₦airaland Forum

Konquest:
Aisha (@AishaDant), I've got some moments on my hands to step into your fascinating thread post before moving on to something else, but I want some CLARITY here in order to give you more insights.

I can see that you have become wired up in such a way that the desire for "cunnilingus" has become a part of your "love language" here. You also assume that giving a "head" is widespread among men worldwide which is NOT so. Only a few percentage of men compared to the over 4 billion men on this planet earth engage in it based off of previous sexual studies.

You indicated here that you are NOT up to your mid-20s yet and studied medicine. How old is this young man? Is he over 30 years of age or even in his 40s? Speaking as an OG, I say this because of the FACT that you say he is mature and listens.

Second, it must be emphasized here that a dating time frame of NOT more than two years is the ideal period for a male and a female to get to know each other's deal breakers OR levels of compatibility before marriage. Anything longer than that, lethargy sets in and men tend to string naive young women, (especially those women they have had relentless sexual activities with) from then on before dumping them.

Worldwide, most men are averse to giving "cunnilingus" or "heads" and that doesn't necessarily mean that they are sexually awkward OR NOT sexually adventurous. It's the way men in traditional societies are wired. This mini-trend of giving "heads" to women is ONLY a very recent phenomenon in human history propounded by adult online and offline movies and adult books. Or do you want to tell me that giving a woman a head is historically part of traditional Fulani, Yoruba, Chinese, Korean, German, Indian, Arabian, Berber, Mongolian, Inuit, Edo societies, etc? NO!

I'll reserve my FULLER insights and final comments that will be of significant use to you when I get your feedback to my post

I am not looking for another argument on my post. Any man who does not see reason with me can go ahead and continue doing what he feels is right for his partner.

Apparently, most Nigerian men are closed-minded yet wonder why so many females these days turn lesbian or cheat.

You read the post and saw the part I said he enjoys receiving blow jobs but because you are also male, you feel you should defend him.

Whatever!

Been such a rough year for Bob.

So sad. I hope she receives her healing.

Proserpina:
Lol You know what endears me to this case is the qualities she listed about the man. Especially that "A man that LISTENS" .

Believe me, that quality alone takes away 60% of the challenges she may face in relationship and most importantly marriage with him . A Nigerian man that LISTENS ah! She may not know the importance of this quality until later in life.
Couples can not be equal in all aspects that's where compromise comes in .

As for her sexual dissatisfaction, does this come from the fact that her desire (Head) is not granted or her man isn't trying at all?

Has she tried holding off on the BJs he loves so he can see what he is making her miss?

Has she tried to convince him to use intimacy gadgets on her? If he is all she listed he would definitely give in with time if he see how she vibrates with the tongue intimacy gadget

You see, some things can really be worked around if couples understand one another.

But if head is paramount then she can go ahead to break up with him but believe me, she might look back and regret this . Then "head" might be very tiny to the compromise she may have to make in the future.

Head only works when there's peace of mind o

He is just very reluctant to do it. When he tries, he acts like it is about to swallow him. The drama alone is a huge turn off for me.

Anyway, he has until the end of the month to start doing it right or we are done.

As a young active couple, sexual satisfaction is important especially as I am not ready to start cheating on him.

LOL! Ghetto love

almarthins:
Time na illusion. Soon you will be 35 before you know it. Market go come scanty, then you go come wish know better then.

I am fulani, age is not my problem. We hardly really age but clearly you don't know that.

I take very good care of myself.
Keep this advice for your wife and kids okay?

Snow2six:
Y everybody jst de para for what d gal said she likes…If you can’t give head, it’s ur choice,stop condemning her on her fantasy..what if una com jam man wey de gv head and also leak ass?She knows what she wants, best she should do is to cont talkin to d guy abt it and if she doesn’t c any change,she look for someone her match

Thank you!

galantjoe:
Carry his coconut head to your pusssy. The sweet smell alone will entice him to suck it.

Let me tell you the truth it is only man of strong heart that will suck woman. It takes strong heart to do that. So force him during romance to give u head. Once he does it for the first time, he will be doing it always

I cannot force him. If it is not something he enjoys, I will not force him.

To be fair, I enjoy going down on him. If he doesn't enjoy doing same for me, I cannot force him.

TrustNone:
if I handle you one night ehn you go dump his broke and impotent ass straight up

He is not broke. He is also not impotent. He is just closed-minded in the bedroom. Please don't insult my man. Thank you.

Orlu13:
ur father there....I am sure dats how ur mum treated ur dad... useless man dat gave birth to a useless daughter like u

If you weren't a badly behaved he goat, my comment wouldn't have upset you so much.

He goat!!!

I don't feel sorry for him.

Go Kamala!!!

Arizoner:
what's your fav sex position

Your mother must be so proud of this ANIMAL she gave birth to...🤢

MrAmbrose:
Make use of intimacy gadgets.

Been there, done that.

What's the use of having him as a boyfriend if intimacy gadgets do better work than him?

I am waiting to see how this turns out. 😕😒

Macnnoli4:
Let him start small. Fingering first, let him perfect the fingering technique. Next will be intimacy gadgets, he should be the one to use intimacy gadgets on you and throughout those small starts, guide him how to satisfy you encourage him to try his best and boost his ego/confidence when he does well. With time, he may get confidence boost to want to try more like giving head or just be contented with the compromise if he can't.

Thank you but we are way past this now.

He takes two steps forward and five steps back. It is now frustrating for me.
I have a decision to make at the end of the month. My happiness is important to me.

