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oldtruth:
...Got married in 2018. Had a son and another on the way. He was so specific about the marriage and forgot to tell us if she gave birth out of wedlock or even dated.

Don't bother yourself responding to stories like this

got married 27 Jan 2018 had my son Nov 14, second is coming around April 2020.

TheFacelessMan:
Deep down...you wouldn't find it amusing if she was in contact with her EX.

EVERY man knows this, let's put pretence aside.

Disclaimer - haven't read your post.

Modified - I wouldn't take phone smashing lightly.... but man, 2 kids in the space of how long ?

You need to be neutered.

1 kid expecting another by April

catoluy:
All these yoruba men and their problems with women...everyday problem. No Igbo woman can look the phone of her husband if dey born 'am well. Fear no go allow her; she will be sent packing immediately and Umunna meeting called. Igbo men no dey tolerate nonsense.

Abu m onye igbo

sassysure:
Yes o.
Everything u can think off.
He didn't go to antenatal during my first pregnancy. I didnt go at all but all the hospital visits he was there asking questions. Subsequent, he attended.

I only talked about the pregnancy and antenatal.
But, I can as well talk about her obsession.
Either that 1, she is afraid she will lose you as she never expected somebody like u will come her way,

you got it with this your no 1, her colleagues at work place use to talk about me with her, how lucky she is. She married a handsome guy that adores her, drop and pick her from work everyday etc and my head will be swelling initially but not anymore am tired

olril17:
u sound like a wussy...as a man,u have got to be firm and be in control of your marriage...geez!

am firm but but don't want to be to hard and make an irreversible mistake

olabrinks:
You missed the part where you cheated on her probably before marriage or after hence why she’s acting this way. No woman is going to behave like this out of nowhere.

I have never cheated on her before and after wedding but I can see this is hard to believe but faithful men exist

LOGOBELT:
You have really tried discovering her faults.

The next thing is to study her... Like what are the things that makes her angry? What are the things i do that piss her off? Most importantly, what does she want?

The matrimonial bedroom is not just a sleeping room... Wake her up at night, talk to her solemnly, once again i said solemnly...

As for your chat with your ex Biko, end it "its better to stay off Ex especially when you are married, to prevent Family Palava"

As for driving her to the market, antenatal and church, boss its your RESPONSIBILITY as the husband.

We men only show love to our partner before marriage, once she is in, you find it difficult to continue what you started.

Like I said, yoy have discovered her faults, next is to study her......

After that, next is to wake her up at night, say sweet and emotion capturing words to her, then when she fall for it.... Hit her with the words " Dear, i want to discuss something with you" while you caress her. Talk to her about it, and am sure she will listen.

Women aren't that DIFFICULT you just need to ADJUST a little, so that ONE TROUSER CAN FIT YOU TOO

bro are you married? Women are not easy as you think oooo, how is it my responsibilities, I go to antenatal I see most women if not all coming by themselves.

doitforyou:
This is bad and not sustainable. At some point you have to put your foot down. I suggest after she gives birth you guys have a very long talk. If you have cheated on her before, and she has forgiven you enough to marry you then part of giving you a second chance is to trust you until you prove her wrong again. You guys can’t be doing this, marriage is long.

This is why I can forgive a cheating partner but I can never get back with the person, because I can never trust that person again and it makes for a toxic and draining relationship.

I have never cheated on her before and after marriage, just that I still have the phone number of my ex and we watched a movie Okafor's law together. She so much believe in that movie, now back to the trust issue

daddytime:
Lol

Una no date before marriage? You couldn't have missed some of these traits even though some people are good at hiding their true characters while dating.

how am I supposed to know she won't want to learn how to drive on purpose, and if I decide to firm and she jumps bike, accident or miscarriage might happen, I won't forgive myself

I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

If we are holding buhari cos of wat he said 'my wife belongs to the kitchen' let him be and all this celebrities complaining are you his wife. the man said my wife belongs to the kitchen not women. It means his wife sabi cook unlike some women that dont near the kitchen na them go criticise buhari pass. If you ask some women where their husbands belongs to, you will get different funny answers

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