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NjaFoodie:
Gosh I didn’t think anyone would want to know the backstory.
Well. I gave up my nice upper middle class life, beautiful flat, my furniture, my new car, my family, all the clothes, shoes and handbags a girl could want. I gave away alot and sold some. I took on a 2nd job for a year to save and prepare for the move, ended up saving equivalent of 20k usd. I left my own country to move to Nigeria after 2.5 years of long distance. We planned for me to move to him because you know it’s hard for a Nigerian to japa. We were to get married, stay in Nigeria a while then switch countries. Not long after I arrived he started acting weird, like ignoring me and just being very different than the previous years of long distance. & yes, I visited him 3 times that long distance time. When I relocated, It was to rebuild again with him for us.
We had some major issues adjusting to being together and I realized it was because he never really wanted a full relationship. He had always had situationships and this was his preference, even though he never said this. It was clear to me.
But I was stuck, I had already gotten rid of my whole life and relocated. So I hung on, we stayed in and out, while he breadbeumbed me to keep me attached and he went on to keep exploring other people while also entertaining me and telling me he loves me, he wants us to be a family etc but we needed to “heal” he kept saying. Basically giving me a bs excuse of why he could t commit to me.

That went on for 2 years, we’re both living separately but still in and out together, he’s still doing what he needed to do to give me “false hope”.
He went on vacation to another country, alone, to return in a month. After that month, he told me he was not coming back to Nigeria ever. So he left me in his country. I was of course devastated, almost killed myself tbh. And I lost probably 25 kg, so I was a skeleton. That was the lowest I’ve ever been in my life. A week or so later, I was investigating and saw he was in the new country boo’d up with a girl.
So we fought back and forth and that was it, we did not talk or anything for 4 months. He was blocked everywhere and I was in Nigeria alone.

After 4 months out of the blue, he sent me 5 million naira. Then a few weeks later, he sent another 3 million. He was still blocked. After that 2nd transfer of $$, we started communicating again via email then I unblocked him. He sent $$ out of guilt I later realized.
Long story short. He got me to go to the country he had Japa to and when I got here, we make up and said we’re re-starting with a clean slate, leave the past in the past, forgive and forget.


2 months went by, everything was great, perfect in fact.
Then one day he got a call at midnight feom a number with a pink bow, now name. I asked him who that was and no answer from him. So my antenna’s went up again.
He was storing one of his suitcases at my flat for whatever reason I can’t remember and when I saw that phone call and he was being secretive about it , I decided to open the suitcase just to “see”, nit thinking I would find anything.
To my horror, I found printed pictures of him and the girl that I caught him with while I was still in Nigeria. I asked him and he confessed that he moved to the new country and started a new relationship with her within the 2-3 weeks AND when I arrived to the new country and we were supposedly starting anew, fresh start, he was still seeing her, juggling and rotating us, essentially having 2 relationships going.

So again, I wa devastated, distraught, so many things I can’t even put into words. So I retreated again. This time for 2 months. I was again in a foreign country alone, he’s with the girl. I spent Xmas & new years alone.
Then after 2 months, he emailed me and begged me again.
Now mind you, I love this man with all of me, so it’s easy to be dumb stupid when it comes to him. Plus my being alone in a foreign country worked in his favour. I wanted him around but I was trying to maintain some dignity for myself.
So again, we got back together in February. We were good March, April and May. Then he got a new car, a new Mercedes, his dream car. Soon as I saw it, I knew what was coming next.
The next week, we had planned a road trip for Saturday. Saturday morning he called and said he had drank too much on Friday night and he was broke. So I sent him $$ and told him to rest, drink water and we can reschedule the road trip.

He came to my place that Monday-Wednesday and that’s the last time we saw each other.
I felt he was OFF again, his energy. So I investigated and saw that that Friday he went out, he had dm’d a girl on IG, for her an Airbnb for the weekend in the city, took her out to dinner, clubbing and whatever else. So that’s why he was broke and asking me for $$. Which is just low down dirty of him.
So I contacted the girl and told her he’s not single. She didn’t care. She preceded to brag to me how much $$ he spent on her.
Then I told all of his friends what he did becazue he told the girl I was a leech, lazy and crazy. She told me this.
Which I am none of those things, I work and make my own money and I never ask him for a penny.


Some sought back and forth via text becazue he wasn’t man enough to even pick his phone, for about 3 days we fought then just blocked him everywhere again.


So this is the 3rd time he had blindsided me after begging me tio come back and making all these promises.
Mind you, when we met, I was at the too of my
Game, I made good $$, had a good lifestyle and i helped him to elevate himself giving him $$ every month before I relocated. When we met he was washing clothes in a bucket, living in a tiny tiny studio flat and he had no car. Before long, with my help, he had a new iPhone, new MacBook, a car and he was on his way up.
And today, we have 100% switched places. I am the poor one, no car,no decent clothes, my flat is reddest and this is becazue I keep having to take
A month or two to recover from the shxt he does to me. So
The energy I would use to “build” was going to picking myself off the floor after he blindsided me.
Today he had a new Mercedes, all designer clothes, lived in a high rise in the city and he had $$ in his bank account. It’s like he did
Juju on me and sucked my life force and used it doe him. Becazue we are literally switched from what we were when we met.

So after some thought. I would normally just be the bigger person and walk away as I have done many times before. But this time, I feel I need to yeah him a hard lesson to not play with people and play with peoples life like he has done.
Mind you, I can’t even write everything he had done to me here but just know, I am severely traumatised from him, I’m nervous all the time, like a scared abused dog shaking in the corner.

And why should I just walk away and take months again to HEAL from him while he goes on with his life with this new person. I want him to feel how it feels to lose EVERyTHING like I have.

So I decided to report him and have him deported. Then we are even, I have nothing, he will lose everything and be where I’m at and feel what I feel.
I’ve never ever been in such poverty as I am today and it is because of him and his lies and manipulation.
I hope this makes gives an idea of my WHY.

I’m not a bad person. I’ve just reached the end of my rope of being abused repeatedly. I’ve been good to him despite how he’s treated me.

What was you say It was long for me read

My broter Musa also buld house for dad in kano

When was me go to enter plane in my life

The man key my father father in yeas back

U gor gor u gor

Was USA their

U gor gor u gor

Was is not unifesity of corn

May our sow ress in peice

It was for feple that was not like to see it

Who was they kill

Osimen this is your day to blos

Me like to crime we are all crimas in 9jiria

May our sow ress in piece

sammsimm:
Sensible people indeed

Was he not coret

Who was your fader now

Was long for read but who dye

May our sow ress in piece

I want to sell my kiney who we buy

Where was they see moniy to by it

May we ress in piece

May Rest in piece for the die feple

May our sow ress in piece

merits:
what are you saying?

Pls I need moniy I am hugiry

Pls I need moniy I am hugiry

May our sow ress in pice

Pls feple I am hugiry

Pls I need moniy I am hugiry

WowSweetGuy:
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Mean

hopexter:
Sell your phone and get a smaller one then manage the balance for the time being. Your stomach is more important.

You are not a guds boi