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vichaz10:
This is so me plus I tend to over think Alot...

Happy I have someone like me because sometimes I think I am weird. I can stay 3 hours just thinking of how sweet and fun the kind of life i want, just fantasy. It get to some point I start feeling serious headaches I just force myself to sleep.

My business crumbled all thanks to my good friend who I thought was helping me not know its all for his personal gain.

Well thank God for life and good health, prayer 2020 will be great for all of us amen

[quote author=Yxxx post=85357102][/quote]Actually we are no more together because of our genotype, she was the one for me but nature choose to kill our dreams together,

The highest impress I can do is to show you care by calling, crack jokes and flatter you. Only when you are my sweet heart I can impress you with surprises, not necessarily gift like preparing breakfast before she wakes up. give her warm bath not the one you will finish the girl with ebongi inside bathroom ooo, just bath only, then lay her down on the bed cuddle her and just joke and laugh till she sleeps. I also impress her by Helping her find solutions or give her ideas to solve her problems business /school wise. She is always happy and glad . I don't even know if I will call it impress because we are already dating.

RisenPhoenix:
There is nothing like love bro. Stop preaching a mirage. If Ubunja's write ups can make him understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush, it will more easily keep him from getting manipulated by women in future. It hurts to see guys so naive. Didn't you see his heading? He desperately needs advice. How can we ignore his plea for help by keeping him in the dark?

Sometimes you people surprise me "if ubunja' s write ups can make understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush"
before ubunja love exist and after ubunja it will still exist. Love is a mystery you can never explain or create perfect way of how love is gonna work,

That some people fail in a business does not mean others don't succeed in it, don't let that write ups spoil and mess you up. I read some of his write ups which are good and I took some point from it.

Funmmyastic:
The redpill god Ubun.ja on this thread below said men should dump ladies that build with them and go for their specs.
https://www.nairaland.com/5604583/ideal-lady-doesnt-marry-rich

I am not ubunja, his god for people that choose to make him one. Don't allow all that, polute your mind. I don't know you but I feel like you believe in love, don't let someone change that. Broke or not what a lady should look for in a guy is one that has vision, that has potentials. Because even that rich guy can turn broke one day.

jaxxy:
Anybody or gal who looks down on a broke person is either ignorant or has little understanding about how life works. I only have a problem with a broke and lazy person.

Any gal who says she can’t date a broke person lacks understanding. It’s better she keeps quiet than expose her ignorance or shamelessness especially if she’s broke herself.

A broke persons priority shud be his work and hussle bt if love happens then it’s fine also. It’s no biggie.



Any gal that can’t date u when u were broke and then comes at u when u have made it doesn’t deserve u or ur seriousness at best she’s a play thing, unless Ure a big fool.

How many of our celebs weren’t broke asses b4 from D’banj, don jazzy to wizkid and psquare? Broke guys are goldmines.

Best comment ever you just spoke my mind

dapo456:
I saw a guy ranting about Ubunja and how his post messed him up so I decided to check up on the guys topics, I picked the "imprint" after 20mins I was considering marrying a virgin which is almost impossible. So I quickly closed the page. I can't imagine reading the complete write up, i was just on paragraph two...lol, i know i will be completely messed up at the end. Now i understand why one guy is complaining about ubunja... Please i'll advice you not to start reading that guy's posts ooo. Its better you remain blind and be happy, the truth will mess you up believe me.

His post is just like the forbidden fruit, it almost got to me but I got my self back I just took some few words and stuff he said, if you really want love or believe in love and you know you don't have a strong mind don't even try to open it you might end up losing your mind, you will start doudbting somethings. His words are mind polluting.

This is for people that still believe in love

Riele:
I gave a reason .

Read my post again .

Because it's useless venture is not a reason, don't allow the few experiences with few men cloud your judgement, babe there are broke men trying to make it there are broke men with ambition. Don't generalise things like this.

Riele:
Flee , my dear Flee .

We've been hearing the regular anthem of most broke men that a woman should build her man .


Total Trash .

Never date a broke man for any reason .




Why ?

Because it's a useless venture .

Most Men ain't worth the stress

In all you wrote you didn't give any point, you just created a topic without any point. so people will come here and start taunting each other.

It shows how lazy you are you want ready made, it's only a brave and hard working lady that will not mind if a guy is broke so far she sees his ambitious, he has a goal and his working towards it to achieve it. Only your words of encouragement alone can make a man move mountain, some of you ladies don't know your worth in a man's like.

That's why men see most of you as intimacy gadgets because you don't want to put it you just want to take out. If I know get am today I go get am tomorrow.

imiski:
Sometimes it's just good to be a fool and avoid unecessary arguments.

Seriously anything that will lead to a heated argument or fight I try to avoid it, win let me lose no problem.

