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Ikemefuna sat on the couch in his living room, arms folded on his chest, eyes clouded with anger, lips stretched thin, and watched the hand of the clock move towards 9pm for the umpteenth time. He was fuming with anger but anyone looking at him would just see a handsome, well-built man, watching TV, with an impatient stretch to his lips. On closer inspection though, the anger in his eyes could not be missed.

He stared at the game showing on the TV. His favorite English club, Arsenal were playing against their arch nemesis, Chelsea and it seems Chelsea is going to get the glory once more. He watched the screen, at the same time listening for when the door will open to admit Ugochi, his girlfriend, whom he had been waiting for impatiently for the past two hours.

Why is this woman late? What does she take me for? How can she leave me here and go about frolicking with every Dick and Harry in the city? She’ll have a lot of explaining to do when she gets back here. These were the thoughts flowing through his mind as he sat, alternately watching the clock and the screen, grinding his teeth in an obvious sign of frustration.

Meanwhile, Ugochi was having a great time with her girlfriends at the birthday party of one of the gang. She laughed at something Dawn, the birthday girl said and gave Ijeoma a wink. The three girls have been rolling together since they were at the University, they were popularly known as the three musketeers back then. Now, all of them are settled into their respective careers but they still find time to get together once in a while.

It was Dawn’s birthday and they had opted for a quiet dinner together at the birthday girl’s favorite restaurant instead of the usual all-out party she throws every year. It had taken a lot of convincing on the part of Ugochi and Ijeoma before Dawn agreed to have a small party with just the girls. She was enjoying herself although she would never admit it to her friends. Turning twenty-five should be a lot of fun.

The women have a lot in common. Apart from been the same ages, they also graduated from the same department in the University. They all studied Microbiology, and each of them had their view of the course and how they want to use it to make the world a better place. Ugochi had opted for Food Microbiology and presently works with Fan Ice in Ibadan. Ijeoma, fondly called Ijay by her friends, had bent towards health presently working as a laboratory scientist at the University College Hospital, Ibadan. Dawn had decided on pursuing the beauty angle and currently owns a beauty spa in New Bodija, Ibadan.

Ugochi is the only one in a serious relationship of the three of them. She had been with Ikem for the past three years. Dawn prefers to play the field, she had like a dozen guys at her disposal, which is not surprising as she’s the most beautiful of them. Ijeoma, on the other hand, is on a break in between relationships; her last run hadn’t been so enjoyable.

“Guys, remember that time we all failed Professor Odi’s class? He insisted we wait after everyone had gone home for the holidays, study for a week and rewrite the test. I couldn’t believe it when he said it.” Ijay reminisced

“Yeah, yeah. It was the worst week of my life.” Dawn muttered

“You were just pissed because all your boyfriends were not available.” Ijay teased

“Yeah, well what’s a girl to do when......continue reading here.....https://www.dailyguide.com.ng/love-beyond-reason-1st-episode/

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Having studied a whole lot of opinions and thoughts on what really makes a relationship survive or last long, I am forced to ask if physical intimacy stands as one of the criteria to it. There are people in all different stages and seasons of a relationship. During each phase or season in a relationship, the needs of the couple, or at least one person in the relationship, may change. These changes often come in the form of changes in intimacy needs.

Although many people see intimacy and sex as interchangeable terms, there are five defined types of intimacy in a relationship.

They include physical/sexual, emotional, intellectual, experiential and spiritual, and all are present to some degree, but not an equal degree, in a positive, healthy and balanced relationship.

Let’s Get Started,

Physical intimacy is much more than just having sex. It is about physical touch, comfort, support and connection.

A View on physical intimacy hormone issue

In most relationships, physical intimacy is most important to the couple in the initial stages of the relationship.

There are hormonal changes that occur in the brain that trigger a sense of bonding and needing to be with each other. In a study completed in 2004 and published in Psychoneuroendocrinology, researchers found that people newly in love, which was defined as six months or less, had higher levels of cortisol, which is a stress hormone.

After 12 to 24 months in the relationship, these hormones were again naturally lowered to normal levels.

At the same time, women in the early stages of relationships had higher testosterone levels than in the test one to two years later, and men had slightly lower testosterone levels. Interestingly, these hormonal changes, including higher aggression in women and lower aggression in men, tend to result in each seeing partners as more positive and a match as opposed to seeing faults or potential mismatches in the relationship.


