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Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 11:49am On Jun 16
Amakaoyekachi1:
We were very good, all up till this year, if something had transpired between us would I come to Nairaland to be seeking for advice? I waited for 4months before I came here when a friend advised me to seek opinions on Nairaland, he gave me his supervisor number by himself and some other details which I could use this trying period. When I say family members are not saying anything, the last time I spoke to them which was yesterday they told me to move down to their house( family house), that I should not be worried or overthink anything that my husband is fine, I should just relax. Same thing they told my family but I do relax without been agitated. I won’t do anything bad to him, I just want to see the limit I can push him to make him talk and know what’s in dark, even if it’s a divorce. How do you file a divorce with someone that in incommunicado? Family members will now say I am not a virtuous wife( African mentality) they might even say I have someone I want to runaway with. The only thing his family have been screaming in my ears is to be patient and yesterday they told me to move my load and come and live with them.

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Even though some here weren’t so receptive of your story, I believe you did get some solid advice from those who empathised with you. Sorry you have complicit in-laws. If you accept to move in with them, you’d accept so much more that you wouldn’t like. I hope your family can stand firm to protect you. Like someone here said, it’s not in your power alone to make your marriage work. Don’t let anyone bully you into accepting what you won’t stand for. Hopefully when your husband sees this thread, he can come here to justify how he couldn’t communicate with you - because he’s being held in captivity in Canada, abi?! But until then, your side of the story is what counts.

Keep us posted. Peace.

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Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 5:46pm On Jun 15
amaya21:
Another option is to send to Cairo VO through VFS Cairo. You can contact them here for more info: info.caneg@vfshelpline.com

The problem would still be payment though - you need to figure out how to pay VFS fees in their currency. When I sent mine, the fees were paid through an international wire transfer from an account in the US.


For real? Cairo? Thank you @amaya21. Anyway I was able to get through to my contact in Accra and the fees have been paid.

In this PR journey, budget for miscellaneous cannot be lean.
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 12:52pm On Jun 15
YesLadyN:
Hello House, I’m glad I searched this thread out from google. It seems the majority here have passed through copr stage at least, and perhaps can offer some advice & encouragement because my tired is getting tired undecided
Tomorrow will make it four weeks my passport got to ircc through Accra VAC & up till now no word or update on our express entry profile beyond PPR letter. I’ve sent Accra HC a mail but no response. My spouse who’s inland has called but the agent didn’t have much info. We are CEC and our CPC is Edmonton.
I thought passport stamping doesn’t take this long. Or could something be wrong somewhere? We followed all due processes after PPR. embarassed

Update!
Accra returned my passport on Friday without the stamp undecided

Now, Ircc has given me instructions to send my passport again. Question is, can I send it to Abuja VAC instead? I learnt the passport will go to Nairobi VO. Reason why I’m considering Abuja is that I have not been able to get hold of who’d help me pay in Ghana cedis to Accra VAC.

Pls I’d like to know if the VO I send my passport to matters since I’ve already used Accra before
Travel / Re: Canadian Student Visa Thread Part 19 by YesLadyN: 10:46am On Jun 15
Backcheck:


It goes to Nairobi.

Thats why Abuja is actually faster.

If you send to lagos, vsf lagos sends it to abuja, then from abuja to Nairobi. After stamping all passports return to Abuja, and then to lagos.

Interesting!!!! I wouldn’t have guessed this. Thanks a lot
Travel / Re: Canadian Student Visa Thread Part 19 by YesLadyN: 10:23am On Jun 15
Lianna2020:
If you sending from Lagos to Lagos and did biometrics in Lagos, no fee is required except dhl fee.



If you are sending from Lagos to Abuja , transmission fee of 7430 is required and about 14,000 or thereabout for dhl fee.


If you are not in a hurry , you can use Lagos vfs .
I heard Lagos takes up to 3 weeks of more to return passport while Abuja , the highest is 7 days .

The choice is yours .


Quick question pls: Is the passport stamped in Abuja or it goes to Accra?
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 7:34pm On Jun 05
Amakaoyekachi1:
If reverse was the case and I did this, will you react like this or I was your sister or any of your family members. Marriage not relationship? Please tell me I would like to know how to handle been ghosted maybe it would help me! Thank you

Sis, you deserve better; the least you deserve is a husband who can be upfront & forthright with you regarding his situation over there. You shouldn’t be married to yourself. Yes you can exercise a little bit more patience to see how things play out and gather more evidence, but let no one here advocate in your husband’s behalf. Let him defend himself by reaching out to you. He owes you that as his wife. It’s common knowledge that our men at times do secret things to secure their stay over there, yet you need time to be sure if this is your husband’s situation, and if both of you still want to remain married.

