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Loud it! Some people will spend the whole of 2026 'monitoring' the President's health or the VP's travel schedule while their own business is dying of neglect.

Even if the government gives everyone 1 million Naira today, by December, 80% will be broke again because they lack the discipline to 'Fix This' (their mindset). Nigeria is a jungle; stop waiting for the Lion to be 'nice' to you and start hunting.

Salewa97:
It is time for Nigerians to start holding themselves responsible for their actions or inactions.

The government can't be blamed for everything

I know some people will come here to defend their political 'godfathers,' but while you’re typing, remember that the 2026 budget isn't designed to put money in your specific pocket. What is your actual plan for this year? Japa, side hustle, or just 'Insha Allah'?

trutharena:
A thoughtful and engaging response.

Family, let’s be completely honest with each other for a moment. Here we are, well into the year 2026, yet the "Renewed Hope" or the "New Nigeria" that was promised to all of us still feels like it's stuck in a continuous state of buffering and delay for far too many people across the country.

The CBN is informing us that inflation is expected to decrease to 12.9%, yet your local mallam continues to insist that a simple bag of rice has become a luxury item that only a few can afford. Meanwhile, the naira is fluctuating around the N1,450+ mark, and many of you are still patiently waiting, hoping for a miracle from Aso Rock that will instantly solve these economic challenges.

If you truly want your year 2026 to be significantly better and more fulfilling than your year 2025, it is absolutely essential that you put an end to these three delusional habits:

The "Government Will Fix It" Delusion

Whether you identify as Obidient, Batified, or Atikulated, the undeniable truth remains clear: the government is not some magical Father Christmas who will solve all your problems. The year 2026 is a significant "pre-election" period, during which politicians are more focused on gathering resources and support for their upcoming campaigns rather than genuinely prioritizing your welfare or well-being. If your main source of hope rests solely on the possibility of a policy shift or government intervention, then unfortunately, you have already lost valuable time and momentum in this year.

Saving in a Dying Currency

The Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) projects economic growth, but the global "scramble for minerals" such as Lithium and Cobalt is advancing at a much faster pace than our local refineries can keep up with. If you are still saving 100% of your money in Naira, you are essentially watching the value of your hard-earned income slowly evaporate over time. The year 2026 is being positioned as the year of Value Addition, a critical period for economic transformation. Are you actively learning skills like AI, agro-processing, or digital exports? Or are you simply "managing" without making any strategic moves toward growth and innovation?

The "Japa is the Only Way" Escape

Indeed, it is true that many doctors and tech professionals are leaving the country in search of better opportunities abroad. However, while you are busy trying to secure a visa to go wash plates or do menial jobs in the UK, foreigners from countries like China and India are actually coming into Nigeria to invest heavily in solid minerals and promising tech startups. If there is truly no money or potential in Nigeria, then why do these international investors continue to show such strong interest and confidence in the Nigerian market?

The Provocative Truth

The significant gap between the so-called "Rich Nigeria" and "Poor Nigeria" in 2026 will not be caused by the President or any single political figure; rather, it is primarily driven by information asymmetry. While many people are busy arguing on platforms like Nairaland about who might be the better politician or best leader, others are quietly taking advantage of new opportunities.

For example, they are leveraging the provisions of the recently implemented Tax Act of 2025 to strategically scale their small and medium-sized enterprises (SMEs), positioning themselves for greater economic success and growth.

My question to you all

Are you planning to spend the entire year of 2026 constantly complaining about the rising and unpredictable price of fuel, or are you ready to take action and finally build a system or solution that makes the cost of fuel completely irrelevant to your personal finances and your monthly budget?

Let's have a thoughtful discussion. What is your carefully considered "Plan B" that doesn't require purchasing a flight ticket or boarding any kind of airplane?

I hear you, brother, and I salute your resilience. 30k for a graduate is not just 'small,' it’s an insult to the years you spent in school. It’s stories like yours that make 'Quick Money' look so attractive to others.

But look at what you said: 'Nairaland helped me get remote jobs.' That is the point! Instead of following the 'fast/illegal' route, you used your brain and the internet to find a better way. You moved from 30k to remote work—that is growth, even if it was hard.

My question to the house is: How many people are willing to search for 'Remote Jobs' or learn skills like this person did, versus those who just want to 'press phone' and see millions overnight?

Hardeybohwarley:
Thanks for seeing my view. There is greed with a lot of people as well and it's our Country they'll causes it.

I graduated in 2018 and ever since the highest payinh job I got was teaching job which pays 30k.

Imagine, if not for God and then Nairaland that help me get some remote jobs, I might still be in that school slaving.

