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Kobojunkie:
. Here are two straightforward scenarios for you to analyze and give straightforward answers in response to. 🤔

Scenario A: A pastor married a wife, and after about 5 years of what seemed a loveless union, decided he had found love with another woman — he fell out of love with his wife almost immediately after the marriage. It started with him emotionally cheating on his wife.(He was a pastor with a sleek tongue, so he could explain away even the most awkward of moments with ease.)Eventually, he tagged his wife as a bad woman, and began heaping blame on her in attempts to create a reason for his eventual divorce/abandonment of her and the children she had for him. All this so he could eventually make room for the new woman to come into his life. 😐

Scenario B: A brother-in-the-lord who had been born-again for over 10 years. He fell in love with another lady, but the woman he desired wanted nothing to do with him. She was also in the church, but her eyes were on another man. She later married that other man and had a child with him. Fast forward 3 years, our brother-in-the-lord finally saw himself seeing what he referred to as visions of another woman whom he believed his lord had chosen for him to marry. He and this other woman were asked to enter into prayer, and they came out of it convinced they were meant for each other. The two— our brother-in-the-lord and this other woman who believed they were both right for each other — eventually got married. And no sooner had this happened than all hell broke loose for this new wife. In public, our brother-in-the-lord maintained his spiritual persona, but at home, this man saw his wife as a punching bag for all his shortcomings and lost dreams. He gaslighted his wife into believing his abuse of her was all her fault.

Our brother-in-the-lord is filled with regret and hurt every time he sees the first woman he longed for but never could have with her husband in the church. He hated that the woman he married was nothing like the woman he desired, and each time the other woman's husband showed her affection in the church, our brother-in-the-lord came home to take out his angst on his poor wife, who knew nothing of what was going on in her husband's head. 😐

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Now @Amarachieze, please tell us, in each case above, which of the individuals would be classified as the unequally yoked individual in the marriage, and which would be the compatible or incompatible one. 😶

Well I would not like to delve into your (personal) negative perception of religion and Christianity in particular.
However it seems to me that you think anybody that goes to church or claimed to be a pastor is truly a born again christian. Nothing is further from the truth than that notion
In the two scenarios you mentioned none of them is even a believer not talk of being unequally yoked.
Nevertheless, it is important for you to know that unequally yoked as recorded in bible is a marriage principle that applies to Christians and non Christians alike. It is warning not to entagle oneself with partners of different of different ideals, beliefs and world-views because you are bound to have conflicts in such relationships be it marriage, friendship or business. Can you imagine me and you living as husband and wife. My faith will definitely conflict with your Freemason ideals. This is unequally yoked.

Nuclear what? As one of the world powers?
Please that energy and resources should be channel to solving the problem of hunger in the country.

cutecommend:
I did not say I am regretting marrying someone. That does not apply to me.

'May you not meet your original partner after you have married"
OK tell me if you meet the so called original partner after marrying another partner what will you do? How will you feel? Happy? Grateful? Sad? Regret?
I am not saying that is your current situation but as the OP you actually put yourself in the place your hypothetical individual while making that prayer that is why I referred to you

I think Shehu is voicing out his frustrations. No president no matter how selfless will sit and watch his govt toppled. Even the coup plotters were also motivated by vaulting/selfish ambitions

Anybody that is thinking about coup in Nigeria today is not driven by selfless interest. The President as person is not the problem of Nigeria but weak corrupt institutions like the National assembly who have sold their conscience for 💰.

Kobojunkie:
That depends, since most people did not marry their first ever girlfriend/boyfriend right off the bat. Many typically test the waters, eventually deciding on settling with the one that remained with them/the one they could settle for, or the one they suppose they love the most out of the rest. So, to me, the term itself makes no sense in this situation unless one is attempting to replace the term "first marriage" with the word "original".

This is what I have been saying. The term doesnt apply
The OP was just regretting marrying someone that is not compatible.
Those of us in religious circle especially Christians refer to such union as being unequally yoked
So if he divorces the incompatible and marries a compatible one it doesn't mean the second is the original wife

Kobojunkie:
Terms like "Original", "God's will", "Soul mate", "True love", "Rightful husband/wife", etc., are all false ideas concocted by those within religious/traditional circles. In the world outside of those religious/traditional delusions where all of us— including the religiously deluded— actually live, those terms hold no water — they are meaningless.

2. "To err is human!" We are humans and we make mistakes... we are guaranteed this. For a human to then pretend that is mistakes(which he is almost immediately aware of the moments after making them— the human mind is a wonderful machine in that sense) are somehow sanctioned or, as the religious nut jobs would pretend, made "holy" is to operate one's life on an even greater level of stewpidity than one ever should have to.

There is no original or fake. There is just the first one and the next one after that, and so on. Simple!

Original carries the impression of being "first" or "beginnig" not good or bad as people generally believe. Some products may not be the original but at the same time better than the original product.