Whatever the case, let no one here make you feel guilty for feeling hurt, for wanting to get answers, or pressurize you to accept actions and attitudes that doesn’t uphold your marital vows.

Also, pray. Pray for calmness, clarity, and direction of your steps. God has standards and he expects married couples to treat each other fairly. So trust him to resolve any unfairness and hurt between you and your husband, and to give you the best outcome.

I wish you peace hon.

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Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 12:15am On Jun 05
phabulous88:


You can't really claim spousal abandonment until at least 12 months.

You guys got married last year, he traveled back to Canada shortly after and communication between you two was good, at least for some time.

4 months ago, he cut communication with you. Anything could be wrong. Did anything change about you after he moved back to Canada? Were you putting undue pressure on him? Like finance and putting pressure on him to file for you so you can join him?

Again, it's possible that he's not married and that email from his 'other wife' could be him sending it to you to give him some space.

Relax! Your case is not ideal but give the young man some time. He's a student. 20 hours/week and he's funding his studies and stuff.

Just 4 months of no communication and you're already thinking of contacting agencies and bringing the poor man down. What will you do when you land? Like I said earlier, you can claim spousal abandonment until at least 12 months.

Calm down!

I was reading through your reply until I got to the last paragraph. Please don’t say just 4 months of no communication is a trivial matter, more so people are different emotionally. To a small extent I understand her inner turmoil. I’ve been married since 2019 and I’ve only seen my husband just once after the wedding; we also talk every damn day, yet I know how much our marital situation has affected me deep within and outwardly. How much more so someone who’s husband has essentially ghosted her.

Although I understand you are trying to make her reason calmly through her situation - of course she needs to be calm and calculating - but terming 4 months of her husband being incommunicado “just” is quite dismissive of the effect of her predicament on her. She needs closure. If her husband did value the marriage he’d have fought tooth and nail to constantly contact her. So if contacting agencies will give her closure and psychological balance, then let her do it. It’s her prerogative.

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Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 2:11pm On Jun 04
Amakaoyekachi1:
Thank you so much for these tips. It’s just actually unfair that something this huge is going on and I and my family are left in the dark and can jeopardize my own future also cause I don’t know what is exactly going on, just at the crossed roads with no communication whatsoever. Which had a great toll me cause I was worried thinking something must have happened especially in a new country. How do I establish he has a partner there, I only have copies of the threatening mails I have been receiving but whenever I try to respond the email/messages doesn’t deliver, I remember prior to when he stopped communicating with me, he told me to remove his name and pictures on all my social media handles, when I asked him his reasons he told me not to worry, then he went ghost on me!

Red flags everywhere in his actions.

The threatening emails are enough evidence to start an investigation with. He could even be the one sending the emails so you can back off from the marriage and move on. Who knows. Whatever his reasons for going blank on you, he’s being very half-wise and he’s equally jeopardizing his stay in Canada.

If all efforts to reach him have proven abortive, then you can move to plan B in my earlier response to you. So sorry.

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Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 1:29pm On Jun 04
Amakaoyekachi1:
But he hasn’t been communicating with me for months, his parents no information from them. So what do I do?

Sorry about your distressing situation. In all of these, try to keep your head above water. First, gather the evidences that you have that prove the following:
1. The legality of your marriage
2. Your efforts to establish contact with your husband
3. Lack of communication from your husband
4. The presence of another woman

Then you may do the following:
1. Tell him you want to get a lawyer who would write IRCC about the evidence you’ve gathered. He may call your bluff or he may be forced to reach out to you with explanations. Either ways, this likely won’t address the core of the issue.
2. Consult with your parents to review steps 1-4 above. They may call a family meeting with your in-laws, and depending on how firm/soft your family is, they may find excuses for your husband’s actions, and you may be urged to exercise more patience till he’s done with school (you know how our culture tends to heap the success of a marriage more on the woman). On the other hand, your in-laws may be served an ultimatum.

2. Lawyer up. The evidences will be reviewed and he/she will advise you on further steps to take especially if it’s proven that he is another union. Your lawyer may write to IRCC if marital fraud has occurred, that’s if you wouldn’t mind your husband being deported. Indeed, hell hath no furry like a woman scorned.

3. I hope you still have a marriage.

I wish you peace sis.

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Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 7:10pm On Jun 03
maziude:


Sometimes they are backlogged. From what I understand they are clearing their backlogged, all you can do at this point is wait.

