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amdman:
UPDATE

Our decision to allow you engage the agent of your choice in clearing your car going forward was not taken because of a lack of faith in the team that we set up, or because they have been dishonest. It was taken largely because we received enquiries in the past from buyers that wanted to handle clearing themselves. As we are transiting to RORO, we thought it a good development that people would be able to handle clearing themselves. What we did not bear in mind was that the trust you have for us is for us alone, and does not extend to other service providers.

In view of various feedback above, we will continue to handle the clearing aspect on your behalf until we find a more suitable arrangement that is satisfactory to you.

Thank you for trusting us with your business.

Thank you for clearing the air.

femmy2010:
if your Container is in Tin Can than there is no congestion that would keep it unexamined for almost a week after it's initial scheduled examination date but if it was routed to an off-dock terminal outside Tin Can then such has always been experienced and expected even before COVID19.

Thanks. I really dunno what's going on. Seaspan Saigon that was originally supposed to arrive 22nd of April is yet to arrive, and it was later rescheduled to arrive yesterday up until now, it still hasn't arrived. I'm really confuse as to what's going on. I'm tired. The whole shipping thing is going to 3months now.

oliverjiad:
yes theres congestion most especially on containers

Jaid

Okay, so this is possible of delaying examination?

femmy2010:
Good Morning,there is currently on congestion delaying examination.
Once your ship has been discharged, your agent books for examination, and this won't exceed an additional 24hours late positioning for examination.

Please do you mean no congestion? I've been told, examination was delayed since on Friday last week because the shipping line is unable to bring down the container because the ports are jammed with containers ...

Please is it true there are congestion at the ports currently, which is capable of delaying examination? Abi them dey bobo me?

rev2214:
45k and try Odo olowu warehouse

Okay. Thank you sir

Jokes apart, Amdman have you been quarantined? Your silence is deafening.

I guess it's safe to say Amdman has closed shop. No response on WhatsApp, no update here. It's well with you Amdman.

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femi4: www.freepdfconvert.com/

Thank you so much sir.

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Please sir I have the repligo reader,I'm asking for an app that can convert a word document into a PDF. Thank you so much.

Please can I get a link to download PDF converter on BB,the two I downloaded from app world didn't work. Thank you so much.

Thank you all for your advices,they are very valid,God bless you all for showing concern. Do have a beautiful week ahead.

Floodgater: Why is he the one making the move for marriage now considering his low income, is he scared of losing you or something i havnt thought of? You are unstable and indicive now cos you dont want to say tomorrow you missed a good man or chances at rich suitors. Trust me when we get to crossroads like this, the answer lies in time especially when we take a deep breath n remain calm to see it(now till end of your nysc i belive is more time enough). Then to your man, he is making tangible effort to increase his pay like doing extra jobs or taking another available low pay job that gives time to do others and earn more or he is just where he is moving only for a bigger uncertain job. Encourage him to do the former as the latter is not ok for one hoping to marry soon. Finally there's truth in the above that says 'some broke niccar sabi love'. So chilax with a clear mind look at the situation and his hustling attitude critically. You will know what to do sooner than you imagine with the contented contents of your peaceful heart.

Yes he does extra jobs,to add to his income,I'd say he's hardworking,its just a pity that the beautiful job that befits him hasn't come,but we're trusting God it will come sooner than we expect. Thank you so much.

soulglo: You already answered your question. Read the bolded part again. Emphasis on "currently". You have described him as a promising young man. Sweetie like changes at ever turn. These men with money today proves nothing for the future. You love this man and he loves you and you're both dedicated to each other. He is not lazy and your happiness is important to him. Focus on that. Taking care of your brother should not even be on your radar. That's his worry and not yours. Never look at someones pockets to determine their value. Having a high net worth does not make you worthy.

I really do appreciate this warm advice of yours. Thank you.

EfemenaXY: With regards to this your tale, you have no control over what becomes of you both if you do decide to tie the knot.

He might sit up and make something tangible of his / your lives, he might not, depending on his outlook, circumstances, and luck. You and only you can decide if it's a "risk" you want to take and work hard + hope for the best.

What you can control however is to prevent both your lives getting any more difficult. Marriage is not about how soon (re: commenting that you're in your twenties), but rather, it's about how well (i.e: remaining happily married, irrespective of your circumstances).

Babies are expensive. Naija is a tough, unforgiving place. My advice to you is to hold off getting married till you're both financially stable. You can already see for yourself, based on your older brother's current experiences how hard life can get. If you feel you can't wait and you really must get married, then hold off having kids.

See, it's easy to say don't have kids but I'd like you both to really understand how expensive having babies can be, so I'll be giving you some maths homework:

~ Go to your nearest supermarket and find out how much a 900g tin of powdered SMA costs. Let's assume your baby uses 3 tins a month. Now multiply that number by 12 to get the total cost of how much feeding your baby with an average of 36 tins of SMA will cost.

~ Find out how much a box of nappies cost. Not sure of the local brands back home but you could try out a pack of 54 Huggies / Pampers nappies. Newborns use an average of six a day. So you'll need about 180 in a month - so that's at least 3 packets of x54 nappies. Multiply that number by 12 again.

