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lailo:This your advice should be a cause for SOBER REFLECTION for ALL men. We men are basically cash cows for women as long as we have a functioning libido. Na only God fit deliver us from the travails, traps and toxic entanglements our libido leads us into with women. |
breadtoaster:Na UK you dey o. Prepare to be sex starved for weeks if not months on end. The stress of work and all in the UK can kill anyones libido so prepare for a potentially sexless marriage if you want to live in the UK. Out of concern, I asked ChatGPT a few questions to see if it could proffer a solution and below is what it came back with :- 💷 1. Financial Imbalance and Role Reversal In many African cultural contexts, the man traditionally feels responsible for providing. When he’s unable to work due to immigration status, that can cause a deep sense of inadequacy or loss of identity. Meanwhile, the wife becomes the sole breadwinner — often working long hours in stressful, low-paying jobs. She may feel overwhelmed, unsupported, or resentful, even if she loves her partner. This power imbalance — one feeling useless, the other overburdened — often leads to tension and emotional distance, which kills desire on both sides. 🧠 2. Stress and Psychological Weight The couple is living under chronic uncertainty: “When will the papers come through? Can we afford next month’s rent? What if I lose my job?” This kind of survival stress suppresses sexual desire — especially for the partner under constant pressure (often the wife). Her brain is in “fight or flight” mode, not “rest and connect.” 💔 3. Gender and Cultural Expectations If the wife grew up in a culture where men are seen as protectors/providers, it can be confusing or even shameful to find herself as the only provider. She may feel her husband should “man up,” while he may feel humiliated and retreat emotionally. Meanwhile, she can feel sex-starved — craving closeness and affection — but finds it hard to initiate because resentment and fatigue get in the way. 🗣️ 4. Communication Breakdown Many immigrant couples avoid talking openly about these feelings because it feels risky — “I don’t want to make things worse.” But silence breeds distance. Without honest communication about stress, shame, and desire, both partners start feeling misunderstood and rejected. 🛏️ 5. Emotional Disconnection → Sexual Disconnection Sex rarely exists in isolation; it mirrors the emotional climate. If a couple feels unheard, unsupported, or burdened by survival worries, intimacy often disappears — even when one partner wants it desperately. 💡 What Helps Here are some things that can make a real difference: Name the stress, not the blame. Instead of “You don’t touch me anymore,” try “I miss being close to you — I know we’re both stressed, but I need us to reconnect.” Small physical affection. Even simple touch — hugs, holding hands, sitting close — can rebuild trust and safety. Counselling (including free options). Charities like Relate, Refugee Council, and Mind offer low-cost or culturally sensitive couples therapy — often with counsellors who understand migration stress. Community and support networks. Many African diaspora groups and churches provide community support and shared experiences that ease isolation. Financial or immigration advice. Sometimes reducing uncertainty (even by getting proper legal advice on visa/work rights) can lower stress enough for the couple to reconnect emotionally and sexually. |
TenQ:This is some serious advice EVERY relationship could use. Its basically saying don't try to change or re-arrange your partner. Love them as they are - flaws and all because we ourselves are not perfect. |
Like play like play these Republican Lawmakers in America will embolden Trump to come and invade Nigeria if Nigerian Politicians don't stand up and counter this FALSE NARRATIVE by ignorant American lawmakers of christian genocide in Nigeria. What is happening in Nigeria is a mix of religious extremism, terrorism, land conflict, and governance failure, rather than a coordinated, state-backed genocide. |
CaptainFM1:The so called wives knelt and were leaning on to their so called husbands groin area right inside a so called holy sanctuary. What if the guy preek go rise from the touch nko ![]() Abi who tell the lewd pastor, the ignorant wives and the unwise husbands that a slight touch of their male member by their wives hands as she leaned into his groin while kneeling down can not cause an unwanted erection right inside church and once that happens inside church, then what ![]() There is a place and time for everything. |
