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You may be depressed if, for more than two weeks, you've felt sad, down or miserable most of the time, or have lost interest or pleasure in usual activities, and have also experienced several of the signs and symptoms across at least three of the categories below.

It’s important to remember that we all experience some of these symptoms from time to time, and it may not necessarily mean you're depressed. Equally, not everyone who is experiencing depression will have all of these symptoms;

•Behaviour:

-not going out anymore
-not getting things done at work/school
-withdrawing from close family and friends
-relying on alcohol and sedatives
-not doing usual enjoyable activities
-unable to concentrate

•Feelings:

-overwhelmed
-guilty
-irritable
-frustrated
-lacking in confidence
-unhappy
-indecisive
-disappointed
-miserable
-sad

•Thoughts:

-'I’m a failure.'
-'It’s my fault.'
-'Nothing good ever happens to me.'
-'I’m worthless.'
-'Life’s not worth living.'
-'People would be better off without me.'

•Physical:

-tired all the time
-sick and run down
-headaches and muscle pains
-churning gut
-sleep problems
-loss or change of appetite
-significant weight loss or gain

Link:
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/depression/signs-and-symptoms

Divay22:
What I understand is nobody cares anymore, all those flag off of one thing or the other they do,should be reduced first....

Child Abuse is slowly eating deep into our society and I fear a time will come,when people won't be able to do anything about it or even find no wrong in it...

A black goat should be searched for during the day , because when night comes one won't find it.

I just hope they get their eyes open before it's too late

Divay22:
Do our judges even go back to the constitution....
They are always not found guilty, that's if they are eventually taken to court....
Money is not enough, even the five years is not, compare to the emotional trauma this children will have to live with for the rest of their lives.....

It should be imprisonment for life or death, it might not eradicate it fully, but it will go a long way...

What's the duty of this GIRL CHILD AWARENESS I keep hearing?
Is it just for gender equality, education and the rest,is Child Abuse not included?

I agree with you five years isn't enough, life imprisonment should be the case. Plus the girl child awareness to me is really not including child abuse... boys are also abused why don't they know that?

Divay22:
Seeing thread of Children been abused lately is making me angry, it has even gotten to the extent of some so called fathers are now the abuser....

It's time for the government to do something about it, A bill should be passed into law, whoever is found guilty should be sentenced to death or life in prison.
If drastic actions are not taken, children will keep suffering from this, and the abuser won't stop..

They should stop arresting them, and later bail them out, it doesn't help, it's not helping anymore....

Exactly, although the bill for an Act on Child Abuse 2003 states in section 32 sub section (2)- the offender will be liable on conviction to a fine of five hundred thousand naira or imprisonment to a term of five years. But the question is 'is five years enough??'

Evaberry:
This is a very interesting topic. I wish mods would take it to the front page

I wished the same too... the awareness has to be viral to prevent the next generation of children falling victims to Child Abuse in future.

BestChoiceTutor:
Well said but unfortunately it's rather impossible to eradicate CHILD ABUSE in our society. If you will agree with me, it has been happening for a long time and it has continued. It is however noticeable now because of the increased population.
The only solution to this BRING UP YOUR CHILD IN THE WAY OF GOD and continue to pray for them, mind the kind of people you live your kids with. I have seen a lot as a Home Teacher and for God's sake some of these children are exposed to what they shouldn't be.
May God bless us all.

Yes, it's so sad that it can't be eradicated just yet. As for the solution you proposed, many families have neglected that part of taking care of the children. So I think some families need to be educated about that area seriously. Thank you!

If you were a virgin as a guy and you met someone who is a prostitute would you marry her

Child Abuse has been a growing factor for a long time; from Catholic Priests to even the children's parents. All over the world a child is been molested everyday and nothing has been done to help them at that moment.

They are silent because they don't want to get severely beaten by the molesters. They are threatened because they do not have a say in the matter since the molester has the upper hand.

It baffles me when I think of scenarios like: a young child goes to a church to worship God, finds either an ordained brother or a church personnel there who acts like he/she wants to give counselling or advice. The child explains his/her problem and concluded to the fact that he/she has faith in that ordained brother or church personnel and trusts him/her to inspire and help uplift the child's spiritual belief. But then again, the ordained brother or church personnel after seeing this desperate child, uses the desperation as an advantage. Why? Just to satisfy his/her useless pleasure...

At the end of the day, that child is emotionally unstable, psychologically deranged and his spiritual belief will drastically burn down; is it faith the child wanted? He/she no longer needs it. As the child grows older, he/she would begin to have hatred for churches, especially for priests.

Has that child's spiritual level not gone down the drain?

Child Abuse at homes are seriously disgusting, it could be the parents or the relatives. When the child is abused by the family, he/she loses trust in anybody around him/her. There will be a time where to get into a relationship would be difficult at some point and that could be regarded as a traumatic reflection or abuse in the life of the child when he/she grows up.

What could be done about this issue?
So many children have died as a result of child abuse and some are still alive as survivors; they are seriously in pain.

What's your view on this

The Chairman of the House of Representatives Committee on National Security and Intelligence, Hon. Sani Jaji, has said the committee has a mandate to establish the owners of the apartment and the $43 million recently found in an Osborne estate apartment in Ikoyi notwithstanding claims by the Nigerian Intelligence Agency (NIA) that it owned both.

