Op I really salute your courage to bring up this topic. I've learnt over time that not everything can be discussed... especially the mysteries of other realms. It's all hidden for reasons.

People are in a rush to give PBAT second term.

Very few know tomorrow's shocker!

Leave tomorrow alone and enjoy this moment while you breathe.

Forgive her, but don't marry her for your own sanity sakes...

It's not the conscience pricking her...it's because you suspected and found out the truth eventually. Forget all those crocodile tears.

Except you can live with the memory, then marry her and see if another thing she doesn't know won't come over her again and again with Oga Sugar daddy or someone else.

Your choice though

Moneyyman:
That stupid talk of "happy wife, happy life" is what brought men to this stage. Men are expected to keep their wives smiling even when it goes against their nature. Men are expected to do EVERYTHING their wives ask and suggest, but many of these women won't even move an inch when you make suggestions.

To you, my guy, I'll advise:.

1. Find time to sit her down and explain all you have mentioned here. Do it calmly and don't raise your voice at any point. You'd be surprised to know that she often does them without realizing it. Women are just wired to be manipulative but that's not an excuse.

2. Tell her that you want to see an improvement. Demand it.

3. Be patient but be firm with her. Don't rescind your decisions simply because she's cold and angry. If she acts cold, you act normal. And make sure she apologizes for each time she gives you a cold shoulder! She must apologize before you move on!

Women hate apology and shl gradually start calling herself to order just to avoid apology.

4. Next, start distancing yourself from her people. Not in a bad way, but stop relying on them for advice or prayers or whatever makes you so close to them. Instead, try to move your family close to your own side. Let your wife too start going to pray with your mother and siblings and let's see how she likes it.

5. If she ever tries to manipulate you with sex, don't ask more than three times! And ensure you keep evidence of asking her. If she withholds sex, don't eat her food but play your other roles in the family.

Women think they're master manipulators but they just haven't met a man that wants to call their bullshit. Be that guy.


N.B: If the marriage later spoil, my hand no dey ooo. na just advise I give.

The marriage no go spoil... women don't respect simps.

Dialpad:
I condemn rape or any form of sexual abuse in its totality, I keep wondering why lagos state give these men life sentences.

10 to 15 years depending on the severity should be ideal.

While I agree that some of them may be irredeemable, second chances should be considered especially if they are first time offender.

Just my own opinion

Are you a father?

Nazgul:

Tell her to inform her husband of her visit to your house since she's convinced that she's doing the right thing?

Why won't they (she and the husband) come together? Since it's a harmless visit

The enslavement is more mental than physical.

Sadly enough the larger populace are in similar position

kelvinakproko:
You called her on phone around 10pm in the night and she told you she wasn't fine. You asked if her mother was around, she said 'No' that she had gone on a business trip and she was the only one in the house. You told your friend living in her neighborhood to check up on her when you called severally and she didn't pick up again. When he got there, her door was locked and her neighbour told him that she travelled in the morning of that very day.

After not taking your calls, you dropped a message that someone checked up on her and she wasn't around. She wouldn't pick until the evening the next day. When she picked, she said she went for an interview but because it was late she spent the night in a friend's (girl) place and because she hadn't told you about the movement earlier, she felt you might get angry if she told you she was at a friend's place. She added that she's been scared of taking your calls because she didn't know what to do.

You know she's lying but she asks for forgiveness. You remember the financial sacrifices she's made on you for the past one year. Her contribution when things were rough for you until things became fine for you. You just feel like letting go but something deep down in you, you just want to know the truth but she wouldn't say it but cries for not believing her.

You don't play games. You really love this girl and already planning to wife her.
She loves you by the actions and efforts she makes up till the moment but your mind always goes back to it. You keep on bringing it because you just want to know the truth but she insists that you should forgive her and let go of the past? What do you do?

Do you forgive her without knowing the truth or Forget all her sacrifices and end it?

So what are we forgiving?