As the relationship progresses, the transient changes in hormones change, which results in less of a sexual drive for both partners over time.

The need for physical intimacy may decrease on average, but at the same time, the need for emotional, intellectual (sharing ideas) and experiential (sharing experiences) tends to increase.

Spiritual intimacy, which includes sharing in spiritual events such as being in nature, religious worship or deeply meaningful activities and events is also seen as more important as the relationship evolves through time.

Why physical intimacy is not enough

While physical intimacy is important for couples and partners, it is not on its own the key to a good relationship. Physical intimacy can occur in a one night stand or in an abusive or co-dependent relationship. In many cases, in abusive relationships, physical intimacy becomes a weapon to be used against the person being victimized.

The connection between all of the various forms of intimacy as a couple is the key indicator of relationship success.

As noted in, The Marriage and Relationship Junkie, relationships without emotional intimacy are at risk of self-destructing, which is why this issue comes into play so often in codependency.

In a healthy relationship there will be a balance, but not an equal representation in all forms of intimacy. Over time the physical intimacy may change in form and move from less sexual to more comforting and supportive, but the physical side of the relationship is always present.

source : https://www.dailyguide.com.ng/physical-intimacy-a-successful-relationship-determinat-or-not/

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One could go on-and-on describing some very wonderful traits that make you endeared to your partner, but the truth is that there are times when you may not want to take a look or consider these traits.

This is especially when your partner’s inadequacy is nagging. Alas, your partner is gradually becoming unattractive.

It can be so worrisome when your once very warm partner suddenly becomes a nag who whines at any slightest opportunity.


When all these happens, chances are that you are now withdrawn and may not even remember how captivating he or she looks any more. Wait a minute! Do you think only women nag? If you did, then you have got to change that notion because even men nag a lot too.

Here are five ways to cope with a nagging partner.

1. Practice to be quiet

If you are a guy who has a nagging partner, chances are that staying quiet might not go down well with you. After all you are the man, right? Well, you have got to put aside ego here and calm down.

Remember your partner isn’t mad, and so she must be protesting about something and the only way she knows to do this is to nag. As such, you both cannot be mad at the same time. That is why you have to listen to her. Know what she wants to say and acknowledge it.

2. Communicate with him or her

After the situation is calm; this might be hours later, or even the next day, then now is a good time to talk things over with her.


This might be hard for some partners especially if they have pride issue, but the truth remains you want the matter resolved (For the sake of love), which is why you want to make peace.

Hence, put aside pride and let your partner know how annoying her nagging habit is and how you so do not like it. Remember you are passing this information across when tempers are cool, so be sure you pass the message across with love and respect.

3. Make amends

The fact that your once happy and warm partner suddenly became a nag, is the much reason why you need to see to those things that causes him or her to nag. This means that you have got to adjust whatever it is that makes you step on his or her nerves. For instance; if your habit is driving him or her nuts, then do seek of ways to curb them. Working on such things might make you have your partner back real soon. The idea is to replace bad with good.

4. Be a Great Listener

Your partner really itches that things would be normal and that he or she could just stop nagging about the same things over and over again. This is why you have got to work at it by listening more. Listen more than you talk; this way you will be able to read some sensitive lines on the wall and know how not to bring the nag out in your partner at all times.

5. Take a break when emotions are high

Relationships and marriages aren’t a bed of roses, which is why you have got to realize that there are times when there would be tempers going high and outside the door. You have got to realize that there are also times when you both cannot be raging mad; this is why a partner should take a break to douse the atmosphere.


This could be in form of taking a walk, taking a nap, and what have you. The idea is so that you are refreshed and have been able to clear your head off the scenario. When you do this, you become refreshed enough to tackle the matter of ground.

Source : https://www.dailyguide.com.ng/5-ways-to-live-peacefully-with-a-nagging-partner/

Definitely with more inquiries there will be more schools to this list that accepts Hnd for masters and even at a reasonable Tuition fee

The first question I ask any HND admission seeker is “Why don’t you consider direct entry instead?”

This is the taking from my experiences with HND.

Nothing is practically wrong with going for HND or being an HND holder. Or I should say, nothing should be wrong with it. But from a different point of view, things may not be promising for you if you aim very higher with your certificate in the new Nigeria.

Federal Government has been working on bridging the gap between BSc and HND. This is why recently, in certain agencies, HND holders are upgraded to the level of their degree counterparts.

