All this are mere conjectures and irrelevant to the subject of the thread or my post. So don't quote me to advise, not after throwing your ignorant GenZ jab. You can do that as a standalone post. None of the parties involved have said they don't want the marriage dissolved. What the guy wants is for his ex FIL to call him or bring the bride price back himself and like I said and I repeat - IT IS NOT COMPULSORY THE MAN DOES THAT. There are FILs that do not want to set eyes on the SIL again and some would even transfer your money back to you. EOD!
I know your type. Argumentative and irrational with delusional tendencies.
Changing color like a chameleon to suit your narrative is tantamount to irrational behavior. Education is everyday process, be humble to learn this one.
A reasonable father that want to return bride price should do so through his kinsmen. Nobody is saying father in law should personally return it but the people returning it is not traditional and unacceptable.
pocohantas: The question here is not if it can be returned to the groom, but if the bride's father must be part of the return team. So Mr/Ms Senior Genz, take a second to read before responding to me.
The father of the girl cannot claim ignorance because you have no knowledge of their indoor conversation. If they have done that and appointed people to come return it, then it up to the guy to be on ground with his kinsmen to receive it. If he does shakara, they can drop it with his village head. At no point is it compulsory the father must come himself! Given that from the look of things, the guy has not deemed it necessary to reach his inlaws all through the supposed period of reconciliation. If he wants reconciliation, then he should call for it.
Also, it is IGBO, not IBO.
Thank you
You read where I advised accordingly yet you taking this part of ignorance trajectories.
If they intend to return the bride price, there's that person every traditional marriage employes before ceremony, the .MEDITATOR, they should look for him and hand him the bride price.
Breaking of marriage is not easy either traditional or civil marriage. It takes 2 years minimum to get court divorce and when it is traditional it takes processes.
When your intending husband comes, definitely he'll do knocking of door, introduction, payment of bride price and finally traditional wedding. When your husband says he no do again, let your father inform one of your sister's husband to do the refund.
For the useless Inlaw that got involved, shame on him!
pocohantas: If you don't want a marriage again, I wouldn't know why you will be dramatic over receiving your brideprice. The father doesn't have to call. Has your friend called his ex father inlaw in the period of separation out of respect or to see how things can be fixed? If no, then I fail to see why the father should extend same honour to him.
If they refuse to collect it. Then a lawyer can drop it off with their village head. It is not even compulsory you hand it over to the man or his family. Let alone it being compulsory the father calls or brings it back himself.
Gen Z advisor.
This situation depends on who's calling for the divorce. If it's the lady, she'll inform the father if still alive or father's kinsmen who will then invite the parent or guardian of the guy to come for their bride price. In Ibo land, bride orice is paid by the parent or elderly kinsman and not the intending spouse so naturally return of bride price is returned to an elderly person of the ex husband and not directly to the ex husband.
If it's the guy asking for return of bride price, sometime the parent of the girl may stall for a while to give reconciliation a chance and when it didn't happen, father may wait until his daughter remarries and then the bride price is returned to the previous husband.
Whatever is happening now, the father of the girl will claim ignorance in the near future.
Coldspice: Do you know that Biafrans are the only people supported by Israel who eventually lost?
Imagine Biafran men running away, none wanted to lead. They had to go import Effiong and Banjo to lead. Even Ojukwu ran like a dog when Obasanjo landed.
Imagine a tiny territory standing up against the Nigeria government with all their arsenals and foreign allies including Egypt actively participating. Imagine a tiny territory raising a ragtag military to keep the Nigerian forces and their allies busy for 3 whole years.
helinues: Okay. Tell us the improvement your current state governor, House of rep members and the senators made for their constituency, for their people
The prices of good and services in other countries are not the same compared to 8 years ago
And if you want to use minimum wage as an excuse for not improving, you need to consider purchasing power. Things are more cheaper in Nigeria compared to other countries which the minimum wage is far better to Nigeria when exchanged the currency but when you compared things they will buy with that money, Nigerians would buy more with their meager salary
Kenya for example, their basic salary is around 30,000 KES, equivalent to Nigeria currency is N399,000 @ 13.3 rate.
Average one bedroom in Kenya is 10,000 KES, basics, transportation, foods, and here and there are still there to sort out.
A beer in Kenya now should be around 250KES. Can you buy one bottle of beer at N32,500 in Nigeria?
Stuppid economic analysis.
You import everything you consume, pay duties and taxes on them, how then do you buy things cheaper?
Just small play when Hamas go play inside Israel, it has cost Iran many military Chiefs, Hamas leaders, Hezbollah leaders and Palestine flattened to the ground with shout of genocide everywhere.
Then imagine killing Netanyahu or any IDF general, Israel will nuke middle east.
nedekid: Whats is hezbollah? Do you even know? What is the he reason the group was created? Do your research, because it seem you are uninformed. Simply reciting the colonizers narrative.
So Muslims created Hezbollah to be firing missiles and rockets into isreal?
Without US, Israel cannot do 1% of what it does. 4 Israeli soldiers killed with a drone. US deploys troops...US deploys Army Ships. US provides weapons for Iron Dome...US = Israel and Israel is US's puppet LOL.
Without Iran, North Korea those terrorists won't even exist supported by Turkey, Qatar and other Islamic propaganda media organizations.
nedekid: Rubbish as usual from the apartheid occupier, muderious, war crime committing regime. The Israelis have aircraft tanks, missiles to penetrate the Lebanese airspace and land anytime they wish, since the Lebanese don't have the same, should they just lay down and die without resistance with the little they have? The tunnels is located in Lebanon just as Israel has air bases in Israel.
Is Hezbollah the Lebanese recognized army formation?
How could a nation allow " militant group" acting as though they have been captured.
If Lebanese army are not ready to flush out Hezbollah, IDF is capable for the greater peace of both country.