And don't come at me for not trying, I have applied to almost 25 GT job and hundreds of other jobs.

Lol, suffer plenty! But shey we go come use 'Quick Money' take heal the suffer? Many people chase fast cash and end up 'suffering' in a cell or with high blood pressure. I’m just saying we should talk about how this mindset is changing our DNA as a people.

WINDSOW:
Suffer no too muchhhhhhhh?

Eyaaa... I see the 'Quick Money' hunger has made you paranoid. Not everyone on Nairaland is out to sell you something. Some of us actually still use our brains for free discussion. Since you're so sure I'm selling something, show me the price list. If not, let's talk about the topic.

Kaczynski:
No body will buy your cheap course


Go shill it elsewhere.

Regulation is one thing, but let's look at the reality. If a small business owner makes 1M profit, they can't pay one entry-level staff 500k. Is it 'exploitation' or just the reality of a dying economy? My worry is that while we wait for 'regulatory bodies' that may never come, a whole generation is losing the ability to actually work and build a career.

RealityKings1:
You are looking for cheap labour.
You people exploit younger folks. It's not your fault, it's because the regulatory bodies meant to deal with exploitation in employment aren't doing anything

I agree that 150k is small, but let's be honest: many people won't even take a 250k job if it requires 9-5 stress because they've seen their 'crypto' or 'betting' friend make that in one day. Is it really just the low pay, or have we lost the discipline to grow through a career? If everyone waits for 500k entry-level, who will do the actual work?

Hardeybohwarley:
You can't blame the people, many entry level job too needs to do something about their pay. And the cost of living is why they need to.

Most of these entry level job are in big cities which cost a lot to reside in.

150k cannot sustain a person in lagos and some of these companies are offering that.

I’ve been closely observing the Jobs/Vacancies section for quite some time now, and over this period, I’ve started to notice a very distinct pattern emerging. Whenever someone posts a vacancy for a trainee role that offers a clear long-term career path but comes with a modest starting salary, that post usually receives about 5 comments, maybe a few more if it’s particularly detailed.

However, when someone shares a 'business opportunity' promising an unrealistic 500k a month with absolutely 'no experience needed,' that thread instantly blows up with dozens, sometimes hundreds of comments and shares. It’s a stark contrast that really makes me wonder about our collective mindset.

Why are we so drawn to these get-rich-quick schemes? Why has the idea of earning 'Quick Money' become almost like our national anthem, dominating our conversations and aspirations?

The Three Hard Truths

The Death of the 'Entry Level': In today's fast-paced world, it seems everyone aspires to become a CEO or a “Big Boy” within just six months. The desire to reach the top quickly has overshadowed the traditional career path. Few people are willing to start as apprentices or junior staff members anymore, roles that are essential for gaining foundational experience. We want to enjoy the fruit without taking the time or effort to plant and nurture the tree first. This shift reflects a broader impatience with the process of learning and growth in professional environments.

The Betting Culture: In today’s society, we have gradually replaced the genuine dignity and value of hard labor with a fleeting hope placed on uncertain "odds." Instead of investing in their personal growth or future, many young men are choosing to spend their last 2,000 units of currency on betting slips. This is money that could have been wisely used to purchase educational resources or data plans that would allow them to learn valuable digital skills, which have the potential to provide long-term benefits and career opportunities.

The 'Respect' Factor: In Nigeria today, the common question people ask is no longer about how you achieved your success or the journey you took; instead, they simply want to know if you possess wealth or status. We tend to show more admiration and respect for a 22-year-old who drives a Lexus than for a 40-year-old teacher who has dedicated 15 years of hard work and commitment to their profession. This shift in values highlights how material possessions have become a primary measure of respect in society.

[The "Devil's Advocate"] "I understand that the economy is really tough right now. I know that a 50k salary hardly stretches far enough to even buy a basic bag of rice. But have we, in our desperate hunger for quick money, become completely blind to the importance and long-term benefits of investing in building a real, sustainable career that can grow over time?"

Is it primarily the current state of the economy that has pushed us into adopting this relentless 'Quick Money' mindset, or have we, as a society, gradually lost the valuable virtue of patience that once guided our decisions and actions? Let’s take a moment to explore and discuss these important questions together.

I agree that 'at all at all na im bad pass' is a good survival mindset. It’s better to have a bike than to be a beggar. Nobody is saying the poor shouldn't be grateful for life or small progress.

But here is the problem: In Nigeria, we have turned 'Gratitude' into 'Blindness.'

When the 'salesmen of hope' tell you to be thankful for a bike while the country’s wealth is being looted, they are making sure you don't realize you actually deserve a car, a good road, and a stable economy.

