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Jiang:
But i already do all that , its just that parties ain't my thing. Infact most people think am an ass cause i always tell them whats on my mind

If you do all this that means you ain't introverted, just shy that gets his mood regulated by circumstances. You just a shy quiet guy, you ain't introverted. Party is not a yardstick dude

pweeryambre:
People take advantage of your loyalty a lot for being an introvert...

Been introverted shouldnt make you a dummy, unless you are introverted and shy, for the records everyone wants to hear an introvert speak, they might challenge but respect you, if you are an introvert and not knowledgeable, you ain't an introvert you are just plain stupi.d. you guys are just mixing up this thing

stukinherdr1222:
i tell you bro overthinking leads to negative thoughts ,

i hate outing so much , i feel like the whole world is looking at me ,

before i got married ,it took my wife years before she could understand me . . .it was very difficult for her

and i care too much .

I believe you should know by now nobody fu.ucking cares, its just the mindset bro. Congrats mate

kocvalour:
an introvert

shy

not outspoken

please help

First start going out, go to places that would make you restless, like free interactive sections or seminars, checkout eventbrite.com. join Christian youth fellowships in church, take it upon you to greet everyone older than you, interactive greeting, like good evening ma how was work, and so so. Forget about NairalaNd romance section and focus more on self building sections, if you are a student, disturb lecturers with question in an humble way, start talking to your course mates they won't bite you. Be positive, go to joints to relax and forget lounges so many more bro

MisterKings:
Who dey follow you fight

not fighting with you bro, telling the fact, you can say all you want online cause your strength is online, replicate this in real life and you won't be commenting on this thread. I am here to share with you

Jiang:
I think my case is worse not only do i hate calling people

*I can stay alone without talking to anybody for dayz & it won't even bother me.

*I expect everybody to be smart & notice the little things without me having to explain.

*if some1 ask a question that requires too much explanation my answer will be "I don't know" cause i dont wanna talk.

* I hate sharing space with ANYBODY.

* I always notice when some1 touches my stuff.

*if you pay me a visit, bring ur gist with you cause i have nothing to say & feel u won't understand me even if i decided to speak.


*Never being to a party, though once in a while i might have a crush on a lady, i will end up forgetting about her d next day not much of a problem since i will be going to d village for marriage anyways just like my brothers

Bro you need to visit a councillor, there is nothing cool about you. This your character would tend to make you a masturbator and it would directly affect your sex and social life. People don't bite. Don't give a f.uck about what people think about you. Go for interactive section, listen to people and talk when you are absolutely sure to avoid going brain dead in the middle of you talk. Compliments ladies and guys and take insults as morale buster, if a lady or mate look down on you, give 100 them reasons to go to hell, but work on your weakness

malificent:
I've been called a snob countless times. I'm not. If you Hail Me I'll Hail you back. I'm not clingy. I respect people's privacy so I expect them to respect mine. Most people that finally get close to me confess they don't know I even talk. I'm just too reserved. And the demons I fight, I don't want the whole world to know about. Sometimes I get too lonely or I'm bored out of my wits. But it's the life I've chosen for myself and it's quite peaceful.

I totally understand you, but people like you are supposed to leave impacts here on earth cause been reserved you have more time to communicate with nature and think out of the box. But if you are reserved just to press your phone and frustrate your siblings some days of the week for no just reason, you need to reorientate yourself, and start socialising

MisterKings:
Some even say we snub. And thats not true. We are the homely type. We guys are the knights in shiny armour and our ladies are damsels in distress.

You don't snub but your facial expression looks snubbish. How would cool people know you are a Knight in shiny armour and your ladies damsels in distress when you have knocked them away with don't talk to me kind of exoression

menace1:
Am so introvert to the extent that a man in. Y university think am deaf nd dumb. I am always indoors I can go weeks without going out. In university except from my cousin friends I don't av up to 2 friends of my own. My cousin friends always think am d wisest of dem cause how I reason is kinda different from theirs

Been an introvert and been productive is cool, been an introvert, shy and not outspoken is deadly. For a graduate you would find it getting jobs if you don't stand out. For ladies, you will need a miracle and ironically introverts loves pretty , slim ladies. You go wait tire. Bro people don't bite

RSVP:
Bros e no easy. All my guys don go joint me dey house dey press phone. I jzt can't imagine still out at this time of the day.

Its normal, when its not normal its when you guys are celebrating someone or an occasion and you lock yourself up. With that attitude you won't be far from been a chronic masturbator, and this comes with been very antisocial

SPEEDEPITOME:
Yeah, you're right.
My mum noticed my ish in secondary school. I'd represent my school then, face the camera, feature on TV and talk on radio coz I was the literary and debating society. I spoke in front of my state's Governor then and even sang in the choir but I'd run away from family functions.
She made me stay in the Hostel during my OND days, now I'm no longer in touch with any of them.
*sighs*

You are OK, just use your introverted brain to affect something positive around you. It would have been a problem if you were, introverted, shy and not outspoken. Udo

malificent:
I hate people. I am indoorsy, I barely go out. I prefer being home with a few close acquaintances than being in a crowd. I avoid people. People think I'm weird and I think that's a compliment. I love my solitude, it's addictive.

You are an introvert, and for you can continue like this if you are very beautiful or a genius, unless you have to start socialising. Start going out, go to eventbrite.com and look for free serminal, talk shows to go to, if you are a student, bombard lecturers with questions in class but don't come as been witty, you go just get carryover for nothing. When you go out compliment people, pickup sales job for a month or 2. You can't impact to the world inside your room. Mike zukerberg at a time had to come out of his shell

The reality of been an extrovert is you don't have time for abstract things like the internet unless you doing business or catching up.

