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hispinkolo: @ Kunbee,that your aunt Nawa OOO. I laughed sooo hard.How are they managing?

I don't even know but I think he is gonna move but na every year the guy dey move to go and meet her and he still lives in my city. They fit eachother.







Please God give me a family that all our personalities align and accommodate eachother.

This thread has been an eye opener


@Snazzylove, thanks for starting the thread @hispinkolo, thanks for contributing to it and making it come alive. And to everyone who has come here to educate the single crew, thank you.

May God bless your homes.


Its just hard to believe that when you look at wedding pictures online, there could be something wrong with the marriage or relationship. Especially on bellanaija, everyone looks so good it hurts.




Anyways I am not married but I stumbled on one of my aunt-in-law's post online. I didn't know she didnt like her MIL o, she is the greatest pretender of all time. , she even used her real name, that was when NL had a lot of the old crew.



My aunt which is her MIL is a very difficult person but she doesn't do it intentionally and she isn't partial. SHE DOES IT TO ANYONE EVEN HER KIDS. If she feels you should paint your house green and you say no, she will find a house decorator that will come and tell you the advantages of being eco-friendly . Till date she still does it. MIL's daughter married my uncle so we aren't even related but the woman acts like we all are (which isn't bad). My uncle is a big softie so he accommodates everything from ANYONE, all he does is stare at the wall behind her and say 'ok'.


Funny enough MIL doesn't yell or talk condescendingly, she will try to make it your idea or make it seem like you are the one who thought of it first until you agree and if you don't. . . she will find someone in your inner circle that will convince you. I have never heard anyone say no to her even our family head who is older than her until this my aunt-in-law married her son oooo.



I am close to this my aunt and she is veryyyyyyy blunt, she doesn't have time for jargons. She hates going out or doing anything for anyone, if you are doing party she will send message to you on FB, she won't call even if she has your number. MIL wanted her to

1. Learn our language
2. Raise the kids the way the MIL wants
3. Run errands for her on weekends that she is supposed to be sleeping or resting
4. Go for every engagement
5. Live with her because that was her last and only son etc

Aunt did it for like the first few months, she didn't mind but she told me and I gathered that she was losing herself in the process and for someone who grew up in a secluded town, she didn't like going out (which was her major issue). She told the husband to tell his mum that she should chill, I heard he said 'just tell me to go and die' . So obviously he never told her, the girl never did anything right in the sight of MIL (she can't cook and so on). She told her SIL's they said 'welcome to the club', everyone said they couldn't tell their mother because she does it to them too and the way she will react and spin it won't be expected.


She told her FIL, he told his wife to calm down. She did until few month's later she started again , she told FIL he was like 'Ignore her or do you expect me to keep helping, what if I am not here?'. Then she took a decision that shocked everyone, she moved . I am not talking to the next town i mean somewhere far that before you get there by road if you can't fly, you don enter one chance. This was 4 years into the marriage or so not too sure.




10 years later, they live apart. I have lived with aunt-in-law and she is a lovelyyyyyyyyy person, she and her husband talk everyday and aren't separated. They seem happily married because she is always on the phone with him gisting. She gave birth recently, her MIL told her to fly before she pushed that she has set up a room and so on, she missed her flight 'by mistake' . I think MIL got the message that she wants to be left alone .



But the fact I don't like is she doesn't even come down for Christmas, I know money is not beans with 5 kids but no one has seen the new kids all she does send pictures and skype and we are all living in the same Nigeria. Even the husband sees the kids like twice a year but it works for them so who am I? All her kids live far, everyone wants a right to their ideas .


MIL too is nice, when you are sick she will pamper you, cook for you, she can babysit from now till Heaven calls but when that spirit of 'lets' enters her oh God. I guess both their personalities were too far wide apart.

Girls dey trip 4 guys like me

smh

jamace:

You sef

fellis:


Harsh way of saying your mind.

Fellis thats how I am

He is used to it

ElGuapo: Lmao!

The irony

Bee lying must be one of your strengths

I didn't have as much fun as you

fellis: lol, this sounds harsh. Are you angry with him about something?

Nope, angry ke

Just saying my mind

fellis: I've always been female


My bad, Oga Elguapo has cleared me on that front

I am kidding jare


He opened the thread but I found out he is a boring guy

Jadmchris: Dat guy called kunbee,does he still exist?

Yes?

fellis:

Why you carry the quote waka come here now?

Leave that matter, why are you still female?

Danhumprey: How far nau? You disappear.

I didn't disappear on purpose, just wrapped up in my own zone

fellis: You can always recreate it na. True love never dies

Don't let God slap your mouth o, true what?