The rich don't use the 'at all at all' philosophy for themselves. When they want a contract, they go for billions. When they want health care, they go to London. They don't say 'at all at all' when it comes to their own comfort.

Why is it that 'Gratitude for crumbs' is a sermon preached only to the poor? True gratitude shouldn't lead to stagnation. You can be thankful for the bike today, but you must still realize that a system that makes a bike the 'pinnacle of success' for a hardworking man is a broken system.

We have used 'thank God' to cover the smell of our suffering for too long.

Dtruthspeaker:
Definitely better than being tagged a perpetual begger. The poor has to be thankful for little advances.

That is why they said "at all, at all na im bad pass'

I hear you, but that is exactly what I call the 'Micro-Hope Trap.'

We have been so beaten down by this system that we now see 'buying a bike' or 'finishing school' as a revolution. In other countries, these are basic rights and normal life stages—not miracles.

While the poor man is celebrating that he finally bought a Boxer bike after 10 years of 'sowing seeds,' the people he is praying for are buying private jets with the 'seeds' he sowed.

This is how the manipulation works: It keeps your gaze on the ground so you don't look at the horizon. > If you give a starving man a biscuit, he will be 'fine' for an hour and might even sing your praises. But does that biscuit cure his hunger or solve the reason why he was starving in the first place?

We shouldn't mistake survival for success. The fact that a few poor people managed to escape the worst parts of poverty doesn't mean the system isn't rigged against the millions left behind.

Dtruthspeaker:
I think play by play the poor are actually getting fine for funny the people I call poor, his children are finishing school, he now has a bike, one can see that something good has happened to them.

So, they already have the revolution they need for themselves

You are 100% correct—the poor always pay the highest price in any conflict. We see it in Gaza, we see it in Northern Nigeria, and we see it everywhere.

But here is the bitter truth we are avoiding: The poor are ALREADY dying. > They are dying in hospitals that have no oxygen. They are dying on bad roads. They are dying of hunger because the economy has collapsed. The only difference is that religion makes this 'slow death' feel peaceful.

When you say the rich have their kids abroad, you’ve proven my point. The rich use Logic, Planning, and Money to secure their future, but they tell the poor to use Fasting, Prayer, and Endurance to survive theirs.

Why is it that the solution for the rich man is 'Migration' (Japa), but the solution for the poor man is 'Miracle'?

We don't necessarily need a bloody revolution, but we need a Mental Revolution. If the poor stop believing that their poverty is 'God's will,' they will start making better demands—even if it's just at the ballot box. Dying for a cause is scary, but dying slowly for nothing while 'giving thanks' is a tragedy.

Dtruthspeaker:
If there is a revolution, who is the first to die? The poor
Can the poor escape? No.
In the end of the revolution who is going to suffer after surviving? It is still the poor.

See Gaza, and Afghanistan now, who are those wailing? The poor.

It is now you appreciate why the rich have their kids abroad. It is for escape purposes. They know what must happen

I completely understand the fear. When people are struggling to survive, they don't have the energy to fight Goliaths or risk being thrown into prison.

But this is exactly my point: Religion has become the 'safety valve' that prevents a revolution. > Instead of the poor organizing to demand better leadership, the 'merchants' tell them: 'Leave it for God,' 'Vengeance is the Lord’s,' or 'Pray for your enemies.' > If the poor are too afraid to challenge Wike or Gumi, it’s because religion has taught them that their only weapon is prayer. But while the poor are praying, these leaders are 'preying.'

We have spiritualized our oppression so much that we now see 'endurance' as a fruit of the spirit, when it is actually just a result of systemic trauma. If we keep saying 'it is well' while things are falling apart, the 'ruling bandits' will never stop, because they know the people have been sedated by their faith.

Dtruthspeaker:
Do you not see that those who fight against the ruling bandits suffer a lot and are thrown into prisons? On top of their miseries the poor cannot take any more affliction. Of which.

Imagine, trying to challenge or take power from Wike or Gumu, you can already see what must happen.

I hear you clearly, and you’ve made some valid points about government oppression and the destruction of local economies like the palm wine farmers.

But here is the part we must face: Religion has become the shield for these same 'thieves' you are mentioning.

When the government destroys houses or steals collective wealth, what do the religious leaders tell the victims? Do they lead a protest? No. They tell the poor to 'Pray for those in authority' and 'Give thanks in all situations.'

You mentioned that only God is helping the poor from being annihilated—but isn't it ironic that the more we pray, the more the 'thieves' multiply?

