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MARRIAGE IS FOR PSYCHOLOGICALLY MATURED

“And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man” Luke 2:52.

Jesus in His humanity increased not only in stature (physical maturity) but also in wisdom (psychological maturity). And there was a proof of it. He first of all had favour with God before He gained favor with man. “The Scripture says; The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” Psalm 111:10.

Just because you are an adult does not mean you are emotionally matured. Job

There are so many people who do not take responsibility for their actions, are unable to make commitments, are very selfish, dependent on their family members financially; some also have difficulties handling emotional responses such as anger, disappointments and so on. Many of such people are still emotionally immature.

Our culture also praises age as its own rite of passage into psychological maturity. When a child turns eighteen, we slap a grown sticker on them. We always think that when someone looks like an adult, walks like an adult, drives like an adult and talks like an adult, some people might actually mistake him/her for an adult whereas the child is faking.

There are so many children in adult appearance. Children have a small world, when their horizons broaden; they think they are the centre of the world. Psychologically matured people however view the world and themselves differently. The Word of God says; “When I was a child, I spoke as a child; I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” I Cor. 13:11, Here Paul was not talking about his physical maturity but spiritual maturity, in like manner psychological growth is not a matter of height and size, rather it is a matter of thought process.

SIGNS OF PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMATURITY

Here are some of the measures by which you can evaluate and conclude anyone as psychologically immature.

Anyone who is not comfortable with corrections.
Anyone who does not accommodate constructive criticism.
Anyone who is never comfortable with opposing views.
Anyone who lacks the spirit of sportsmanship (not happy with those that are happy)
Anyone who is comfortable only with sycophants and never cares about opposing view.
Anyone who cannot persevere to achieve goals.
Anyone who cannot cope with failures and see it as avenue for improvement.
Anyone who cannot take responsibility for his/her actions.
Anyone who cannot control his/her emotions.
Anyone who lacks focus, get confused and distracted with trivial issues
Anyone who has no vision of where he/she is heading.
Anyone who has not found what to fight for or defend in life.
Anyone who has a very low self esteem
Anyone who is psychologically immature is often times prone to addiction.
Sometimes psychologically immature joins gangs and cults to remain relevant.
Emotional maturity on the other hand is ability to control yourself instead of letting your emotions defeat better part of you. Being emotionally matured means ability to check your emotion by yourself.

Psychological maturity is very much influenced by your relationship – history.

Relationship intelligence and intellectual intelligence makes an important aspect in life in this matter of psychological maturity.

For instance, if anyone had a difficult childhood and a difficult relationship with parents and siblings, it is most likely that he/she may find it difficult coping with many issues in life and that will automatically show up in immature behaviours.

If anyone grows up in an overly protective environment and were not taught to handle difficulties or develop a good sense of responsibility he/she is less likely an emotionally matured person.

IMPORTANCE OF PSYCHOLOGICAL MATURITY

It gives you advantages in tackling any issue
You know what you need and how to make it happen
You set goal and work hard to achieve them.
You do not just wait for tomorrow to take care of itself.
You do not look for someone to shift the blame, if things do not work as planned.
You do not give room to procrastination.
You think faster rather than acting before you think.
You will be able to choose your words even in the midst of anger.
You will be able to control your behaviour even in the midst of provocation.
You are self-reliant and self actualized.
You do not depend on someone wholly to achieve things in your life.


Understanding, patience and endurance are essential ingredient to psychological maturity.

Understand that nothing in this life is permanent except change “…all the days of my appointed time will I wait till my change come.” Job 14:14.

Be patient, because if you keep your faith in God you will receive help from above “My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth.” Ps. 121:2

Endure criticism, reproaches, insults and injuries because as you get matured you will come o realize that in this life, nothing is as bad as it seems and nothing equally is as good as it seems.

SOME DEFINITE STEPS TO PSYCHOLOGICAL MATURITY

If you want to be matured, especially in marriage, you must make bonding your watch-word, whether with your spouse or with your children. Being supportive and caring too.

Most importantly, marriage is expected to meet challenges and difficult situations somewhere down the road, you need to have the capacity to tackle them positively.

Remember, marriage is a partnership with two people having different, but equally important roles in the home.

You need capacity to coordinate, a good sense of humor and maturity to bring the two to fusion otherwise you will resort to blame game which is a typical manifestation of immaturity.

Please note; constantly trying to teach, motivate, correct and direct one’s spouse has the effect of creating father/daughter or mother/son marriage. This does not allow for each person’s natural talents to shine through, rather the dominant spouse molding the other into his / her own image. In this case the dynamics that is created is unhealthy.

These are the signs you should look out for to determine your maturity level.

A matured person is able to keep long term commitments
A matured person is unshaken by flattering or criticism
A matured person possesses the spirit of humility
A matured person’s decisions are based on character not feeling
A matured person expresses gratitude constantly.
A matured person knows how to prioritize others before themselves
A matured person seeks wisdom before acting
A matured person is teachable


Take this to heart also that matured people do not presume they have all the answers. The wiser they get the more they realize they need more wisdom. They are not ashamed of seeking counsel from adults be it teachers, mentors or parents. Only the wise seeks wisdom.

Let me conclude with these quotes:

“Maturity begins to grow when you can sense your concern for others outweighing your concern for yourself” John McNaughton.

“Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values” Loth Liebman

QUESTIONS

What do you understand by psychological maturity?
Name two psychologically matured people you may want to imitate and why?
What do you think is the role of your spouse in marriage?
Are you comfortable with the level of your psychological maturity?
Are you comfortable with the level of psychological maturity of your spouse?
GOD BLESS YOU AND HAVE A WONDERFUL MARRIAGE JOURNEY

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