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CorGier:
Cecy, no point going all hypothetical.

Her purpose for travelling wasn't for business, OP stated clearly that she was on leave with the lame excuse of wanting to go "relax" someplace else.

In my experience with the "present day woman," if she feels the need to pick a fight just so she could leave town, then there can only be one motivating factor;
And that's the presence of one big, black, pulsing and venated cõck somewhere, she's creaming her panties for.
She came back way more relaxed, that's for sure.

Lol, reason why I said 'let's assume'. But what if she went for a girls time out with her friends who contributed and bought her an IphoneX, OP himself said she has a lot of friends and she is not doing badly too

1x2x3:
Lol her job requires traveling sometimes and she does that with ease. In the past I've tried traveling on few occasions but the moment she isn't chanced to go with me she objects and I respect that. This is the very first time I objected because she wasn't sounding convincing about her trip and she told me she will go and face any consequences when she returns..... Who's Alpha here?

Young man, I am not supporting you or your ex, just picking things from your story to counter you point just like a third party would. You see now, why a third party is not good for relationship? You have already started feeling like I am on ur gal's side, lol

1x2x3:
If she's here she won't even be able to defend herself the way you did. I'm not a church goer and I don't listen to bulllshitt prophecies. The pastor told me randomly when I went to dropped off his church member. What am I to do when we hit a brick wall while arguing for days? Sometimes you get in someone who you know she respects.... She has done the same in the past when she offended me bitterly. She involved a friend of mine she talks to, now I need someone to talk to her but there is absolutely no one close to her

And you are getting intimidated by my defense? See, first rule of relationship is, never ever involve a third party when having issues, if both of you can not repair the mess you caused then, you have no business being together (free advice). She doing it in the past doesn't mean it's right or that you should tow that path too.

The pastor is even her pastor ( I need answers to this before I continue)

Only1mi:
What's your obsession with a woman being under a man. A woman is meant to be by the side of her man, putting heads together, making investments together and reaping together. The mentally you have will send you to the woman you don't need.

They always want women they can control, who will look the other way when they cheat. Men are scared of women who dare. Who ask questions and try to behave like them, they term such women as bad women who shouldn't be married

1x2x3:
Did you say I digged? No sir, the pastor told me at random and I never cared. It was only recently I asked of her siblings number just for someone to help us mend the issue since I have absolutely no one that can talk to her but she became very aggressive and abusive which made it obvious there was something I didn't know. How can someone not be in good terms with 7 of her siblings?

Why would you try to involve a third party in your relationship issues, does that mean when you marry her it will always be a community meeting if you guys have issues? (I think that lady dodged a bullet with you). You are dating her, what's your business with whatever issue she has with her family and why use it as a yardstick to judge her. Are you sure the family didn't push her to the wall in the past before she became the person she is now?

My pastor said this or that is what ha destroyed so many homes today. You even remembering what that pastor said means he successfully planted a seed of discord in you, so any little thing the girl does will be termed 'this I what my pastor was talking about.

Oga, leave the girl alone, it's obvious you dated her for the free sex, you didn't care about her feelings or emotions and didn't assure her of her place with you.

CorGier:
I don't even know which I find more insulting;
Her insisting and traveling without your permission or her damning the consequences of her actions.

Meaning - to her - you're just a toothless bulldog who just barks as usual and won't bite.
That relationship should have ended the minute she hopped on that bus out of town w/o your consent.

Alpha male spotted. Let's assume she was traveling for business but did not want to tell the OP at the moment, she should not because a man who has neither married her nor been committed (from her perspective in the story) told her not to.

You guys need a lot to catch up to on the present day woman

Xisnin:
@1x2x3x
You are a controlling jerk who thinks he is doing the woman a favor. Your future wife is in for a rough ride with your dictatorial tendency.
It won't matter if you marry a 15 or 18 year old, mumu doesn't last forever.

As in!!

1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.

First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.

I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).

We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).

Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.

About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.

She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)

She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.

Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.

At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.

Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.

This story just doesn't click.