CaptainFM1:This takes the biscuit. When did church turn to a sex counseling session Some of these so called pastors are more corrupt than satan himself. Its amazing how these same so called end time pastors will justify their lewd actions and words from the pulpit.Thank God me I kukuma don stop to dey go church since 1999. |
press9jatv:God please direct the paths of your sons o. |
VeeVeeMyLuv:I thought I was the only one who saw the so called wives leaning on to their so called husbands gbola right inside a so called holy sanctuary. What if the guy preek go rise from the touch nko ![]() There is a place and time for everything. All these end time pastors and churches sef. |
Kaliningrad:I won't be surprised if the convicted felon in the white house turns his sights onto Nigeria soon. For starters multiple congressmen have been amplifying their fake news of a christian genocide in Nigeria and in the past few days another fake news was circulating online that ABU is enriching uranium for nuclear weapons. I can't put anything past a convicted felon whose response to 7 million Americans protesting against his misrule last week was to post an AI video of him dumping feaces on their heads from the skies, The guy is no longer normal. |
How she managed to convince herself and then tell others that she was still 22 when she was infact 23, 24 and 25 baffles me. Is it that she has no conscience or is a pathological liar ![]() |
Blitzking:Her mama suppose tell her say this is not the time to be drinking ogogoro up and down but time for sober reflection but her mum herself is not a good influence on Regina who seems intent of enjoying her freedom to the fullest now that she thinks she is free from the bondage she and her mum got her into because of greed. If she doesn''t lock up the small change she managed to save from Ned Nwoko and she keeps gallivanting in private jets drinking ogogoro and flaunting this online, the small change she gleaned from Ned will disappear like a mirage in no time. She should go and ask Michael Jackson how fast his millions went down when he was no longer a multimillionaire but still kept spending like a multi millionaire. Regina's mum knows the fickle (here today gone tomorrow) nature of money but she is failing to drum this into her hot headed daughters head. |
SeverusSnape:If online mischief makers can make Trump president, I can't put it past the mischief makers behind the said video trying to make demented racist Trump from bombing Nigeria under the guise of destroying the phantom nuclear weapons facility at ABU just like he bombed Iran. Especially seeing that Trumps racism is now high grade, Nigeria has rejected non Nigerian criminal deportees from America and the fake news repeatedly spewed in the US congress that there is a christian genocide in Nigeria. What is the Nigerian government and its equally corrupt politicians doing to counter the false Yankee narrative about Nigeria ? Nothing apart from intensified looting. And the so called Top pastors in Nigeria are also doing nothing to counter the false genocide claims for reasons best known to them. |
SpaceX:Baba, your head dey there. I shudder when I hear Nigerians hail criminals who have stolen their commonwealth as billionaires. I'm not particularly sure when Nigerians became so mentally lazy that they can not research these so called billionaires online especially now that we have ChatGPT and other AI tools that can do the research for us for free. That's the same way we sleep walked into allowing a dodgy man to become our president with our eyes wide open when all his past and current misdeeds are available online at the click of a mouse. How Ned Nwoko a former UK immigration Lawyer managed to con ALL the 36 state governors and 774 local governments to sign a big percentage of monies owed the states by the FG in Paris Club Refunds away to Ned Nwoko in so called "legal fees" still baffles me. The Governors were blinded by corruption that they were willing to sign hundreds of millions of dollars of their States resources away to Ned as long as they are able to get their fingers on the rest of the money owed to their states by the FG in Paris Club Refunds and the FG was not willing to pay them in full. So, you can safely deduce that the so called "billionaire" Ned Nwoko made his so called "Billions" by ripping off all the 36 states in connivance with the 36 State governors. No wonder he is nacking young women up and down when he made billions by ripping off millions of Nigerians in ALL 36 States in Paris Club Refunds. What Was the Paris Club Refund. The Paris Club is a group of foreign creditors (mostly Western countries) that Nigeria and other developing nations owed money to. In the early 2000s, Nigeria restructured and paid off a huge portion of its foreign debt