Kobojunkie:
It is very possible. Holding on tight to a spouse whose eyes are filled with adultery is indicative of knowledge that one is not a real spouse though. It screams of desperation and a desire to be needed no matter the cost. 🥱🥱

Go ask all those people who remained in abusive -- adulterous --- marriages what they gained from their actions? In the end, none gained purpose in life but heartache and heartache which they busies themselves trying to heal from for the rest of their days. 🥱🥱

I don't have problem with one leaving anyone who chooses to leave any toxic relationship including marriage.
However the term "original" is what I don't understand. If a one makes mistakes in choice of a partner does it imply the woman is not original wife? How can the second be original and the first fake?

This is very terrible!
Eyes full of adultery they never stop sinning says the Holy book. How can someone you meet or saw after marriage be "original" while the real wife becomes fake.
Anyways the beautyful ones are not yet born

Dearlord:
Poor credentials to merit such a post.
Well Nigeria things are done by favor & diabolism

Poor military or academic credentials?? Please tell us what is lacking

Otherwise, envy and bitterness is your name

Anything to make sure Nigeria did not slide back into Military dictatorship is welcome . The president should not stop at sacking/overhauling the security architecture but ensure thorough,unbaised investigation of the alleged coup plot. We constructively criticize Tinubu to strengthen democracy not to bring in dictatorship.

If there's any time Military would have been welcomed, it is during the time in this country when we were not even sure whether our president was dead or alive.

This is very sad. Other countries are fighting drug peddling but in Nigeria they can be rewarded with the position of a president and granted national pardon

Whether he employs the services of the best SANs or not, his trial is 100% political.
He was tried and aquited long time ago so what else is he doing in Nigeria prison. He doesn't actually need any lawyer. I commend his boldness.

Why is Reno not fact-finding or is it fact-checking this man. Are the tables no longer shaking. Even one unreliable lawyer that came for Reno's defense said absolutely nonsense. Well still waiting for his fact-laden reply

Making caricature of the fight against corruption; some persons are not to utter somethings from their mouth but since it is in Nigeria everything goes. House divided against itself will definitely not stand

If this is the same Natasha that was suspended for rejecting the change of seat and resorted to blackmailing members of sexual harassment then she need to go for retraining as a lawmaker. How can she make law when she can't follow simple rules. Unnecessary attention seeker

The biblical Pharisees who killed Jesus Christ comes to mind. Jesus chided them for tying a heavy load for others while they would not lift a finger to carry any of the loads. Beware of the yeast of the Pharisees which is Hypocrisy.
All religions; Judaism, buhdaism, Islam, Christianity even traditionalist are full of hypocrites.
Religion in the hands of men (the ruling class in particular) is a veritable weapon of oppression, subjugation, exploitation and manipulation.
The hour is coming and the hour has come when the true worshippers will worship GOD in truth and spirit. For GOD seeks for such to worship him. John 4: 23-24
JESUS IS THE WAY, THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE.

The question is did she dress like ashawo? It is very mischievous to blame the innocent children for being frank.
The children were socialized or brought up in a social environment that taught them how people; men ,women, pastors, girls, married, unmarried, police, soldier, ashawo etc dresses or should dress.
For example when they see one with military attire they call him soldier even if he is not. They also knew nurses, doctors and lawyers by their dresses. It is the same society that tells them the teacher is ashawo by her dress that day. So blame the society or the woman not the innocent naive children

Adaisback:
Sowore stop playing on the emotions of my people , we are tired of the sit at home. Many people did not come out today because of fear and nothing more. KANU is a con man just like you. And for those that will question my igboness, no problem but know one thing, there is nothing I have said here that did not come to pass. If you want to free Nnamdi Kanu go and beg wike. Wike can demand for his head just like Nnamdi kanu demanded for wijke's head years back and nothing will happen. Go and beg Nwike and you all should pray that the souls of all those Kanu ordered for their death even before he was arrested also forgive him especially prophet Nwoko, if not, mark my words, KANU will spend additional two years with DSS before he finally kpai.

" Kanu is a con man"
And Tinubu is ?
Buhari is ??
The longer you keep Kanu, the more popular he becomes.
His continued incarceration is a justification that Kanu is fighting a just course. He is in prison because of his tribe not for any known crime. Remember you cannot keep down the people forever

Ishmael(Arabs) and Issac/Jacob (Jews) were brothers (sons of Abraham) They should learn to live in peace as people from one progenitor - Abraham.
I can't understand why the children of Ishmael are too hostile to the Jews even more than the Edomites (children of Esau) who Jacob supplanted by taking his blessing and birthright.
Going by the number of wars the Arabs have waged against Isreal since 1948 and lost, it is evident they have been fighting the biblical God who promised to bless Ishmael but made his covenant with Issac.
God of Abraham their Father agreed with Sarah ( Abraham's wife) that the son of the bond woman (Hagar) cannot be heirs together with her promised son Issac though against the will of Abraham
God in keeping with his words have indeed blessed the Arabs but the covenant belong the children of Jacob so they Should stop fighting a lost battle.

With the state governors, it is easier to rig. If it's not electronic counting they may rig for him.