Only Me alone purposely watched all the advert almost 65 of them, but I just don't care he deserve it that's, my little appreciation

This is the kind of song will need in this our current economy, to help encourage our Youths and to also teach our ladies to build with there men,it's not easy for we men.

Watching the video alone will increase moral, to work hard and also know that hard work pays. Mehn the video really motivated me.

"IF I KNOW GET AM TODAY I GO GET AM TOMORROW"

The video is really touching I watched it over 5 time mehn clearance you are too good at your job. Sweet song good lyrics, very inspirational

Love is love, a mystery, it's unexplainable, even you feeling it can explain the in depth of it, love is the total openess of your heart body and soul to share it with the person you care.you feel like swallowing the person so you guys can share one body with two souls, love is powerful it's a good thing but also toxic it can make you insane if you don't do check and balances with your brain, if you leave your decision for your heart to decide alone. Mehn nigger you gonna lose your mind end up wasted and useless in life.

Jewessgratitude:
Oh.. Congratulations on that Sir. I believe that was then. But I'm not even interested in having anything to do with anybody from this corrupt site.

I am curious. pretty what really happened because I am a man generalising stuff like that makes me wanna know what happened.

[quote author=tejiri4 post=85272786]But the thing is that I don't feel the word called love anymore [/quote


You feel it but you are scared, relationships at work place is not that healthy, except you guys are really matured to handle it.

RisenPhoenix:
There is nothing like love bro. Stop preaching a mirage. If Ubunja's write ups can make him understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush, it will more easily keep him from getting manipulated by women in future. It hurts to see guys so naive. Didn't you see his heading? He desperately needs advice. How can we ignore his plea for help by keeping him in the dark?

I'm sorry bro that's your opinion and I respect it but there is something called love only the brave can get it. It's never easy but there is. I have experience it, all my ex are still friend with me, all my break up are base on matters that is bigger than us. So bro there is what we call true love. Have you ever been a ladies best friend and boyfriend, have ladies always love confiding in you trust you and share stuff with you. Bro there are good ladies out there. I understand you it is risky because when you get played your heart will be crushed, but we can say because accidents occurs on the high way for that we won't travel or is that what want to tell me?

RisenPhoenix:
Ah ha ha ha! So naive. Have you been watching Telemundo? Tell me, is it your nice friends that have the best girlfriends, or the bad boys among them?

Ubunja has some pretty accurate write ups here on NL concerning that false belief. Search for his profile and read all his miseducation articles. It was your type of person that he directed all his efforts for. It is a good start.
Come back when you've finished reading and tell us what you did wrong initially.

I won't advise for that, ubunja has lots of good write up but with the way this guy is. it might change him and polute his mind to experience love . Ubunja write up is for matured mind. it is toxic at the same time there are some wise words there too.

Davash222:
Let be said that we warned you about this impending doom you’re getting yourself to. Flee from this affliction. There’s no gain in it. It brings only sorrows and pains.

Please let the guy be,if he doesn't start to learn now when will he. Maybe at 35 or 40 then he can start dating abi, one thing you have to know, heart break cheat, true love. Mind games, in relationships makes you learn teaches you alot in life,

He must at one point date which is now, please free the guy, as for op always have this in mind not every body go like you she might chat with you smile, but she won't like to date you.

Yours is coming, and maybe you rush things to much like telling her you love her, how you are tripping for her, sometimes that word love changes everything when a girl hears it. It is hard to process for then, and because you have mentioned that love things won't be like before again.

Why not make friends with them, call them chat with them create a space in there heart, ones in a while go low don't call form busy let them miss you, crush on them but don't tell them your mind, be blunt tease them, taunting them a bit with maybe something they told you, just have fun before you know it one out of 3 will fall for you. Make them like you, trust you be free with you let your actions speak the love. Women ones the are free with you and can trust you. you always make her happy my dear you don't need nothing, the girl is yours.mind you also in this process you would know the one's that naturally don't connect or like you, then you move on it saves you the heart break of she telling you t no in words.

All this you need to be a man, control your emotions don't get carried away too much. that is why one's in a while you go on break let her call let her feel your absence, until she finally falls for you.

Mind you I'm not a play boy don't take advantage of ladies emotions, I am a gentleman. I cherish true love and the best love is to be both her best friend and also her boyfriend mehn you would know there is heaven on earth.

E. not romantic and caring

JacksonMS:
we were not made to have a partner.

Abeg oo e da kun my own no reach like that ooo partner get e own sweet side ooo, when you truly find the right one

pryme:
I just hope you guys find a real life companion sooner than later, cos when you are on your own for so long, you tend be more dependent on yourself, and enjoy solitude more.
While others may do everything to make the relationship work cos they can't stay alone, you tend to take the relationship as an "option" cos you have your self to fall back on (where others find this difficult to do), you don't have a problem being alone, this could be a problem.