under President Olusegun Obasanjo’s administration. After those payments, it was discovered that some Nigerian states and local governments had been overcharged or deducted more than they owed during debt servicing. To correct this, the federal government approved refunds to affected states and local governments — this became known as the Paris Club refund. Ned Nwoko, through his law firm Ned Nwoko Solicitors, was one of the consultants hired by the Nigerian Governors’ Forum (NGF) and the Federal Government to verify and recover these over-deductions. His firm claimed to have conducted the forensic audit that revealed huge excess deductions from state accounts. Based on his findings, he helped facilitate the refund of billions of dollars owed to Nigerian states and local governments. Nwoko’s contract reportedly entitled his firm to a percentage commission (between 2–5%) of the amounts recovered for the states. Given that the total refunds ran into billions of U.S. dollars, his firm’s commission translated into hundreds of millions of dollars. These payments were made in tranches, and his name appeared among a few approved consultants during multiple refund rounds. https://www.thecable.ng/418m-paris-club-refund-court-restraints-consultants-from-transacting-with-promissory-notes/ https://saharareporters.com/2022/08/09/buhari-halts-418million-payment-ned-nwoko-other-paris-club-consultants-some-ministers |
gidgiddy:This cuts deep. |
Shey the Nigerian Airforce no get helicopters ni Or why can they not drop bombs on the terrorists from the air before they reach their targets ![]() Oh, I forgot that a top security personnel said a few months ago that the surveillance aircraft bought for the forces have been commandeered by politicians to use in tracking the fidelity or otherwise of their mistresses ![]() |
SpaceX:They both have balls of steel. |
I'm sure Bukola Saraki and his father in the grave are happy now. Saraki's dad (Olusola Saraki) for selfish political power grabbing reasons categorised a clearly Yoruba state as being part of the northern zone just for his political and economic greed and his son followed suit too and the Yoruba muslims in that state forgot that what made Yoruba muslims lovable was the freedom of religion in Yorubaland and for some reasons the Kwara muslims decided to become antagonistic to non muslims especially the traditional worshippers and they also welcomed anyone who claims he is a wandering muslim preacher and farmer without first scrutinizing the sudden visitors who were able to infiltrate them and are now causing mayhem amongst them. Yoruba people normally don't give a hoot about anyone's religion - for example my grandfather is an Imam but I am a christian and some of my cousins are muslims and some christians and where these Kwara Yoruba's learnt their religious intolerance from (especially against traditional religion worshippers) is a mystery to me. Instead of abiding by the live and let live way we Yoruba's approach religion and life generally, the Kwara muslims (especially the so called muslim clerics) and politicians (especially Bukola Saraki and his late father) have now shot themselves in the foot by seeing everything through the eyes of religion and religious intolerance and / or political scheming and we can see for ourselves where that has gotten Yoruba people in Kwara state. ChatGPT's take :- Kwara State, Nigeria, is historically a Yoruba area, not originally Fulani. Here’s a brief breakdown: 1. Ethnic and Historical Roots The majority of Kwara’s indigenous population are Yoruba, particularly in the southern and central parts — including Ilorin, Offa, Omu-Aran, Igbomina, Ekiti, and Owo-Oluwa areas. These areas were historically part of the Old Oyo Empire, a powerful Yoruba kingdom that existed long before Fulani influence reached the region. 2. Ilorin and the Fulani Influence The city of Ilorin, now the capital of Kwara State, was originally a Yoruba town founded by the Oyo-Yoruba people. In the early 19th century, Fulani influence came through Shehu Alimi (a Fulani Islamic scholar) during the Sokoto Jihad. The Fulani, under Alimi’s descendants, took political control of Ilorin, and it became an Emirate under the Sokoto Caliphate, even though the population remained largely Yoruba by ethnicity and language. So, Ilorin became politically Fulani-led but culturally and linguistically Yoruba. 