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From all some ladies are saying here, I now see that marriage does not automatically make the man the head of the family anymore. He has to buy his way to that position, by providing for all the needs of the family either the wife is working or not. No wonder, so many ladies remain single today because they seek men who can do everything for them. No wonder most guys are scared to get married, because they are not rich enough to buy that position.

Most ladies forget that the moment they sell that position to a man, they have automatically traded their power. A wife who contributes financially to the running of the home, is the who would have the guts to look straight into the eyes of the husband and call him to order if he is misbehaving. Many ladies cannot do this, because they already sold that power (position) to him. They depend on their husbands for everything.

If your husband provides all the money, see it as a privilege and cherish it. Never see it as his right even if you are not working. A Husband who provides all the money willingly would still respect the wife no matter how rich or poor the wife is. A man who does that willingly, regardless of how rich is why is, knows himself. A man who just has to provide all the money to save the family also knows himself.

If your husband just has to provide all the money, do not expect him to be honest to you always. Do not expect him to give you all the respect you desire. Do not expect him to consult you always about some vital decisions in the family. Do not expect explanations from him all the time. Do not expect his attention all the time, because he would feel that all you need is money.

However, all these do not mean that the marriage would not work!

To enjoy your family, ensure you are contributing something even if he earns millions of Naira per second. If he says no, take that as a privilege. You may channel the money somewhere else that would benefit the family. If he is not earning enough, then show some love by adding to what he has. This way, both of you can command respect and love for each other.

@femilangy

Sometimes, people share the questions they were asked during their US visa interview. I have an observation about an aspect of the questions and I wish to get an answer. example;

Consular: How many schools did you apply to and how many accepted you?

I followed this thread from page 1 to 56. I didn't see any one who said " I applied to only one, and I was accepted by that one alone". I noticed that most people said they applied to more than one.

My question is this; assuming one actually applies to one school, and got accepted by that school alone. Is it risky to say say it? Must one say that he/she applies to e.g 2 schools, 3 schools or something? Please, this is my observation and I wish to get a good reply. Thank you

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You can say you applied to only one skol.It really doesnt make any difference.

@femilangy

Thanks so much. I appreciate your response. Cheers!

Sometimes, people share the questions they were asked during their US visa interview. I have an observation about an aspect of the questions and I wish to get an answer. example;

Consular: How many schools did you apply to and how many accepted you?

I followed this thread from page 1 to 56. I didn't see any one who said " I applied to only one, and I was accepted by that one alone". I noticed that most people said they applied to more than one.

My question is this; assuming one actually applies to one school, and got accepted by that school alone. Is it risky to say say it? Must one say that he/she applies to e.g 2 schools, 3 schools or something? Please, this is my observation and I wish to get a good reply. Thank you.

@funkybaby

Thanks so much. I'm really very grateful.

@funkybaby

Thanks for your response. I'm sorry to add this. I do not intend taking the baby along. As a matter of fact, the child would remain with the mom if given the visa. So, what is the way forward here, since the child would stay back here. Thanks.

I plan going for a Masters degree in U.S. I have a 4 years old daughter, but I'm currently not married to the mother. We both agree the child remains with me.

For the purpose of the visa interview, I intend listing my daughter as one of the evidence of my strong ties to my country. Therefore, my question goes thus;

What do I need to prove that I have a 4 years old daughter? Please remember that I'm currently not married to the mom.

Would photographs of the baby and I, from the date of her birth till today plus her birth certificate be enough? what else do I need to do or show? I need fast and reliable response please. Thank you.

Answer tips: Please do not talk about Farouk or Mutallab here. This could cause a digression from my question. Regardless of what he has done, I seize to be discouraged. Either U.S blacklists Nigeria or not, what would be, will always be. So, please do not talk about that bastard here. I just need simple and straight forward answers from those who have been in my shoes before, and what they did. Thanks