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Uzobejeme:How long will these supplements remain effective? And can he really keep up with purchasing such items that don’t seem cheap? There will be other responsibilities after the wedding and in marriage. Would it be wise to add these supplements to those obligations? Well, he did mention that they’re not poor, so I suppose it wouldn’t be much of an issue for him. But then, how could he introduce these ideas to her—even with the assurance that he’ll handle the cost—without making it seem like it’s all just an attempt to make her look good, and causing her to feel self-conscious, insecure or worried about her appearance? |
Vikto17:She ticks all the boxes of what you want in a woman, doesn’t she? You even mentioned that you love her more than anything on earth — yet the way she looks is a major concern to you? Your love doesn’t seem absolute, reliable, or sure. Firstly, if your love is truly as you claim, her looks should be deeply appreciated by you — regardless of who is older yet appears younger than she does. Secondly, I hope you have an idea of how pregnancy can transform a woman’s appearance, especially her face. Considering that her looks already trouble you, I doubt you’d stay faithful to her when you’re both expecting a child. I see that as a red flag or maybe an ox blood flag for now, because one day — as humans change and sometimes lie — you may start seeing another woman behind her, someone her age who only happens to look younger or more youthful. If your goal is to become a faithful husband from next year after your wedding, you must stop taking her looks as an issue of concern. She’s your woman! You shouldn’t expect her to look the same as others her age — that’s the beauty of life’s uniqueness. And, forgive me for saying this, but nature didn’t cheat her in any way. She’s simply her own kind of beautiful. Just a little piece of unsolicited advice: love her for who she is, because even beauty fades with time. Youthful appearances wear away with age. Appreciate your woman, and stop comparing her to others who may look younger. If your love is true and sincere, I strongly believe that her looks would be the last thing to trouble or worry you. I’m heartbroken for her — that you brought this issue into the open, when instead you could be showering her with praises like Omalicha or Asa owam (even if you’re not of Igbo descent). And about flattery — it’s saying things to people that you wouldn’t dare say behind their backs. It shouldn’t be encouraged. Don't do that! |