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LordBiden:
No you are wrong.

The #150k should be for feeding and general upkeep of the house which the man will benefit from.

The 50k is for the man to transport himself to work daily throughout the month

Why should a man allow his wife to know the actual amount you receive a salary. Women always want to finish your money until you have nothing before they will be rest assured you have nothing to spend outside

God will help us

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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If you try to marry that useless girl God will punish you

That's how my brother thinks he can manage and change one girl with the same behavior until the werey begin to collect loan to buy different nonsense and expect my brother to keep paying

Brother finally sent her out after 1 kid. Pls don't marry nonsense all in the name of useless love

Teeroyzimma:
Bruno Fernandes >>>> Thierry Henry

Tomorrow Bruno will break that assist record, tears go plenty

Imagine what Ferguson grandchildren are celebrating after 13 years of losing the PL tittle

13 good years only to celebrate player of the season

If Man U fans cannot cry it's a terrible shame

Goo0dHardDick:
No we don't.

Plus size women always look good on clothes but if they pull it off, you'll just get angry immediately.

Meanwhile the ones in the picture are irritating. Give me thick girls and semi curve girls anyday anytime twice on Friday morning

You said it all

cyberbro:
Most small scale palm oil producers are now using palm oil press machine, which is quite better compared to the foot press method.

Either ways, if both are done under clean conditions, it poses no danger to the consumer. Even wine 🍷 in foreign countries are still processed by foot press method and they don't consider it dirty, but innovation is better overall.

This is why I believe nothing is special about the white people. Imagine you posted that wine is being processed in sokoto by aggressive matching with leg Nigerians will begging to insult ourselves that we are backward

We are great people too nobody should start doing black and white analysis, infact the whites are wicked than we Africans

sweetguy23:
How to Rebuild Trust After Cheating: A Guide to Healing


https://vocal.media/humans/how-to-rebuild-trust-after-cheating-a-guide-to-healing


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I love Islam because Islam hate nonsense. A man is advised to marry upto 4 wives instead of cheating, this is wisdom by the time you have 4 wives who has about 3 children each responsibility will not allow you to have side chick. Even if such man is very promiscuous he will still not have enough time for that side chick

For a woman once you cheat in Islam you will be stoned to death according to Quran and Bible but because of western propaganda supporting promiscuous people such woman should be sent parking

Nothing like pity or begging

SpaceX:
A more recent poll of yesterday have over 80% of Americans in support of dismantling iran nuclear capability.

The same American people who support their government to kidnap another country incumbent president MADURO then now trying to add Venezuela to USA as if Venezuela us just a village in Benue state

I am happy Iran has embarrassed Americans, Trump should attack Iran once again I want to see how Iran destroy those nonsense aircraft carriers

Premium embarrassment to the USA loading

illicit:
So sad, our government no care about us, them just dey do us anyhow home and away...

What kind rubbish are you typing

Your people too much love money that they are ready to get it even if a while community will die yet you are talking about government

Is your brother Obi the only one suffering in Nigeria, should every Nigeria start doing drug business because things are hard

Better respect yourself and agree your people are greedy just like peter Obi

Peterobiisathie:
https://www.bangkokpost.com/thailand/general/3258183/nigerian-romance-scammers-lured-thai-women-to-distribute-heroin

The same people claiming to be a saviour

Destroying society with useless drugs, every day we people are bringing mentally derailed patients to my facility because of too much smoking of different nonsense yet this same people claiming to be the messiah still selling drugs

Why are you people behaving like that?

Why?

Sonnobax15:

Finally,coca cola has let go of the deal they had with arsenal over the years

Well,as a Chelsea fan,I'm happy for them especially arteta,dude suffered so much to the extent that he was beginning to look so learn like harry Potter

You are really pained tonight

Ensure you eat tonight pls we need you to also lament tomorrow morning

aremuforlife:
I'm not trying to bring any other religions here but only references to the religion that makes our religion to look like idol worshipping.
IFA does not support idol worshipping because it emphasises much on OLODUMARE.
Though there other gods like the "ORISA".
The orisa are not worshipped, they are only been appeased.

