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Samantha125:
Me a Sad African? Tufiakwaaa!!! There are plenty Naija people for Southy na!!!😅🤭😅

Okay

Samantha125:
I left my first ever job to go join my husband in KZN... It wasn't easy and I was also not happy when he told me that he got a better job offer in another province.

I joined him three months later.

Kwazulu-Natal, that's South Africa... Now I get the language and country

Samantha125:
I be Naija girl o, I dey speak pidgin well well...😅😅😅

I'm well traveled in Nigeria, that's not Nigerian, I first thought it was non sense but the two of you were flowing , just tell me the country and language,I no won stress my brain

Samantha125:
The language of the Gods...

Are you south African?

Samantha125:
The language of the Gods...

Be serious jor, like the two of you seem to understand each other and that don't seem like a Nigerian language or is it

Samantha125:
I'm a retired soldier...😅😅😅

Ke tsebile... I have a feeling ya gore ke go bone somewhere wena...😅😅😅

Ga o na le a YouTube account by any chance?😅😅😅

What language are you speaking?

During your formative years, you must guard your time, money, and emotions like a hawk. Why? Because the relationships you enter into during this critical phase of your life are often riddled with traps designed to derail your focus and exploit your resources. Let’s get one thing straight: most of the girls who are with you right now aren’t there because they love you or see a future with you. They’re there because you’re a convenient financial plan, a steppingstone while they wait for their “ideal man” to show up.
This is what we call hypergamy—the tendency for women to gravitate toward men who are higher on the social, financial, or status ladder. Even as broke as she might be, she knows her best shot at success isn’t grinding like you—it’s marrying up. Don’t be the sucker she uses to pay her bills while she shops for someone she considers her “real spec.” Once she finds him, she’ll drop you faster than you can say “relationship.” And what are you left with? A drained bank account, wasted time, and shattered focus.
Think about this: as a young man, you’re still building your foundation. You’re investing in yourself, your education, your career, and your future. Every naira or dollar you spend on a woman who isn’t adding value to your life is a subtraction from your potential growth. Do you want to be the guy who spent his 20s funding someone else’s lifestyle, only to be left behind when she decides you’re not good enough? Or do you want to be the man who spent his 20s building himself into a force to be reckoned with?
Here’s the harsh truth: your wife is likely still a toddler today. I know that sounds extreme, but it’s reality. The women who will truly complement your life, bring peace to your home, and respect your leadership are probably years away from even being on your radar. As you grow and mature, the pool of women available to you will only improve. In 2000, I remember my father telling me, “The pretty ones aren’t born yet.” And guess what? He was right. Today, those women are grown, waiting for me to pick a well cultured virgin among them.
The mistake many young men make is thinking that the options in front of them now are the best they’ll ever get. But life doesn’t work like that. The more you improve yourself, the better your options become. Focus on becoming a man of value—physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially. Build your empire. By the time you’re ready to settle down, you’ll have access to a caliber of woman who values you for what you’ve become, not what you can give her.
Here’s what you need to do right now:
1. Stop wasting resources on women who aren’t invested in you. If she’s not adding value to your life, she’s draining it.
2. Invest in your personal growth. Focus on your career, your health, and your mindset.
3. Learn to recognize hypergamy. If she’s with you for your wallet or what you can provide, cut her off.
4. Delay gratification. Don’t rush into relationships or marriage because you feel pressured by society or loneliness.
5. Set high standards for yourself and your future partner. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t meet your values or vision.
Remember this: the better you become, the better you attract. Don’t be the man who peaked in his 20s trying to please women who saw him as nothing more than a convenience. Be the man who built his kingdom brick by brick, and then chose a queen worthy of standing by his side.
Your time will come, but only if you protect it now.

Samantha125:
But I think some of you guys are also part of the problem because it seems like you'd prefer ladies who are already in relationships than single ones... I don't know if you like being competitive or what.

You'd tell a guy that you're in a relationship and he'd pretend as if he didn't hear anything and still ask for your number... He'd give you various reasons as to why he's asking for your number when deep down he just wants to smash.

And we ladies are only humans like you guys, some of us don't have strong self control and can easily fall into temptation... So until the law introduces death penalty for cheating on both genders, we just need to make peace with the fact that we're still gonna be heartbroken from being cheated on by our partners.

More than half of humanity would die if such law is introduced

Samantha125:
But why is it that most of you men wait for a lady to get into a relationship and then start looking her way?

