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omega25red: This would make her seem very thirsty. She is already thirsty and trying to hide the fact that she is thirsty

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What is it about this dude that has you trapped? your friendship is already kinda ruined and you already put yourself out there by calling him and talking about what happened. Even after that he didn't seem interested. so now why are you still chasing a man who is obviously not interested in you?

The fact is you might be ruining his relationship if he is in one by calling him and contacting him. Some women will never learn the signs. The man never called you and he is cold towards you and you are still wondering if you should call him. Soon after you will come here and say he used you for sex

I haven't tried to hide the fact that I'm thirsty" for him. I not just thirsty, I hunger for him , hence my creating the thread.
No shame in admitting that on an anonymous site, just not to him.

I don't keep calling. I called once and sent a text once. Don't know how that may ruin whatever relationship he may have been in.

If I was pestering him I wouldn't be on here asking whether or not I should contact him.
It takes guts to pester a man, guts I don't have.

KnegroDamus: Weigh your options.. what would feel worse; never speaking to him again or being rejected by him?

Sound advice. I think I prefer my pride to be intact.

KnegroDamus: Because she herself thinks its desperate. The female ego is very fragile... thats just a fact of life.

Its one of the key differences between males and females... men are risk takers, women are risk adverse.

The female ego is indeed very fragile.

Mynd_44: Why does everyone thing her reaching out is desperate? If it was the guy asking her out, we see nothing bad in it but if the girl sees what she likes she is despearate?

@OP, how are you so sure he does not want you back but his pride won't let him cos he is scared of hearing no again?

What do you have to lose from reaching out? He says no and you know for sure or he says yes and you move on too

beats me

Bludeville: I think him promising to call, twice and not doing so is the sign you should listen to, but on the other side, maybe he was seeing someone then, and what if he's not seeing anyone now. Anyway, nothing is wrong with reaching out, a casual message on facebook, hello it's been a while, hope you're doing great? Should be your first step and then the decision to take it up would be based on his response. But, girlie, I promise you he's not the same guy you used to know, people change all the time so let go of the guy you used to know and get ready to know the new him.

you're right dear

Gboliwe: the moment you do this, DESPERATE is the flying word. You will just confirm yo are desperate.

In this game, just appear very casual. You may cook up another issue that needs his professional advice and insist he is the only one whose advice can solve it. Make it look or sound casual. This should get you guys to start talking again.
Best of luck

Thanks Gboliwe.
I hope I can summon the courage to make first contact, again.

Mynd_44: How about you send him a message asking him the reason for him being cold?

Oh dear, wouldn't that just scream desperation?

sauer: So, you regret that now? girls, girls, girls https://i827.photobucket.com/albums/zz200/pepper2010_bucket/smiley_nope.gif

sauer: You reek of lukewarmness, inaction. You lack drive.

What would a warm/hot and driven girl do?

ednut1: pointless, my sista its like u wanna be disgraced or used nd dumped abi, abegi lay low

You have a point. I'm more concerned abut feeling embarrassed afterwards than getting used and dumped.

KnegroDamus: [size=15pt]Haha funny[/size]
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I'm going to give you man advice... just forget about what he thinks and choose your own destiny, even if you appear desperate what did you loose?[/size]

I don't have a thick skin. I feel embarrassed very easily.

KnegroDamus: Now on the flip side... there is a unique sort of annoyance that dudes feel when a girl who rejected them in the past comes back. He becomes ultra-aware of the baggage you accumulated between then and now.

Understandable.
Should I let it go then?

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