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franchasofficia:
Hehe, this life no balance oh, look at me a beautiful damsel, tall, fine face, have slim body, flat tummy with killer hips and ass and a good job yet no reasonable guy is asking me out with seriousness, but here you are a single mother of 2 turning down a caring, rich, loving, soon to be king man, hahahaha life e no balance walai, ire oh

And because you don’t have kids you think you deserve better than I do? Lol. Because every single mother is fat, shapeless and jobless abi Lol

I mean, he worked hard to become rich so he’s not stupid. So ask yourself what he is seeing, why e wan die on too my matter. Ire oh

DonBenny77:
You and the man are a bunch of lowlives.... Yuck!
The kind of foolery people share online these days sef, you should have told us how you ended up a single mother of 2

No, I don’t need to tell you anything but your unfortunate mother needs to tell us how she ended up with a brainless mofo like you. Poor woman

Omoawoke2:
A single mother of 2 in early 30s still looking for six packs, fine boy

Lmao, wetin musa no go see for gate

Madam, you yourself, don’t you know your market value don crash, the man is taking lots of sacrifice to marry you when many single hot babes whey never born dey outside ! Lol

You are funny, oya clap for yourself.

jeromestarks:
I don't blame you. I blame the foolish man. How can a foolish man like him become a king?
Which kingdom please?
I want to know the people that idiot who can not dump your stupid ass and find a very sensible woman wants to rule over.
Mtchewww !
Something he should have moved on away from a wasted single mother. Nonsense!

Lol, who hurt you?

Discreet90:
Why are you not considering that be may just want to chop and clean mouth. The way you believed his story is funny. One of men's anthem is that I want you to have my baby so as to get sex. What if oga himself is the one with fertility issues. Not everything is straight forward

Sure, there is that possibility too but I think he’s serious…I mean, I was not born yesterday, wetin we never hear.

Lamanii22:
What about surrogacy? Can’t the man and his wife do that?

Same question I asked. He said the wife said No and made a statement that infuriated him, made him feel stupid for trying to help her find solutions all these while. So he made up his mind to get a child elsewhere cos he’s not getting any younger. I don’t want to share the statement she made online, it would be giving too much away…

jayred:
If you are tired of staying alone I understand the fact that your children need a father figure to rn their lives and you also need a man in your life but it shouldn't be someone else's husband for crying out loud, he is nice he is this, my dear they are nice and generous and all that u want in a single man or divorced man, you are demeaning yourself to be a second wife to a man, put yourself in the shoes of the man's wife, how would you feel? My candid opinion leave him alone and in due time your own man will find you.

You are right. My siblings don’t even want to hear about it, we are pretty conservative. But I have some friends telling me to go for it, so I decided to put it out here to hear opinions from different perspectives.

cocolacec:
Did you speak to the wife personally or he told you so?
Men lie a lot about these things.Try to befriend the wife without disclosing who you are.

True but since I have no plans to do anything with him, let that be their family problem.

Justbehave:
After 2 dey fine tall young man. Only a SIMPLE tall and young ediot will marry you.You were busy fucking another woman's husband as a side chick. Women!!!. Una hypochrisy stinks.

I’m not going to spare your senselessness. Omo ale I’m, goat that can’t raise his face to speak to me if we meet physically, na online una dey get power. When your mother is busy sleeping around, so you think every lady is like that.

OMEGA009:
So basically, you’re a side hen and you’re asking for our validation? Abeg, either you do or you no do. The choice is yours

Ndi “Women supporting women”

Don’t you have to be dating the person to be a side chick?? Make una dey read well o

BePrepared:
I like your humor

But to be sincere u seem a foolish person

First he is a Muslim

...second wife

Oponu

crismark:
Audio doing well

I can feed your whole family for a year with what I make in a month, akushe

BabaIbo:
What is your tribe?

Yoruba

Dshocker:
Where is your baby daddy?

Ex-husband, remarried.

chukel:
how did you end up as a single mother of 2

Got married straight out of school, divorced 5 years later.

My friend’s WhatsApp has been hijacked, now they asking her friends for 120k loan. I don’t know how she fell for it.

IconicR:
It counts but I'll never give physical attributes a big deal when taking life decisions, my happiness matters alot to me. I'll not advise you to accept him going by all you wrote but I hope you don't regret it later in life. Again is his wife aware he's considering taking a second wife? Are you guys Muslims?

They are Muslims, I'm not.

MICVOCT:
<smile>
I am not that sure you wouldn't marry him.
However, having succinctly read your write-up, <least twice>.....
In my own interest as demanded to contribute; here's my contribution, marry him.