But it gets worse, introverts are just too picky, shrinking the possibility of finding a life partner from 1 in a 1000 to 1 in 10,000 or even 1 in a million.

With this in mind, I have made my peace with the fact that I may die alone in solitude.
It's all or nothing, it's either it the right person or nothing.

You are right ooo I'm too picky no be say I fine or I get money, but I sabi select. People around me think I am proud but they don't understand. Funny thing is maybe the person I selected no go fine self but, I just too too picky

okikiosibodu:
I have never been to a beach not because I can't afford it, but cos I can't stand the imagination of a crowded place with total strangers, in an open space. I live in lagos. If it's a big hall (say a partyl I can always step out or go to the gents to get a grip of myself and then return. In the theatres, I make sure I go early to the cinema so I can be among the first set of people to enter and then walk straight to the furthest chair at the rear, to avoid human interaction/ contact. But don't knw how to deal in a beach
I know it won't be a day's work, but can you give a guide on how to come out of this shell?

I was ones like this always shy timid even it still happens till now, I just learnt to upgrade and remodel my own introvert to my own advantage, before if I want to make call even to my fellow guy I would be thinking of what we are going to discuss not to talk of a girl mehn it wasn't easy I just refine my own and it's working for me. Just that depression part is really eating me down when it strikes but I thank God I am able to control it now a bit

Being an introvert is fun me, for me I learn to fall back to myself when I feel a girl want to take advantage of the love I have for her, they are always surprised because I can love care pamper you but once you take me for granted, no more I free you and fall back to my self, sometimes they feel maybe I'm pretending, but I'm not that's just me.

Sometimes people feel I am too proud because I don't talk much, always with my phone watching comedy series, or browsing when am in a place or group of people I'm not familiar with. If you are a lady and I like you, I will find an opportunity to connect with you after few meetings will tell you bluntly how I feel.
I am always honest so I don't have time for mind games I really get sick of it, once I Tel you my mind, collect your number will call you try to relate with you, ones I notice your reactions towards my calls maybe you want to play mind games or you naturally don't like me. Omo that's the end ooo I no call again, but that doesn't mean if I see you outside I won't talk to you. I love been introvert I see things differently and I love to understand things. My ex I wanted to marry (we separated because of genotype). She will offend me in her mind she would think I will shout and reck but she when be surprised the way I would die the case will even make her more afraid. I would just smile and tell her I understand and I forgive you, it's just fun to be introvert because you are like a mystery, the way you understand life is totally different.

But dear there is disadvantage oooo had some really set back financially and all, my goals crushed, depression came in my brother that's when you would hate to me an introvert, till now I'm still battle it, I just wish God will answer me. Let me bounce back again.

For that's only the bad side depression no one to talk too because you always want to be alone, thanks to my brothers and siblings, but Las Las It's fun to be an introvert especially ladies will like you because they want to know you more.

Sorry incase of any typo, I am high already in my third bottle of hero, happy boxing day. I dey enugu incase any babe want to take me out for a treat. Yes ladies no be guys ladies I repeat again. Forget all this boldness ooo na the hero dey work oo

Lightangel65:
Why are shells made in the first place, for protection, besides this love crap doesn't exist

You say all this because you haven't experienced true love, I know the world have changed most relationships now is just for fun, but my dear if you do experience true love you see relationships has more in it than sex and money, true love is just like female orgasm, not every body will experience it till they die but they do still enjoy the sex though.

I smile when people say it's only a weak man that still believes in true love, but the reverse is the case, to love truly is for the brave if you aren't brave you can't love.

As for you op, you just have to take the risk you are just been too secure subconsciously losing up.

Ellarhh:
I'm 21, a graduate, will be serving in March. I don't have money ooo
I'm kinda broke (struggling with my importation business I started of recent). I'm not looking for a guy that'll spend on me tho' (spending on me is a plus but it's not a priority). Still, I need a man that's okay financially. Someone with a legit source of income.
I'm inexperienced with sex but I'm open to it if we vibe well.
Also, before you indicate interest, I'm not a slay queen ooo abeg. I'm quite lean, a bit busty and *not* tall.

I can really fun to be with when I like a person and can definitely have intelligent conversations and motivate you to do better. I'm not promiscuous as well.

I'm searching for an honest guy that I can be friends with (I lack male friends). As time goes on we'll decide on if we want a relationship or not.
If you're between the ages of 24–27, you're fair , fun to be with and smart then I'm your girl. If you reside in Port Harcourt as well, that'd be nice.

Any interested persons should PM me please. Thanks

Cc: Lalasticlala

I stay in enugu, I'm 29, tall and huge,