My point isn't about attacking one faith; it's about how organized religion has become a sedative. It makes the poor wait for a 'divine miracle' instead of demanding the justice and building permits that actually work for them. If prayer alone fixed 'rubbish papers' and bad governance, Nigeria would be the most advanced country on earth by now.

Dtruthspeaker:
When you say religion we know it is Christianity you are attacking forgetting that even before centuries before Christianity came people were poor.

And "the only people escaping poverty are those stealing the God given collective wealth".

I was in the village with my father and they brought Sapele water. And then he told me that the white bandits came with their gin and called our own healthy and arthritis preventing ogogoro, illicit.

Thus, how can our palm wine farmer prosper?

Do you not see how Tinubu is wiping out the poor from Lagos by destroying their houses because they could not pay the millions to collect the rubbish paper called building permits?

It is only God that has been helping man if not the poor would be completely annihilated. And the poor need to pray that God continues destroying the plans of the thieves.

You hit the nail on the head. Organized religion in Nigeria sells the illusion of hope.

When people are trapped in multidimensional poverty, they become desperate. They will trade their last kobo for a glimmer of hope, no matter how illusory it is. This is the 'business model' of the religious merchants in this country.

These salesmen don't have answers to our economic or social challenges; they simply feed fat on the sorrows of the disillusioned. As long as poverty deepens, these merchants will continue to command followership and wealth.

It’s a vicious cycle: The government creates the poverty, and the religious leaders provide the sedative. Both benefit, while the masses remain stuck.

MrPresident1:
Organized Religion sells the the illusion of hope. The people who are living in the den of multidimensional poverty will trade anything for hope no matter how illusory. This is the situation of Nigeria. Organized religion has no answer to any of our problems or challenges, its merchants feed fat and fresh on the sorrow and troubles of the oppressed and disillusioned and as long as poverty deepens, anything that offers a glimmer of hope, no matter how far fetched or deceitful will continue to command attention, followership and of course more funds into the coffers of it's salesmen.

Happiness is good, but can happiness pay hospital bills or school fees? There is a difference between 'true happiness' and 'mental conditioning.' If they are so happy being poor, why are they always praying for financial breakthroughs in those same churches?

Redoil:
The Big Question:

Is religion truly providing genuine help and support to Nigerians, or is it merely acting as a sedative designed to keep the impoverished population from voicing their frustrations and grievances while they continue to be exploited and taken advantage of by those in power? Does it serve as a meaningful source of comfort and guidance, or is it simply a tool used to pacify the masses, preventing them from challenging the systemic injustices and inequalities that persist in society?

I really want to hear from everyone about this. Do you think we are being manipulated in some way, or is it possible that I am just overanalyzing and overthinking the entire situation?


at least and at most they are very happy and happiness is an intrinsic substances money can never buy

I have been engaging in some deep and thoughtful reflection recently, and I believe it is important for us to have an open, honest, and unbiased discussion about the current state and condition of our nation.

Nigeria is arguably one of the most religious countries on the entire planet. We boast the largest churches with congregations that fill stadiums, the most densely packed mosques where worshippers gather in massive numbers, and influential religious leaders often referred to as "Daddies in the Lord" who have accumulated immense wealth, becoming billionaires.

Despite this overwhelming religious presence and seemingly abundant spiritual resources, Nigeria remains the poverty capital of the world, struggling with widespread economic hardship and deprivation among its population.

Is it a coincidence? Or is religion being used as a strategic tool to keep the poor in a state of "mental lock"?

Here are three distinct and significant ways in which I strongly believe the poor are being systematically manipulated and controlled:

The "Suffer Now, Enjoy Later" Narrative: While wealthy and powerful leaders live lives of luxury and extravagance, those who are poor and marginalized are often told that their hardships and suffering are merely a "test from God" or a necessary trial to prove their faith and patience. They are assured that their true reward awaits them in heaven, beyond this earthly existence. This belief system makes people more accepting and comfortable with bad governance, widespread poverty, and inequality, rather than inspiring them to challenge the status quo and demand meaningful change.

Why put in the effort to strive for a better life here on earth when you have been promised a glorious mansion and eternal happiness in the sky after death?

The Financial Drain (Tithes and Seeds): It is truly heartbreaking and deeply distressing to see individuals who can barely afford three square meals a day giving their very last "widow’s mite" to organizations that have already grown into multi-billion naira empires. We are constantly told to "give to the Lord" as a way to escape poverty and financial hardship. Yet ironically, the only people escaping poverty seem to be those collecting all the money.

