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Great thread

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Maybe you WERE too attached but just didn't know it. 1st person perspective vs 3rd.

There is a difference between being caring and being a mugu.
By terminology, being "caring" really means showing love on your own terms. Being a mugu is showing love on the other person's terms (and by that definition, I am sure you can see that being a mugu just never makes sense....ever).

Self-respect CAN co-exist with showing love. Meaning you will not debase yourself or allow your gestures to be abused while caring for the other person. And that you certainly wouldn't continue if it seems that you are the ONLY one putting in these efforts.

The same applies to girls who attach to their man and over-follow him everywhere like a puppy. The guy would eventually lose respect for her because it just seems like she has no life of her own.

The feeling is much worse for a girl thinking of a man like that, because unlike men, it is absolutely impossible for a woman to love a man she does not respect (or fear). She may form "we are a good couple" for the sake of face, but when real men she respects enter the room, she will beam at/walk to them and forget the mugu standing behind her that night. Such is life.

The girls saying they will "appreciate" a man doing that for them are thinking of the man they already fantasize about or respect, doing that for them NOT the mugu-minded man (he gets no such mental real-estate).
If they have no respect for you to begin with, if you like wash all their blood-stained pynt and cook for them every week, you will get nothing but reproach and will be called a f00l behind your back...or even in your face while you dey wash her kpata.

Ofcourse, like all things, when the girl becomes an old woman with less options, menopause running to meet her with speed, and none of her prime targets were interested enough to make a decent woman out of her, ofcourse the mugu starts to look like a catch. But by then he is usually just licking the dirty plate clean after the other men with self-respect had the full meal.

Damn that's scary!