~ Baby clothes, cosmetics (baby oil, shampoo, bath liquid, etc...) find out those too. Mind you, babies quickly outgrow their clothes. Calculate how much those will cost.

~ Now will you both be living with your mum / his family? If not, find out how much it'll cost to rent a one room flat and the utility bills that come along with it (e.g light, water, gas, etc) and multiply those by 12.

Mind you, these are just the basics. Bare minimum. There aren't any luxuries here. If you feel you both you can cope with this, then okay. Somehow I doubt it if his 25K salary can stretch that far. How much do you earn (assuming you work)? Do you think your combined earnings would be enough to keep your heads above water?

If not, then it's best you wait. Especially with having babies. No child deserves to be brought into a world of acute poverty where the parents barely eck a living.

Be wise.

Thank you so much ma,I'll be willing to wait.

Enoquin: Options available:
1. Leave the struggling guy; marry a rich or a well to do man.
You may or may not end up happy and he might decide not to help your family, his money...his rules.

2. Stay with struggling guy; he might not be in that state forever or he might not go much higher than this present state or progress may not be so great.
You may or may not end up happy especially if you begin to resent him for not being able to meet all your needs.

Why do we choose life partners?

1. To make our parents happy and proud?
2. To make ourselves happy and proud?
3. To make our friends happy and proud?

I am an advocate of parent(s) reaping the fruits of their labour but at what cost? Has your mum ever hinted at you marrying a rich man?

You haven't gone for service yet, why not wait till after service before getting married? A good job might have been gotten by your partner then and if not, you both can look at ways that extra income can be made. Is your partner a graduate?

Suitors will always come, the key thing is contentment with what you own and with whom you are and you won't even see the suitors as rich or not but as men with faults and imperfections.

My advice? Don't worry overmuch over such things as these. You both don't have to depend on your mother if you eventually marry and things haven't progressed much, just live within your means...

I wish you both the best.

He graduated with a 2.1. Thanks ma,I'm encouraged.

dytbabe: Take it slow
Like really slow
I mean really slow, money is as important as love in a marriage.
And yes keep praying for it shall be well

Amen,thanks.

mployer: It depends on your reason for getting married. If you are looking for a ticket out of poverty, then he is probably not the right choice.
If you want peace, companionship and compatibility without minding some inconveniences, then you stay with him

I will advice you stay with him. There is a reason he looked 'promising' to you. You may not be able to explain it but just believe it.

Thanks so much.

eyenCalabar: It depends largely on what the young man is doing today for tomorrow. Is he a graduate or a businessman? What are his skills? What are his investments so far? What are his ambitions? And you, what are you doing now while waiting for service? What are your skills too? Or are you just going to depend on your degree? What are your plans and where do you hope to see yourself few years from now? What are you doing now? Making a relationship work is a collective responsibility. You guys should plan together on where to be few years from now and work towards it. Put away the idea of marriage for now and invest on yourselves. And lastly, 'close' your legs. If you no fit hold body, use condom. This is time to work for the future. Wish you guys goodluck.

Thanks so much. He made a 2.1,I'm currently working too,buh I'm thinking deep on a handwork to do.

Thanks all, the post has been modified/completed,I mistakenly clicked on 'submit' while I was still writing. Thanks y'all for your advices.

Hello Family,
Its been a great pleasure been on this section,I've learnt so much from here,and I know I can get helpful and reasonable advices here.
Straight to the point. I'm from a family of four,viz my mom,my elder bro' , my younger bro' and myself,our dad is late. We're just an average family. My elder bro' got married last year n now has a child. He's still sort of dependent on our mom. I'm currently seeing a young man,whom from all indications loves me deeply,I love him too as well,we've been dating for over a year now. He's told me he wants us to get married and to be frank with you,I'll be the most blessed lady to get married to such a promising young man,'cause he's a good man;but i'm really so scared of what the future holds for us if we end up getting married,this is because even though I'm from an average family,all my needs has always been carted for and I wouldn't know what starting my family with little will look like,'cause my fiance is currently earning very little(25k) and I'm a recent graduate who is even yet to serve,though I got a casual job to keep myself busy for the time being. Sincerely I envision a bright future for us.
I'm of the school of thought that believes that children would grow up to take care of their parents n not the other way round. Growing up,I've always dreamt of taking good care of my mom and my younger bro. I'm scared of ending up like my elder bro' who's still sort of dependent on my mom,Its my desire for my husband n I to take care of my mom as well as his parents.I love my fiance so much to leave him because of low finances,he's still doing his best to get a better job and I'm really encouraging him alongside with prayers. I'm not the type that will stay at home idle when we get married,I'm willing to support him.
Now my big is fear is, well to do suitors are coming(I'm in my twenties)but I feel it will be cheapening to leave my man for some other coz of money,I know money is vital in making a marriage work;but I feel its still not enough to break up something that seems genuine,he meets most of my requirements of an ideal man just that currently he's yet to get a better job... Dunno if I'm making any sense.
Please advice me,I'm really confused...

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