Like I'm speaking from experience... There was a time I was single for years and no guy looked my way despite having a crush on some of them... But immediately I got into a relationship, different guys started coming my way, including this one guy whom I've begging his mother for his number for almost an entire year.

One day the woman called me and asked me to quickly come to her workplace and she presented her hunky son to me and left us in the boardroom to have some alone time... My husband and I had just gotten back together and the temptation was too much... But in the end, I developed the courage to tell him I was in a new relationship.

Is not like men are waiting , it's mostly natural occurrence but when one is married or taken it all then false down to self control and discipline because you'll mostly meet people more handsome,rich, caring , friendly , masculine or friendlier than your partner but discipline and commitment is what keeps one faithful, so I understand where you're speaking from.

If you think you are the only man in your woman's life, you are a big joker and a very unserious person.

As long as you are not yet married to her, you are part of the men under her audition.

You are just part of her screening program, and when the time comes, she will pick the man that best suits her taste, and it may not be you.

It's foolish for you to think you are the only man in her life; she probably gets a lot of toasters everywhere: streets, dm, workplace, etc.

You would be stupid to think she's not considering some of those toasters.

She will only tell you about the toasters she doesn't love but then hide those she's interested in.

The only reason why you think she's faithful and think that you are the one is because you have not caught her yet.

Be wise.

As a man learn to keep your options open.

90% of unmarried women are doing this.

We have seen them visit prayer houses to ask the men of God to pray and show them the right man for them out of many men.

Itz true.

When you go close to ladies and hear them talk, you will understand that every unmarried woman always has extra men somewhere; you don't just know it yet.

Do I blame them for this?

No.

But my problem is with men who have refused to adopt this system and be this wise.

A serious man planning to get married in the next 4 to 5 years should have at least 4 women under his audition lists to choose a wife from.

The best win, and you send the loser home.

It's simple.

Let this wisdom abide.

Learn not to put all your eggs in one basket just like women.

1. A man most know how to cook his own food, (the food must not be sweet but atleast let it be something you can swallow).
2. A man must know how to communicate effectively both verbally or through signs. Life revolves around communication if you lack the ability to articulate your thoughts experesselly for another person to understand you will be deprived of so many opportunities and be left in the dark.
3. A man must be physically strong, he must try to learn how to fight and to protect him self from preys both human and animals, a man must have a warrior mindset. He has to have a strong body, have knowledge of combat and even know how to shoot gun.
4. A man must know how to survive in loneliness, he must be comfortable staying alone in his singleness and must be happy.
5. A man must have control over his emotions and be logical, be stoic in approaching matters of life, be calm and think before reacting in situations.
6. A man must know about game, the red pill in other to have a beautiful relationship with women, a relationship that women can't be able to destroy his life.
7. A man must know how to ride a motorcycle or vehicle.
8. A man must not be ignorant, he has to be in love with gaining knowledge and seeking information's, he has to be a man who desire to know something about everything.
9. A man must develop the sense of responsibility by this I mean he must be committed in paying the price of discipline and diligence to become the best version of himself, provide, protect and preserve himself and those around him.
10. A man must learn to adapt to changes, life is dynamic and transitional, a man's failure to upgrade himself to adapt to the modern facilities that can be useful to him might cause him a great damage and set back.

Avoid Aviator betting.

In fact avoid anything betting it would never make you rich rather it would destroy your life, you may see it now as where you get your little daily peanuts, but there are family men or grown men who started young too but today have being brought down to ruin, sold all their property, borrowed money, some even stole to gamble but at the end wasted their lives, gambling online or offline is a destroyer , be wise

Klington:


Gowon the old full has been seeking useless attention lately, just to to be causing unnecessary distraction from Tpain cluelessness.

Don't you have respect for elders, how would you feel if you're in your 80's and a young boy or man calls you a fool, for narrating a story that happened along your life's journey, let's be careful with our words please

ATEAMS:
I don't cheat and not because i can't, but because i don't want to be a reason someone stops believing in love. i don't want to be the reason someone stay awake all night crying. i'm not saying i'm perfect, but i just realized that at this age cheating is immature and disgusting.

Good, but no one asked you

Tinubu no try at all, what is this again?

Tinubu no try at all, wetin be this one again?

Tinubu no try at all, wetin be this one again?

Tinubu no try at all, wetin be this one again?

Tinubu no try at all, wetin be this one again?

flyinnizam:
Tinubu scared of Coup by appointing Yoruba as COAS. If he is doing well, he won't be scared of Coup

That's how it has always been, the chief of army staff is always same tribe as the sitting president , go check the history... Throughout Good luck Ebele Tenure, he was using igbo chief of army staff because he was claiming to be partial igbo

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As a Christian almost Everything we believe is based on the revelation of Jesus and Faith In His teachings and also in Him.

