3000 Euros per yr what is the minimum amount needed for family.

3. Can my wife work once we get there.

Would be grateful if we'll answered..

Thanks in anticipation

It is better to direct this question to the international office in the school you are going. From what I know, you will need to provide a bulk deposit of not less than 300k CZK, accommodation contract (depending on age, 53k CZK if both of you are above 30 yr) of 1 year for 2 bedroom flat. One year insurance for you and your wife. A budget of around 500k CZK will be enough for this apart from your tuition. all visa types are allowed to work in Czech, so I think your wife can work if you are successful. I wish you all the best.

Education is important but you need to match it up with good skills which can be acquired and perfected in your quest to get an education

flemsy15:
I don't know his whole story but with a PhD, he should not find it too difficult getting a lecturing job (if he wants to lecture) with all these private higher institutions springing up.

That is not true bro. I have two of my colleagues that graduated with PhD in Chemical Engineering still looking for jobs for two years now. Recently, one of them told me about getting a 20k teaching job in a private secondary school. A lot is happening in the country

What exactly are wrong with ladies of this generation. Why is that you quickly lust over material things. Are you a dog?. Your sister married someone and they separated and you are thinking now of accepting his proposal because the guy is buying you things. On a normal ground, that man should not even be seen 50 meters close your compound, which make me wonder if you really have elders in your family. I won't be surprise if you have been sleeping with that man.
Many of you see your private part as a means of survival or means of elevating your status. You have a futile dream and that is the reason when you get used and dump, you end up calling men a scum. I wonder who is a scum now.

He's telling a fat lie. Maybe he want them to give money. Igbo I know in my Catholic church will donate anything to the house of God

post=108790281:

If it is that free, we think we should share it for others here, that are also interested.
What happens on Nairaland stay on Nairaland.

We Rise

So that you can start spamming the group with open heaven prayer every morning

TMKsouth:
Malawi infects Israel - no South African connection.

Egypt infects Belgium - no South African connection.

Nigeria infects Canada - no South African connection.

This thing's been circulating in unvaccinated parts of Africa because people here can't or don't want to vaccinate.

Anti-vaxers, come see your dirty work o. Soon Nigeria will be banned by half the planet as well.

People with full vaccination are getting infected. The vaccine will reduce the level of complications, but it doesn't fully protect you from being infected.