HND/BSC Balance can be achieved.
So what’s your position with your HND?

Below is a series of limitations with Higher National Diploma which Degree holders are not experiencing.

BSc holders are usually considered for teaching (education) without further qualifications. Whereas, HND holders are expected to have in addition, PDG – Postgraduate Diploma in Education.
BSc holders are mostly accepted for MSc admission without further qualifications. Whereas, some schools will not admit an HND holder without professional qualifications (such as ICAN etc) or PGD
BSc holders are usually assigned with administrative duties at work rather than practical field assignments which their HND counterparts are exposed to.
Except most recently and to a few government establishments, HND holders were formerly employed with Grade Level 7; GL07 as opposed to Grade Level 08 for BSc holders. Yet, they are still limited to advancing beyond Grade level 14.
Does this mean it’s a woe to be a holder of HND?

No.

But the best advice still remains the same. Upgrade yourself!

Then, how?

1. Obtain JAMB DE form.
Consider obtaining a Direct Entry form to further your education to BSc. If you want to win the same position as the BSCs, you must be there too. No other way!

I know this may sound absurd but it’s real and it can be the best thing to do. Most people have gone down to reobtain JAMB UTME and reapply to the university. That’s worse. But you have a quicker way.

If you obtain JAMB DE form with National Diploma (ND), you’ll be given admission to 200 level of your proposed course. But with HND, you could be given a 300 level course. Most schools are accepting this. See the list of those universities here.

For instance, UNILORIN, for Engineering, accepts HND in a relevant Engineering discipline at Distinction or Upper Credits level from recognized Polytechnic or College of Technology after NYSC and may be considered for upgrading to 300 Level.

This can be a way out of lower-grade stigma for HND holders too. For example, the University of Ilorin accepts HND Lower Credit for the following courses and more.

COMPUTER SCIENCE: in Computer Science
MASS COMMUNICATION: HND (at least with Lower Credit) in Journalism, Mass Communication, Public Relations and Advertising.
AGRICULTURAL EXTENSION AND COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT: A Higher National Diploma (HND or equivalent) in Agriculture or related field of study with a minimum of lower credit from a recognized institution in Animal Husbandry, Agricultural Extension and Rural Sociology, Agricultural Economics and Farm Management, Food Science, Home Economics, Fishery, Forestry and Wildlife, etc; will be admitted into 300 level.
Note that I only use UNILORIN as a point of reference here, hundreds of other schools are accepting HND holders for Direct Entry admission on the same terms. Check JAMB brochure.

2. Obtain Msc Form of Schools Accepting HND Holders
As already mentioned, most schools are not considering HND holders for Masters programme. Yet we have a handful of these universities who admit you with a convincing grade if you have HND.

See the list below.

Achievers University Owo
Niger Delta University
Federal University of Technology Minna
Bayero University Dangote Business School
Afe Babalola University
University of Ilorin
And four others
This list will continually be updated, subscribe to this blog or bookmark this page for such future updates.

3. Obtain Top-Up Degree Form
This is equally called HND to Bsc Conversation programme. It is usually a year or two academic programmes that is taken to convert HND to Degree in the same or related course. This is why it is called HND-Bsc Conversion programme.

The programme can also be taken to upgrade a weaker degree grade in the same course or to another.

In most countries where Higher National Diploma is discriminated, holders of this qualification resolve to the Top-up degree to be equivalent to or recognised as their Bsc counterparts.

How does this work?

You obtain the form usually sold by universities. You’re admitted for a year or two academic classes, tests and exams and after, you’re awarded BSc.

Below is the list of schools where you can obtain HND to Bsc Top-Up Degree.

Kwara State University, Ilorin (State)
Bells University Abeokuta (Private)
Alhikmah University Ilorin (Private)
Southwestern University Nigeria (Private)
Delta State University (State)
Osun State Polytechnic Iree in Affiliate with Ajayi Crowther University etc.

source : https://www.dailyguide.com.ng/how-to-make-hnd-equate-or-beat-bsc-hnd-vs-bsc/

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Dating has invariably remained the same since the inception of relationships between one man and another. According to the Wikitionary, dating is a form of romantic courtship typically between two individuals with the aim of assessing the suitability of the other as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The result of dating may at any time lead to friendship, any level of intimate relationship, marriage or no relationship.