Almost two thousand years ago Jesus asked his disciples who people said he was. The account reads as follows:

‘When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, “Who do people say the Son of Man is?” They replied, “Some say John the Baptist; others say Elijah; and still others, Jeremiah or one of the prophets.” “But what about you?” he asked. “Who do you say I am?” Simon Peter answered, “You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.” ‘ (Matthew 16:13-16)

In the bible Simon Peter answered by saying, “You are the Christ, the Son of the living God”.
Several years later, another Jew by the name of Paul developed this statement of Faith, and if I present it in the form of a personal response to Jesus’ question it would be:

“You are the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being (Hebrews 1:3). You are the image of the invisible God for God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in you. You are the Christ and in you, all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form. (Colossians 1:15,19 and 2:”

We know Jesus is someone recognized even outside of Christianity. He made such an impact that most religions have something to say about him. Is Jesus central to their faith? Let’s look at who they say Jesus Is:

1) ISLAM- Muslims trace their religion back to the 7th century Mohammed. They base their doctrine on his writings and respect Jesus as a prophet and wise teacher who worked miracles and healed many. Isa Ibn Maryam is known as Jesus in the New Testament and is considered a messenger of God. Jesus was born of the virgin Mary according to the Qur’an. They teach that he indeed ascended into Heaven and will one day return to Earth. However, these beliefs are different from Christian teaching. They hold, for instance, that Allah (God) sent Jesus to guide the descendants of Israel with a new scripture. However, they teach that the original ‘Gospel’ was lost and that the existing documents are much altered and therefore of little current value. They teach that Jesus was but one of several messengers sent by Allah but that Mohammed was the last messenger and therefore superior to all others. They teach that Jesus survived the crucifixion and did not ascend bodily into Heaven. However, when he eventually died, Allah gave him a place of honour and the mission of returning to Earth one day to ultimately validate Islam. They reject that Jesus was God, or Son of God, or a member of a Trinity.

2) HINDUISM- Ishu, who was born in a cowshed, was visited by three holy men, performed many amazing miracles, walked on water and spoke a wonderful sermon on a mountain. Ishu being Jesus in Hinduism. Jesus is seen as much more, as an Avatar, specifically a Shaktavesha Avatar or an empowered incarnation. This means that God has sent Jesus for a specific mission to fulfill God’s will on earth. They believe that Jesus was murdered but he did not resurrect but reincarnated. Jesus is not considered God but an Avatar.

3) JUDAISM- Yeshua was one of many false messiahs in Judaism. Yeshua being the Hebrew name for Jesus. They do give Jesus the distinction of being the most damaging of all false messiahs. The Jewish leaders had Jesus killed but not for claiming to be the messiah. Jesus claimed to be God (Jn 10:30; Lk 22:70; Jn 8:56-58), blasphemy to the Jews. Judaism taught that no one outside the Father could be worshiped less they commit idolatry. They condemned Jesus on the charges of blasphemy. Jesus was a false messiah and a miscreant according to Judaism.

4) BUDDHISM- Buddhism is considered a philosophical approach to life more than a religion. It has little intersection with Christianity and very little to say about Jesus. Some modern Buddhists have said that Jesus was Buddha reincarnated. There have been several Buddhists who have drawn parallels between Jesus and Buddha’s teachings. Without the need for faith or any real belief system, Gautama Buddha lived and taught in the fifth century and held that Jesus was an enlightened man and wise teacher. Buddhists recognizes Jesus as an enlightened man with great influence but not divine.

5) JEHOVAH WITNESS- JW has a lot to say about Jesus. Jesus was the firstborn of creation and not considered to be God. They reject the idea of the Trinity seeing it as polytheistic (more than one god). JWs’ teach that Jesus pre-existent form in Heaven was as Michael, the Archangel. He took on human form for the purpose of setting people free from sin and death. Only a select few are really saved by being JW and doing certain good works. They believe Jesus has no real power to save in that he is not divine.

