₦airaland Forum

His money, his choice, we need investment too. Steel, tyres and Glass🤷🏿

Advantage of subsidy removal. The state and Rivers will access cheaper fuel

Hussein035:
You people are always sad with development and that's why your life has been so difficult

I guess your is difficult.

Lagos oOoOO, funded by federal or state government

And that Bishop is spewing rubbish.

truthera:
It is no longer news that the south west region has been invaded by terrorists. Let it not be misconstrued that these attacks and abductions will end or be restricted to the south west because that was the mistake that many yorubas made, they laughed, made a jest of it because of their support for Tinubu's government while underestimating the abiliies of these deadly fulani attackers when they started attacking Kwara and Kogi states. Igbos and other tribes in the South South region need to begin the preparatory process on how they will confront this crisis when it eventually gets to their regions, let no one be fooled or remain willfully naive to the notion that these attacks won't spread to their region. Now is the time for the igbos, ijaws, itsekiris, ibibios, etc to activate, boost and upgrade all local regional security systems like the ESN and other JTF local security initiatives in preparation to defend their regions when the time comes.... To be forewarned is forearmed! Do not wait to be taken by surprise, killed, abducted and conquered.... Nigeria's compromised government won't and can't save you!

Madridguy shey you dey listen, I still remain your favorite prophet. Meanwhile Madridguy hope your international passport for Cotonou IDP don ready, Lagos is not safe as you think.

Goldrosewine:
Misconceptions About Female Virginity We Need To Address😤

A lot of conversations around virginity in Nigeria focus on what a woman “owes” a man. But the truth is simple: sexual purity is first a gift a woman gives to herself, not anybody else.

When a young woman avoids early sex, she’s protecting her own future no early pregnancy, no STDs, fewer emotional scars, and a clearer head to build her life.

Another point many people still misunderstand: not every woman bleeds during her first sexual experience. The hymen is not a “seal” but a thin, stretchy tissue that differs from person to person. Sports, cycling, stretching, medical exams, and even tampon use can affect it. So bleeding (or not bleeding) is not proof of anything.

Ironically, many men already know this but the society won't let them trust the authenticity of a noble process🥲 This is why as a lady, it becomes important to hold these conversations with 'him' ensuring his level of maturity transcends that level of understanding.

At the same time, the cultural value many Nigerian men place on marrying a virgin is not wrong... Just look at Nairaland, there's that guy that asks on every wedding photoshoot thread if she's a virgin🥲 ...It encourages discipline, culture, responsibility, and stable family values. But women should also demand the same standard: if you’re keeping yourself, make sure the man you choose is also morally, emotionally, and sexually disciplined

Purity shouldn’t be one one-sided and I think this is especially important for parents of boys to teach their kids. A sexually disciplined man will not only reach great heights, he lessens the number of traps anyone could use for him💯

There’s a unique pride, peace of mind, and emotional stability that comes with sexual purity no fear of infections, no past body count regrets, no unnecessary soul ties. And yes, there’s a confidence in walking through your street or campus with your head high, knowing you’re a diamond nobody has ever accessed.

Let’s promote facts, responsibility, and mutual respect not pressure or shame.

RoseGold 🍷

Please I take God beg una, no one should come under my comment asking if I am a girl😤😤😡, you can read my Nairaland thread I attached below to find out yourself
https://www.nairaland.com/8567127/why-think-there-no-pretty

We love it wide, slacked and open

Gagare1:
I hope it will be a short read.

So, there is this person I met during my undergrad years who was into youth ministry in the campus. He is a family man. I was introduced to him by a family that I consider my spiritual parents, and being the passionate type about the Christian faith, I trusted him and we started doing Bible study and other campus outreach programs. Our friendship grew well enough that sometimes I visit his house during the weekend (along with other youths he relates with) for Bible studies and what not. With time, I got to trust him enough to allow him into my personal space, which is not something I do easily because I am an introvert (until I trust you, then I sanguinize rapidly).

Fast forward to about two years later, I entered my first relationship with a lady and I hoped to marry her, so I introduced her to him. Gbam! Things started changing between us. Whenever she and I had issues (mainly bordering around her closeness with guys and her dislike of other ladies, even my own relatives) he seemed to take her side, always blaming me for being rigid. Now, he might be right that I am rigid, because we clearly disagreed on certain issues like him claiming to have more authority over me than my own parents because he is my spiritual leader, which I firmly disagreed. Or him saying a good man will forgive a cheating wife, for which I replied "she will go to her father's house and NOBODY can make me take her back". And many other instances.

Now, as time went by I got fed up with her flirting with random guys, and her lack of commitment to the relationship, treating me like an option. So when I graduated and left her on campus, I decided to gradually end the relationship by telling her to simply go ahead and commit to any guy she feels an attraction to, since I will no longer be around. Any reasonable person would have understood what it meant. As God will have it, about two months later, I met the lady that will later become my wife. But I didn't even try to woo her until after about six months when I was on NYSC camp. So everything was done via phone. First, I called my ex and officially ended the relationship, then call the new lady and professed my love.