Spiritualizing Physical Problems: In Nigeria, it is common for people to pray for issues that actually require practical solutions, common sense, and strong political action. Rather than holding political leaders accountable for problems like bad roads, frequent power outages, or poor infrastructure, we are often encouraged to "fast against the spirit of accidents" or "pray for light to come." Religion, in this context, has become a convenient shield for the ruling class—whenever things go wrong in society, instead of demanding answers or change from those in government, we are directed to look to the sky, hoping for divine intervention rather than demanding responsible governance.

The Big Question:

Is religion truly providing genuine help and support to Nigerians, or is it merely acting as a sedative designed to keep the impoverished population from voicing their frustrations and grievances while they continue to be exploited and taken advantage of by those in power? Does it serve as a meaningful source of comfort and guidance, or is it simply a tool used to pacify the masses, preventing them from challenging the systemic injustices and inequalities that persist in society?

I really want to hear from everyone about this. Do you think we are being manipulated in some way, or is it possible that I am just overanalyzing and overthinking the entire situation?

#Religion #Poverty #Nigeria #SocialIssues

I’ve been reflecting quite a bit lately on the current state of our Universities and Polytechnics across the country. While the rest of the world is rapidly advancing and shifting their focus toward cutting-edge fields like artificial intelligence, renewable energy, and highly practical technology skills, it genuinely feels like many Nigerian classrooms remain frozen in time, still operating with outdated methods and content reminiscent of the 1980s.

Curriculum: Are educational institutions and educators continuing to teach outdated theories and concepts that no longer hold significant relevance or practical application in today’s rapidly evolving, technology-driven, and highly competitive global job market? Is the current curriculum adequately preparing students for the real-world challenges and demands they will face in their professional careers, or is it stuck in the past, relying on information and methods that have become obsolete over time?

Infrastructure: Is it genuinely feasible to produce world-class graduates when our laboratories and libraries remain outdated and significantly under-resourced, lacking the advanced tools, modern technologies, and updated facilities that are absolutely essential for providing cutting-edge education and fostering innovative research? Without these critical resources, how can we expect to equip students with the skills and knowledge required to excel in today’s competitive global environment?

ASUU/Strikes: To what considerable extent do these frequent, prolonged, and persistent interruptions significantly contribute to the perceived 'decay,' erosion, or devaluation of our academic certificates over time? How much do these ongoing disruptions affect the credibility and overall worth of the educational qualifications we earn, and in what ways do they influence the reputation and value of our academic credentials in both local and global contexts?

What do you guys think about this issue?

Do you believe the education system is genuinely 'outdated,' or could the real problem lie more with students not taking enough initiative and being proactive in their learning? In your experience, did your degree truly equip you with the skills and knowledge necessary for what you are currently doing in your professional life today?

Wait, 'see your wife as your daughter'? Isn't that a bit extreme? If she’s your daughter, does that mean you also have to discipline her like a child? And ladies, how would you feel if you found out your husband sees you as his child instead of his partner?

floss:
If you really want to enjoy peace in your marriage, do this and you will see you and your partner living in harmony.

—— As a man, see your wife as your daughter and not your equal or age mate, what I mean by this is that , the moment you see your wife as your daughter, whatever she does or says will always sound like your daughter acting or talking to you, so you won’t be angry at her actions. You will always love your child (daughter) so transferring it to her won’t be an issue.


——Don’t become her son by allowing her gaslight you into a fight or argument, be the man in charge by not engaging her into a fight or argument .

Church classes are good, but are they teaching the real thing? Many go through those classes just to get the certificate so the Pastor can marry them. Most of these classes only tell women to 'submit' and men to 'love,' but they don't talk about financial compatibility, toxic in-laws, or [b]what to do if your partner is emotionally abusive[b]. Don't you think these classes are sometimes too 'spiritual' for real-life problems?

coputa:
Yes, you made a valid point here, most Nigerians weren't taught how to manage differences especially in marriages.Am happy now that we now have classes in some churches for couples to be and already married.Gradually we will get there.

It’s good to hear a positive perspective for once. But since you say many marriages are working, why are they so silent? If 'bad news' travels fast, shouldn't the people in happy marriages speak up more to encourage the rest of us? Or is 'happy marriage' now a secret that people are afraid to share so they don't get 'eye' (evil eye) from others?

brain54:
They are many people with the right partners...


Many marriages are working. Just that bad news as they say travels faster and is projected more.

They are many people happily married.

Most people are with the wrong person because they ignore red flags and look for the wrong things in a partner. It may surprise you to know that some people select partners based on physical attributes alone (boobs, behind) not on values or personality also ignoring flaws they can't cope with.