Its allowed to be an introvert
Its allowed to be shy
But its never allowed for you not to be outspoken. You would lose a lot of opportunities

SPEEDEPITOME:
Don't be surprised, most of these people who talk more online - Nairaland and Facebook - are actually introverts.

90 percent of them are introverts but some are shy and some are not outspoken outside the internet

SPEEDEPITOME:
I do not like meeting people. I don't bother starting friendship with anyone coz I'm scared it'll end very soon as I don't have what it takes to sustain it. I'm not in touch with any of my secondary school friends- I just connected with two recently and I'm bored already.
I have not attended any party since 2010! I'm scared of going out - Agoraphobia ish. I can stay home for weeks and not complain. My friend helped me improve a bit when I was in school.
Funny thing is, I'm not shy, I can face the whole of Nigerian and talk. When I manage to get out I can be playful and all but if you try to come close, I just shut you out. I don taya.
I don't have a large circle. Even on social media, I screen my friends list at every opportunity I get.
The good part of me, I'm a good conversationalist.

There are things involved here and the op failed to differentiate them
1. Been an introvert
2. Been shy
3. Not been out spoken.

You are a victim of Just one, the major threat of been an introvert is they are easily bored and Many of them are realist, the world doesn't really like realists, so you end up losing friends as an introvert. You need to marry an extrovert who is shy but outspoken to balance your relationship. Udo

ORIJIN201:
Being an introvert unfortunately, never make friends except we have something in common or have thesame area of interest like being in thesame department in school or we are fans of the same soccer team.
I used to be afraid of rejection, but after being rejected by 2 girls, now I can handle it.
To be honest this world and it's people can be very unforgiving.
To be able to suppress my true nature I chose to be humorous when am in school although I have a good sense of humor, I want pple around me to have a good laugh and enjoy their selves when am around. But I don't get close enough for you to know me, I only let you know what I want you to know. Where am living its more than a year now I don't have any friends. So its a diff. Scenario when am home just me and my self in my playing game on my laptop or doing something else or am here on nairaland.
I have just been rejected by a girl I really like a lot, been trying a lot to let her see I have good intentions. Was talking to her today in the middle of a convo she just told me to keep quiet tried to say a word again she told me to keep shut lol, didn't say anything till I left (we were walking together in a pack) it was quite embarrassing. Didn't say anything to her she felt guilty and kept looking at me all through till I left. Because I told her my feelings she just misbehaves and feels she is entitled to do anything she likes, but guess what I will leave it to her, there are other girls out there.

Dude there are no girls out there stop using that phrase as a consolation. Work on yourself, be versatile in knowledge and be funny and witty, if you ain't too religious be vulgar inbetween in a matured way. And lastly lie very well about how you control the feminine gender, have a good memory so you don't forget your lies also have small change in your pocket. When you do this for 6 months you should be good to go. Also pickup a sales job and make ladies your primary market, it would boost your confidence in ladies affairs

Inanna:
[color=Teal]My boyfriend/husband must be an extrovert. I Can't continue living in a shell. I need to explore the world and see it in all dimensions and perspectives. Introverts tend to view the world from only one point of view- loud, scary, discomforting and unnerving when in actual fact there's more to it. There's the good, exciting, dynamic and interesting part of it. I want to see life and people this way.
Although I can't help but just think of how amazing it would be if I end up with someone that's just like me. Where we don't need to have conversations, there'd be comfort in our silences, we'd spend long hours indoors doing introvert things. where we could spend long hours together without saying a word but understanding each other's thought perfectly well, where we'd decline every invitation to attend whatever event because we'd rather stay home and read a good book or just enjoy the comfort of being secluded . Where we'd not really have any friends because we are more than enough company for each other. Who else can relate?[/color]

nobody

Jamezy4u:
Please,

Between JFK(New York) and MIA (Miami, Florida) PoE, which one is less stressful or does not give much issues?

I need to fly to CRP, so considering taking flight to either JFK or MIA then to CRP finally.

All other advice/information/guide will be highly appreciated.

Proposed travel dates is btw 16th and 18th Aug

Thanks

Like I tell people, its not really about airport but favor, just like applying and getting visas. Immigration officers don't just go about searching or stressing out travelers from other country. Dress well, look responsible and do not attach to yourself anything suspicious.

If you looking at fare cost, JFK has cheaper fare than Miami and the airport of your final destination.

Are you traveling one way so I could give you a comprehensive fare for the 3 airports

I still de ponder ooo, ladies eeh, very unique creature

jubrilar:
how much is flight to Kenya now....return ticket

You saying now is relative, fix a date to the travel and get a fair fare. But for cheap your best bet should be Rwanda air

I have a lady friend who wants to do an industrial attachment in a farm, she is studying soil and animal science, her preferred location is Lagos, or outskirts of Lagos. She is based in Lagos. My number: 08138741301 , my friends number: 07067872968. She could be an extra hand while she impacts as well as learn on the field. Thank you

Still here to service you

Mile 2 under bridge or you go to festac first gate and enter God is Good

Lovely thread

Rachie83:
Thanks bro really appreciate it. How do I book for the ticket pls?

Have you sorted yourself sir?

fredodo911:
Just wanna thank each one of us all on this thread for helping ourselves find cheap flights to our destination, esp. @kagari @hokagetravel & @stacystacy.

Journey mercies to myself this morning ---> Virginia, USA

Bia nwoke m, bring something back

Joan011:
please Oga(s) in d house, I need flight fare from either Lagos or Abuja to Boston

When do you intend going?
When do you intend returning?
Is it one way or return ticket?

You really need to attend to these questions to get the best possible fare

Youruba ndi sabo