Side note; Both of you aren't that different. Perhaps, that relationship is gonna pay you most for some obvious reasons......


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Lol, i dont think so. The package is juicy (promise of landed property and a lot more) but the main subject...physical attraction is very important for me. I love money and the good life but genuinely wanting my partner is also a big deal for me.

Came back to visit this thread and again I appreciate all the very sensible contributions. I still dey Naija o, my visiting visa was not granted so no vacay for now. I intend to try again next month. Good news though, I got a band 8 in my IELTS with zero prep , na God run am for me Lol.
I was busy with work and I forgot I had a test to write until a few days to the exam. For now, we are here, surviving Nigeria.

A tip about sponsored ads, if you are not ready to spend at least 5k per day, you are not ready for business o.

Exmilitant:
Even second hand you get choice
This life na wa o.

You saw the sensible contributions part and you still went ahead, your second hand mum didnt try at all.

Whyzaid:
Just considering your safety, what if the wife gets to know about your affair with her husband and tries to terminate your life untimely. Regardless follow your mind my sister and prepare your mind for the consequences

You are partially right. The wife is aware her husband is taking a second wife, they agreed to it because she medically can't have kids. But we know how these things work, no woman wants to see her husband take a second wife. So as with many polygamous homes you have to be watching your back...another con.

Whyzaid:
Abeg face your children please, what are you looking for again since you're doing well financially?

I've been on my own since I was 27, so I'm supposed to live the rest of my life alone When I didn't kill anybody

I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.

I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.

He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.

My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that.
I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....

I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...

No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks

Bradford111:
Hello everyone need your input on this

I’m in a Friends with benefits relationship with a young lady for like a month now is been a smooth ride but have been noticing she gets jealous when I talk about having something to do with other girls

Now here is her younger sister who I think is crushing on me last time at a party we both attended with my FWB she was dancing in front of me to impress me

I feel like bleeping the sister am having the urge to do so but haven’t made the move yet..,,,

I feel her elder sister( my friend with benefits) will get to hear about the escapade but then again I’m having the urge to do so cuz her younger sister is so hot


Please what would you do if your in my shoes?

Even with FWB, you suppose still get boundaries. Stay away from her sister, there are plenty girl out there hotter than her. Abi dem use the family swear for you??

I'm more concerned about your eardrum, everything else is replaceable. Please seek medical help before it's too late. It's too early to lose hearing in one ear over a girl biko.

Moved to family section

What do I pick here please? I don't want to make a mistake.

AmNuhRegular:
Finefunky is really cashing out, that's for sure.... Well-done ma'am... I have little to no experience with the japa thingy.. I'd just like to ask the social media platform most of your sales come from

Instagram is the real deal, that's where the buying crowd is. Facebook people respond quickly but with plenty questions and ridiculous requests, shishi you won't see Lol.

EmmanuelAnu:
I never miss Nairaland for a day because of that business , I'm just refreshing my page time to time for her reply, please if you are seeing this ma'am I will be happy if you can recommend a video for the ads and a little enlighten on your business ma'am. God bless you maam

Just search for videos on how to run sponsored ads on YouTube, check the latest ones because Meta is always changing or introducing something. Or better still, pay for a class with any of the sponsored ads coaches on IG like Folakeayaakanni, Mcoded and the rest. Best of luck.

I don't really need it. Like I said before, I applied for it a year ago but it just clicked this year. Just felt like using my certificate and I see it as an avenue to meet young and vibrant people around my age but stress attached is too much. So I'm going to decline the offer.

Sprumbaba:
It is tech now. I have been in tech for 22 years. This is over 22 years of experience.
There are many guys on Nairaland to whom I granted access to A Cloud Guru, Pluralsight, and Udemy account here so that they can study freely.

I thought about sending you a message and I was thinking it might be childish trying to prove a point.

Please recommend non-coding tech courses that are in demand, courses one can study on Udemy.

Thank you all for your inputs, I really appreciate them.

I have decided to go with EE to Canada. I have two degrees, hopefully good IELTS scores (I’m writing the test in about 6 weeks) and the French exam would land me a good CRS score. I also have a sibling who has Canadian PR (for like 2 years now) already but lives in another country (she’s not pressed to move to Canada, she’s doing well where she is). So the plan is for her to move to Canada by next year and I can claim more points for having a relative in Canada, if need be.

For now, I’m going to continue surviving Nigeria, growing my business and going on vacations. So help help me God .

To the people sending private messages, I’m sorry I can’t reply them. The whole point of using a new moniker is to protect my identity and the email address attached to this account has my full government name lol. Please drop your questions here and I would try to answer them as best as I can.

God bless us all in our endeavors.