6) LATTER DAY SAINTS (MORMONS)- LDS church desires to be viewed as a Christian denomination. They are adamant that they fit within the Christian worldview. So what do they believe about Jesus? According to LDS, Jesus was the son of God in Heaven along with his brother, Lucifer. Lucifer went the path of the devil and Jesus stayed faithful to His Father’s calling. A precursory look of LDS belief on Jesus is comparable to Christianity’s teachings about Jesus. The problem lies in what is not said but insinuated. For example, LDS teach that all people are saved by the blood of Christ regardless of whether or not they put their trust in him. This is starkly in contrast to what the Bible teaches about salvation (Jn 14:6; Rmn 10:9-13; Mt 7:21) LDS holds to Universalism. They also teach that works and special rites as set by the LDS church determine your position in heaven. Achievement can result in LDS males being declared god over their own planet! There is no denying that there are many similarities between LDS and Christianity’s belief on Jesus but the subtle differences make these two different faiths altogether.

7) SCIENTOLOGY- Jesus is recognized by scientologists as part of its early religious heritage. Scientology teaches that man is basically good at his core and he alone can free himself from the trappings of his mind. The idea that Jesus was God is considered fiction to Scientologists and comes from unenlightened minds.

BAHIA- Bahaullah established this religion in the 19th century promoting the essential worth of all religions and the unity of all people. To them, Jesus was a wise teacher with an aspect of divinity in that he was one of several who projected divine attributes into the world.

9) NEW AGE- The New Age movement is made up of several strands of esoteric Gnosticism that emerged into literature and media in the 1960s. Most New-Agers believe that Jesus was an enlightened master who manifested a divine power that is potentially available to all who enter the New Age. They respect Jesus as an enlightened soul along with other religious leaders like Buddha, Krishna, and Confucius. Although respected, Jesus is not worshipped or regarded as the exclusive Son of God. Some accept Jesus’ crucifixion as historical, but not essential to restoring humanity to wholeness..

A few closing comments to ponder:

So now, if Jesus were to ask YOU who you thought he was, how would you answer? Let’s play this out a little:

Jesus: “Who do you say I am?”

You: “You are the Christ, the Son of God”

Jesus: “Yes, that is what you have been taught, but who do you actually think I am?”

You: “You were a wise teacher, a worker of miracles, the founder of the Christian Church, and you are coming back one day to judge the living and the dead.”

Jesus: “Yes I am, but is that all I am to you?”

You: " 🎤"

motymop:
You just ranting here.

It has nothing to do with alpha.

Have money, get your degrees, work in good place, get promoted and if you are randy, you will sleep with anybody.

Are lecturers not sleeping with their female students, does it make them alpha.

Are MDs and managers not sleeping with their female staffs, does it make them alpha.

Even abgero dey collect other agbero babe, does it make the agbero alpha.

Friends dey collect their friends babe, does it make them alpha.

Make una rest with all these alpha talk.

Did you read about the calibre of women he slept with, these 're not you average Joe's he's definitely alpha, your example doesn't correlate with his

Mariangeles:
Move comot for Abuja naa.
At least, try Nasarawa wey dey close by.
I hear say cost of living cheap for there.
Even Jos sef.

E no dey cheap like that oh , I finished my university in Nasarawa state, there is nothing like Job in Nasarawa,unless you have a business, which you'll also need money to start a business and rent a house at first before gaining ground in such places, but thanks for the advice though, you're a good lady I guess and thanks for your comment on the other post, even though I know you didn't mean it but at least you didn't throw insults, I appreciate,I believe we'll survive this hard times

Someone please help na, is it so difficult to see help amongst ourselves, is it until someone dies?

SwayG:
How I survive in abuja still amazes me.

Expenditure is woay above income

I don turn beggar for nairaland because of Abuja hardship yet I no still see shishi

it is well...

ayindejimmy:
That's not necessary now .

You people should know some Nigerians are really going through some very hard times .
Not that all of them are lazy but things are just out of most people's reach. If you can't assist, you don't have to b cruel

Thank you Sir, I expected insults and names while posting but I also pray someone would really be of assistance and I also pray no one should be in same condition I am in right now.

Johnweeked12:
With all your 6ixpaq Sell your nudes

I've been very active in nairaland since 2013, I've never begged , I lost my job july and things haven't been easy without a new one.. took me a long time before I can resort to begging here now due to hunger,I never thought I'll do this but hunger pushes people to the limits that's why I'm pleading for assistance if I can get any.

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Seun:
Hello Nairalanders,

Yesterday the 17th was my birthday.

As for my new age, let me just say that I'm slightly older than Don Jazzy.

Please send me your kind words and good wishes!

Cheers!

Happy belated birthday sir, please sir I'm sorry for using this medium to beg for assistance but sir I'm hungry and weak and haven't eaten for almost 3 days just drinking water , please help with anything please sir

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