I believe life is a risk... there is really nothing so straightforward and non risky if you look at it carefully. Taking calculated risks is the key. And I don't think anyone who really knows what they want or are looking for can be so deceived by a partner to not notice some kind of flaws.

In most cases those flaws are present but ignored. In any case it shouldn't be too late in a relationship to do something about it if the relationship is so draining. Marriage is a choice and not prison.


And yeah... I think the risk is worth it with the right partner!

Omo, 'Shege wey pass them' is a deep statement! But be honest, if a man is 'brutal' in his requirements, won't people call him 'too picky' or say he has high standards because he's rich? And even after being brutal, can't people still pretend for 2 years before the real character comes out?

Apus:
It is when you end up with the wrong partner. Unfortunately men in love are either blinded to the red flags or believe love conquers all until they see the shege wey pass them in marriage.

Men should be brutal when choosing a partner they plan to spend the rest of their lives with and that goes beyond beauty infact that should be the least requirement.

The Right Partner'—this is the goal, but how many people actually find them? In a country where people hide their true characters until after the wedding, isn't finding 'the right one' just like playing the lottery? Is it worth the risk?

brain54:
Being with the right partner...


Not just anyone is the secret. The right partner gives peace of mind and complements an individual. The right partner adds value and not take away value.


One wrong turn and you are with the wrong person... and it's wise to exit such relationship when it's so draining and not working!

You have a point, but is it really that simple? Managing differences with a colleague or a neighbor is one thing, but living with someone who makes you miserable 24/7 is another. Do you think Nigerians are taught how to 'manage differences' before they jump into marriage?

coputa:
Singles still fights,this is just a result of not been able to recognize and manage differences in every human.

It's not only in relationships but anywhere you live and interact with people.

If you recognize and respect the differences in people's character and opinions,you will be able to live cordially with people.

The biggest mistakes people make is trying to change people

The man I saw in the car today looked exactly like what you described—just emotionally drained. Is marriage now a trap for men?

Apus:
Nigerian men especially have little or nothing to gain in marriage. Is it the financial drain, disrespect from his wife, cheating, emotional stress, lack of cooperation from spouse, sex starvation e.t.c ?

[size=16pt]Happy Sunday everyone,[/size]

Today, I witnessed something that truly disturbed me deeply, and it has been occupying my thoughts relentlessly for many hours now.

I was at the fuel station filling up my car when I noticed a couple inside their vehicle having an extremely heated argument. It wasn’t just a minor disagreement or a simple quarrel; the intensity of their bitterness and the harshness of the words they were throwing at each other were quite overwhelming.

The man appeared utterly drained and exhausted, as if the fight had taken everything out of him, while the woman was shouting at the very top of her lungs, completely unbothered and indifferent to the growing crowd of onlookers who were watching the scene unfold.

As I walked away, a sudden thought struck me with surprising clarity: Could it be that being single in Nigeria is actually a hidden blessing in disguise, offering unexpected advantages and opportunities?

We live in a society where, once you reach a certain age, it seems like everyone around you suddenly starts asking questions like "When is the wedding going to happen?" or "When are we finally eating your rice at the celebration?" There is an enormous amount of pressure from family, friends, and society as a whole to "settle down" and start the next chapter of life.

However, what rarely gets discussed openly is the significant mental health toll and emotional strain that can come from settling down with the wrong person, which can lead to long-term unhappiness and stress.

I often come across people on Instagram who seem to be "happily married," sharing perfect moments and smiles. However, in reality, many are enduring their relationships rather than truly enjoying them.

Many stay in their marriages not out of happiness but because of their children, fear of judgment from their church community, or the anxiety and stigma associated with being labeled "single." These underlying reasons often keep them trapped in situations that are neither fulfilling nor joyful.

My questions to the house:

- Is the "peace of mind" that comes with being single underrated?
- Why are we so afraid of being single that we would rather be in a "war zone" marriage?
- For those who are married, is this just a phase, or is the "happily ever after" thing a myth?

Let's have a meaningful discussion on this topic. I am genuinely interested in hearing thoughts and experiences from both single and married individuals. Your perspectives are valuable, and I would love to learn from everyone’s unique viewpoints on this matter.

UPDATE: Mid-Thread Review – What we’ve learned so far...

Thanks for the massive engagement, everyone. Reading through the 40+ comments, it’s clear we are divided, but some deep truths are coming out:

The "Designer" Ponzi: Someone mentioned that it’s not just "Mumuism" anymore—it’s the "packaging." Scammers now use AI, Crypto, and high-end offices to make "gullibility" look like a "smart investment."

The Church Factor: This is a big one. Has the "Miracle Money" and "Double-Double" theology destroyed our ability to spot a scam?