Primebuilders:
See the way this writtee is demonizing Emefiele. Instead of him to say Dangote was implicated in the efccprobe he is writing it to say Emefiele trow Dangote under. A crime committed by two of them. Emefiele was supposed to shiled him because he is Dangote and a northerner

Exactly...

I'm not seeing any bus, let alone "throwing".
Or you don't want Emefiele to say what happened?

You're even contemplating after all the red flags. Just don't come here and open another thread after the wedding.

Nigeria shall and will get better...

blamingthedevil:
Dangote Refinery working✓
Portharcourt Refinery working ✓
Subsidy Gone✓
Foreign Exchange Defending gone✓
Investors Confidence all time high✓
Capital Market at the highest index peak✓
Security improved ✓
Infrastructures projects continuity ✓
Lagos Ibadan Expressway completed✓
Apapa Oshodi Expressway completed
Enugu Onitsha expressway almost completed✓
Grants to Nano Businesses✓
Loans to Businesses ✓
CNG conversion ongoing ✓
Europe Gas Deal signed ✓
Rivers Crisis Resolved ✓

Etc
Etc
Etc

God Bless Federal Republic of Nigeria

On a sincere note, security has improved...I'm in the power state.

ATEAMS:
African oil giant ..the awakening

Love this comment...the awakening!

How do you unread some things sef?

Karleb:
The man is the terrible one here.

No doubt

OP are you married?

Kobojunkie:
Even unbelievers are known to experience such premonitions, do we also conclude that God speaks to them as well?

Yes.

When you're always dreaming about things that are yet to happen and often come to past. And you're the type who's very intuitive...you'd hardly miss the messages.

Salewa97:
Omo e get as e be for Tunubu.

He can’t condemn the past government because it’s his party. So baba just inherited all the asset and liabilities that comes with it.

I am confident he will steer through the murky waters.

He will...but then....(Monday October 23, 2023)
Hmmm

Make I save today

Zxcvbnmghtr:
This guy must be a hard core Redpiller.

You don't understand redpill

Where do you guys get extra space in your mind for all these conditionings?

Mental slavery is sickening.

In the words of one tonicyril up there...
"my life is easy"

All these noise sef...

BoldBrainz:
On this, I agree with some of the comments above.

The world bank is notorious for keeping economies of developing countries on an average flow, and where policies of those individual countries are perceived to be gaining upward trajectories, they churn out pretentious advisories which end up being to their own advantage.

They and the IMF were the chief proponents of the removal of our petrol subsidy and the liberalisation of their own major currency in our economy. And their brown toothed stooge in Aso rock was all too willing to dance to their beats the moment he entered the villa. See where we are today?!

When have you ever heard them giving advice to Rwanda or Ethiopia? Cause leaders of those countries don't listen to them. But as big as we are, we keep having puppets as leaders who'll easily bend over for the west to fvck us to stupor.

Well said

HeatSeeker:
This information is not relevant to Nigerians at the moment. There are other pressing issues of national importance.

Thank you

Oga take redpill and rest.

You're welcome.

WarrenP:
FAMILY IS NOT ALWAYS FAMILY

exaggerated abi?

You're welcome

Wont make sense to the ordinary mind, because he won't be told the truth for the war

If you believe a jet is really missing, clap for yourself.

Albinoflash:
quote author=galadima77 post=125822947]It's people like the op who give credence to such "thoughts".

Nigeria will be great. That's our destiny.

Quote me in 2 yearsI thought I was even respding to a concerned Nigerian until I saw this your post,u are even more ridiculous than u think I am,in two years u will probably be nowhere to be found, illegality and inequality can not birth progres,u think there is a way around it,we will keep seeing things like Boko Haram,bandits and ipob abi unknown gun men as long as some folks feels unconnected

My friend it will get better

We're at a phase.
Nigeria will be great.
That's our destiny.
No doubt.

Albinoflash:
I hate to say this but I think we should stop praying for Nigeria and just do the right thing which is separation.we don't deserve each other

Lolz..Don't be ridiculous. When you pray for yourself, you're praying for the country.

Nigeria will be great. That's our destiny.