That lady has issues, trust issues especially and you did nothing to assure her of her place with you, reason why she mad those statements and even travelled despite you kicking against it.

That trust issue came from the mistakes she has made in the past and has an evidence of one that will forever be in her face. If you make a woman feel she is all you have got, a single mother for that matter, she won't pull the stunt she pulled.

You think you broke up with her, but she did with you the moment she started nursing going to Abuja (if it was a guy she went to visit) and started seeing you as a side piece.

You had a girl for you to concentrate on and assure her of your love fr her, but you were busy trying to dig up issues in her past through her family members and pastor, and you did! So, why disturb us here na

robosky02:
you go see chom chin

Wey match don end

robosky02:
hope you still there
Game has changed

Is it this 'changed game' that they will use for world cup?

Nigeria scores!!

Iwobi!!

Goal!!

Wait ooo, na these guys go play world cup for Nigeria??

Nigeria make first attempt at 36mins

robosky02:
Forget the initial gra gra
That's how argentina started till we saw 4-2

This one is initial gra gra with results ooo, see how our boys dey move like say dem they fear the ball

Just seems like Nigeria went for a fashion parade on that pitch!!

No attempt to score so far, possession 0, England just dey use dem

Na wa ooohhh

Tonto was right all along

NOETHNICITY:
Are you saying matas of Church (which re supposed to be of God) should be kept concealed because you are scared to subject them to public discuss and scrutiny?

Religion sha

Secret cult things na

uboma:
That command was made to a certain tribe in Israel.

You are not under that command.

So please stop trying to sound righteous.....

How about tithing young man? Keep contradicting yourselves in your defense of the lies

skolobo:
that time there was nothing like saloon or clipper even scissors never dey exist

Liar!!!!! So, hw did the women trim their hair or even some of the men their beards. How did they cut samson's hair.

Keep defending rubbish and spewing lies to cover up the rubbish

uboma:
It seems you have problem with comprehension.

The memo is against men wearing 'Taliban beards'. Do you sincerely think that a man with Taliban beards is really modest? RCCG has not banned wearing beards entirely as long as it is well trimmed.

Not allowing the Bridesmaids to continue wearing seductive dresses is also a good way to go.

Again, RCCG is trying to restore some sanity in the Church.

Just shut up your brainwashed brain need redemption

Opposition lawmakers set off tear gas canisters in Kosovo's Parliament chamber on Wednesday in an attempt to prevent the ratification of a border agreement with neighboring Montenegro.

Video posted to social media showed lawmakers wiping their eyes and noses as they left the chamber in Kosovo's capital, Pristina.

The tear gas was released by opposition party Levizja Vetvendosje, according to Avni Bytyçi, deputy chief of staff to Speaker Kadri Veseli. It was a tactic the party had used previously to prevent voting, Bytyçi said.

Watch video here: http://www.irukkanews.com/kosovo-lawmakers-release-tear-gas-during-parliament-to-prevent-vote-video/

So Shehu has a nice thing to say about Buhari interesting...

adecz:
"People were already fishing on it"

Did they know the name of the river?

All along the course of the river in
West Africa, ppl gave this same river
different names like Nigré, Kora,( bastardized to Kwara), Igbo & delta communities called it
different names etc, without knowing it was the same river.

It was oyibo that discovered its source & exit.

Stop displaying your stupidity, it's draining. So the river whispered to Park and told him it's name You think those people then didn't have what they called that river before ur hero Park changed it's name

dollyjoy:
Maybe this girl isn't that bad after all. Maybe being controversial was her own way of winning the game.

Shatap there 'judgina'!!. After you and your cohorts have condemned her to hell, you now want to play nice because you are seen another part of her

This woman sef

Just say her music no dey sell again, simple!

Chubhie:
Thank you Milady

You are welcome Milord

Chubhie:
Crazy country.You needed to see how people in their various desks were watching the drama in the senate and laughing at Nigeria. I had like four different people approach me on this today.

I guess this is the only reward of being a Nigerian.

Sorry, u hear? Others have it worse, it's just Nigeria's time to show off

Beautiful baby