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Doolove:
Some time ago my boyfriend brought my matter here because I went to visit a male friend and I was called all sorts of derogatory names without anyone hearing my side of the story.

We met early last year, he was just out of school without a job but I still accepted him regardless. I had a stubborn ex that wouldn't go away so he was taking care of my bills while I was dating my new boyfriend which he was well aware of. I later had an issue with the ex that led to him calling the police on me accusing me of stealing the iPhone 7 that he bought for me while insisting that I return it or he would take the matter to his village and make sure I run mad. I stood my ground amid all the threats held on to the phone.

Coincidentally, things picked up for my guy when the ex left, he started getting lots of freelance gigs online so I didn't feel the absence of the old guy. My boyfriend made sure I didn't lack anything even without me asking. I had to break up with him once because I felt he was doing too much and I might be running him down. He laughed it off and gave me screenshots of some of his account balance.

Fast forward to this year and things went south again, The gigs stopped coming in, and some of the firms he worked for closed shop so he was surviving on his savings which were depleting very quickly. It's worthy to note that before now the major issue that I have had with him is the way he sees my relationships with other men. He practically doesn't want me to have male friends or even go on harmless sitouts with friends. He thinks it's a disrespect to him for me to have anything to do with other guys while I am in his place.

This has resulted in serious fights each I come back from seeing a friend, At times he gets so mad that he flings my things outside to go stay with whoever I went to see.

Meanwhile, things have been very tough for him recently to the extent that feeding has become difficult. He quickly invested in a farm with with a friend when his savings were going down and used the remaining money to startup a blog. Now it's looking as if the guy he's doing the farm business with has scammed him because it's been from one story to the other and he's so broke right now that he can't even afford data to write content for his blog which we all know blogging is even saturated and takes time to start paying.

I started work two weeks ago and I have been the one taking care of my transport fare, he only gives me 1k once in a while to support. It's this same men he doesn't want me to communicate with that has been helping me out all this while. He sits at home all day waiting for the proceeds of the farm so he can start mini importation of wigs.

Every guy that asks me out seems to be well to do than my guy and it really bothers me. They all have nice cares and ready to spend while my own guy now depends on begging to feed. Even though he's smart and all but I don't know where the break through will come from and it seems I am wasting my time with him.

On Monday was my off day and I was at home, I woke up with a mood swing so I wasn't talking to him. He was busy cleaning the house without mentioning breakfast so I had to call someone to come get breakfast for me. He got mad at me tagging it an insult to him. It caused issues and I left the house and dared him to do his worst and he asked me not to leave because I needed some positive vibes since he was boring me with his attitude. I actually went to my family house but he feels I always go to see a guy each time I leave the house.

I came back around 8pm to meet the house locked and he kept ignoring my calls knowing fully well that I didn't leave with my key and I wasn't feeling fine and needed to take my drugs. I got drenched by the rain and my sickness go worst. He came back home by 11pm that night.

Now I haven't been able to go to work for the past three days and he's been running around buying drugs and food on credit so I can get well when he caused it. On the other hand a guy that has been giving me stuffs asked me to take a break from work and rest and he will give me my full salary.

I am just confused, it seems I am leaving better things out there for a broke guy and it's bothering me. What do you guys think I should do

Please ignore any typos, I wrote in a hurry

You're a liability to that guy.

Why living together in the first place? Are you both married?

From your write up it appears your eyes are outside. Ur bf was the sweetest thing ever when he was providing and his account was loaded, but the subject changed to "dating a broke guy is tortured"

I blame men who thinks women love them. As a man, understand that a woman is only with u because of what she's benefiting from you. It could be money, gifts, free stuffs, or attention.

Remove these things, you're on your own. She'll go online and announced how broke you are while comparing you with other guys asking her out to knack her

Your situation is better when compared to others. Try to hear other people's stories bro you'll cry

Ebuka of big brother is currently anchoring cowbell quiz show

Meanwhile Tinubu went to benue because he was forced to.

Dude went to benue instead of going to the exact spot where people were killed. Ordering arrest is complete stupidity because we all know no single arrests will be made

Mindlog:
If there was no children in the marriage nor the man having any child outside the marriage, what happens to the 2/3?

The wife takes everything except stated otherwise that it should be given to the orphanage

On Facebook, most of the women there commented saying they wont remarry but would be collecting different dickss and enjoy their lives while enjoying their late husband's property

They don't paint houses in se!

Seun, kindly remove this new feature

chidi2003:
Getting married to a virgin as you said, is good, but: one good question to you is this: are you also a virgin?

The word virgin isn't used for a man. If a man is going to provide for a woman for the rest of her life then it should be for a woman who hasn't been eaten by other men before. Besides it is stupidity to pay for something other men had for free, they call it bride price

DLifeless1:
Are you a muslim ?
Be sincere?



J?

Who's this one?

Dude trump talks too much

ImpartialGuy:
I thought he wanted to stop international students from studying in American universities. Mimu man!

The man is completely confused.

I have never seen such a president before

It's appear trump is confused.

His administration is a confused one

Man talks like a clown

So pathetic.

Seun what's with this nairaland new feature

Trump talks too much

Even though he is a real niggar but a real niggar most know when to talk and refrain from talking.

Putin doesn't talk much! U strike without letting ur enemy knows. Trump should stop talking like a grown baby boy and act

No be snow shoes be this?

These shoes were used in old Italian and American movies

Kobojunkie:
Correction, Christianity(a religion created by the Romans for political purposes) is the one that sold you all on the story about virgins. The writings in the book instead use the term virgin to refer broadly to unmarried women.

If you feel, like much of Christianity, that virginity has to do with purity, then what you are inadvertently indicating is that by virtue of having a dick, you are in pure, and there is nothing in the book that suggests merging the impure with that which is pure leads to wholeness or more purity. Rather, it is the opposite.

I ignore people like you on nairaland.

Try the next commenter

As a young man,

Look for a virgin and Marry, you're not wiser than God who looked for a virgin to birth his son

Wtf is Anim state?

What kind of useless name is that? 6th state should be created from Anioma, Delta state and not Anambra and imo

How exactly is this news compared to the death of humans those herdsmen have slaughtered in Benue?

The killing is necessary to unite Benue and Nigeria - Gowon, the drunkard

We all thought Iran is ready to go full scale war with Israel? So their red flag meant nothing after all?

It'll take Nigeria at least a minimum of 3,000 years to catch up with the rest of the world 🌎

#50 is common

#20 downwards are nowhere to be found

Pennilessword1:
Ah, you are even younger...goddamnnn

I'm more younger than Ur d.ad

Pennilessword1:
Tell me you are a a Gen Z without telling me you are a genz

U meant to say Gen alpha?

The girl is too poor to buy an iPhone for herself but somehow she doesn't see herself as broke.. it's the man that's driving Benz that she's broke-shaming for not buying her an iphone? Something she herself cannot afford for her own self? I don't know where they get their audacity from.

The audacity of Nigerian women needs to be studied at mental hospitals, because na crase dey worry many of Dem. Money is more valuable than opueh

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