You can ask your spouse to contact the MP (she can google search) representing her area, they might be able to let you guys know what the issue is.

Hi, Your response is very comforting. We will explore this option while we wait. Thank you.
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by YesLadyN: 6:19pm On Jun 03
Hello House, I’m glad I searched this thread out from google. It seems the majority here have passed through copr stage at least, and perhaps can offer some advice & encouragement because my tired is getting tired undecided
Tomorrow will make it four weeks my passport got to ircc through Accra VAC & up till now no word or update on our express entry profile beyond PPR letter. I’ve sent Accra HC a mail but no response. My spouse who’s inland has called but the agent didn’t have much info. We are CEC and our CPC is Edmonton.
I thought passport stamping doesn’t take this long. Or could something be wrong somewhere? We followed all due processes after PPR. embarassed
Travel / Re: Canadian Student Visa Thread Part 18 by YesLadyN: 10:50pm On May 03
Hi @Frankrobbn1

Quoting you from 2020:

Accra Visa Application Centre official email address : Info.canghaiom@vfshelpline.com

The first thing is to send an email to the email address above. Tell them you are Nigerian Citizen residing in Nigeria and have applied for Canadian Study visa and have received Passport request letter

Tell them you would like to find out if you can submit your Passport via courier (DHL) to Ghana and would like to request the supporting documents required to send the passport to Ghana. They would response with the documents to send.

Normally, you pay for everything (both the to and fro fee) at once. DHL has a return envelope package in which the Accra VAC will use it to send the stamped visa passport back to your mailing address.

>>>>>I followed this step above and got feedback from Accra VAC. However, they included a fee of 378 cedis to be paid into a Ghanaian bank account with Ecobank Ghana. Question is: can I pay at our local Ecobank?

Anyone here who has done this can please advice me.

Thanks

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 3:51pm On May 03
YesLadyN:
Hello my good people here, it’s been a while. I trust your efforts in this journey is making fine progress.


Please is there anyone here who has recently sent their passport directly to Accra visa office for stamping? How did you go about it and what is your experience and recommendations?

I’d really appreciate your responses.

Thanks a mil

Anybody?!?!
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 5:16pm On May 01
Hello my good people here, it’s been a while. I trust your efforts in this journey is making fine progress.


Please is there anyone here who has recently sent their passport directly to Accra visa office for stamping? How did you go about it and what is your experience and recommendations?

I’d really appreciate your responses.

Thanks a mil
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 5:25pm On Feb 22
saskatoonguy:
This journey is not for the fainthearted.

Right now, any help from any quarters would be appreciated.


IELTS journey
Spouse- PA

--1st attempt--
08/08/2020
L-6.5
R-7.5
W-6.5
S-6.5

--2nd attempt--

06/02/2021
L-7.5
R-6.5
W-7.0
S-7.5
Used Cambridge 11-15 to practice here

She is encouraged to attempt again sometimes in March. But would need every input to get it right this time around, so that we can say bye bye to IELTS.
ECA ready since last year

@wasseynet or anyone to please help. Thanks

Hi, besides other submissions, Jay’s YouTube videos on reading tips and practicing with Cambridge academic training (earlier than that of 11-15) helped me get a 9 in reading. All the best

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 8:52pm On Feb 12
phabulous88:


I am not going to beat you, Lol.

Listen doesn’t have to be 8.
There are several ways of increasing your CRS score with a low Listening score, writing the French exam (TEF) being one.

In fact, with a 6 in Listening, and an average TEF score, you can get up to 490 CRS score.

Check the CRS simulation yourself.


Bruhhhhhhhhh....now you are just reaching with this TEF gist you added

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 7:48pm On Feb 08
MrPein:
Ottawa visa office is a complete nightmare


Quite a reputation. Do they handle applications of all inland applicants only or those from other countries are routed to them too?
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 5:07pm On Feb 02
ednut1:
false, i know people whose applications were rejected for omitting a copy of those things. The message above was sent to a friend. Spent 2 months in the pool before getting ita again. Proof was asked for on the website. Number or trf are not proofs but the actual report.


While some applications get rejected, I have seen instances of people who got PR without uploading any of these documents, as well as those who got an ADR to submit their ECA only. So it may just depend on the VO or other factors....still I’d say it’s best to err on the side of caution since it wouldn’t cost one anything to upload these documents even if it’s not explicitly requested for.