3. Today Kwara State as a whole is culturally and linguistically Yoruba, with minorities like Nupe and Bariba in the northern parts (such as Kaiama, Baruten, and Patigi). The Fulani presence is mainly associated with Ilorin’s emirate leadership, not the majority population. ✅ In summary: Kwara State is originally a Yoruba area, later influenced politically by Fulani rule in Ilorin after the 19th-century jihad. The Mahmuda group is the terrorist organisation behind the latest spate of insecurity in Kwara state The latest deadly attacks in Kwara State are being carried out by the Mahmuda group , a terrorist organisation that occupies the Kainji National Park, which stretches from Kwara to Niger State and beyond. Weekend Trust reports that the evolution of the group from being preachers to militants was gradual but deliberate; and climaxed after they accused locals of betrayal. According to community sources, Mahmuda began acquiring weapons, recruiting heavily and extorting villagers under the guise of communal protection. Who are the Mahmuda group The Mahmuda group is a terrorist group operating in parts of Kwara State, Nigeria—particularly within and around the Kainji National Park, which stretches across Kwara and Niger states. 🧱 Origins: They arrived about 14 years ago as wandering preachers and farmers—originally welcomed by local communities. Initially, they appeared as peaceful settlers: 7 young married men, preaching and claiming to farm. Over time, they radicalized, acquiring arms, recruiting followers, and extorting villagers under the guise of providing protection. ⚔️ Activities: Gradually evolved into a violent militia and now operate as warlords within the vast forest areas. Their activities include: Kidnapping Killing vigilantes and civilians Burning farms Displacing entire villages The group reportedly has a militia-style structure, with weapons stockpiles, motorcycles for mobility, and even “cells” within the forest, including one larger than some local towns. 🛡️ Territorial Control: The group reportedly controls parts of Kainji National Park, using it as a launchpad for attacks in northern and central Kwara. Also implicated in recent attacks in Ifelodun LGA, suggesting their influence may be spreading southward. 🎯 Target Areas: Strong presence in: Kaiama Baruten Edu Patigi Possibly extending into Ifelodun and other parts of Kwara South. 📉 Impact: Their activities have led to: Mass displacement Economic collapse of rural communities Breakdown of local security networks They've become symbolic of the growing infiltration of rural Nigeria by jihadist-style insurgent groups under the radar of major national attention. 🧾 Dossier: The Mahmuda Group 📌 Name: Mahmuda Group Aliases: None known publicly Type: Terrorist/Insurgent Group Ideology: Extremist/Islamist (suspected) Operational Base: Kainji National Park (spanning Kwara and Niger States, Nigeria) Primary Zones of Operation: Kaiama, Baruten, Edu, Patigi, and parts of Ifelodun LGA (Kwara State) Estimated Strength: Unknown, but reportedly in hundreds Affiliations: No formal ties confirmed with Boko Haram or ISWAP, but their tactics resemble known terror cells. 🕰️ Timeline of the Mahmuda Group’s Evolution Year Event ~2010–2011 Arrival as wandering preachers in rural Kwara (Kaiama area). They claimed to farm and teach religion. Welcomed by locals. 2012–2015 Built trust with communities. Acquired farmland and slowly expanded in the area. Community leaders had no suspicions. 2016–2018 Shift in behavior noted. Began intimidating locals, demanding tribute under the guise of protection. Sporadic thefts and disappearances reported. 2019–2021 Started stockpiling arms, training followers, and recruiting new members, especially unemployed youth. Threatened dissenters. 2022–2023 Became increasingly violent. Burned farms, kidnapped villagers, and ambushed vigilantes. Accused locals of betrayal. 2024 Seized control of forested areas within Kainji National Park, forming structured armed camps, including women and children carrying weapons. 2025 Linked to attacks in Ifelodun LGA, mass kidnappings, and murder of hunters and forest guards. Oke-Ode and Babanla attacks attributed to them. Military began joint operations against them. ⚔️ Known Activities Kidnapping for ransom (locals, foreigners – e.g., Chinese miner) Killing of civilians, vigilantes, and security operatives Rustling of livestock Burning of farms and villages Creation of forest-based cells with women and children trained to bear arms Displacement of entire communities (57+ reported) 🧠 Tactics & Strategy Operate in forest terrain, using it as cover from air and ground surveillance. Deploy in large numbers, often 100–200 motorcycles during raids. Attack police stations, markets, and isolated communities. Use fear and chaos to control regions, making it hard for displaced persons to return. Have built militia-style camps within forests—cells that function like villages under their rule. 🧨 Impact 71+ people killed, 86+ kidnapped, 3,000+ displaced in 2025 alone. 