Differential between appease and worship?

Also explain the act involved in worship and appease?

enemyofprogress:
Shameless club with shameless fans looking for a shameless penarity.

Depression is almost consuming you

Try and eat after the match

Sibrah:
prayer is a form of protest oga Racoon.

Explain how government will listen to prayers when prayers are directed to Jesus and his father who are not in Abuja

Gotocourt:
Lagos oOoOO, funded by federal or state government

You people are always sad with development and that's why your life has been so difficult

iamfraud:
Gurugram Police have apprehended three Nigerian nationals involved in a sophisticated social media fraud, where they impersonated women to deceive and defraud individuals.




https://m.rediff.com/news/report/nigerians-arrested-for-online-duping-in-gurugram/20260516.htm

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/gurgaon/3-foreigners-pose-as-women-online-cheat-many-with-fake-forex-charges/articleshow/131145053.cms?

Look at Christians commiting crimes everywhere

If they were Muslims the headline will be different

Evil is evil irrespective of religion

ogododo:
https://dailypost.ng/2026/05/16/terrorists-kill-17-police-officers-at-army-special-forces-school-in-yobe/

The government is not serious very soon you will arrest them and tell us they will go for training and you want to integrate them back into the society

Once a terrorist is caught KILL THEM ONCE BECAUSE THEY ARE DISGRACING ISLAM. ISLAM DID NOT TELL ANYONE TO KILL EXCEPT THEY ATTACK YOU FIRST

IRAN is a good example of what Islam teaches. Even if you have power you must humble yourself but fight if they bring fight to your house

Who is fighting bandits?

BANDITS, KIDNAPPERS, TERRORIST ARE NOT MUSLIMS BUT DESTROYERS SO GOVERNMENT SHOULD KILL THEM ONCE THEY ARE CAUGHT

Goo0dHardDick:
The useless roads they built in Nigeria, the traffic lights on the road, where are the maintenance agency in charge of those?

The street lights nko?

Imagine china rejoicing over flight maintenance company coming to their country. How intelligent does that sound to you? My apologies to china, the greatest and most developed country on earth.

Dude, take this useless comment down

You this man, we all know that there is no street light in your village, you only have brown roads yet you are complaining about development

Why can't you be happy for once about Nigeria

Your hatred for Nigeria can affect your progress in life as long as you live in the same Nigeria

agulion:
That is why most of us Yoruba Muslims will soon start to renounce Islam, islamic terrorists and islamic bandits are threat to islam, islam now seems as a blood sucking religion

You are just typing nonsense

You still refuse to understand that some people in politics are bent on spoiling Islam, you are aware that USA is the origin of terrorist groups by sponsoring ISIS, ALQAEDA, BOKO HARAM etc this is according to their USA government officials

The Christian nation of USA started the sponsor of terrorists so anyone that is serious should be ready to urge the govt to kill any bandits or terrorist on sight

Nothing like taking them to court or integrating them into the society, kill them once they are caught in the act of terrorism, banditry or kidnapping

Simple

simpleseyi:
JAGABAN is being thanked by Trump whom Peter Obi and Atiku called to come and help them fight JAGABAN. Whom God hath blessed, no fool can curse.

Trump that did not know what he is doing

The same Abu Mainok was killed in February 2024


Yes, a senior ISIS commander and leader was reportedly killed in 2024. In the first quarter of 2024, Nigeria's Defence Headquarters officially declared the death of Abu-Bilal al-Minuki (also known as Abubakar Mainok)

Iran has decimated Trump brain badly that he cannot verify before boasting

Fiscus105:
A former Imam has been jailed for life, when court heard that, he has been serially abused women and girls for more than ten years, while exploiting his position as religion leaders in East London.
Abdul Halim Khan 54, was sentencing on Friday at Snarebrook crown court in East London and ordered to spend at least, 20 years according to GBI.
He was found guilty on February 14 of 21 offences including nine counts of rape, four counts of sexual assaults women, five counts of sexual assaults of a child under 13, five counts of rape of a child under 13 and one count of assault by penetration.
The court heard that Khan targeted 7 women and girls, while working as imam in East London, using his position of trust to gain access to them and exert control.
He arranged meeting in secluded places and sometimes in victims' home where he carried out abuses while claiming he was a jinn(a supernatural spirit)

Prosecutors said, he also used threat link to "black magic" to frighten victim into silence, making them believed harm would come to them or their families if they speak out.