Well, some badly behaved Nigerian men deserve this. I refuse to even blame her!

luminouz:
Yeah right!!! Yet you are creating threads looking for attention

Medicine kee you dia

Last time I checked, silence is still the best answer to a FOOL!!!

Sapasenator:
I wish more Nigerian ladies can be like you as well. Our society is steeped in hypocrisy and religion and I do not do both. You have only one life to live and it I best to fully enjoy yourself while you still can. It may not be a sufficient reason to walk away from the relationship if he is willing to slowly work on himself.

I just smiled reading this.

Nigerians and hypocrisy, tell me about it.

Well, he has this month to do better or we are done. My happiness is important to me.

RealityKings:
With that your disproportionate body... Better find food chop.
If you don't have drop your aza. Today is Friday and I'm in a good mood

My body is 10/10. Post your picture and let's see what you look like. Oh! Never mind. I have an image of you in my head. Big stomach, small head... Dwarf?

Imagine an old fool like you abusing a beautiful perfectly healthy female like me because I said the truth? You're pathetic and I feel sorry for anyone who knows you in person.

What a lunatic!

Sharpsharp00123:
sorry porn have messed u up, the west propaganda have ruined many

They make licking plate look normal with their press n now they are done with that they are now making gay look normal

In no time gays will start coming here to create threads about how their partner isn't doing it well

Clearly you don't get it. No use explaining further.

Sapasenator:
Sexual compatibility is very important in a romantic relationship and as you mentioned earlier some of his his other endearing qualities. It is something you guys will hash out between yourselves. I believe any skill can be learnt and he is not a lost cause plus if you trully love your woman, you will want to have her satisfied.

I am naturally a curious and experimental guy but I despise receiving heads, I like to giving though but for whatever reason I never enjoy blowjobs. I would rather a handjob than a head .

I have had request to try an*al which I had to decline, also a request for sexual congress during menstrual period was roundly turned down by me as well. Other than those boundaries I don't see why a normal heathy guy should not be able to ravish and engage in a health sexual congress with his girlfriend.

You may have to teach and guide him.

Thank you for understanding. I wish more Nigerian men were like you.

tanigororo:
Aunty Aisha, the Head Girl but not for class.

If you are indirectly wondering if I am smart or not, I studied medicine. Honestly, I usually don't care what strangers think of me.

You would have to be important in my life for your opinion of me to even count.

RealityKings:
Eat well so that you can put on some flesh. While you are at it, quit bleaching

I am fulani and I am naturally slim.

My complexion is also natural..

Anything else? You're just a sad waste of semen.

Sharpsharp00123:
so I should put my health at risk by swallowing micro organisms cos I want to please someone?

That's impossible

My health n sanity first before pleasure

So do whatever works best for you then.

Sapasenator:
Na, that Is a fail in my book. He should be able to give at least an hour of "head", 40minutes head alone and about 20minutes of head in combinations with dexterous fingers before proceeding with intimacy. At least two orgasms for the lady before penetrative intercourse.

What reason/s is he giving for failing in this important duty?
What was is background? Are you his first date?

I am glad you agree. He is just closed-minded and afraid to try new things.
Well, I am his first serious girlfriend. Still not enough reason for an excuse if you ask me.
I have made my decision Sha.

Usmanovic95:
Why can't this madam just respect her age and her little boy and stop posting all these?

She is living her life on her terms and she is happy. Do you and leave her alone.

Some Nigerian men hate to see a single mother shine.

RealityKings:
Nothing strange here Just another upcoming artist trying to give modeling a shot

Upcoming artist? Her career is probably bigger than your future. Smh!

Nnamdipapa:
You talk of sexual satisfaction, most of you lot demand for what you are not able to do for your partners. You want him to do everything and if he declines, you rush to NL to open a thread. Do you think about what he truly needs and try to satisfy him?

Trust me, my boyfriend is an extremely satisfied man. He brags about how satisfied he is and how he doesn't joke with the things I do in the bedroom for him. The problem here is the fact that he cannot satisfy me in return.
I am not even trying to paint him bad, I adore him but this is a problem in our relationship.

I am not a lazy female. If I was, this would not be a problem for me. I am a lover girl!
I know how to love and treat a man like a king especially if he deserves it. So, don't add me to your "lazy female list"... I am a different kind of female. That's all 😒

Yomit71:
Too much porn is affecting your brain.
You may lose all those qualities you mentioned about him and get hooked with a stupid man who's only good in the bedroom (sorry, in licking plate i mean). I think you'll be satisfied.

The fact that some men think sexual satisfaction is not important is very weird to me. Intimacy with my partner is an important part of our relationship. Why am I doing everything possible to satisfy him and he cannot do same for me?

Some of you are just used to lazy females in the bedroom so you expect females like me to accept anything. I am afraid I will not remain unsatisfied especially when I can fully satisfy my partner. 😒

Yomit71:
Because he cannot lick your sore plate

😐

Sharpsharp00123:
I don't give head n I don't take it

I believe only a man who can't use his dick rightly will use mouth

I have never used mouth n I will never use it n I don't accept it too cos to me it's dirty no matter how clean u claim u are

Probably it's because of d course I studied in school cos I know much about micro organisms a lot

I am afraid your belief system is rather faulty then. If you don't give head or receive it, that means pre-intimacy is not important to you.
pre-intimacy is extremely important when trying to get sexual. Sometimes, I might not even be in the mood but a convincing pre-intimacy puts me in the mood. I can see some males are having a hard time understanding my point but it is fine. I need it to be satisfied!