I just believe that there are issues you dont give a second thought to. Get your tail under your legs and let Ben Johnson's fastest speed be your slowest, because she is out to destroy you.

When a woman gets married to whoever, she must be open to challenges. And these challenges come in various forms, as courtship is TOTALLY different from marriage. My brother inlaw graced a wedding occassion that broke up after 1month , and this couple courted for 8 years. So what happened? The Bible says 'A wise woman builds her home, but the foolish one tears it apart'. How do you build your home as a woman? First of all get your knees down to prayer and know what God's word promised you concerning marriage. And irrespective of the behaviour he puts up, you still have the responsibility to submit to him. It's actually a trying period, but you can make it your training ground. This may not be the right time to involve 3rd parties, except your pastors, because not everybody's counsel may be patient enough to deal with the issue. If you realy can keep at it, it may not be easy, but at the end it will be worth it.

A friend came to me one evening and was bitter about what her 5year old daughter told her. The husband , which is the girl's father, works in a Bank and was transfered to a location outside Lagos at the time she knew about the incident. The 5year old daughter has a baby brother of 7months. According to her, when the mum was still carrying the brother's pregnancy, she was out to the market one afternoon when the Dad who was supposed to be at home alone with her, took her in and tried to penetrate her. He put her on the bed , took off her panties and was inserting his penis into her private part. Being a little girl of 5years, she could not resist him and also was told by the dad not to tell her mum. Now the man has been transfered and the daughter has spoken out to her mum. The woman is furious but confused on how to go about the matter. What do you think can be done in such a situation?

To your friend - The scripture says in Galatians 4 vs 1, The heir, as long as he is a child, differeth not from a servant though he be lord of all; But he is under tutors and governors until the time appointed of the father. Good to know that as a child of God , He meets your needs and answers your prayers. But let us not forget that God is not here for us , rather we are here for him. If you have been asking for something and you ve not yet gotten it, have you asked, if its the appointed time for you to get it? Also what is the purpose of you wanting to get it? James 4 V 3, Says ye ask and receive not because you ask amiss, that you may consume it on upon your lusts. So I will encourage her to first of all know the purpose of God for her life, and that is when she will be able to know if it's in God's plan to give her what she is asking for. Above all these, Patience is a VIRTUE!