Police said, the abuses came to light in February 2018 when the youngest victim disclosed what happened to a teacher at school prompted a wider investigationsG



https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cdrpk4end65o

As a Muslim we know Islam never support any man to be alone with another woman whom is not the man's wife

If any imam wants to have any discussion with any woman Islam only allow you to relate your message through the woman's husband or male care giver in case of young girls or unmarried women

Once the imam is guilty he should go to jail or justice be served accordingly

In Islam justice is served irrespective of your status

That imam must be a very unserious imam

success1smyn:
Which stupeed poll is this on top of this thread, why those very irritating options in a poll you want sane people to pacitipate in? So if I want to say that Obi should not be pampered I have to say I don't like his face? Why na.

Nairaland mods you can do better.

Seun, nlfpmod, mynd44 please do something this is totally wrong

Thanks, I avoided the nonsense poll also because of Obi face that was added

Kennitrust:
https://saharareporters.com/2026/05/13/breaking-boko-haram-faction-beheads-over-seven-captives-after-failed-escape-attempt?utm_source=operamini&utm_medium=feednews&utm_campaign=operamini_feednews

Once FG declare shoot onsite to any terrorist bandits, kidnappers etc definitely all these will stop

I hope USA will allow FG to declare such

nlfpmod:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1B9Tjy7dqU/



https://www.instagram.com/p/DYS2BWdMdfu/

The Bishop should have been giving his driver 2% of weekly offering

Security of Bishop life is not easy, Greed everywhere from pastors to driver etc

Kingray10:
You like him and have idealized the both of you spending lifetime together, then why are you still listening to the bullshit your friends has to say.

I think you'll also pray that your own daughter you struggle to raise move to a man's house just like that since you are thinking like Donald trump

adenigga:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/2026/05/13/fulani-group-tackles-gov-mutfwang-over-shoot-on-sight-order

I am happy for the governor

If Fulani cannot do ranching they should get lost, they look for cheap means of feeding their cow yet a single cow now cost about 1 million

To the security operatives, shoot anything that is rustling in the bush

I am a Muslim I am tired of some people disgracing Islam because of cow

Yemmysworld91:
Ecclesiastics 7:2
It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting, since that is the end of all mankind, and the living should take it to heart.

You better eat ooo. It's nothing but honoring the dead. I no get patience to explain that scripture. But it ain't anything bad if you eat at funerals. May we not die untimely. Amen

Give us a Bible verse where Jesus ate food at a burial? Since you are following the Bible

Ofunaofu:
https://politicsnigeria.com/2026/05/11/adc-guber-aspirant-abducted-killed-on-kaduna-abuja-highway-after-ransom-payment/#google_vignette

I believe bandits are now getting serious

Instead of kidnapping common man earning less than 300k per month

Any useless law maker that still believe kidnappers are for the public and not for those in power hope you can all see

For you people to make a law to kill bandits, kidnappers and terrorist on site you will be repatriating them

Continue

MiamiLord:
Apc is a calamity and a disaster.

Don't expect anything good to come out from this evil government, they are just building generational wealth for their lineage.

If you are reading this my comment and you are among those that voted for this useless government....God will keep pushing you.

You are just typing nonsense

There are several 80k, 100k, 120k CALL CENTRE JOB at Ikeja, by the time he goes to Opebi, Adeniyi Jones, etc he will get a job in Lagos within 3 hours

Some of you will finish school and start looking for 200k to 500k job

Why not start from 80k monthly and stop complaining nonsense