Despite almost a full year of separation, all hell broke loosed after that call. My ex reported me to that mutual friend, who immediately went ballistic on me. He threatened to take unpleasant measures against me if I don't retract my words and come to the table. Table? To eat what? Tuwo ko Gurasa? I maintained my stance, telling him, "When I return from camp I will come to see you, but don't expect any change in my decision, I will only come to officially tell about it". And that was what I did. And for about two years, we were estranged.

However, when it was time for me to marry, I thought it will be good for me to honour him for the five years we spent together as friends on campus, at least he was kind of a guardian in a way. So I personally travelled interstate to meet him and address any grievance, even offering him the honor of being the guest preacher on my wedding. Now, I had to bypass a host of ordained ministers who were colleagues of my Dad, to choose him. In fact, some of them even told my Dad that they hoped he would have chosen them to minister at his youngest son's wedding, but I made my choice, and my Dad respected it. Of course, he chose his own friend to do solemnization.
Everything went smoothly.

About two years later, my wife and I decided to visit his family for Easter, we went with our daughter who was barely a year old. We spent two days. After about a year we visited again, but this time we returned with a clear decision to end any close relationship with him, choosing to simply treat him as an acquaintance and no longer a family friend. But why the drastic measure?

Here it is:
During the second visit, in the course of our discussion, only the two of us, he admitted jokingly that on their way back from our wedding, where he preached, they were discussing about how I chose not to marry a lady that matches my educational level and age, but instead went to marry a small girl with lesser education because I want to control her. But I will be shocked with what I will get, because that small girl will surprise me (i.e. deal with me).
Literally laying a curse on the very wedding he preached on. That was it!

Ever since we returned, for more than three years now, I give him cold feet. He has tried many times to get us to visit but I always find a way to avoid it. I simply don't feel my family is safe around them. The trust is no longer there.

On more than two occasions, he called my wife telling her to ask me what his offense was, that I am ignoring him. For me, it is a matter of family security.

By the way, the age gap between my wife and I is 5 years only. But she has a small body, so people think she is a small girl. I love that woman too much to risk loosing my guard, not for anyone, much less someone who cursed us while we smiled at each other.

I am open to mature advise.

Did I really go too far by redefining our relationship with him?

Tuwo ko Gurasa 😅🤣😂

Move on with your life, step up your hustle.

You need a shop, most Nigerians are traditional. E get why 🤷🏿

Don't spend that money until confirmation.

Deeprooted:
I won't bore you with unnecessary details.

My immediate younger sister is less than 2 years in her marriage with no children yet.

On the 13th of February, this year, her sister in-law moved in with her 6 children.

My sister thought it was just a visit only to be informed by the husband that his sister was divorced and would be with them for a few days.

Since her arrival with her children, my sister lost everything that has to do with privacy in her matrimonial home.

Dishes unwashed, a bag of rice lasts less than a month, the sitting room littered with dishes.

My sister has become a stranger in her home as the sister in-law now advises her husband against being too loving.

I love my sister so much and I'm already thinking of taking her away from that toxic environment.


I want my sister to leave the marriage since the husband is not helping matters with her sister.

This 17th of May and the sister in-law and her children are not making any arrangements of getting an apartment of their own.

What would you advise my sister to do?

The husband should send them to family house, if none, rent their own apartment. Hope she spoke out about not loving statement 🤷🏿. Your sister will decide wen she wants to leave 🤷🏿

He can't escape the loss awaiting him tomorrow .

Goldrosewine:
This is very disturbing. I can only imagine what those women and young girls in their captivity endure everyday. They literally stripped that woman naked and kept on whipping her despite her pleas of not being 'well'

Horrible country!

This boys are aged from 15-25 , very evil.

Watch out for anti party

A lesson to future politicians.

Fubara na gentle man.

Fekumzi123:
Not by riding bike. APC is very competitive now

Virtually all decampees have lost out

2el:
I feel for Layla Othman after all the Private Jet cruise and Estate Management empire...


It is well

Time to look for the next man to milk

Divorce loading

Omo ologo haff finish Nigeria KpataKpata

Many Reps decampees have lost their return ticket. Tears surplus for Twitter

This one sweet me, NDC needs his support


Nothing concern courts with party internal affairs

Till dem out rig you

Omologo no dey play

Cray fish price is crashing, add crayfish and enjoy. Drink water

Houseofglam7:
Why would a minor be in prison for that long?
🤦🏽‍♀️

Meanwhile Boko Haram are pampared

SafariHunter:
Down here them dey sundry am oo.


Does that rid it of toxins ??

You get nothing if you dry the badones.
The pics is a good one.

Jebu is what mama put mainly use

Why are you denying, Netcitizens don pepper this one

From the video, AC-130 fired rounds before the Bomb.

Sheik Gumi has been crying

Jagaban Army don collect, you better go and kneel down for SEYI TINUBU

“I’m a hustler, and I didn’t regret trying to contest for a position. My only regret was trusting the elders in the community. I know how much I gave them, but only 14 people voted for me in the primary,”


You didn't listen to Governor Hope Uzodinma advice

Cry me a river, hand don touch this one

Governor Hope Uzodinma adviced idiots like you