57+ communities affected across Kwara North and South. Major economic disruption: farming halted, cattle markets closed, NYSC camp relocated. Worsened regional instability and poverty. 🛡️ Response & Current Status Nigerian military operations launched in mid-2025 targeting their camps in Kainji National Park. 12 members reportedly arrested, leading to reduced attacks in Kaiama area. However, the group remains operational, with continued attacks in other LGAs. Forest cells still active; local residents live in fear. 📌 Assessment Threat Level: High Capabilities: High mobility, access to weapons, forest-based advantage, expanding recruitment Long-Term Risk: If not dismantled, the Mahmuda group could entrench itself as a regional insurgency, linking up with other terror groups across Nigeria’s Middle Belt. Mahmuda group history sourced from ChatGPT. |
Mad dogs serving a rabid political class. |
In the words of Fela Kuti - Suffering and Smiling. |
What happened to the ₦80bn "monitored" into Yahaya Bello's bank accounts Let the FG first tell us what steps they are taking to monitor the money Yahaya Bello stole before sending us on a wild goose chase. |
AndroBlaze:He is really a cunning fox. How a former UK immigration Lawyer managed to con ALL the 36 state governors to sign a big percentage of monies owed the states by the FG in Paris Club Refunds away to Ned Nwoko in so called "legal fees" still baffles me. The Governors were blinded by corruption that they were willing to sign hundreds of millions of dollars of their States resources away to Ned as long as they are able to get their fingers on the rest of the money owed to their states by the FG in Paris Club Refunds and the FG was not willing to pay them in full. So, you can safely deduce that the so called "billionaire" Ned Nwoko made his so called "Billions" by ripping off all the 36 states in connivance with the 36 State governors. No wonder he is nacking young women up and down when he made billions by ripping off millions of Nigerians in ALL 36 States in Paris Club Refunds. What Was the Paris Club Refund. The Paris Club is a group of foreign creditors (mostly Western countries) that Nigeria and other developing nations owed money to. In the early 2000s, Nigeria restructured and paid off a huge portion of its foreign debt under President Olusegun Obasanjo’s administration. After those payments, it was discovered that some Nigerian states and local governments had been overcharged or deducted more than they owed during debt servicing. To correct this, the federal government approved refunds to affected states and local governments — this became known as the Paris Club refund. Ned Nwoko, through his law firm Ned Nwoko Solicitors, was one of the consultants hired by the Nigerian Governors’ Forum (NGF) and the Federal Government to verify and recover these over-deductions. His firm claimed to have conducted the forensic audit that revealed huge excess deductions from state accounts. Based on his findings, he helped facilitate the refund of billions of dollars owed to Nigerian states and local governments. Nwoko’s contract reportedly entitled his firm to a percentage commission (between 2–5%) of the amounts recovered for the states. Given that the total refunds ran into billions of U.S. dollars, his firm’s commission translated into hundreds of millions of dollars. These payments were made in tranches, and his name appeared among a few approved consultants during multiple refund rounds. https://www.thecable.ng/418m-paris-club-refund-court-restraints-consultants-from-transacting-with-promissory-notes/ https://saharareporters.com/2022/08/09/buhari-halts-418million-payment-ned-nwoko-other-paris-club-consultants-some-ministers |
dollypi:I witnessed this first hand at UI Med School back in the day and 20% of my class used to cheat to pass exams and even a classmate whose dad was a prof of Medicine used to see MB exam questions before the exam date and he would then circulate same between his close associates and they will all score 100% in Med school exams. This made me to take anything a doctor tells me with a pinch of salt regardless of the doctors nationality. I remember a few years ago when the Chief Medical Officer (CMO) in the UK (the UK's most senior government advisor on matters relating to health) told all UK Doctors not to rush to cut off a woman's breasts even if she has breast cancer and not to rush her into chemotherapy either but to give her the option of doing NOTHING because from his years of medical practice, he had come to realize that some women can fight breast cancer naturally into their 80's with no treatment whatsoever. |
johngwain:My first thoughts too. |