The "First-In" Mentality: Some people aren't victims; they are "participants" who know it's a scam but hope to cash out and leave others in tears. Is this the peak of "wickedness" or just "surviving Nigeria"?

One more question for the house: > If a scheme launched today promising "20% ROI monthly" (not 100%), backed by a popular celebrity, how many of us calling people "mumu" on this thread would secretly DM them?

Let's be honest for once! 😂

Akinpedia:
Warm compliments of the festive season to all my fellow Nairalanders, wishing you joy and happiness during this special time of the year.

I was recently looking at some eye-opening statistics that truly shocked me. Did you know that between the years 2016 and 2025, Nigerians have collectively lost more than ₦4.88 Trillion to various Ponzi schemes? This staggering amount highlights the severe impact these fraudulent schemes have had on individuals and the economy over nearly a decade.

From the legendary MMM scandal that shook the financial world back in 2016 to the recent devastating CBEX crash that swallowed over ₦1.3 Trillion just this year alone, the cycle of financial fraud and deception never seems to come to an end. Every single time one scheme "crashes" and collapses, another one quickly emerges under a new name—often cleverly disguising itself using trendy buzzwords like AI, Crypto, or E-commerce as a form of "packaging" designed to mislead and deceive unsuspecting people.

The Big Debate: Greed or Poverty?

Whenever a particular scheme crashes and falls apart, causing significant distress and leading people to start "crying blood" metaphorically due to the severe consequences, the comment section inevitably becomes divided into two distinct groups:

The "Poverty/Sapa" Defense

The current economic situation is extremely challenging for many people. Inflation has surged past 30%, and the Naira is rapidly losing value against the Dollar, almost as if it is swimming backwards. This harsh reality has left countless individuals and families in a state of desperation.

When a scheme like Loom comes along promising to transform just ₦10,000 into ₦80,000 within a matter of days, it can appear to be the only possible way out for someone struggling to feed their family. Scammers are fully aware of this vulnerability and deliberately present themselves as "community helpers," exploiting the desperation of people who are barely surviving.

The "Greed" Reality

On the other hand, how can anyone reasonably explain a "business" that boldly promises an astounding 100% ROI in just 30 days? To put this into perspective, even the world’s most powerful and established banks cannot guarantee a 30% return over the course of an entire year.

Interestingly, some of the people who fall for these schemes are not those struggling financially—they are often well-to-do individuals such as doctors, bankers, and other professionals who simply desire "fast money" without putting in the usual hard work. They fully understand that it’s a high-risk gamble, yet they hold onto the hope that they can "cash out" early and leave the unfortunate "lastcomers" to bear the financial losses and carry the burden.

The "Red Flags" We Keep Ignoring

Unrealistic Returns: Any investment opportunity that promises to double your money within just a single month should be treated as a major red flag and approached with extreme caution. Such claims are often too good to be true and can be a sign of potential scams or fraudulent schemes designed to take advantage of unsuspecting investors.

The "Bring Two People" Model: When the income is generated solely from recruiting new members, rather than from selling actual products or services, it functions as a pyramid scheme rather than a legitimate business opportunity. This model relies heavily on continuously bringing in new participants to sustain earnings, which is unsustainable and often unethical.

Vague Business Models: Many of these schemes claim to be involved in activities such as "Forex trading," "AI-powered Trading," or "Gold Mining", yet they fail to provide any concrete evidence or transparent information about how the money is actually being generated or where it is being invested. This lack of clarity makes it difficult to verify the legitimacy of their operations or understand the true source of their revenue.

My Question to the House

Why do we continue to fall for these things time and time again? Is it possible that the widespread hunger and desperation throughout the land have clouded our ability to see things clearly and make sound judgments, or is it simply that we are a nation comprised of people who are irresistibly drawn to the idea of receiving "free money"?

Have you ever found yourself in the unfortunate position of being a victim? Or perhaps you managed to "cash out" just in time before the big crash happened? We would love to hear your personal story and experiences related to this. Please feel free to share your thoughts and insights in the comments section below. #MMM #CBEX #PonziScheme #NigeriaEconomy #Sapa #Investment

It’s easy to call them gullible until you see the 'packaging.' These guys use professional websites, office addresses in Lekki/Abuja, and even pay influencers to promote them. When a scheme looks 99% like a real business, even the smartest people can have a 'gullible' moment.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
There will always be people willing and available to buy your market

These people are called the gullibles

But is it really mumuism, or just a 'nothing to lose' mentality? If a man's salary can't even buy a bag of rice, he’s already 'dead' financially. To him, the Ponzi is a gamble, not an investment. He knows he's a 'mumu,' he just hopes he's not the last mumu to join.

zinaunreal:
Na mumuism dey worry us no be ponzi.
If I say world will end tomorrow despite people knowing that a Ghanaian man cashed using using thesame format, Nigerians will still pay me money. That's the level we dey. Even some nairalanders reading this will pay. People that construct better english than I do will even pay more. Mumu 😆

It’s a mix. The religious 'seed sowing' mentality has definitely played a role. People are now wired to believe they can 'sow' ₦50k and 'reap' ₦500k by miracle. Scammers just changed the name from 'Seed' to 'Investment'

PulaPower:
Greed

Miracle money..