He told journalists that the committee was making progress in its probe, adding that the Governor of Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN), Mr. Godwin Emefiele, would have to appear before the committee this week as his submissions would be crucial to the investigation.
He said some of the useful facts and progress achieved could not be disclosed at the moment.

Jaji said had been attempts on him and members of the committee on what direction the investigation should take and the possible outcome of the report.

He noted that the pressures had no monetary inducement but were in form of text messages and physical contacts “about what we should do, what we should not do, that we should dwell on this and not on that.”

The lawmaker said: “They say this or that agency has a reputation that should not be put on the line, and so we should not go beyond certain extent but we tell them that our determination is to safeguard the name and integrity of our institutions.

“But we tell them are aware that is it is not fair to castigate an entire agency for the wrongdoing of an agency and that is why we want to protect our institutions by getting to the roots of these infractions and expose the individuals responsible.

“It is a fact that there is no way one will embark on an assignment like this without sacrifice, and in this case, our dedication will determine our sacrifice. No amount of frustration will stop us as a committee or as individuals.”

He hinted that the suspended Director-General of NIA, Prof. Ayo Oke, would also be invited before coming up with a comprehensive report which would be available to all Nigerians after the House might have considered and adopted it.

“We must however have at the back of our minds that the essence of the exercise is the protection of our institutions and should not be allowed to public ridicule,” he said.

Jaji said a recent meeting with the acting Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) in relation to the Ikoyi billions had been fruitful.

He said: “We have been meeting with relevant stakeholders concerned in this matter before now, having met with Magu, it is our resolve to pursue this matter to a logical conclusion n because more revelations are coming out.”



http://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2017/07/24/house-cttee-insists-on-identity-of-owners-of-ikoyi-billions/

From,

The Witcher
Bloodborne
Mass Effect
Watchdogs 2
The last of us

The witcher...pfft I don't even know, it's too real to be true. The graphics are madass I swear.

Mass effect is just so roboticish (I know there's no word like that) it's cool with so much 'super powers'.

I personally prefer Watchdogs 2 and the last of us; they are officially my favourite.

Bloodborne is freaking horrifying like I can't even go far in killing all the zombies without getting killed. Plus they come out of nowhere!

So gamers, I know apart from Fifa 17 and other soccer games, y'al have played others... what's your experience like?

Khallyella:
To keep a healthy and happy relationship..
A girl must learn to persevere and be prayerful!
Just get to talk to him physically, ask him why he's being like that..
You may actually be the nagging type or one that causes trouble a lot and maybe, he's found peace in someone else...
Ask him to let you know if he's found someone else so you'd stop ignoring potential husbands..
If y'all cool again, if you nag, complain & get unnecessarily jealous, stop it! If you really want to keep him, Just stop!
If his side chic calls, hand him over the phone and tell him he has a call.. Don't pester him over his phone convo.. In fact, don't spy on his phone! Just be very patient with him and tbh, he'd change!
But while being patient, be on the look out for a replacement my dear... To avoid stories that touch...
But then again, his replacement might be worse so just chillax!
Bottomline: - Be patient & pray God changes him to a better person

Wow this really got me.. I usually nag too much that I guess jealousy took hold of me. Thank you so much for this, it really helped

pocohantas:
Hehehehehehe.
He isn't working and you love him for who he is?
Who is he?

Maybe the unemployment is getting to him. They do have their moments when they get unhappy and uninterested in everything. You have to talk to him, firmly. Not with tears in your eyes...
Pick a time when you're strong enough to have a logical discussion and sort it out.

Thanks so much I will do just that

*hears water splashing on the bathroom floor*
*knocks on the bathroom door*

Telemundo: ahan Gbanghan you dey baff?

Gbanghan: no oh.. I just dey stand for here dey look ceiling.

Some people can ask stupid questions
Drop yours let's all get our ribs cracking

laiza:
You well?
First is he working? What kind of job? And was this "issue" there since inception?
Lady if you do all the calling how is that nigga ever gonna call you?
Let him miss you too now and give him space and time to call.
But pls answer this honestly "Do you love him for who he is or who you expect him to be?"

He isn't working yet. The 'issue' wasn't there in the beginning and yes, I love him for who he is

Mirandah:
leave him alone sis. you need someone's who's gonna give you all the love and attention in the world.



that Nigga right there isn't.
move on..

Thank you... I'll try

Dotwillis1:
my dear he's done with you.... he z only trying to push you away gradually to make you lose interest. People don't break up anymore by spelling it out. Be wise

okay thank you

I've been in a relationship with this guy for 7 months and we've been good. I love him so much but I'm beginning to have second thoughts.

He rarely calls me and when I do he's either busy or he doesn't pick my call. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to call me back because until the next day I won't see any call from him.

I've told him about this issue several times that it feels like I'm bothering him about it and he just laugh over it like it's nothing. I don't know what to do anymore...

I know I'm being selfish by needing too much or expecting too much from him but I don't just like feeling like being neglected by the person I care about so much.

Please I need you guys' advice. Thank you!

Choi slay queen oh