JAOS:True talk. According to the Yoruba proverb, Nkan Okin je ti baba, koje to mo ko ma laala. (Something that belongs jointly to Father and Son must have a line that delineates the boundaries of each persons right to the said property) |
This is not about your brother having a bad wife. It may be that your brother secretly had the ambition to have his privacy away from your prying eyes in the first place. I salute people who can live or build in a family compound or land because i can not. Even if you dash me free mansion inside family compound, I may collect it but I will not live there and I will rent it out and go live somewhere else far away from family members who WILL never mind their business and will always be poking their noses into each others business. I am very fierce about protecting my privacy and I prefer to see family members at a time of my own choosing. Okere ni omo iya gben dun. (Na from afar or from arms length, family dey take sweet and once it gets too close for comfort, it becomes a source of nuisance). Some people have this rose tinted view of family and want to cling onto the unrealistic ideas of family bonding that they had as children forgetting that they are now strong willed adults who think and feel different as adiults and if they keep forcing themselves to live in too close a proximity as adults, then it will lead to friction and could at times lead to fatal violence as we keep reading in the news in Nigerian families. Even the twins - P Square broke off their familial ties after it became strained by too many years of living too close to one another even after they grew up and got married. There is a reason for Genesis 12:1 where God told Abraham to “Leave your country, your family, and your father’s home for a land that I will show you“. E get why. |
Na so I receive electric shock from a metal gate in my compound that was touchng a "big man" neighbours barbed wire fence that I did not know he had electrified. Too many dangers in Nigeria. |
Below is what ChatGPT thinks of the Nigerian Governments antics of using electrified barbed wires against "unsuspecting" road users all in the name of controlling Protests ![]() ChatGPT :- Electrified barbed wire is not a common or humane method for trapping animals. However, it has been used illegally or unethically in some regions—particularly in poaching or conflict areas. Here’s a breakdown of how and why some animals may become trapped or harmed by electrified barbed wire: ⚠️ Important Note Electrified barbed wire is extremely dangerous and is not used in legal wildlife management or livestock fencing. Most legal electrified fencing is smooth wire, not barbed, and is meant to deter—not trap—animals. 💀 Illegal or Harmful Use (Poaching, Conflict Zones) In some countries, poachers or farmers in conflict with wildlife have used electrified barbed wire as a lethal deterrent or trap. Animals that have been injured or killed this way include: Elephants – Especially in areas where they raid crops. Poachers or farmers have sometimes used high-voltage wires over barbed fences. Big cats (e.g., leopards, tigers) – Sometimes killed when trying to cross into livestock areas. Wild boars – In some cases, electrified fences are used to stop crop raiding. Primates – Monkeys and baboons have been electrocuted when climbing fences. Deer and antelope – Can get entangled in barbed wire and electrocuted while trying to leap over it. Birds of prey – Have been electrocuted when perching on electrified structures, though less commonly with barbed wire. ✅ Legal, Non-lethal Use In contrast, standard livestock or wildlife deterrent fencing uses: Smooth electric wire (not barbed) Lower, controlled voltages (painful but not lethal) Used to control: Cattle, sheep, goats Horses Predator deterrents (to protect livestock from wolves, coyotes, etc.) |
torqque7:Na just gimmicks possible to pacify the women's rights wing of the UN since Natasha took the matter of her treatment in the Senate to the floor of the UN. |
NaijaNaWaa:MC Oluomo and his gang of Former killers and Armed robbers (by the confession of one of them when they had crisis in Lagos NURTW) are card carrying members of APC and they can see Tinubu anytime they want since his time as Lagos Governor in 1999. Only in Nigeria ![]() |
But Ibas has already said that anyone who probes him is indirectly probing Tinubu. |
Rega99:When they start asking questions, tell them to go mind their own business. I'm assuming you love your wife and you want your marriage to last. |
In most civilised countries, if you are regularly handling, preparing, or distributing food (even if it's free), you need to register your food business with your local council so that it can be inspected for hygiene and safety in case the food makes someone sick. |