They’ve been told in church that miracle exist..

Spot on. The 'Get Rich Quick' mentality is a spirit in this country. Everybody wants to 'hammer' without sweat. Once they see 'Double your money,' their brain just resets

muyico:
Greediness
Covetousness

Warm compliments of the festive season to all my fellow Nairalanders, wishing you joy and happiness during this special time of the year.

I was recently looking at some eye-opening statistics that truly shocked me. Did you know that between the years 2016 and 2025, Nigerians have collectively lost more than ₦4.88 Trillion to various Ponzi schemes? This staggering amount highlights the severe impact these fraudulent schemes have had on individuals and the economy over nearly a decade.

From the legendary MMM scandal that shook the financial world back in 2016 to the recent devastating CBEX crash that swallowed over ₦1.3 Trillion just this year alone, the cycle of financial fraud and deception never seems to come to an end. Every single time one scheme "crashes" and collapses, another one quickly emerges under a new name—often cleverly disguising itself using trendy buzzwords like AI, Crypto, or E-commerce as a form of "packaging" designed to mislead and deceive unsuspecting people.

The Big Debate: Greed or Poverty?

Whenever a particular scheme crashes and falls apart, causing significant distress and leading people to start "crying blood" metaphorically due to the severe consequences, the comment section inevitably becomes divided into two distinct groups:

The "Poverty/Sapa" Defense

The current economic situation is extremely challenging for many people. Inflation has surged past 30%, and the Naira is rapidly losing value against the Dollar, almost as if it is swimming backwards. This harsh reality has left countless individuals and families in a state of desperation.

When a scheme like Loom comes along promising to transform just ₦10,000 into ₦80,000 within a matter of days, it can appear to be the only possible way out for someone struggling to feed their family. Scammers are fully aware of this vulnerability and deliberately present themselves as "community helpers," exploiting the desperation of people who are barely surviving.

The "Greed" Reality

On the other hand, how can anyone reasonably explain a "business" that boldly promises an astounding 100% ROI in just 30 days? To put this into perspective, even the world’s most powerful and established banks cannot guarantee a 30% return over the course of an entire year.

Interestingly, some of the people who fall for these schemes are not those struggling financially—they are often well-to-do individuals such as doctors, bankers, and other professionals who simply desire "fast money" without putting in the usual hard work. They fully understand that it’s a high-risk gamble, yet they hold onto the hope that they can "cash out" early and leave the unfortunate "lastcomers" to bear the financial losses and carry the burden.

The "Red Flags" We Keep Ignoring

Unrealistic Returns: Any investment opportunity that promises to double your money within just a single month should be treated as a major red flag and approached with extreme caution. Such claims are often too good to be true and can be a sign of potential scams or fraudulent schemes designed to take advantage of unsuspecting investors.

The "Bring Two People" Model: When the income is generated solely from recruiting new members, rather than from selling actual products or services, it functions as a pyramid scheme rather than a legitimate business opportunity. This model relies heavily on continuously bringing in new participants to sustain earnings, which is unsustainable and often unethical.

Vague Business Models: Many of these schemes claim to be involved in activities such as "Forex trading," "AI-powered Trading," or "Gold Mining", yet they fail to provide any concrete evidence or transparent information about how the money is actually being generated or where it is being invested. This lack of clarity makes it difficult to verify the legitimacy of their operations or understand the true source of their revenue.

My Question to the House

Why do we continue to fall for these things time and time again? Is it possible that the widespread hunger and desperation throughout the land have clouded our ability to see things clearly and make sound judgments, or is it simply that we are a nation comprised of people who are irresistibly drawn to the idea of receiving "free money"?

Have you ever found yourself in the unfortunate position of being a victim? Or perhaps you managed to "cash out" just in time before the big crash happened? We would love to hear your personal story and experiences related to this. Please feel free to share your thoughts and insights in the comments section below. #MMM #CBEX #PonziScheme #NigeriaEconomy #Sapa #Investment