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 6:27pm On Feb 01
MissMa01:

If you don’t mind the cost, send your passport to Paris Infact any country that has VFS and not through Lagos.
If you must send to Accra then send directly to them


This is useful information; I had always thought passport submission must go through local vfs office first

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 11:32am On Feb 01
Apiness111:


@YesLadyN, please do you know if this also works with IOM? I mean the email/notification of uploaded Medicals. Thank you.


Ummm...I did medicals at qlife, so I don’t know about IOM
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 12:30am On Jan 30
odeku55:


It's whatsapp, I don't know why it's not showing fully, whatsapp me at 07017043398 and I'll text it to you

will do so now. Thank you
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 12:07am On Jan 30
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Hi, link says server not found. Is this telegram?
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 10:50pm On Jan 29
55emem55:
Please any WhatsApp group or telegram group for January 2021 AOR. Please point me to them. Thanks.


I’m interested too
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 12:19am On Jan 29
AlbertaPikin:
Guys It’s PPR ooo!!! ���
AOR September 24,2020
FSW-O
Accra VO


Full gist loading...ding..ding grin grin grin

Sweet news! Congratulations
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 10:47pm On Jan 27
Eraychel:
Good evening everyone.
Please I need advice on how to proceed.
I did my medicals in December last year and submitted my application on the 13 of this month. However I just discovered through preemployment medicals that I am Hepatitis B +ve. I don't know how to proceed. Do I find a way to notify IRCC? Or wait for them to let me know if I passed medicals. I'm confused on what to do as I don't want it to be seen as misrepresentation or something since I answered no for all the medical conditions asked at the medical venue in December.
Kindly advice on the best possible action to take.
Thank you.

Hello, so sorry to read about your situation. You could send a web form explaining the new development but to ease your apprehension I read that being Hepatitis B+ is not an automatic rejection based on medical inadmissibility and that a decision is made case by case and you may have to do further tests to determine the extent of the infection.

All the best xxxx
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 1:35pm On Jan 27
Mzstacie:



Have your own being updated to medical exam passed?

I’ve not checked but I got an update from qlife that they’ve uploaded my medicals which I did last week. I think medical passed update will happen later by ircc
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 11:20am On Jan 27
Mzstacie:
Hey guys,

Do you get email from qlife informing you that your medicals has been uploaded

Yes
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 1:58pm On Jan 20
Mmamaroon:


I assume you are only getting an affidavit to show proof of change of name i.e. I was born John Smith but now I am called Wale Obi.....because you don't need to provide BC unless you are claiming sibling points.

I am not a lawyer and previously I thought all affidavits were signed by a notary public = notarization.....but just found out that in Canada, a few people can sign an affidavit, including either a notary public or a commisioner of oaths. I assume the same may apply in Nigeria. This is just google knowledge, so please just ask a lawyer.

https://www.ontario.ca/page/find-notary-public-or-commissioner-oaths-taking-affidavits

https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/corporate/publications-manuals/operational-bulletins-manuals/canadian-citizenship/admininistration/decisions/taking-affidavits-declarations.html



Thank you @Mmamaroon. I’m not claiming sibling point but I just wanted to be sure I’m doing things the proper way. Thanks once more
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 12:33am On Jan 20
YesLadyN:
Hi guys,

Just to be sure, I’m to submit an affidavit because the name on my birth certificate is different from that all other subsequent docs. Question is, do I need to notarize the affidavit for the affirmation of my names which already has a commissioner of oaths stamp for the high court?


Thank you


Anyone with similar experience? Suggestions? I’m the SA
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 1:18pm On Jan 18
Hi guys,

Just to be sure, I’m to submit an affidavit because the name on my birth certificate is different from that all other subsequent docs. Question is, do I need to notarize the affidavit for the affirmation of my names which already has a commissioner of oaths stamp for the high court?


Thank you
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 6:21pm On Jan 15
MayorOfEdmonton:
Have u submitted ur application yet?
Accompanying spouse doesn't need to provide Proof of Experience except if it's a canadian experience.
So u might have mistakenly clicked yes in spouse Canadian experience part. Go back n click no.
Check attached screenshot from IRCC website as proof
Cheers


Thank you so much Mayor. We’d correct this info

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/federal Skilled Workers Program - Connect Here Part 10 by YesLadyN: 2:32pm On Jan 15
YesLadyN:
Please house I need your advice.

I just received the document checklist from my husband showing that I need to provide, as a secondary applicant, my employment record (reference letter), which I had thought won’t be needed. Is there something we aren’t doing right because my work experience is not included in our CRS that got us ITA.

**My job is currently not open over covid**

I’d appreciate your advice. Thanks.

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