"allow Mr. President attend strategic bilateral meeting outside the country" well done and welcome Mr President

Reno is a very poor economist or rather an arm-chair economist. In a capitalist liberal economy which inform the macroeconomic reforms of the present regime, there should be no room for protectionism which is why the Naira is liberalized and subsidy removed. If Nigerian goods compete favorably with Peter Obi's imported ones then his business will close down naturally.
In other words, if Obi is importing what Reno could easily produce in Nigeria to weaken the naira then what stop Reno from producing those goods easily and cheaper to compete with the imported ones and kill Obi's importation business?
Let somebody school that nuisance that the successive govenment of Nigeria which Reno was and is still part of have failed to provide the enabling environment for production not Obi as an individual

bejeria101:
Rule of law? Tinubu dey respect rule of law?On what planet?

A president that wasn't around on the country's independence day. Really.

Ruling by decree is not the same as disobeying the law. If the lawmakers are serious, Tinubu has no option than obey the law or be impeached. But in military govt the head of state is the law himself. Anybody wishing Nigeria go back to Military regime will definitely regret it at the long run. Don't be deceived, the present Nigerian Military is as corrupt as the Civilians if not more. They are neck-deep in the present corrupt system. Nepotism is even rife within their ranks. Money budgeted and released to fight insecurity, is not only misappropriated but oftentimes stolen. If Tinubu is not performing, let the lawmakers impeach him or the masses vote him out in 2027

Coup or military is not an option in Nigeria. As much as the election that produce this government was not fair it is still far better than a despot like Abacha coming to set aside the constitution and rule by decree.
I don't know why some section of this country any time they are not in power....... Is Tinubu regime not better than Buhari's? Why no coup? No matter how much we criticize Tinubu, Military despot usually by the Northerners is a haram

Were they hoping to win or draw Chelsea? Then they were deluded. The score line is even a win for them. In the days of Drogba, Hazard, J. Cole, Kalou et al, it would have been over 5. 😂

But was anyone expecting Nigeria to be in the list fastest growing economy? That would have been a "false expectation" I remember reading a novel called "Great Expectation"

To think that Reno Omokri has an ambition of becoming the vice president of Nigeria is very laughable. Does it mean that he doesn't know what his public image in Nigeria and else where looks like. I think that is the height of delusion. Even Tinubu cannot endorse such character to be close to Aso Rock. Even those he is working for now are aware that he can at best be described as a "useful idiot" that cannot be trusted.

I weep for this country!
What has this to do with the alarming level of poverty in the country. So we voted the lawmakers to pick up quarrel with each other and then the Attorney General will sue them to court for political advantage?
The Federal govt just woke up this morning to understand that a public statement made over three months ago is defamatory. Shameless politicking

This question should go to his country's FA to explain to
him the rules guiding the competition not CAF because caf is not answerable to him. That's why I don't subscribe to despotism whether by barrel of gun or by internet glitch; they are always terrible

Saturnalia:
I know Reno Omokri is not a saint. Nobody is perfect and we all have our flaws, but sane and sensible Nigerians can see through these coordinated attacks launched against Reno (Just like they did to Segalink) by the Obidient Mob, simply because he has been ruffling their feathers for a long time.

We all know that these attacks on Reno stem from exposing the smelly Yansh of Peter Obi. Even if Reno Omokri is a lair, he can never compete with Peter Obi.

The Obidients that have been telling us that Peter Obi is an Archangel Michael who just dropped from Heaven last year, and has no character flaws, and is the only person that can save Nigeria - are who you want me to believe & take seriously ?

The same Peter Obi that is part of the rotten establishment, and who has benefited massively from the rot? Is who you are painting to me as an Archangel?

He who comes to equity must come with clean hands. You’re accusing Reno Omokri of what you have been caught doing red-handed so many times ? Is that not funny?

This is why I don’t take any one of them seriously.

You all must be joking if you think Peter Obi will ever be elected as the Nigerian President even in a Billion Years from now.

In conclusion, I will choose Reno Omokri over Peter Obi or Mike Arnold or any Obidient member & fictitious character that was dug up to smear his reputation any day any time.

Look who is accusing Reno Omokri of being a Joseph Goebbels?

The Obidients that have been caught several times employing lies & propaganda to sway & manipulate gullible Nigerians on Twitter and on other Social Media Platforms want us to believe Reno Omokri is Joseph Goebbels?

All of you are not serious. Go and sleep!

Not "even if Reno is a lair"
You know very well he is a pathological one. He doesn't just lie to inflate himself as his friend noted, but is paid to lie: even to lie against his own conscience. If you take time to read the negative things Reno said about Tinubu in the past and the opposite things he is saying about the same person today you will agree with me that Reno doesn't just lie; he is irredeemably shameless

Comparing a character like Reno with Peter Obi is insane

Murder is criminal offense; it is not a case of civil litigation and so the injury is not wholly on the family but the state. Her punishment in the first place was an act of deterrence not compensation or appeasement to the family. This is why the government did not (and is not expected) to seek the approval of the family before granting the pardon. The crux of the natter is that the clemency will actually embolden other criminals

muyico:
If they kill her, will that wake Ur son up?? Forgive her, and hands everything to God, to judge her

Sometimes, silence is golden