Dating as a prerequisite for most serious relationships has been frowned at by several schools of thought, and religious sects. They believe that dating serves as the bedrock or catalyst for premarital sex and extramarital affairs. However, the hike of marital wrecks in today’s societies coupled with the pileups of divorce cases seen in courts makes it clear that individuals who aren’t meant for each other and who do not understand each other are rushing into marriage to rush out in no distant time. To some extent, proper dating can help eliminate marital wrecks and ensure that only compatible individuals walk down the aisle to say “I do.”


It is an indisputable fact that people can meet at any time and in any place. There is no laid down procedure or rules and regulations that state how normal people meet. Except in the field of professionalism where such exists for example., the military has rules of engagement with civilians, likewise the doctors who also have rules for engaging patients etc. in the absence of professionalism, people can meet anywhere of which includes the cab, restaurant, church, club, hospital, school etc. and even on the internet (social media).


The emergence of the social media in this 21st century has really made the world so small that Starting a relationship online is so easy.... Take the following scenery for example, continue reading here.....https://www.dailyguide.com.ng/how-to-make-online-social-media-dating-safe/

Sex is good and healthy; it strengthens the bond of love in marriage. You should sexually satisfy one another. If you are not sexually satisfied in your marriage, one can be tempted to be unfaithful. Many couples aren’t enjoying sex life like before as when they were green in marriage. Sex to them has become routine and boring and they need to reawaken the passion. Sex starts in the mind and to enjoy it, it needs preparation psychologically.


In order to improve your sex life:-


1. Have pre-intimacy before sex as you use sweet romantic words.Tell your partner your erotic zones (where you feel nice when touched and arouses you sexually).


2. Arrange for quiet places where you are not disturbed and switch off your phones.


3. Change places, styles and times. Avoid unnecessary quarrels.


4. Good communication is needed to tell your partner openly when satisfied or in need.


5. Be appreciative after sex and say thank you to one another.


NB: Good sex needs peaceful and relaxed mind and it’s advisable to settle your differences before going to bed. How do you expect your wife to enjoy sex when you have mistreated her during the day? She will be there physically but very far away mentally. Men are also not sexually active when under stress.


Don’t wait for the time when you are in bed to talk about house rent, school fees or money for salon. Talk about these issues in the table room. Good sex makes one feel relaxed in body and mind.


Wives should not use sex as a weapon to punish their husbands especially when they want to get money from them. Men should not use their wives as sex tools just for their own satisfaction. A secret I would like to give men is that after sex women love to be held close.


Men have this tendency of sleeping off at once after sex. This really bores women. Hold her, for a few minutes and you can even say thank you, sweetheart, I love you very much. Men should also know that there are days when women are not in a sexual mood because of their menstruation cycle, so understand them.


According to my research, I have noted that men who are denied their conjugal rights by their wives become angry and irritated easily and when wives request money from them they refuse. During sexual intercourse, try different sexual positions, but if you try one and it fails, try another. Sex is fun.


It’s dangerous to watch pornographic movies with the intention to imitate those styles. It’s dirty and exposes one to evil imaginations. Some of the sex styles in pornographic are not only tiresome but dangerous unless one is acrobatics. It’s good to have pre-intimacy before sex to prepare your bodies sexually.


Partners should take their time and get romantic without feeling ashamed. To add spices into your sex life, sometimes create time and talk about how to improve one’s sex life. Communicate what you feel should be done to make sex life more enjoyable.


You can discuss about the place to visit for a change of environment, tell your partner what she/ he should wear in order to attract you sexually, e.g. some men love when a wife wears a certain colour or a certain type of innerwear, some like white or pink colour, others like when a wife wears a see-through dress. People have different taste and preferences. Also, you can discuss the best time to have sex.


Some people prefer during the night while children are asleep, others prefer doing it very early in the morning some people jokingly call it Morning glory. Eat foods that increase your sexual stamina and sex drive especially ones with zinc. “One must note that alcohol is bad for healthy sex life. It increases the desire but decreases the performance.” Sexologist, Dr Vijah Singhal explains. Psychological sex (having sex with someone but in mind, you are thinking of someone else) is evil. If you are not faithful to your partner he/ she cannot enjoy sex with you when he/she feels cheated.


Sex is a God-given gift enjoy it all the time.

Source : https://www.dailyguide.com.ng/sex-password-the-key-to-a-better-marital-sexual-life/